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Posted on Sat, Jan 07, 2012 05:16

Is this nuts or what ? I'm in a middle of divorce, but in good terms with my wife because we never fight or argued seriously (other than the 1st couple of years of marriage), I buy her everything she wants, and she can do anything she wants - and took her to dinner about 2 to 3 times a week. And plenty of Caribbean islands, and world travels. We have had a very peacefully life in our (what I call) our Platonic Relationship. Being a Scorpio, (proud of it) I have also have never cheated on her, and I'm proud of my loyalty. Anyway, kind of lonely at new years she wanted me to take her dancing and listening to bands and fireworks at the fairground for New Years Eve. I said fine and took her dancing. Had some drinks and a good time. Here's my problem. Now I'm getting emails wanting me to take her on a Cruise. She sends me all these Travel Agency Brochures and wants me to pick my choice. I don't mind taking her if that's what she wants, but is it wise?, am I wrong to coddle her?, or am I just plain out of my mind ? I'd love to hear your ideas what you did while your papers were pending. BTW: She suggested the divorce to make me happier, therefore we both are in agreement without an argument.


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Posted on Mon, Jan 16, 2012 06:33

Hope~ Hope you are back in the south again. I know how terrifying being on the road can be....in bad weather and when alone! Best wishes princess...and be careful. I always appreciate you posts, wit and time. :)) I guess 1love decided to peel out???? Maybe he took her on the cruise. *wink*


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Posted on Sun, Jan 15, 2012 13:01

The more I know people the more I like dogs. @ Hoping,Sandbags are good.Slowing down is better.Many of us northern people types have our stories of winter roads.Your probably in Hotlanta by now but if you can only drive 25 mph thats just the speed you have to drive. @ Pat.I saw your deer horn shed post and did smile,thank you.Them little mice like the calcium in the horns.


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Posted on Fri, Jan 13, 2012 21:09

Well Missing1Love have you made a decision?


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Posted on Fri, Jan 13, 2012 13:02

Ur the bestest CG! I really appreciate your wit and words of wisedom! I consider you a 1 percenter. That means in the top 1 percent; not the bottom 1 percent! *wink* :)


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Posted on Fri, Jan 13, 2012 07:14

Lady DI.. YOUR WELCOME~~ I feel your word BAFFLED was best to use in this case... I too am baffled... I do note how ppl think and operate differently.. I said RUDE- You said BAFFLED I said MEAN SPIRITED... I really meant "Classless".. yet you used "dignified"... It's all in how one chooses their verbiage... I hope some learn to use words with a little more "empathy" to others situations... Makes for a more "refined" and "likable" person.. doncha think? LOL And I too agree with the statement regarding this site... Sure, there are plenty of places to roam and find garbage.. but that isn't what makes me remain here... It is people as yourself and many others who have given me insight in areas I needed guidance ... (even just silly things as a man only asking out for cup of coffee! LOL) I'm not saying this is what I seek... I SEEK A GREAT STEAK DINNER W/ LOBSTER!! HaHa.. BUT... I can certainly understand men (and women) feeling used... I don't do that and I would never wish to give that impression.. I think we ALL have have MUCH to learn... but this won't happen without LISTENING to one another... HEARING is with the ears.. LISTENING is with the HEART!! I was/am willing to hear JENKNEE's views on WHY MISSING1 should not be here.. but was never given a response... I would listen and am certain to have understood some points... But that doesn't mean I change my mind.. Me? I heard the coffee blog.. (LOL) But I still want my steak!! Hey! A girl's gotta eat! ;) Anyway... I will take up no more of you guys time here except to say MISSING.. Hope if/when you finally review.. you gather some great insight in many directions and we haven't confused you more! ;) LEAVE ALL CONFUSED THOUGHTS TO THE PRINCESS! HaHa Headed back on road.. Turns out I broke my "straight through" record yesterday... I stopped in Columbus Indiana... Turns out Black Beauty (quad cab hemi) does not do so well driving in snow.. I drove from Highland Park snowing entire way.. She started weaving and not stopping right.. I was BAFFLED!! HA!! (my new word! LOL) I have to confess.. THIS FLORIDA GIRL WAS SCARED!! :( I didn't understand why my truck was fishtailing constantly... I was in Indianapolis and she had been weaving so uncontrollably that I stayed in left lane with flashers on.. Well I was there driving only 52 in a 65.. BUT... I felt that this was better option than me fishtailing in other lane and wiping out 3 lanes of traffic.. THERE WAS NO WHERE FOR ME TO STOP OR I WOULD HAVE.. And I think that actually concludes my point... FROM ALL APPEARANCES... I was just an idiot with Florida plates that couldn't drive.. Little did others know.. I drove with flashers in left lane so IF I did wipe out ... I'd only take me and the cement wall in process... rather than taking out 3 rows of people who are loved by others.. Guess I am rambling this morning cause I am either not ready to go face the snow again.. or the 17 degree weather.. Spoke to a friend last night.. It's in 70's and 80's where I come from.. LOL OH! But for anyone wondering or inexperienced.. TRUCKS DON'T DO WELL IN SNOW.. Esp if they are not 4x's... I am too "front heavy" which makes me fish tail when I hit ice.. (and was it ever bad here yesterday!) So I am headed to Menards to get sand bags before I head out! HAVE A GREAT DAY TO ALL!! ;) Pic of beginning of my trip... and it only got worse.. I hope the trucker was not hurt!! Ten accidents in 6 hours!!)

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Posted on Thu, Jan 12, 2012 11:15

Quoting Voyager54:

~ Missing 1 Love~..C'monn man, SNAP OUT OF IT!...Shoot her...and take the dog on a trip to the beach. A lot less expensive. Probably more fun too. After my last date on here...I don't have a high opinion of most women folk right now. Send them all to Afghanistan for a month. Here honey, have a nice trip to fricken Kabul!

My word, Voyager. What in blue blazes did your last date from MM do to you? Shoot YOUR dog? Tell you she thought you were ugly? Show up looking more like Freddy Kruger than the ex-Playboy Bunny she claimed to be in her profile? Or was she was one of those horribly condescending, demanding, super b****es whose only joy in life is emasculating men? This too shall pass--once the moon gets back to its regular shape. LOL


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Posted on Wed, Jan 11, 2012 08:14

Hope and Pat…Thanks a bunch!! I appreciate your bold and empathetic statements of support. Yes, there may be some topics we three ladies view from different standpoints, but when we see something that isn’t right, we speak up. While cat fights may be entertaining to view from the sidelines, they do little to display a woman’s dignity or intellect. I agree….this is a serious blog and it deserves respect. While I remain baffled, I think it best to just ease on away. There are plenty of posts from me on these blogs, that give evidence to my nature. Thank you ladies!!


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Posted on Tue, Jan 10, 2012 21:41

CG, you have done yourself proud. You don't say much seriously very often, but when you do--wow, I'm glad to call you a friend, my friend. I sincerely hope the feeling is mutual. Great, smart post indeed.


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Posted on Tue, Jan 10, 2012 19:52

Quoting Diana3316:

Jenkneee~ Why should he get off this site? Best I can tell, he has tried to be truthful and asked others for help. In today's world, sometimes it's hard to find quality people to hang out with for fun and communication. I have found the blogs to be a pretty decent place to meet, learn and laugh with some very good people. Some of the folks here are pretty wise and it can be quite helpful to hear their perspective when you're struggling to sort through personal difficulties.


Diana, I think you and I may disagree on quite a few issues, but I think, you've said some very smart things here, quite succinctly, and I agree with every thought your short paragraph contains. Pat


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Posted on Tue, Jan 10, 2012 19:47

QUICK HIJACK, MISSING1LOVE: The oldtimers on this blog [CG, Ray (NGL), me] have seen some pretty "bloody" cat fights erupt, seemingly out of nowhere, on the MM blogs over the years. Many bloggers' feelings were irreparably hurt during some of these fights simply because one or another blogger didn't stop to think clearly or reasonably before posting ugly words they found easy to write, but would probably never have spoken in real life. I know this as well as I do because early on I was one of those "reactive" bloggers. I had to learn the hard way. I would hope, as I'm sure others would, that all kitty cats [and that includes tom cats] would neatly trim and retract their claws on this particular blog as some serious issues have been and are being discussed with a great deal of honesty, openness, and sincerity. Which is why I think this blog deserves more respect, by all bloggers who choose to post on it, than to have bloggers using it to express personal grievances against other bloggers in a thoughtless, hurtful manner. If anyone has an issue with another blogger, please take it up elsewhere. If you can't privately contact someone to tell them how little you think of them, how they are beneath your contempt, you could always start your own blog addressing that issue. Then again, that would be self-defeating, wouldn't it? Just a word to the wise: Enuf said.


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Posted on Tue, Jan 10, 2012 11:09

Quoting Hoping4Love2000:

Well MISSING...

 

I see more great words from people with some wonderful wisdom behind their belt...

 

The real question is.. IS IT REALLY OVER? Only you know the answer.. and I'm with CG..

 

NO CRUISE... (unless it is to reconcile.. and if so.. SEEK MARITAL COUNSELING FIRST!!)

 

*****

 

@ JENKNEE and anyone else..

 

I didn't like seeing mean words on here.. :(

 

There is only a time for "meanness" when someone is totally out of line... I do not feel someone asking you to explain your response is out of line... I do however feel your response back was rude.... Obviously there have been some previous posts between you and DIANA where you have not "agreed"... No one could or SHOULD agree 100% of the time... WHAT A BORING WORLD IT WOULD BE!

 

HOWEVER.. when one keeps an "OPEN MIND".. (and open heart) ...they might learn a few things from others on here.. I know I have gathered sooooo much insight from SEVERAL individuals who relate their thoughts... men and women! Perhaps it is MISSING's plight to have written this post so he can gather some excellent insight so many have shared here... Here's some examples:

 

Wouldn't it be awesome if he gathers the self awareness to realize he is still in love with his wife and they reconcile and go on a beautiful cruise and live happily ever after due to NGL taking time to respond to him?

 

Or perhaps PAT or CG have assisted him in seeing... he needs to cut cords...

 

Or perhaps RMAC has made him realize his relationship is NOT really as platonic as he claims? (HI RMAC.. I missed your previous post! Makes me wonder...Perhaps platonic is not so platonic?? LOL!)

 

Or perhaps even a woman like me who lies in complete agreement with CG regarding MISSINGS future .. might have given him some words to show that a good woman will pass him by if he is still tied emotionally to his ex... He has a decision to make...

 

So I too disagree as I expressed before... I think this is exactly where he SHOULD be.. In a room filled with people who actually might care for others well being.. (humanity lies in this bed..) that can help him through a trialsome time.... Most of us have been divorced at least once.. and as CG stated.. even amicable ones aren't easy...I know when I divorced my "REAL" husband.. LOL.. It was torture and I HID in shame and disgust for YEARS.. I had one friend I remained close to and that was because I simply could not function without her... Her non judgmental ways are what led me to Jesus! :) She loved me regardless of all my bad things I did... And I gotta tell ya.. I was a wild and crazy one for a long time! HOW I WISH I had been surrounded by individuals during that time like many I have met on here!

 

He isn't trying to fool anyone.. Gotta love a straight up man!! :)

 

Just something to think about...

 


 




Hoping, I disagree with your comment towards my response, or lack of response, to Diana. If you think what I typed was mean then you should get into some more typical forums and see what mean really is. You'd be crying for your mama after one session!!


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Posted on Tue, Jan 10, 2012 09:36

Well MISSING...

 

I see more great words from people with some wonderful wisdom behind their belt...

 

The real question is.. IS IT REALLY OVER? Only you know the answer.. and I'm with CG..

 

NO CRUISE... (unless it is to reconcile.. and if so.. SEEK MARITAL COUNSELING FIRST!!)

 

*****

 

@ JENKNEE and anyone else..

 

I didn't like seeing mean words on here.. :(

 

There is only a time for "meanness" when someone is totally out of line... I do not feel someone asking you to explain your response is out of line... I do however feel your response back was rude.... Obviously there have been some previous posts between you and DIANA where you have not "agreed"... No one could or SHOULD agree 100% of the time... WHAT A BORING WORLD IT WOULD BE!

 

HOWEVER.. when one keeps an "OPEN MIND".. (and open heart) ...they might learn a few things from others on here.. I know I have gathered sooooo much insight from SEVERAL individuals who relate their thoughts... men and women! Perhaps it is MISSING's plight to have written this post so he can gather some excellent insight so many have shared here... Here's some examples:

 

Wouldn't it be awesome if he gathers the self awareness to realize he is still in love with his wife and they reconcile and go on a beautiful cruise and live happily ever after due to NGL taking time to respond to him?

 

Or perhaps PAT or CG have assisted him in seeing... he needs to cut cords...

 

Or perhaps RMAC has made him realize his relationship is NOT really as platonic as he claims? (HI RMAC.. I missed your previous post! Makes me wonder...Perhaps platonic is not so platonic?? LOL!)

 

Or perhaps even a woman like me who lies in complete agreement with CG regarding MISSINGS future .. might have given him some words to show that a good woman will pass him by if he is still tied emotionally to his ex... He has a decision to make...

 

So I too disagree as I expressed before... I think this is exactly where he SHOULD be.. In a room filled with people who actually might care for others well being.. (humanity lies in this bed..) that can help him through a trialsome time.... Most of us have been divorced at least once.. and as CG stated.. even amicable ones aren't easy...I know when I divorced my "REAL" husband.. LOL.. It was torture and I HID in shame and disgust for YEARS.. I had one friend I remained close to and that was because I simply could not function without her... Her non judgmental ways are what led me to Jesus! :) She loved me regardless of all my bad things I did... And I gotta tell ya.. I was a wild and crazy one for a long time! HOW I WISH I had been surrounded by individuals during that time like many I have met on here!

 

He isn't trying to fool anyone.. Gotta love a straight up man!! :)

 

Just something to think about...

 


 




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Posted on Tue, Jan 10, 2012 06:33

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I was stating my opinion Diana, clearly you have a problem with my opinions (on more than this post) while as far as I'm concerned what you type is not worth my time to respond to, other than to simply say what I just did.

Dang girl!!! I don't remember ever engaging you on any topic, except complimenting you on the post you put up back in November on the Giving Tree. Unfortunately you have purged most all of your posts, so I was not able to determine if what you say is true. On November 24 I wrote: Jenknee~ Thanks so much for writing that. We should all be reminded of how blessed we are compared to so many in the world. I always do the 'Toys for Tots' donation. But seems like this year the need is even greater, with all the economic strife so many have suffered. I will likely try to do more. (It's good for my soul as well) ~smile~ I would be happy to acknowledge any untoward comments I have made regarding your opinions, IF you can provide an example. I recognize you were stating your opinion...and I was merely trying to state my opinion and put forth a sentiment of welcome to 1love, who seems to be struggling with a difficult personal situation and seeking friends to communicate with. I am truly baffled by your response to me.


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Posted on Mon, Jan 09, 2012 21:50

Quoting Diana3316:

Jenkneee~ Why should he get off this site? Best I can tell, he has tried to be truthful and asked others for help. In today's world, sometimes it's hard to find quality people to hang out with for fun and communication. I have found the blogs to be a pretty decent place to meet, learn and laugh with some very good people. Some of the folks here are pretty wise and it can be quite helpful to hear their perspective when you're struggling to sort through personal difficulties.


I was stating my opinion Diana, clearly you have a problem with my opinions (on more than this post) while as far as I'm concerned what you type is not worth my time to respond to, other than to simply say what I just did.


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Posted on Mon, Jan 09, 2012 18:18

Quoting bepositive:

I think she is looking for a free ride.  I agree with Jenknee, get off the site, get your divorce, take some time off to get over her and then get back on the site.  She is not allowing you time to heal.  Unless she would like to work on your relationship....100%.....then I say don't take her.  Sounds like you are not sure of what you want either.

Take some time to work things out in your head and in your heart.  Good luck.



Missing isn't trying to hide anything from anyone here; he's not lying about his status, so I see no reason why he should leave MM as long as he's enjoying his time here. JMO


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Posted on Mon, Jan 09, 2012 12:05

LOL @ NGL! So good to see you!! :)

 

I think you make some very direct and clear points here dear!!

 

It may very well be they have lost communication... This is unclear.. as we don't know enough of the history...

 

But YES.. An emotional connection for a woman is usually paramount for "true intimacy" to happen.. Perhaps SHE is even unaware of WHY they have a plutonic relationship.. (He said it.. not you..) I do however know of women who just don't have that desire anymore.. Sad if you ask me!! I think the EGO word was what threw me off!

 

MISSING.. are you listening here? LOL

 

I hold no doubt for wealthy men.. gifts and trips are far easier than your TIME...

 

but sometimes all a woman wishes for is more TIME with you!! ;)

 

Our thread jacker NGL makes very valid statements!

 

HAVE A GREAT DAY NGL AND REST!

 

Packin for Atlanta!!



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Posted on Mon, Jan 09, 2012 11:15

Sounds like she cares a lot about you still if its your company she seeks and not the luxuries. Sarah


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Posted on Mon, Jan 09, 2012 05:11

Quoting Hoping4Love2000:

Okay NGL2011..

 

Now I am thoroughly confused! LOL.. (Always nice to see you though!)

 

What is it that makes you feel this has anything to do with EGOS?

 

The woman doesn't like sex... (doncha hate them kind! LOL)

 

So she said he could have his freedom in divorce..

 

But now does not want to let go of the relationship..

 

She wants everything to stay the same.. but if he wants to chase tail, now he has the lack of a license to do so.....

 

Seriously.. although I don't relate to "open" marriages.. Sounds like she should have opted for that! :)

 




@Hope,

There must be some disappearing post, but I didn't read anywhere, where it said "The woman doesn't like sex" (now I'm sure there are some that just flat out don't) In my limited experience with women in relationships, there's usually a Reason why a woman doesn't want/ like sex when she's in a relationship. (and I'm sure you women can give me more examples) But alot has to do with communication,,she's not getting something from him she needs. Men who are successful financially usually work to much and something at home suffers (you fill in the blank of what that might be), sure she's getting trips, gifts etc.. but what is she not getting,, trips, gifts, dinners,, crap that's easy to give !  LOL

What does this have to do with Ego, maybe somewhere along the line their communication has broken down because of it. She might be the type of woman that can't communicate her feeling or something because her Ego tells her she shouldn't or couldn't. It goes both ways. (men and women)

Bottom line to me, hell I don't know I just wanted to join the conversation because I haven't in awhile !  LOL

 

@missing, sorry for the thread jack



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Posted on Sun, Jan 08, 2012 14:30

Okay NGL2011..

 

Now I am thoroughly confused! LOL.. (Always nice to see you though!)

 

What is it that makes you feel this has anything to do with EGOS?

 

The woman doesn't like sex... (doncha hate them kind! LOL)

 

So she said he could have his freedom in divorce..

 

But now does not want to let go of the relationship..

 

She wants everything to stay the same.. but if he wants to chase tail, now he has the lack of a license to do so.....

 

Seriously.. although I don't relate to "open" marriages.. Sounds like she should have opted for that! :)

 




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