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Livnlov
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Posted on Thu, Nov 10, 2011 15:14

Are these true or a whole load of BS??? 5 things that make a woman a keeper She's the most beautiful creature you've ever set eyes on. All your friends are jealous, and you've even stopped fancying other women, at least when you're sober. She must be a keeper, right? Ain't necessarily so. You should know by now that lust and love are not the same thing. Just to make it more complicated, love and keepability are not the same thing either. Love is a vital ingredient in a long term relationship, but it isn't all you need. The qualities that make a woman a keeper are sometimes about her, and sometimes about her relationship with you - but they're all vital clues to your long-term compatibility: 1. You can talk to her about anything You've always been a bit guarded with previous girlfriends, and always assumed that you hated discussing your feelings. But suddenly you find yourself opening up to her. What's going on? Quite simply, you trust her. You trust her not to laugh at you, and to understand where you're coming from, and to help you make sense of life, the universe and everything. If you fancy the pants off her as well, she's a 24-carat keeper. 2. She answers back A woman's ability to hold her own in an argument is vital, because of course you will disagree at times and you need to be able to handle conflict. Neither of you should be steamrollered by the other, and neither should automatically surrender every time there's conflict on the horizon. If you want a healthy relationship, allow each other a voice, hear each other out and don't bear grudges. A woman who can stand up for herself in a witty and/or courteous manner is a woman with self-respect. The best keepers can even do it whilst having a bit of a cry, because they know that showing emotion is not a weakness. It's basically multi-tasking. 3. She dresses to please herself, not you We're all guilty of editing our tastes a little when we meet someone we want to impress. You know the kind of thing – you're dating a rock fan, so you move your vast collection of Kylie CDs to the back of the shelf. Fine. It's called dating. But if you want things to last long-term, you should each be true to yourselves. Embrace your different tastes as well as the ones you have in common. A girl who dresses to please you may seem to fulfil your idea of the perfect woman, but she's not being herself – and that will cause resentment once she remembers that she loathes wearing high heels. A woman who dresses to please herself is also likely to be happy in her own skin, and therefore more at ease physically and socially. 4. She finishes your sentences Isn't it maddening when she interrupts to finish what you were saying? Well, relax - it's actually a very good sign. For a start, it shows that she's engaged and interested in what you're saying. Crucially, it shows that she understands where you're coming from, and she's enthusiastic about showing it. One of the greatest things about being in a long-term relationship is the feeling that the other person knows you better than anyone else. And one of the worst things about being in a long-term relationship is the feeling that your other half just doesn't understand you. So if you want to find a keeper, pay attention to her sentence-finishing interruptions. They're an important clue that she "gets" you. 5. You want your mum to like her This clue points to a woman's keepability in a number of ways. First, your mum's opinion matters to you, and if you really care for a girl you'll want your mum to like her too. Secondly, it suggests that you want to show her off to your family and friends - which wouldn't occur to you if you didn't think she was worth hanging onto. But most importantly, it's a sign that you see her as part of your future. If your mum loves her, the future really is bright. Comments welcome from our beautiful ladies in the house please! From yahoo. (Wish I could take credit for such succinct dissertation, but can't). Liv.


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Posted on Thu, Nov 17, 2011 18:58

Quoting Voyager54:

~LIV~ Hi baby...listen, uhhh...Love and Lust? I love to Lust. And so what if I cry when watching Star Trek reruns... There isno real science to dating. Look at all the fools in the world that are partnered up. The only difference these days, is time. How long will it take for a relationship to run it's course. It's not as though we are living in thatched roofed homes with 15 kids to work the land. People are too mobile these days. On a side note, unrelated, you girls are always going on about scammers...I swear to God, I just got winked at by Fergie!! The Queens fave ex daughter-out-law. allforus...somebody please tell me that isn't Fergie! It sure looks like Fergie...right age etc. Is that the type of scams you folks are talking about?


How the heck can we tell Voyager, if you don't give us a username to check out?


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Posted on Wed, Nov 16, 2011 09:21

Hi everyone, Thanks so much for your ever brilliant contributions. Yep, Rmac I totally agree with CG's analysis of No 3. As for No 4, it is positive as long as she doesn't take over completely to the point you start to wonder if you are even in the room, lol! I once tried to hire a Nanny for my kids and this particular one finished all my sentences to the point I felt very redundant - she was trying to show that she was a sharp tool in the box, but suffice to say she didn't get the job, lol! I doubt a boyfriend would tolerate that for long either particularly when it becomes a bit too much. @Machevilli - Thanks, I am glad you enjoyed it. @Voyager - Beware of Fergie if you don't want to be counted as one of her conquest lololol! I guess you are well aware of her rep for American dudes! I doubt she's the one that winked at you, though. @Butterfly - Thanks a lot - I am glad you enjoyed it. @Hoping - You, my friend, are going to find that guy! You are such a wonderful gem, it is only a matter of time before he shows up and recognises what we all on here see in you! @Markey - Bring on the good ol English humour! Sorry, I didn't mean only 'beautiful ladies in the house' to exclude men; it was actually the other way round as the headline question seemed a little directed at guys and I didn't want the ladies to think it wasn't for us. So, my apologies if that was a little misleading. Markey, please do not consider sex change as that would reduce the number of eligible, handsome, dashing, Mr. Darcy like yourself and seriously harm our chances of finding a man as the UK is getting very 'de-man-populated' as flight of the eligibles to down under - Aussie, Spain, Portugal, Dubai, the ol USA takes grip and continues to tighten its grip! Am I being alarmist, Markey? So come on, what chances will a gal like me have ehn? Lololol!! @CG - You know you nailed it, my man! Need I say more? Don't think so. Thanks everyone!


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Posted on Fri, Nov 11, 2011 18:29

CG nailed my concern with number 3. Number 4 I go along with reservations. A little bit of finishing each others sentences can be fine. If it is all the time, does she think she is brighter than you, can say it better, doesn't trust you to get it right, overstates what you want to say, etc., etc,. Too much is too much. rmac


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Posted on Fri, Nov 11, 2011 10:52

Liv, Great post, I enjoyed reading. Of course I am in full agreement with each of the points. Thank you for posting. Hoping You are too funny, btw mom said to tell you hello.


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Posted on Fri, Nov 11, 2011 07:58

I know I'm not   "one of the beautiful ladies in the House"

And I'm not considering a sex change  (Although if I fail to find my ideal woman maybe I'll have to think about it as a last resort !!)

 

But...the answer is Yes...In fact It's so true...

 

I'm thinking of cutting and pasting this to my profile....

 

Markey :-)



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Posted on Fri, Nov 11, 2011 07:16

VERY GOOD POST LIV!!

I AGREE w/all these things...

Now if I could just find a man who isn't afraid to tell me anything whom I could argue w/, interupt and finish his sentences, dress however I wish around him.. but yet he STILL wants me to meet his mom?? Hmmm...

I just gotta say...

The cards ain't lookin in my favor GF!!

HeeHee~~



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