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Posted on Wed, May 30, 2012 12:42

Yes, I knew the title will get the better of you men, lol! But don't panic, I am only just looking to sample opinions on this rather Mars vs Venus situation some of us ladies find mouth-gaping! Do men really see women in this light? Is this even accurate or close to how you view the female specie? Do we ladies actually do some of these stuff that drive the men up the wall? Let's hear it men and ladies!! :):):)

 

Check out the ladies' perspective on men's annoying habits, lol!

 

Annoying female habit 1: Making an anniversary out of everything

What is it with women turning the nice little things in life into a grand gift-exchanging, champagne-popping ceremony? We return home from a normal day at work to be met with a candle-lit dinner and an expensive looking gift but, quite frankly, it makes our heart stop. Have you done something wrong? Is it your birthday? My birthday? Oh silly me, it’s the anniversary of the first time we looked at each other. Please refrain from doing this, ladies. We have a hard enough time getting event dates right without being shouted at for not buying the dog a card to celebrate the anniversary of his first vaccination.

 

Annoying female habit 2: Piling the bed with cushions

One would be mistaken for thinking that a bed is for sleeping in. We go to get our head down for the night, only to find the bed piled sky-high with strategically placed cushions that leave no room for us. What’s more, only a couple of these cushions actually have a purpose. We don’t need the tiny heart-shaped one or the big fluffy one that makes us sneeze – just a normal pillow to rest our head on will suffice. We don’t adorn the bed with DIY tools and model cars, so please tame your OCD (Obsessive Cushion Disorder) and stop making an elaborate display out of our bed so we can get down to the important stuff.

 

Annoying female habit 3: Asking us what we’re thinking

It’s a classic example of how women like to test us, and possibly trick us into making the cardinal sin of admitting that we weren’t thinking about her at that particular moment. One minute we’re enjoying a cuddle, the next they’re hurling that question at us when we’re least expecting it. They say it so fast that we don’t have chance to make up a false reply or even to think straight, which leads us to stutter and then be accused of thinking of our ex. Asking what we’re thinking is basically a nice way of saying ‘you aren’t allowed to have private thoughts, unless they’re about me’.

 

Annoying female habit 4: Saying ‘I’m fine’, when you’re not happy

So she stood in front of the television while the football was on, we got a bit iffy and snapped, and now all sorts of issues have been bought up. Then she says it – that passive-aggressive statement that marks the start of the dreaded silent treatment: “I’m fine”. Erm, are you really fine because you’ve just screamed at us until you’ve gone red in the face, and now you’re laying face down on the bed crying. If you’re unhappy just outline the problem and then we can sort it out and carry on as normal. Or – even better – don’t outline the problem and let us watch the football in peace.

 

Annoying female habit 5:  Using sex as a weapon

One of the most annoying things that a woman can do is deny her man of sexual privileges. Some women seem to take great pleasure in using our weakness to their own advantage through the classic ‘if you don’t do this, we’re not having sex’ scenario. If you’re going to stop us from doing one thing, please don’t let it be sex. We don’t stop you from eating and drinking, so please don’t mess with our basic human needs either.

 

Annoying female habit 6: Being over-emotional

You cry at funerals, you cry at weddings, you cry at happy films, you cry at sad films. This makes us feel awkward because we just don’t know what to say or do when you’re sat sobbing all over our freshly ironed shirt. Where do all these tears come from? We think women should just have an annual crying day where they get together and cry for twenty four hours, before coming home and being normal for the other 364 days of the year. It would solve a lot of our problems.

 

Annoying female habit 7: Incessant talking

We’ve heard that women are estimated to say around 20, 000 words a day – which is an awful lot compared to the paltry 7, 000 estimated for men – so we understand that she needs to get her daily nattering fix, but why is it always at the most inappropriate times? She was quiet all the way through the family dinner when we needed her to break the awkward silence, but as soon as we start getting to the competitive part of a multi-player game with our friends, she just won’t shut up about how cute the neighbour’s cat looks when it sits next to the rose bush. To make it even more annoying, the actual part of the story she was getting at whilst rambling on about the neighbour’s cat, was that the cat’s owner now works at the grocery store down the road. Ladies, if you’re going to talk, pick the right moment and please, just get to the point. 



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Posted on Wed, Jul 04, 2012 15:51

Quoting rmac22:

Livnlov – about the cushions:  No big deal.  They can just be stacked in a corner. 

 

 

 

A hotel, a very nice one, which I habitually stayed in one week per month, asked what they could do for me.  A special room?  What?  They already had chocolate chip cookies waiting for me on my arrival.  What more could I ask?  I did not care about the rooms; they were all very nice, albeit very expensive, the client paid for them. 

 

 

 

So, what they did was pillows, lots of pillows, a great variety.  I stacked them in the corner. 

 

 

 

rmac



RMac, Pillows, cushions??!! Oh, what an upright hotel!!!! I can think of a few extra things they could have done for your, lol!

 

But seriously, I get your point. I like the pillows as long as they are not vying for my sleeping space. If they are, yes I think the corner will be a good place for them to spend the night, lol.

 

Thanks RMac.

 

Liv.



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Posted on Fri, Jun 29, 2012 06:45

Livnlov – about the cushions:  No big deal.  They can just be stacked in a corner. 

 

 

 

A hotel, a very nice one, which I habitually stayed in one week per month, asked what they could do for me.  A special room?  What?  They already had chocolate chip cookies waiting for me on my arrival.  What more could I ask?  I did not care about the rooms; they were all very nice, albeit very expensive, the client paid for them. 

 

 

 

So, what they did was pillows, lots of pillows, a great variety.  I stacked them in the corner. 

 

 

 

rmac



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Posted on Mon, Jun 18, 2012 15:42

Hey Curious, I agree with you. It is not as serious as it appears - but for some people, it is. You are right, effective communication and humour is essential. I actually laughed at some of them.

 

CG - I am careful not to use the W (WISE) word, lol! But you see why I am a die-hard fan of yours! Well said. I did not know that 1,2,3,4 did bother guys but don't you think not paying attention to 4 could be as disasterious for a guy as 5 could be for a lady? I agree 5 is not at all a wise move, but some ladies like doing it - don't know what the outcomes were for them, though. Your point is well taken.

 

RMac - I completely agree with you. Thanks a lot for your contribution.

 

Realman247 - Thanks a bunch for responding to my 'desperate' call! You are welcome on board! What is your take on the subject??

 

Liv.



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Posted on Tue, Jun 12, 2012 19:25

Liv, I think this needs to be taken with a large grain of salt.  While there is much truth in it, it isn't as serious as, oh, say, a heart attack.  It's an exaggeration of what is, yes, I'm saying it, generally true.  But, couples who can and do communicate well can deal with these issues quite effectively--and HAVE to do so with senses of humor. 

 

If they do--all is still well.  The issue will still remain.  Always, throughout eternity because, like it or not, men and women are very, very different. 

 

But--VIVE LA DIFFERENCE!  We blend, when we let ourselves blend, oh, so wonderfully well.



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Posted on Tue, Jun 12, 2012 17:36

Here I am !!!



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Posted on Fri, Jun 08, 2012 19:48

Hey, there are differences between the way men and women typically think, speak, and act.  That is no mystery.  There is a reason for these differences.  Whatever these differences are they are what works.  Nature is an impartial and ruthless selector of what works.  We are the result of many many centuries of selection.

 

Now we are not so different that we can’t learn how to get along.  How to work together.  How to resolve differences.  Even how we can love each other. 

 

There are good books on the subject.  Also a few crappy ones.  The libraries are full of them.  It has been a few years since I studied this area or I would list a few.

 

rmac

 



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Posted on Wed, Jun 06, 2012 08:21

BeWell, Thank you for your contribution - I can identify with the cushions and hotels situation lol. I tend to leave the cushions situation behind at the hotel once I check out and then I return to my 2-pillowed bed at home. But I guess, I have somewhat neglected to indulge on the many cushions and pillows - I think they are rather nice and luxurious as long as they are not OTT to the point where you can't even find a place to actually lie down.

 

LC - That is wonderful - I am a sucker for re-unions! We even had an ex-colleague reunion from my previous brokerage firm and we have an absolute blast. Anniversaries - yep I always remembered everybody's birthdays, wedding anniversaries etc, but no one seemed to remember mine, but that never bothered me. But as life became busier and busier, I gradually lost touch - I hardly remember even my own birthday these days. However, I will make an effort to remember my significant other's special day, Valentines, Christmas etc - anything outside of that is a pain in the backside really! I couldn't even be bothered with the Diamond Jubilee anniversary, and I am supposed to be British and patriotic - go figure! I guess I am done with public anniversaries.

 

Liv.



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Posted on Fri, Jun 01, 2012 11:53

Hi Livnlov,

Noteworthy topic!

The only one I do is habit #2-- I definitely have OCD (Obsessive Cushion Disorder). Mine are mostly bed pillows. I got addicted to having multitudes of pillows while staying in tons of nice hotels when I traveled extensively for work.

 

I also have an elegant collection of decorative pillows for my sofa too. They are each unique and classy without being girly-girl. I'm careful to not cause estrogen-overload to my male friends when they visit me. Ha! I keep the ruffles, lace, flowers, and pinks to a minimum. ;-D

 

I can totally understand how many women drive men crazy with the habits mentioned above. We women must learn about these things so we don't drive perfectly good men away with neurotic feminine tendencies.... ;-D........ BeWell



BeWell and wishing you only the best ! ..................;-D

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Posted on Thu, May 31, 2012 14:55

Hey LC, interesting perspective, lol. How detailed or intricate is your No. 1, though?

 

JM, I agree - I'm not one for drama nor would I be upset if he wants to watch football or whatever else he wishes to do - well if it was football, I'll just join in - it's fun! But I used to say I was fine when I wasn't when I was a lot younger - now, I say it as I see it. Don't ask me if you don't want to hear the truth is more like it!

 

Liv.



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Posted on Thu, May 31, 2012 07:39

Hey, Liv!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I am definitely 'Habit 4'. I tend to say 'I am fine' when I am not, not because of his hobbies or interests which/if I am not fond of. I do not like and am not the type who is keen on stirring up some ugly melodrama over the fact that he wants to stay in and watch soccer, but because ... I am sure he has enough drama around him and he most certainly doesn't need mine, especially when it's not his fault.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I believe, it's perfectly acceptable to go for 'the white lie' in order to save us any unnecessary conflicts or confusion. I, sure, do not understand women who appear to be 'control freaks' and have absolutley zero tolerance!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

JM



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