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Posted on Sat, Jul 28, 2012 09:58

While at work one day, a co-worker and I had some free time.. ( very unusual but it happens) We talked about the usual things.. Work, Life, love.. Etc... Our conversation ebbed and flowed very well.  At some point during the conversation, we talked about dating, where we would meet men etc . She asked what I did for fun . Confident in my response, I informed her I go from work to home . I spend a great deal of time with my kids, watch the First 48 , Snapped , Who the bleep did I marry , ruruns of my fav movies , read books , bowling, ( you  guys get the pic right). She had a look of bewilderment in her expression. I thought I had grown horns or something. Well she informed me  in not so many words how dreary and dull I was.  I was * shocked*  to say the least. Really!!!  Well.. maybe. ( giggles).    Now I don't go out to clubs, bars, etc... It's just not my scene.. We all have our preferences. She got really excited and suggested after the pink elephant left the room and I told her what my ritualistic days consists of.. (Im thinking she felt sorry for me)...she suggested I try Internet dating. She told me how successful she has been on a"particular site". ( yet she is still single.. Go figure).. Not judging .. She  proceeded to ramble off a few sites..but suggested I try MM. I  asked her why MM.. She told me MM has been featured on Dr Phil, Abc, NBC.. blah blah blah and added this is where she has had more success with dating.. I said what about the others? She said they are ok.. but plainly suggested I try this one first..  Hmm... I  was a little skeptical but  of course curious  as well !! She filled my head with " hope".  I thought maybe , just maybe this will work...  I succumbed to peer pressure. Fast forward to today.. I have been on here for a little over 2 mths now and I'm just now beginning to think this site is not for me. I have had older men asking for my phone numbers emails .. Gotten a few winks here and there.. But nothing substantial.. I have reached out to a few men.. Who have basically  ignored me..lol ... some with no photos showing interest yet when I request pics, all communication stops. .. You know the same  recurring stories from other women..   Confused.. I started looking at my pics.. wondering.. maybe I need professional photos?  Is my nose too big? Is it because I take pics of myself in the bathroom? Lol. Here I am questioning my self worth... Is it because there are no full pictures of me being incredibly sexy? Then I started thinking..  some men.. if not all  are visual creatures.. ( women are too) They really are attracted to the superficial..  Still confused .. I start looking into profiles to see what men really want?    Amazingly enough, some  men my age are interested in younger women..  Some of the older men are too..There are no preferences in who they will date  as far as, race etc.. But Still nothing... Sighs..  Some men age ranges are incredibly wide.. * blank stare* ( 18-99) what the hell is that? I'm exaggerating but you get the idea Still confused.. Yet my co-worker has had success!! What the hell?? I once again went back to my profile and thought  maybe it's my verbiage... I had to shake myself back to reality.. I am who I am.. I think I will revert back to my old ways.. My ritualistic behavior.. I was content.. I have a good job..  Love what I do..I don't make a millionaire salary.. But I am content..  Wealth comes in all forms.. It does not have to be financial.. I'm just saying.. Maybe this is not the right site.. Maybe I'm not ready.. Maybe I will bump into my future at a grocery store.. Who the hell knows At 38  or at any age..it really should not be so difficult to have a stimulating  conversation with a man who will see more than just beauty.. I don't think I'm unattractive.. In fact, I think I am  ok.  I've been off the dating scene for 5 yrs ..by choice .. let me just add that in.. And say it again BY CHOICE..only because my life has been consumed by my work and my kids..  It would be nice to share my life with an adult at some point.. But who knows.. Maybe one day... ***annoyed with my co-worker** ( smiling)


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Posted on Sun, Aug 26, 2012 16:15

Quoting Orlando__:

I also looked at your profile.  It's nice.  You come off as attractive, sweet, thoughtful, and genuine.  I have found this place, however, doesn't cater well to that type of person.  Have you looked at many of the women on this site?  Many of the profiles (not all) are highly charged sexually with lots of eye candy photo shots.  The message is "selling sex"  The men are peacocking their possessions or other assets they can muster.  The message "buying sex."  Sorry to sound cynical, but this place is not reality.   With that said, there are also really nice, genuine people here.  It is an exploration--not always pleasant--in finding the right one.  Best of luck.  



@ Orlando Thank you for the compliments :-) Internet dating is a new adventure for me. There is a lot I still dont know and I am still learning how it works. I appreciate your honesty, input and insight. Looking forward to reading your blogs!! Take care


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Posted on Sun, Aug 26, 2012 11:11

I also looked at your profile.  It's nice.  You come off as attractive, sweet, thoughtful, and genuine.  I have found this place, however, doesn't cater well to that type of person.  Have you looked at many of the women on this site?  Many of the profiles (not all) are highly charged sexually with lots of eye candy photo shots.  The message is "selling sex"  The men are peacocking their possessions or other assets they can muster.  The message "buying sex."  Sorry to sound cynical, but this place is not reality.   With that said, there are also really nice, genuine people here.  It is an exploration--not always pleasant--in finding the right one.  Best of luck.  



**My top strength is"learning." So, my blogs are learning-focused. ~Orlando

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Posted on Fri, Aug 03, 2012 12:00

Oops.. Forgot the D... Diagnose !! Hehehe!!


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Posted on Fri, Aug 03, 2012 10:41

I'm sorry Di.. I was actually doing a lot of A.D.P.I.E at work and using my critical thinking skills with other fellow nurses: (This is an an acronym for Nurses ) Assessment Planning Implementation Evaluation Hmm.. Maybe I should use this process in my quest for finding a date.. Interesting thought.. What do you think Di? I will be more diligent the next time I blog :-)


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Posted on Thu, Aug 02, 2012 18:23

Quoting QuietStorm2193:

:)

QStorm~

You gotta try to keep up gf!  Things move real fast around here!!!  Not!  lololo

 

We were waiting for you to reappear and kinda took the curve too fast!  But don't be too hard on Voyager.  He has a cracked cranium and can't help it.  Matter of fact...he's so bad off, he may need two nurses!  *wink*  lololol



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Posted on Thu, Aug 02, 2012 03:10

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Posted on Thu, Aug 02, 2012 03:07

Did Di and.Voyager really use my blog " reply/comment" section to write each other about things that are TOTALLY unrelated to my blog? No .. Of course not!! Why would they do that?!! ** blank stare**!!! Francie , Forever and Di..thanks for the words of encouragement and insight. It's heartwarming , highly appreciated and well received... Now Di and Voyager ....Can you take your curmudgeon, spinster, baggy shirt, laced up shoes, crumpled bobby socks and cats elsewhere ? Thanks


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Posted on Wed, Aug 01, 2012 22:07

Not the spinster!!!  I'm thinking baggy skirt, lace up shoes and crumpled bobby socks.  Have you ever seen crumpled bobby socks V???  .......Yikes!  That's how I dress sometimes!  :)) *wink*



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Posted on Mon, Jul 30, 2012 22:51

V~

What do you call a female curmudgeon?  I hate referring to myself as an old bat….but I think I may possibly be a curmudgeon.  *wink*  :))



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Posted on Sun, Jul 29, 2012 09:47

QStorm~

I agree with Francie and Classy.  Your profile is well written and from my perspective, your self pics depict a down to earth, true beauty.  Hmmmm....a nurse....me too.  :))  Hi gf!

 

Your story sounds very similiar to mine....working too much and raising children.  As I now reflect on my life to this point (50+)....I feel very gratified by raising a fine son, who turned out to be a kind soul and is a successfully employed young adult.  I also think back about my career and cherish the memories of the people I've helped and the industry contributions I've made building services that made a difference in less fortunate's lives.  But then I also reflect on where I am now....and wonder if there is something wrong with me... that I am alone.  But it seems to be a choice....because I have no shortage of men interested....but they are not that good in my view. lolo   Men that are age appropriate for me....hmmm...as one fellow said, "Look like 10 miles of bad road".....or just as set in their ways as I am and not compatible.

 

My advice to you.....don't let too much time go by...because by the time you are my age, the pickin's just keep getting slimmer.  Focus!!  Implement the 'Nursing Process' and critical thinking skills that I know you have!  Even if this site doesn't work for you, don't give up!  Plan, Act, Evaluate, Plan, Act, Evaluate! 

Hugs

~D

 



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Posted on Sat, Jul 28, 2012 20:18

Hello, QuietStorm2193,

 

I enjoyed reading your comments, I've also read your profile and there is nothing wrong (your photos are excellent).

 

People have always sought ways to enrich and improve their lives. Find a friend, lover or partner. However, in our modern world we all live busy, it may be difficult to find time and energy to find a partner in the conventional manner.

That's why the Internet data exchange, has become enormously popular for family gatherings all over the world. It's not hard to see why. More and more people are increasingly looking for dating websites, to start a relationship. The dating websites have replaced the traditional places like churches, social clubs and circles of friends.

The Internet offers a quick communication system. People with a common

interest can almost immediately start messaging with others seeking the same. The Internet is also a saving significant time and cost effective. The most significant attraction, no doubt, is anonymity. You have to be rich, a high-profile star of film, or an athlete known for going online and meeting people.

Everyone is equal in cyberspace, and all have the same opportunities to succeed. That is, if you know how!

It comes down to knowledge and experience. No matter how big you are or how much you know about fashionable technology is up to you to make use of knowledge, and only you can take the initiative. Technology only helps us, as a means to make specific appointments and faster. But you must take in count that this is a  very large site  (so it will make it very difficult

 because there kinds of people (those who just want sex, self-centered, narcissistic, selfish, etc.), you will have to learn to combat this (the reward is to find people with a noble heart, attentive, gentlemen, educated), that makes you go ahead and lets not lose hope.

 

You will succeed, but also must have patience, the good is worth waiting for! :))

 

Francie!!



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