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Posted on Thu, Jan 05, 2012 16:33

It is said that a mother's love is the strongest, the second is the love of a dog to its owner. The romantic love is on the third place, and the least powerful love is the love of children to parents. Do you agree? What else is love?



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Posted on Fri, Apr 06, 2012 00:11

Quoting silverlion:

Dear Laughing Cloud, To answer your question...." What kind of Love is The Strongest " ? I believe that it is... Spiritual Love, which is Pure with No Boundries, ...Giving with No Conditions,..Accepting regardless of Genetics. Many books may be written about this topic, in the end, it simmers down to the above. Yours Spiritually.... Silverlion.


Thank you, Silverlion, I agree that spiritual life is the strongest one. And it could bond parents and children, lovers or strangers...


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Posted on Sat, Mar 17, 2012 09:16

The word Duty has the difinition of obligation expected by a moral or legal reason. Love doesnt come from such specific reasons, it just is or it's doty...lol

 


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Posted on Sat, Mar 17, 2012 07:40

Quoting Hoping4Love2000:

AHHHH LAUGHING!! You always seem to say one thing that clings to me.. This time it was about "DUTY!" I AGREE.... LOVE / Duty do NOT go hand in hand... LOVE is UNCONDITIONAL.... or it isn't truly LOVE.... ;)))


Hi, Hope, thank you :))

When I was 23 I was sure that you love a person for his/her traits. Now I know that I can respect man but don't love him... and no one perfect trait could force me to change my heart.

 

But when I'm in love my partner's sense of responsibility makes him even better :-)))



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Posted on Fri, Mar 16, 2012 21:53

AHHHH LAUGHING!! You always seem to say one thing that clings to me.. This time it was about "DUTY!" I AGREE.... LOVE / Duty do NOT go hand in hand... LOVE is UNCONDITIONAL.... or it isn't truly LOVE.... ;)))


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Posted on Fri, Mar 16, 2012 16:21

"Love" Does come in a myriad of intensities. As a father of two really great young adults, my pride in them.....giving me a grandchild....photos of a furniture my son had made.....All shows Guiding Love  in their word and act

Worship is a word we could use for a Devoted One......humm... ?De Voted?


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Posted on Thu, Mar 15, 2012 23:11

I think is that so many people, so many opinions... Love to life itself should remembered and appreciated everyday, not when Loved one is gone.


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Posted on Tue, Mar 06, 2012 23:00

Quoting SeaWolfy:

I didnt agree. We live in crazy word when some mother kill her own baby. Or the kid who kill his own perents. So you cant compare the love like that way. Even in perfect word you cant do that. Exaple you know whats the love??? You know.... For when you cling, what you offer the other is not love but a chain by which both you and your beloved are bound. Love can only exist in freedom. The true lover seeks the good of his beloved which requires especially the liberation of the beloved from the lover!!!


I got your point, but I don't agree about your statement that if a one seduced by mass-culture ideology of freedom from everything, mother killed her baby for being free from responsibilities, the mother's love should be excluded from the list. Millions mothers love their kids no matter how old, poor, sick, rich, smart, awful they are. They love them unconditionally. And the greatest thing about mother's love is that her child don't feel the duty to pay for it.

If you feel duty to return the love, the love is not there. And you make a deal with fears, the complex of inferiority. BUT these things are out of our disscussion. :-) 



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Posted on Tue, Mar 06, 2012 20:10

I didnt agree. We live in crazy word when some mother kill her own baby. Or the kid who kill his own perents. So you cant compare the love like that way. Even in perfect word you cant do that. Exaple you know whats the love??? You know.... For when you cling, what you offer the other is not love but a chain by which both you and your beloved are bound. Love can only exist in freedom. The true lover seeks the good of his beloved which requires especially the liberation of the beloved from the lover!!!


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Posted on Wed, Jan 11, 2012 11:49

Quoting DesireBoyfriend:

I don't think it matters what kind of love is the strongest... in all honesty, it depends on the person who loves. if a person is someone who loves another more than he/she loves himself or herself then no matter who that person loves or what kind of love (motherly, spouse, parents, sibling)that person will still go to the extreme to love. i guess true love is the strongest, doesn't matter what kind of love. when you truly love someone, you somehow love that person more than yourself which means you can die for that person. but then again, you would have to be the kind of person who is capable of love that strong (enough to love other more than yourself) in the first place. i know of a man who sacrifice his own life to save a stranger he has never known. of course, the baby will never know but that person has love a stranger (baby) more than himself. he is the kind of person who is capable of such noble love. i think the idea of love in itself is extremely selfish... but it is the person that loves that can transform the idea into something noble, selfless, and "unconditionally" because only by his or her action can he or she defines what love is. i mean, how do one measures love? how can one claim to love one's mother "more than" one's brother or sister per se? how do one even compares love? i think when love is true, it just is. when love is true, it surpasses all rules, standards, times, and even space. it just is.


@desire,, you are a wise young woman !

 

@Hope, I can't speak for a woman's love, but I agree from my prospective on your last line,"I believe when a MAN loves... there is possibly no stronger love.."

 

@Pat,,Thanks,,yes, us Fathers are often overlooked when it comes to subjects like this !  LOL



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Posted on Tue, Jan 10, 2012 10:08

I absolutley agree about a "Father's Love"...

but I'm not a father... so I left it up to the men to carry the torch here.. :)

I know MANY men who would lay their life on the line for their children...

MY EX IS ONE GREAT EXAMPLE..

and despite his parenting mistakes.. (we all have them)

He is one hell of a father!!

I believe when a MAN loves... there is possibly no stronger love..

 



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Posted on Mon, Jan 09, 2012 18:24

Quoting NGL2011:

@LAUGHING

I was wondering the same thing,, what about the love of a Father to his children ! I know you can all come up with stories of bad Fathers,,but I for one would die if I had to, to save one of my kids !



Hmmmm, Ray. Very good thought. I suspect in our culture we're programmed not to think anywhere near as highly of a man's love for his children as we are of a woman's love for her children. Very interesting. Have we all been bamboozled by media hype? So many stories out there of runaway fathers? Murdering fathers? Perverted stepfathers? And yet, I'm sure all of us can point to a few fathers we know in our neighborhoods, our own families, who would lay down their own lives in an instant to save their children's lives, if it came to that. Again, very good point.


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Posted on Sun, Jan 08, 2012 14:34

Quoting laughing_cloud:

Thank y'all for your comments. They are really thoughtful. But I'm curious, why nobody mentioned man's love? How strong it could be? And personally I'm not sure that the mother's love is stronger than the love to yourself... That is why some babies were found in dumpsters, and some kids just run away from their homes, some dogs are dead because nobody watched them on a road, and some husbands go through the divorce over and over again... And so on... Selfishness is the strongest thing  nowadays, I guess. But... is it love?



@LAUGHING

I was wondering the same thing,, what about the love of a Father to his children ! I know you can all come up with stories of bad Fathers,,but I for one would die if I had to, to save one of my kids !



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Posted on Sat, Jan 07, 2012 19:18

Hmmm…yes I have to agree with you Sarah, that love is a complex issue. There are so many factors that affect how someone understands not only the noun ‘love’ …but also the verb ‘to love’. Regarding unconditional love….hmmmm, I think Bruno Mars’ song Grenade expressed it pretty well. I’d catch a grenade for you, Throw my head on a blade for you. I’d jump in front of a train for you, You know I’d do anything for you. Ohhhh I would go through all this pain, Take a bullet straight through my brain, Yes I would die for you. I think many mothers would die for their child, and I’ve known many fathers that I believe would take a bullet through the brain for their child. I can certainly imagine many dogs giving their life for their owner/handler. However regarding my experience with lovers: I’ve had a few men profess to love me, but I’ve only had one man ever tell me he would die for me. Hmmmm…..Would he really??? *wink* Not so sure about that…but 'fairly' sure he would still to this day come to my aid, day or night, if I was broken down on the side of the road. Lololol So I think Laughing Cloud is correct on the order of love's strength. As far as a child’s love for a parent, they aren’t supposed to love their parents as they are loved. We are hard wired for the survival of the species. Given a choice, I believe the instinct is for the younger to save himself before saving the elder. (This has nothing to do with manners or respectfulness to elders) Just one other comment: Years ago prior to divorces being common place, the love of the child as paramount paradigm, was acceptable to married couples. It didn’t seem painful to be in second place behind the children, because those were your children too. But today in the era of blended families, it is a source of much conflict when children are placed ahead of the supposed love of your life. I think once the children are of age, people make a big mistake when they continue to place their children before their mate. Once the children are grown, your mate should be first above all others. If you do a good job raising your children, you prepare them to leave you and start a new family. It doesn’t mean that you aren’t still around, but it should only be on the side lines as a supporting actor. Your mate should be the star of your show. I believe that to be the natural order of things....but tough in today's world.


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Posted on Fri, Jan 06, 2012 21:15

Princess comes in sporting a cross, nails and sledge hammer! LOL

MISSING!! I LOVE IT!!

Actually.. What you stated makes utter sense to me.. I am fortunate and have been truly "loved" by 3 men in my life.. Lets say.. UNCONDITIONALLY...

Yet, NOT ONE "UNDERSTANDS" ME!

So now I'm holding out for the one who truly "gets" me! :)

And I also see how your brain works re: children / parents and siblings.

Additionally, I concur with UNCONDITIONAL as mentioned by a couple of others, as well as (sadly) the authors questions / expression of love..

When love acts selfishly.. it isn't really LOVE... :(



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Posted on Fri, Jan 06, 2012 19:15

The greatest Love of all is self Love, but that wasn't on the table, was it ? Laughing_Cloud Self-Love is the most tenacious, and delicate -- nothing can wound it, and nothing can kill it, and the most amiable people are those who least wound the self-love of others. There is only so much Mother-Love, Love for your pet, Love for anything at that, but self-love is a cup without a bottom; - one can keep pouring into it and never fill it up. There are parallels between Self-Love and Selfishness, but in reality to be honest they are two different things. Selfishness is when they think of no one other but themselves. They not only worship themselves but expect or wish other to worship them. It finds fault in other but none in themselves. I don't think selfishness is part of the realm, in the meaning you intended. RE: Question: "Which is the strongest love of all ?". Selfishness has No Love. And compassion is the key to unlock the mystery if anyone is so obsessed with the evil. Laughin_Claud -- too deep of subject XOXO


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Posted on Fri, Jan 06, 2012 16:25

Thank y'all for your comments. They are really thoughtful. But I'm curious, why nobody mentioned man's love? How strong it could be? And personally I'm not sure that the mother's love is stronger than the love to yourself... That is why some babies were found in dumpsters, and some kids just run away from their homes, some dogs are dead because nobody watched them on a road, and some husbands go through the divorce over and over again... And so on... Selfishness is the strongest thing  nowadays, I guess. But... is it love?



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Posted on Fri, Jan 06, 2012 12:42

Hello, Hoping4Love2000 I love your spicy spirit. You & Me could re-enact Custer's last stand. XOXO I presume the disagreement is in regards to: I find it sad that people place children's love at bottom? (children's love to their parents.) First: I don't sit on a Throne counting my money, I am a very ordinary guy who loves people, loves to help people, Yes even complete strangers and I do & did mingle with the utter poor to the wealthiest (American Household names). My experience comes from being part of their family household. [I wasn't just brought up by my Mommy & Daddy as the majority of children have.] I'm telling you this so you see how my mind works. With that said: (To be able to communicate, to understand one another every word requires communication and a measurement.) For LOVE, there is a very important criteria to measure love. And it is that measurement upon which we humans are able to communicate and understand one another. @@@ First love is an instinct, a gift, understanding, and a sacrifice. All else is a philosophy. @@@ We love a girl for very different things than "Understanding". We love her for her beauty, her youth, her mirth, her confidingness, her character, with its faults, caprices, and God knows what other inexpressible charms; BUT we don't love her understanding. We may esteem her mind if brilliant and greatly elevate her in our opinion. But "understanding" (compassion) is not that which inflames our passions. A children's love for their parents, requires understanding (and compassion and sacrifice.) under my definition of love, which is the single most important character missing is most humans beings. How can they treat their parents with utter disrespect, meanness, and want-um callous ? I see it common not only between children to parents, but among siblings (irregardless of age). So it's not something in which one can grows out of, but becomes inherent within their character, their soul. I don't want to take up pages, upon pages. I'll quit here. But do love your spice, and intelligence and hey, that's seldom for a blond. OH my Lordy - Did I start something ? XOXO crucify me.


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Posted on Fri, Jan 06, 2012 11:06

Unconditional love.


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Posted on Fri, Jan 06, 2012 07:49

HI MISSING:

IMHO:

Mothers who leave their babies in dumpsters are INCAPABLE OF LOVING ANYONE OR ANYTHING...

Mothers who give their babies up, most often sacrifice what they cherish most, for the well being of the child..

I've loved men, women, animals and children...

There is a "transformation" which occurs when a woman has a baby.. I have no words comprehensive to explain.. But when you carry a little being inside you for the closer part of a year and become one with it before the blessing even arrives.. Well.. I have never experienced anything stronger than that bond.. (and doubt many mothers would argue against it as well.. and I don't think it is because it is what is "expected" to be said)

I know that regardless the severed ties with me and my mother.. I've no doubt she loves me more than anything else in life.. She is just incapable of expressing this and allowing her actions to take over in a healthy manner... In return, I am at a loss of how to handle this matter for most of my life now.. HOWEVER, this does not negate that I love my mother dearly.. I find it sad that people place children's love at bottom?

People incapable of "loving" are not emotionally healthy people...

IMHO...



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