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Posted on Sat, Jul 21, 2012 23:29

This I got from the blog of one Iranian woman. Interesting to compare :-)

As for me I never wanted to be perfect, I wanted to be myself. And for me, some items are impossible to fulfill. But I don't feel sorry :-)

30 tips to be a perfect person:

1. Perfect persons love everything in their life. They love Cities, Villages, plains, deserts, oceans, mountains, animals and every thing in the nature. They generally love life

2. They never complain and don’t waste their time with moaning. They never wish to be other person. . They don’t have barriers in their mind.

3. They are always excited for what they are doing.

4. They don’t get bored. They find something to do even in boring moments. They hate showing off and pretending to enjoy. They enjoy realities.

5. They are independent and dont feel guilty. They don’t punish themselves.

6. They live in the present time and are not worried about the future.

7. They are not afraid of unknowns and always search for new experiences. They love mysterious things.

8. They are not ignorant and stupid.

9. They don’t enforce their love to beloves. Free from expectations, their relationship is based on free choice and mutual respect.

10. Their private corner is very important for them. Sometimes they really love to be alone with the self.

11. They don’t fall in love several times. Usually they fall in love once and forever.

12. They are restrict to choose the beloved. But they love heartily and sincerely. Their love to their beloves will never end.

13. Their way in life is not judgmental. They also don’t care about others’ judgment and don’t need people’s admiration and sympathy. They don’t need to make all people satisfied. They always say what they want and are not scared to proclaim their ideas.

14. They are honest, frank and straightforward. They live based on their wishes and ideas.

15. They are not stubborn. But they choose their way by own.

16. They ignore stupid traditions and irrelevant barriers.

17. There is an account in the bank for them. But they don’t kill themselves to make it full of money. Money is the last thing they care for.

18. Seriously and attentively, they’re wise, open-minded and practical.

19. They know how to laugh and make laugh. They like to tease people. But their way is not bcs of enmity or hatred. They never ridicule others. They don’t laugh at people, but they laugh with them. People enjoy to be with them, bcs they make joyful atmosphere around themselves.

20. Routine life is not their way. They love variety.

21. This life for them is a temporary time. Working hard to be better person, they never take life serious.

22. They dont say sorry for what they really love to have.

23. Facing the problems, They don’t get emotional and confused. They fight and win over problems. But they also don’t fight to take ineffectual and unfruitful goals. They are not essentially hero/heroine. Yet they are active and supportive.

24. Life for them is not living on surface. They usually go for content and know how to live.

25. They are crative and imaginative. For anything, They use their mind and their power of thinking. They are powerful, strong and full of energy.

26. They need less sleep and they are healthy. There is no way for depression.

27. They don’t put people in groups and don’t blame them.

28. Thirsty to know, They love to learn more and more. They are very curious and are not afraid of failure. They are mostly learner instead of teacher.

29. They have strong relationship with God. They love nature and the world.

30. They accept what they are. They love themselves and try to be best. The most natural people, They are themselves and not anybody else.



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Posted on Wed, Sep 05, 2012 12:24

Zitiert von laughing_cloud:

This I got from the blog of one Iranian woman. Interesting to compare :-)

As for me I never wanted to be perfect, I wanted to be myself. And for me, some items are impossible to fulfill. But I don't feel sorry :-)

30 tips to be a perfect person:

1. Perfect persons love everything in their life. They love Cities, Villages, plains, deserts, oceans, mountains, animals and every thing in the nature. They generally love life

2. They never complain and don’t waste their time with moaning. They never wish to be other person. . They don’t have barriers in their mind.

3. They are always excited for what they are doing.

4. They don’t get bored. They find something to do even in boring moments. They hate showing off and pretending to enjoy. They enjoy realities.

5. They are independent and dont feel guilty. They don’t punish themselves.

6. They live in the present time and are not worried about the future.

7. They are not afraid of unknowns and always search for new experiences. They love mysterious things.

8. They are not ignorant and stupid.

9. They don’t enforce their love to beloves. Free from expectations, their relationship is based on free choice and mutual respect.

10. Their private corner is very important for them. Sometimes they really love to be alone with the self.

11. They don’t fall in love several times. Usually they fall in love once and forever.

12. They are restrict to choose the beloved. But they love heartily and sincerely. Their love to their beloves will never end.

13. Their way in life is not judgmental. They also don’t care about others’ judgment and don’t need people’s admiration and sympathy. They don’t need to make all people satisfied. They always say what they want and are not scared to proclaim their ideas.

14. They are honest, frank and straightforward. They live based on their wishes and ideas.

15. They are not stubborn. But they choose their way by own.

16. They ignore stupid traditions and irrelevant barriers.

17. There is an account in the bank for them. But they don’t kill themselves to make it full of money. Money is the last thing they care for.

18. Seriously and attentively, they’re wise, open-minded and practical.

19. They know how to laugh and make laugh. They like to tease people. But their way is not bcs of enmity or hatred. They never ridicule others. They don’t laugh at people, but they laugh with them. People enjoy to be with them, bcs they make joyful atmosphere around themselves.

20. Routine life is not their way. They love variety.

21. This life for them is a temporary time. Working hard to be better person, they never take life serious.

22. They dont say sorry for what they really love to have.

23. Facing the problems, They don’t get emotional and confused. They fight and win over problems. But they also don’t fight to take ineffectual and unfruitful goals. They are not essentially hero/heroine. Yet they are active and supportive.

24. Life for them is not living on surface. They usually go for content and know how to live.

25. They are crative and imaginative. For anything, They use their mind and their power of thinking. They are powerful, strong and full of energy.

26. They need less sleep and they are healthy. There is no way for depression.

27. They don’t put people in groups and don’t blame them.

28. Thirsty to know, They love to learn more and more. They are very curious and are not afraid of failure. They are mostly learner instead of teacher.

29. They have strong relationship with God. They love nature and the world.

30. They accept what they are. They love themselves and try to be best. The most natural people, They are themselves and not anybody else.



I must say this is beautful!! Thanks for sharing L_C



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Posted on Wed, Aug 01, 2012 01:21

Quoting QueenOfRndmCrap:

I have a dry, slapstick sense of humor. The name queen of random crap came about because I have 2 teenage daughters and for anyone with teenagers there is a lot of random crap through those years. It is a name that entertains me because parenting is both great and challenging. I was just being a jokester. Making the best as a parent. Nothing more. 



I guess, the random crap is a problem of misbehaviour, frustration, anxiety, confusion, right? 



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Posted on Tue, Jul 31, 2012 12:12

I have a dry, slapstick sense of humor. The name queen of random crap came about because I have 2 teenage daughters and for anyone with teenagers there is a lot of random crap through those years. It is a name that entertains me because parenting is both great and challenging. I was just being a jokester. Making the best as a parent. Nothing more. 



"LOVE TAKES OF MASKS WE KNOW WE CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT AND KNOW WE CANNOT LIVE WITHIN" ~James Arthur Baldwin

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Posted on Tue, Jul 31, 2012 04:42

Thank you so much for a deep answer, dear Queen.

My question was not accidental, that's true. The fact is that we, Russians like to talk about the deep meaning of life. And every time someone says about how to live and act, we are curious does this person live this way, or is it all the beautiful words. In general, my question was a preliminary to another: If you live the way you write, why do you have such a nickname? I have noticed quite a dissonance between your name and the first text.

Yours truly, LC



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Posted on Tue, Jul 31, 2012 03:26

Quoting laughing_cloud:

Queen, thank you,  well done. Just one question, did you find your own personal values? 



I am not sure why you ask me, laughing cloud, if I found my own personal values?????  

I don't attach my self-worth and self-esteem to how I appear in the eyes of others. If I did, then every criticism, judgment, or attempt to put me down would feel like an annihilation or I would feel totally devestated. How do I know this. Because I lived it. And now I understand what it is like to have what I call "being values" rather than "appearance values."
It is an inner-searching of what "hidden" motives I may have in doing what "ought" to be done and appearance-values disconnected me from my true desires, from knowing what is essentially me. Therefore, I am not afraid of finding my desire, my expression, my direction, whether or not others applaud or appraise my choices which creates an inner relaxed state because I allow me to be me, letting out my true self which is the only way to find what I really want. So, the answer to your question is YES. 



 I have a deep sincere commitment to invest the best in all I do,  when my integrity makes sure that I do not have hidden motives and give for the sake of giving--then I experience what an incredible miricle that my heart's desire is God's will.   

I could be wrong--almost seems like your question was a loaded one--a dig rather. Either way I am still glad for your question. A chance to put myself in check on the progress I am making on my path and I have to say I have taken not only baby steps but great strides from where I once was--disconnected and riddled with doubt in my abilities and intuitions.  Learning that self-devaluation does not equate with humility and goodness or the equation of self-value with pride or arrogance. To think of oneself as nothing is like an insult to one's inherent divine manifestation. When I meditate, it is here where I discover the problems in what I create and look at the disorder and contradictions on the various levels of my thinking and feeling. Every thought and intent are extemely powerful and the word I speak and the word I think, and the influence I have with every word whether thinking or speaking will underestimate my own power if I feel distrustful of myself due to operating with appearance-values.   Feelings, desires, concepts, perceptions, knowing must all be one cohesive and compatible fused energy stream. Then the word is enormous. Then with the word as the first agent of creation it must take shape and form.  Only then the very power found in the word will heal, help and can produce life. Hope this answers your question. 



~peace



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Posted on Wed, Jul 25, 2012 18:11

NO ONE is or ever will be perfect. Our "imperfections" are what make us unique.



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Posted on Wed, Jul 25, 2012 08:57

Thank you, Hope, for your words and opinion. I agree that she meant the 'general love'. If we only try to understand what we have in our life...



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Posted on Wed, Jul 25, 2012 08:52

Quoting MissMonteCarlo:

Some interesting points. I agree with you it's better to be yourself than trying to be something you are not. What is perfect to one person may be not so perfect to another. You can't really measure perfect. So yes, we should be true to ourselves and be the best person we can be for our personal growth more so than for other people.

 

Sarah :-)



Totally agree!



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Posted on Wed, Jul 25, 2012 08:51

Quoting eliziada:

M. Kundera has written a story about a child who visits a church togheter with his father. the child asks questions about Jesus: 'has  Jesus eaten and drinking, like us? '... ' yes ' ... 'has he also gone on the toilet, like us?  The father says 'no'

perfektion is kliche

 



I have a funny story about kids, Hollywood and religion. One of my students from the US tried to explain the sense of Easter to his daughter. And he told her that Jesus died but then he became alive again. And she asked her father: "So, is Jesus a zombie?"... ... What a nice modern culture and smart kids we have nowadays :-)



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Posted on Wed, Jul 25, 2012 01:15

to Nathalie1955: true ... my komentar about cliche is in the context where nothing is perfect, if it really is. the reality is in the power of opposites. from a philosophical angle is perfection paradox. when it comes to a psychological angle, can perfection be the work with, anything that gets awareness of one's mind. also a depression. I see the 30 pesonligheds's points as great positive ideal. Therefore, a good thing to strive for. nothing personal intended towards anyone with cliche. only a subtle provocation in relation to, that we are human beings and life is nuanced, not in black and white perception. nuanced personality - human personality- is truly perfect:)sometimes smiling Lord, sometimes Crying...nice day to you!



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Posted on Tue, Jul 24, 2012 16:19

Hey LAUGHING....

 

I started to read.. and my "Imperfect A.D.D."  acted up on me... LOL

 

I think some of these are very good guidelines for happiness..

 

(Reserving conjecture of others, not punishing yourself.. Do I ever know what harboring guilt can do to your soul!!) So there are several points I strongly identify with.

 

But I would have to iterate... 

 

"Some" of these things I feel are plain phony and/or hog wash...

 

IE: Start with #1. Loving "EVERYTHING" in your life? This is not only improbable and unrealistic, but impossible... If one loves ALL things in life.. It makes them "humanless"... Therefore I declare!!! I DEPLORE ATLANTA TRAFFIC!! LOLOL.. Now I don't allow it to bother me... BUT.. to say I "love" it! HaHa~~

 

I understand the concept.. It is t just "enjoy life" in general... But many on the list I find to be more of a robotic nature... 

 

I love my passion and my fire.. I have an extremely "energetic" personality.. BUT.. in order for one to hold true "PASSION" .. they often are "ruled and fueled" by emotions... PASSION=EMOTIONS... If one doesn't get passionate about something, they hold no emotional connection with it.. (robotic) 

 

Interesting thoughts... 

 

Always enjoy reading your blogs.. :) 



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Posted on Tue, Jul 24, 2012 14:46

Hello and thank you for this opportunity to participate in this blog. I have read it with interest, I am a perfectionist my self, but only in what I consider to be passionate. not because I want to, but because I cannot resist:) My komentar about cliche, to be seen from a retorikal angle.

I will be glad to answer the question about God. hope this one answer, to cover up the other 29. I am subjectivily in my own blog. in deep respect for someone else's blog, I want to keep my opinions objectively.I quote 'God does not expect, that we will be successful/perfect. but he expects that we try' mother Teressa´

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Posted on Tue, Jul 24, 2012 12:17

Some interesting points. I agree with you it's better to be yourself than trying to be something you are not. What is perfect to one person may be not so perfect to another. You can't really measure perfect. So yes, we should be true to ourselves and be the best person we can be for our personal growth more so than for other people.

 

Sarah :-)



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Posted on Tue, Jul 24, 2012 07:53

Quoting Nathalie1955:

Very nice!

"Iranian woman" desrvs be named, and  (accordind to her points),  I am perfect!

Thanks! (now I know for sure!) however,p29, first part (strong connection with God) needs explanation.

I wuld like to put "Inside Low" (instead of God)


Good for you! Infortunately, she has her blog under a nickname. I don't know who she is.



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Posted on Mon, Jul 23, 2012 14:36

M. Kundera has written a story about a child who visits a church togheter with his father. the child asks questions about Jesus: 'has  Jesus eaten and drinking, like us? '... ' yes ' ... 'has he also gone on the toilet, like us?  The father says 'no'

perfektion is kliche

 



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Posted on Mon, Jul 23, 2012 06:30

Queen, thank you,  well done. Just one question, did you find your own personal values? 



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Posted on Mon, Jul 23, 2012 06:24

Quoting CuriousnCute:

LC,

Well said.  Sounds like a very rewarding way to live.  

CnC



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Posted on Sun, Jul 22, 2012 20:53

I believe there really is no "perfection" in this life. Often times, it seems people's unconscious concept of a joyful life are always connected with a perfect life. There seems to be this unconscious emphasis to become perfect according to standards imposed on us by the world, by religion, by rules, basically by authority. Intellectually, we all know there is not perfection in this life. It is one thing to profess a certain knowledge on the surface and quite another to experience it emotionally. In my opinion, to live life fully is to derive the joy of experience, of growth, of feeling--all very personal--all coming from within. Joy isn't about what someone else can do for me/buy for me/etc.

To be capable of joy only if you accept imperfection and to be capable of growth only if you accept your own imperfection seems paradoxical. The task sounds easy to accomplish; but, in practice, often difficult because of our own unawareness of our reactions and feelings.  We all have so many subterfuges, so many hidden crevices in the soul that becoming aware of them requires full attention and a focused inner-will. This is why in my own life I don't concern myself with what other people think of me or pass judgement on me--because they are the ones who are avoiding themself and also the ones looking for perfection rather than imperfection. 

Does this sound familiar? This is an example of a perfectionistic attitude:

"I should have resolved my problems already. I cannot be happy as long as my problems are unresolved; therefore, I must be impatient, compulsive, and restless about it. I cannot live in the present, but must somehow always look for and live in the future when I hope to be perfect, and finally experience perfect happiness, perfect love, and perfect relationships, or relationships shouldn't have all these problems, why does my partner need to point out my mistakes all the time, she needs someone who can make her happy then."


This attitude is never conscious, never formulated with such clarity, of course, if our emotions were translated when you think about it, they would often convey just that. When a person outside of ourself acts in ways that hurt us, we may lash out by reacting in one of a plethera of ways emotionally rather than thinking that maybe that person had a bad day, or lost a loved one, lost their job/house/pet. Or lovingly going to the person and stating what you feel when such and such happens/when they act this way or that way because ,.,.,,,. When the other person is not willing to see their own imperfections/wrong doings/attitudes blame ensues. Then the whole situation is unresolved, riddled with anger and projection,,,,,, Why does one allow someone outside of our own self to throw us off center because they are not willing to accept their own imperfection which in turn hurts others as well due to this attitude of perfectionism, unconsciously. Growth is done in steps and no one will ever be problem free. It is impossible. You do not have to be already perfect; what we fail to realize is that we are all imperfect and that is the way it is. How many people feel let down when something does not go their way? I do. Who ever said outcomes are to always be as we expect them to. Yet, this gets so many of us off balance by getting angry etc about it.

To sum it up, IF OUR FOCUS WERE ON GROWTH RATHER THAN PERFECTION WE WOULD ALL LIVE IN THE NOW. WE WOULD DISPENSE OF SUPERIMPOSED VALUES AND FIND OUR OWN. WE WOULD DISPENSE WITH SUBTLE PRETENSES AND HIDDEN; BUT, NEVERTHELESS PRESENT ATTITUDE THAT YOU DO WHAT YOU DO FOR APPEARANCE SAKE, RATHER THAN FOR YOURSELF. FINDING YOUR OWN VALUES LEADS TO JOY AND AWAY FROM SELF-ALIENATION. THIS WILL BRING ONE INTO HARMONY WITH ONESELF; IT WILL ANCHOR YOU IN YOURSELF.

 


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Posted on Sun, Jul 22, 2012 06:07

LC,

Well said.  Sounds like a very rewarding way to live.  

CnC



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