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Posted on Sun, Sep 23, 2012 14:34

The forums and blogs are filled with women complaining about men who try to trick them, cheat them, scam them, who're tired of kissing frogs, who're wondering where the "real men" are and who're certain there are no millionaires around to spoil them.

 

So, I think today I'm going to vent... and this is meant nicely...

 

There are liars and cheaters out there and neither sex has the market on who lies the most and studies have shown that just as many women cheat as do men. This site, by virtue of its name, attracts more than it’s share of liars and cheats so you should start off wary.  Remember: Where there's prey, there are predators.

 

If he seems too good to be true, he probably is. If he's twice as good looking as anyone you've ever dated... stop and think.  If he seems far more interested in what you have to say than any man has ever been before... stop and think.  If he's 20 years younger... stop and think.  If he lives 1000 miles away, do you really think you're that attractive and that interesting?  I'm not saying you're not but shouldn't it be a red flag?  After all, why would such a great catch need to look so far away from home?

 

If you're tired of kissing frogs and expecting a prince, go back to fairy tale school because only a princess can change a frog into a prince with a kiss.  If you're not a princess, you can kiss all the frogs you want and never get anything more than warts.

 

Every man is a "real man", it just takes a real woman to bring out his best. If you’re constantly looking for a “real man” you need to look inside… at your choices and how you treat men.

 

Women who talk about what wealthy men can do for them... who want a man who will "take me out and treat me like a lady/princess" etc. are immediate turnoffs and you may as well have posted a sign saying "I'm a target, abuse me!" because any man with $2 and 1/2 days experience knows that all he has to do is dangle the carrot/carat in front of your eyes and he can get whatever he wants.

 

For most wealthy men, women who want to be "spoiled" are a dime a dozen and if we wanted to spend that kind of "dime", we could get someone far younger and far more attractive... unless you just made yourself too easy to pass up.  However, most wealthy men didn't get wealthy by spending foolish dimes so most of what you get are those who either don’t have a dime or those who see no value in you.

 

Most wealthy people I know drive normal cars, live in normal houses and do normal things... they live far from glamorous lives and never appear on "lifestyles of the rich and famous".  Yeah, most eat at fancy restaurants, but not every night. Sometimes we do have social obligations that require you to dress nicely and behave acceptably and we need to know you won't be an embarrassment. If you're not willing and able to help "our" cause (the cause we've have spent a lifetime building and of which you are a part) then you're a burden we'd rather skip you and go it alone.

 

We are also smart enough to know that although we're secure today, we may be broke tomorrow or crippled or face some other horrible burden and if money/lifestyle etc. is what attracts you, then when we need you most is when you will be gone... that makes you a bad investment.

 

Want to know the real kicker?  When you blog about your horrible experiences, any men moderately interested in you would wonder what kind of a woman makes such bad choices.  Were you truly duped or do you have a pattern of bad choices?  Will you bring drama and discord to our lives or peace, love and happiness?  When you blog about your bad experiences, make sure it’s for personal growth and not about blaming men.

 

My advice: Stop blaming men and take responsibility for your own choices, stop looking at his wallet and look at his heart, be realistic about what you bring to the table and make a sincere effort to understand what he needs in his life and if you can fill that need without changing yourself, then do so.


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Posted on Tue, Dec 25, 2012 21:22

easymantolove this is so true. i been on this site for a month and couldnt believe all the gold diggers broke women insecure people. everytime i see looking to be spoiled i run away. i also stay away from women who only have their half naked pics up because all they have to offer is their body.

 i thought this site was suppose to be people who are looking for other successful people like them to build a partnership with but it is full of people looking to be taken care of because they are lazy. 

 

 

at the end of the day we will all take responsibility for our actions and not blame anyone. People need to look inward and stop blaming the world for thier stupid decisions. 



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Posted on Tue, Dec 18, 2012 03:28

Quoting suelivelife:

I honestly think this is by far the best blog I seen here.I love to look and read most of the profiles and honestly one of the first things that always comes to mind is: All right if he is all that, a bag of chips and money, what is wrong with him??? and you know it, something is wrong.

My Mom always says if you find a buch of fruit just laying by the side of the road beware of it, it's probably spoiled or the owner is not too far away.

 



One mans trash is another mans treasure. LOL



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Posted on Mon, Dec 17, 2012 21:43

I honestly think this is by far the best blog I seen here.I love to look and read most of the profiles and honestly one of the first things that always comes to mind is: All right if he is all that, a bag of chips and money, what is wrong with him??? and you know it, something is wrong.

My Mom always says if you find a buch of fruit just laying by the side of the road beware of it, it's probably spoiled or the owner is not too far away.

 



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Posted on Sat, Dec 01, 2012 06:52

I think the big lesson in all of this is that we need to understand our value to others and their value to us.

 

Of course the word "value" can be twisted, distorted and rationalized to mean most anything so just to be clear let me define it here:

  • The regard that something is held to deserve; the importance or preciousness of something: "your contribution to my sanity is of great value to me".

From the high income earners standpoint: I think when we understand what value we as individuals contribute to others (besides our ability to pick up a dinner tab) we become less prone to being used. When we can seperate out our income from our emotional, spiritual and intellectual contributions we can better understand how we fit in to other peoples lives.

 

From the millionaire seekers standpoint: I think when we understand that the high income earner encounters dozens of people every day who wants in his/her pockets and that the high income earner is generally quite adept at filtering those people out, it becomes easier to understand why the high income earner looks for people that can add real value to their lives.  If you're not adding real value then you are either ignored, discarded or, in the case of the young and beautiful: consumed, used and discaded.

 

Being human, everyone can be fooled and even the best among us gets used and have their hearts broken.  We learn, we adapt, we move on.



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Posted on Fri, Nov 30, 2012 19:49

Well easymantolove,

I just want to say that I think what you had to say was absolutley so true!! I thoroughly enjoyed your reference to the frogs!! I seriously did..LoL!!

I'm not about to say that I haven't made my own mistakes because Lord knows I have! What I will say is that you are absolutely correct, more times than not it seems that NOBODY wants to be accountable and I am HUGE..HUGE..HUGE on accountability!    If you did it..you own it..even if you aren't proud of it!! People are human..we do make mistakes.

It's sad to think that so many people are so all about the money..I know some of them personally and it always makes me sick when I hear..Ohhh..he makes such and so..I immediately know where it's headed! If you talk about somebody from their financial status and say nothing from your heart about that person..well..I just feel disgusted by you and sorry for them.

Something else that really bothers me about this whole scenario is that it ruins people from being able to open their heart when somebody good does come along. SMH

It also gave me assurance that not all men want "trophy wives" and really are looking for women like me that have hearts. .for that..I thank you

~T~



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Posted on Fri, Nov 30, 2012 17:37

Its not easy Smart1975, we all put ourselves out there and rejection is not something i ever had to deal with before and it leaves a bitter taste in my mouth. So with every rejection I grow more determined to not settle. I have talked to and even met a few very nice ladies, some who liked me a lot, some who did not like me at all and some that I liked and did not feel the same connection. One thing I have learned thru all of this is that hurting someones feelings is not something I take pleasure in. Looking at pictures is just a vague idea of how a person truely is. The way they move and smile, the little things that you see when looking at the person you are talking to. Those little things are what trigger our feelings. Some people take a great pic and I just dont happen to be one of them.



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Posted on Fri, Nov 30, 2012 17:22

I agree 100% with you easyman! Stop and think, look for red flags, advise we can all use.



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Posted on Fri, Nov 30, 2012 16:41

Well , I really don't understand, people get on this side paying for that...and for what...just to go through someone's pictures ...and not even talk.... But I bet all of us got heart broken and not one time....no one want to get hurt again. But if we not able to look in future with open heart and hope and little trust in people....what good we are... We never going to be able to be happy again.. Life to short and we making harder on ourselves.... I don't see point in playing games and wasting my time and someone else's.... Just doesn't make any sense to me... And it is guys on this side who love to play mind games ....make you feel like you all special and all...and then just disappear ...

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Posted on Thu, Nov 29, 2012 09:44

Wow that is heartbreaking!!! T-T


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Posted on Thu, Nov 29, 2012 09:11

I know exactly what you mean. I met this woman who was one of the prettiest I have dated. 57. Supposedly had a MBA. Totally in love with her for the first time in a long time. I so enjoyed her company and being with her. She told me she loved me and I wanted to help her any way I could. She talked about marriage, introduced me to her family and we made plans to be live together. I bought her clothes and jewelry because she wasn't working and wanted to look nice for me. We made plans to share every week with travel and family as well.

I planned a spectuciar week trip in the Dominican Republic. Friends were going with us. She texted how thrilled she was with the trip and being with me. The day before we were leave, she texted how much she loved me and wanted to be with me. She never showed up and never heard from her again.I called her a dozen times and sent texts, never responded other than "not coming."

I then found out that just about everything she told me was a lie. She was living with a woman, had a house in foreclosure, co owned a home wih this lesbian and yet was out looking for a house with me. I must admit I was rocked by the total lies and dishonesty and kick myself for not seeing through this. But while they say love is blind, I felt like this was the proverbial blindfold before a firing squad because she shot me through the heart.



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Posted on Thu, Nov 08, 2012 23:59

Thank you very much , easyman for your reply . I live literally 2 miles from Bill Gates :) There should be plenty of successful guys around .? 50 people looked, 2 letters from nice guys who live FAR FAR away. Probably I should write more in my profile or put more pictures. The thing is I believe that people look very different on pictures and IRL , in person guys and girls have some special charm, personality - you can not judge no one by their pictures too good, plus !:) I would not think MM guys are so shallow they need to see 10 pics of me to set up a first short introductory date. ? :) Or may be guys can see I am an immigrant, I need to put I have the USA citizenship . ?


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Posted on Tue, Nov 06, 2012 04:25

Quoting smart1975:

Easyman. I am new here at MM and I like your blogs a lot. I am sure you book will be interesting. Yes, sometime we, girls need a reality check. But I wanted to add that So many guys complain about ex wife, ex GFs... it is such a turn off for me. I only can think "if he says bad things about his ex, 3-4 month later (or whenever we'd brake up if we would have any relationship ) he is going to say bad things about me". Guys and girls, I just created profile and 42 people looked at it, and only 1 wink , and no one wrote me anything . ? Is it normal here? Does a girl have to be "pro-active" here? Thank you .


Welcome!

And Thank you... I am enjoying the writing of this book far more than I thought I would.

 

When guys complain about their ex's, you have to change your perspective.  It's not about how they will treat you when you're an ex, it's about them telling you they're not ready to be dating because they're still hurting.  Just be thankful and move on.

 

It depends on where you're located, your photos and your profile text as to what types of responses you will get.  I think it depends on who you are as a person. I know both male and females who have had horrible results here and I know myself and many men and women who've had nothing but stellar results.

 



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Posted on Mon, Nov 05, 2012 22:32

Easyman. I am new here at MM and I like your blogs a lot. I am sure you book will be interesting. Yes, sometime we, girls need a reality check. But I wanted to add that So many guys complain about ex wife, ex GFs... it is such a turn off for me. I only can think "if he says bad things about his ex, 3-4 month later (or whenever we'd brake up if we would have any relationship ) he is going to say bad things about me". Guys and girls, I just created profile and 42 people looked at it, and only 1 wink , and no one wrote me anything . ? Is it normal here? Does a girl have to be "pro-active" here? Thank you .


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Posted on Mon, Nov 05, 2012 08:14

Quoting Forever_Classy:

Easy, this is the first time I have read your blog.  It does not paint a pretty world.  I certainly don't want to focus on all that negativity.  I have met so many of these people mentioned over time but I  chose to continue looking for what I believe the real thing is out there. I have met many genuine men but the chemisty was elusive.  I can understand why so many people are single or alone because they focus on all these negative things. 

 

I believe in the law of attraction......you attract what you think, believe and are!  

 

I also know you were venting in this blog and we all need to vent at some point.  So venting is understood!!!



It's not about painting a pretty picture of the world.

 

What the blog was about are the people who complain because they think/believe that rich people are somehow going to fawn all over them when it's simply not true and these same people then go on to whine and complain because they feel like everyone else is fake when the truth is, using your law of attraction as an example, they are only attracting those who are just like them.

 

Some of these people have watched way too much TV and have a very distorted view of how millionaires live and what being wealthy is about. Most wealthy people don't place much value on the actual money but more on the art and act of building something.  My daughters boyfriends family owns a chain of 12 restuarants and they live in a small 3br/2ba house and drive a car with broken A/C.  They work ungodly hours and still manage to turn out good kids with good values and they certainly don't throw money at their children to keep them out of trouble.  This is more the relality of the wealthy that I know.

 

I know the people that reach out to me have very little understanding of what my life is about, what I value and where I will spend my hard earned dollars.  I will take an evening on the beach with a cheap bottle of wine and a bag salad over a dinner at Mortons any time... the downtime and simplicity are what I value (not that I dislike my dinners at Mortons).

 

And if you believe in the law of attraction then you must also believe in the law of repelling... a clearly stated opposition to certain behaviors can also work to repel those who exhibit those behaviors. LOL



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Posted on Thu, Nov 01, 2012 08:23

 I'll have to admit that my own "reality check" is probably in order, but without a dream what else is there? I'll keep dreaming alone, hoping to win the "lottery". I'm a bit shy so won't just step out somewhere and snag her. Hate bars! That was in the past and such a waste. Dim lights, can't see, loud music, can't hear, and booze. More booze. Trying to become socially adept.

 So, just as soon as you treat the woman to the "real man" she bolts! She wants an erzatz real man. Ok, men suffer from the same problem, we want that "ideal" woman, whatever that is. Some psychologists ( armchair? ) tell us it's all about the trip, and never mind the destination. For my own part I'll take the destination and skip the part about "riding the rails".

 Some of the very lucky, or the very determined, marry and stay together through everything life has to throw at us. Most of the rest fill the divorce courts.

 

 Signed, Rode the rails, still reality checking and can't, won't lose the dream.



~The world is not enough. Next the universe.~

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Posted on Mon, Oct 29, 2012 22:42

easymantolove, I have to say I do agree.



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Posted on Thu, Oct 25, 2012 04:45

Quoting Voyager54:

~Easy~...Surprisingly enough, not too many women are impressed by my JD 7430 or even the 4320 which has Hydro on it!...I get more action from women when my little dog is with me than I do when I'm walking alone...so I bring him everywhere now!

For what it's worth...women for me have become a ball and chain of effort. I'd much rather invest into another boat , even another house, than invest into the emotional roller-coaster that most modern 'young' women...actually ANY woman...seems to possess.

I'd rather window shop...that's what makes sites like this sort of fun.

However, the entire dating scenario is such a ...it's such a bore! Bores the shyt out of me. Doesn't matter how hot the girl is or how smart she may be...it's all just so boring!

Now that I think about it...even getting laid iss boring...I'd much rather be playing Call of Duty or Tiger Woods golf or out in the boat in the gulf or up in the mountains camping out.

 

Like I said, it sure gets fun somethimes here on this site to rattle some cages. The foreigners hate it! lol.  And guys from Texas apparently.



Voyager,

 

You hit on something really interesting. I'm working on a book and in some research I did (a poll) I was astounded at some of the results. One particular piece was that 95% of men do NOT feel that women are good listeners. Of course this flies in the face of what women think/feel/believe about themselves and in my book I explain why this is, but the fact is many men feel the same way you do.

 

I have an experience that I will share in a new blog that should get some interesting comments... I'll post it later today and call it "Men who don't date".

 

 



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Posted on Sun, Oct 14, 2012 19:04

DIAMONDGIRL... 

Thank you for a POSITIVE response... I truly feel if more women would listen to men versus bashing their views..... and men listen to women.... with the same respect.. We might all learn a little something.. and there wouldn't be so much dysfunctionality... (if that's a word! LOL) 

WELCOME to the blogs!! ;)

I'm Hope~~  



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Posted on Mon, Oct 08, 2012 20:10

Hey Hey CURIOUS!! 

 

Nope, you ladies are not as old as Sophia.. but just as straight-forward for sure! I just love that show.. Great memories with my girls when they were younger, painting our toes and watching "GG's" HaHa! We know all the lines! :) 

 

Sophia was in her early 80's in the beginning.. The others were in their 60's.. (though Blanche always tried to claim her 50's!!) I recall the one when Dorothy caught her mother in bed with Max Weinstein.. the husband of one of her late friends! She said she was having "after glow!" HA! I still watch them every chance I get! 

 

CURIOUS... I am inclined to guide myself more along your way of thinking.. I am not one for "censorship" and I prefer a straight up approach with anything in life. I don't care for "guesswork".. B/C I have found more often than not, when we "guess" esp without use of voice etc... we usually guess wrong! LOL.. So I prefer others to just spit it out. Everyone's gauge on what a "personal attack" varies anyway... so one will never please everyone... If something is stated as a FACT which cannot be disputed, I do not consider it a personal attack... I take it as "TRUTH".. I've witnessed some try to use "underlying sarcasm" on blogs... so to me, what's the difference? If someone constantly upsets others, they will feel the heat eventually...I've been yappin for years and know these things happen and sometimes it can be beneficial.. I am a firm believer, we grow and learn not from everything we do "right".. but from the things we do "wrong".. And I don't feel a need for anyone to "censor" my words.. or my life... This government is getting pretty scary along that lines... I darn sure don't want or need a "Big Brother" here.. LOL.. Next thing you know.. They'll be in my bedroom.. THEN, there's gonna be problems!! (Cuz they will be BORED as heck! Bwahahaha!) 



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