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Posted on Sun, Mar 18, 2012 13:35

... or what is bred in the bone will not go out of the flesh? :-)

 

 



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Posted on Thu, Apr 05, 2012 07:12

Hoping,

 

Thank you for your insightful comments!!! Highly appreciated!

 

 

JM



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Posted on Thu, Apr 05, 2012 07:07

Quoting Voyager54:

~JM~ I hope this isn't too far off target, but I would certainly like to know what gives a Spotted Dick...it's spots? Can those spots be altered? Can the Spotted Dick change it's spots? :>D

***V***,

 

 

 

Re: your questions,

 

the answer is: the succulent raisins and currants. :)

 

 

 

If you use juicy cherries or any other cut up fruit, those spots can be alterted! Thus, Spotted Dick can change its spots. It's entirely up to your taste, V! And, don't forget to add loads of yummy custard cream.

 

Oh, and do not forget to wrap it into a muslin cloth, wrap it loosely, leaving space for the budding to expand as much as it needs!

 

 

 

Hope, I've been helpful!

 

 

 

JM



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Posted on Wed, Apr 04, 2012 19:23

OH! And PS.. That ain't drama dear! That's REAL LIFE! And what most of the people I read on here are all about.. So if you feel an urge to say something, SAY IT!! Many wise people here... Demos and Republos!! OH and whatever that other party is.. and some in between!! LOLOL Well.. JUST SAYIN.. JEEZ! LOL ;)


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Posted on Wed, Apr 04, 2012 19:19

Hey there "MISS JULY!!" LOLOL... OBESITY... YEP! It's become a sneaky killer! People do not realize just what it does to the body!! JULY honey.. I understood exactly what you must have thought... (not WHY) BUT.. I knew what you wished to convey I think... There IS a fine line between being able to express our thoughts and shoving them down someone's throat. I imagine for you.. it may take a difficult level, as you have seen the devastation first hand self-destructive behavior can do... Over-eating or not taking care of our bodies is no different than alcoholism or smoking or anything else that HARMS us... and if we see someone we care about displaying this behavior .. we simply MUST speak up... I am sorry for your loss... I am trying to deal w/ my own "demons" as you will.. As well as have many friends with their own self destructive tendencies... So I "get" the urgency of your thoughts... Obesity is curable.. but sometimes some people simply do not feel they are worth the effort... They lose HOPE!! And everyone, at the end of the day.. needs a little HOPE!! ;) Again.. sorry for your loss....


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Posted on Sun, Apr 01, 2012 10:35

Hey, Hoping! Thank you for your comment!

I do agree with you to some extent! I do admit my comment might have appeared a bit 'harsh' to you, guys and gals! I am sorry!

 

I lost a dear friend of mine because of obesity three years ago! He was 28 yrs old! Sorry about the drama! I wish I were more stern, bold and up front back then! I miss HIM big time! I would rather see him alive and hate me, than.....

 

 

JM

 

 

 



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Posted on Thu, Mar 29, 2012 11:19

Hey JM... Good to see you visiting here still... Hope all is well! :) I consider what you appear to be writing of NOT to be "changing spots..." "Encouraging" others to do things you know are good for them is great! That's being a good friend.. I have a doctor friend who is "encouraging" me to exercise ... (YUK!! LOL) In fact gave me $$ to go buy this ball that comes with a strap and video to roll around on when I told him I was curious about the ball he uses. And even though he is a cardiologist.. he does NOT NAG me to stop smoking.. In fact... I would say the approach he has chosen is to "pat my back" for not smoking when he is around.... versus trying to control my actions when he isn't... I have found there to be a fine line when one tries to "change" another.. Even should the change occur.. it is usually only a momentary change.."DRASTIC" changes, such as CHANGING SPOTS.... well, they call for EXTREME or DRAMATIC measures... and for me... Why would I waste my time on someone who is that far apart from what I seek in a man, or even a friend? "ACCEPTANCE" is one of several KEYS in any relationship... And if someone is that far away from what another is willing to accept.. Yet they continuously try to "CHANGE" them.... They are using an unhealthy and unrealistic mindset from the start. I've seen women esp. do this time and again... They seem to think they can "mold" a man into what they desire.. and then get upset when they don't change... JMHO....


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Posted on Wed, Mar 28, 2012 21:31

supporting encouragement is the additude rather than Nagging

 

Nagging can get under the skin and the heels dig in with stubborness. LOL I know some of my faults...but I have earned them


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Posted on Wed, Mar 28, 2012 11:42

Quoting DONTFITMOLD:

Sailgala

Welcome to the blogs with your wise insights ....As Monti suggested the only thing we should be nagged about is unhealthy habits. Some stripes and spots are quite charming...go with the flow



Hey, Moldie!

I totally agree with you - change doesn't have to be dramatic. For instance, I tend to do my best to make him/her cut out junk foods and take a walk together everyday.

 

People see things through their own filter and do not totally understand what is important in life sometimes, I think. Living a healthy life is so important and I would do anything to change my close ones (friends, relatives, etc.) to get a clearer picture of what they are really getting into ...(health-wise).Even if I do appear to be a control freak to them.... Full-stop!

 

JM



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Posted on Tue, Mar 20, 2012 20:18

Couldn't agree more with our Pretty Newcomer SAILGALA.... If one feels the need to change someone... THEY AREN'T THE RIGHT ONE! WELCOME ABOARD SAILGALA! LOVE the "spots" you are wearing!! LOL Nice waterfall MOLD...


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Posted on Tue, Mar 20, 2012 13:38

Sailgala

Welcome to the blogs with your wise insights ....As Monti suggested the only thing we should be nagged about is unhealthy habits. Some stripes and spots are quite charming...go with the flow


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Posted on Tue, Mar 20, 2012 12:18

No more than a zebra can change it's stripes!!

Unfortunately....the fact that we may want them to change is an inherent problem in itself and should be a major red flag....not to them but for ourselves.

While we're waiting on them to metamorph into something more desirable....we run the risk of not recognizing the one with the exact 'spots or stripes'  we have always been looking for.....be such a shame to miss out while waiting on something that will never happen.

Why should we expect, desire or want change if their the right person.....expecting otherwise should tell you that their not...... so move on.

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Posted on Tue, Mar 20, 2012 00:05

Quoting gilded8:

Isn't that how a man feels loved-that she does not want him to change?



It seems to me, he feels it rarely :-))))



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Posted on Mon, Mar 19, 2012 19:04

Isn't that how a man feels loved-that she does not want him to change?



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Posted on Mon, Mar 19, 2012 17:00

At this time in our lives we have had more than a few "serious relationships" If we havent learn from them then they certainly were a waste of time. That people come into our lives for a second, a season or for life and should be respected and loved for what they shared.

 

Old Dogs do learn new tricks  


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Posted on Mon, Mar 19, 2012 13:15

Quoting sameasiteverwas:

Hi LC!  No the leopard cannot change his spots.  The leopard should be with someone who celebrates his spots!!



Hi, Same :-) Good luck to  the leopard and all of us :-)



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Posted on Mon, Mar 19, 2012 13:13

Quoting muscularny:

In a world that has billions of people, why do people wait on people to change when you can simply find someone that requires no change?

Think about how much time you wasted waiting on people, stop waiting, start moving on, and do it QUICK, this applies to business too, if you have an employee that’s no good anymore, stop praying and hoping for change, simply hire someone that at least for now will do what needs to be done.

Every loser I know has the waiting disease, they are always waiting for this one to hook them up, that one to grow up, someone else to start appreciating them more, and the other one to start taking their job more serious.



Muscularny, I don't like the word 'loser'. It's very subjctive. For you, maybe they are losers, but maybe they think the same of you. ;-)

 

Why do people wait? Because they are people. Different rythms, different life contidions, different ways of thinking. Some of us are more like the turtle than the hare. We just have to get to the finish line! And we all do. 

So, neither losers no robots in my bog, please :-)



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Posted on Mon, Mar 19, 2012 12:53

I was going to say no but I guess it really depends on the individual, the situation and the disliked trait. If its something like cheating, well for me thats a trust issue so even if that person promised never to do it again and they honestly never would I just couldn't trust them. So it would be over. I'm pretty ruthless that way. Never had any problems with that so far- thankfully (or that I knew of lol). If it was like someone with an unhealthy lifestyle, you could try to sway them to change and they might change knowing the benefits of it all. Sarah :-)


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Posted on Mon, Mar 19, 2012 10:05

Hi, guys!

So, if a man is an old bachelor destroying one marriage after another he will probably destroy the next marriage as well? :-) And if you're waiting for your best you may lose that wonderful guy because of his flaws? :-)))

 

Just thinking... )))



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Posted on Sun, Mar 18, 2012 20:27

LC.... ONLY WITH A LOTTA BLEACH!! Bwahahaha!! :))) SAMEASIT... I agree... We all must find people who celebrate WHO WE ARE.. FLAWS AND ALL!! (Friends or lover).... AND... For those "Flaws" we have that are not such positives in our lives.. Well, hopefully we find someone who makes us aware that we have some changes to be addressed... I met a man who once told me.. "You make me WANT to be a better person." That is beyond doubt.. one of the finest compliments I've ever had.... BUT... I never tried to change him... He made some changes on his own... WELCOME ABOARD THE BLOGS!! :)


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