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Posted on Mon, Nov 07, 2011 01:17

At many points in life, each of us has valuable lessons to learn. I know for myself, I am undoubtedly a front runner in this crazy rat-race called LIFE! I see that hopefully one of our newest bloggers has learned a valuable lesson regarding human decency and empathy; but more so I hope she took with her a self-awareness regarding how important others perceptions of her is. A blog which many found extremely offensive has now been taken down, as was requested, by the author. I want to THANK HER OPENLY, for paying attention to what people in this room were stating. I am unclear as to what her intentions are, as her comments have been hidden as well as the blog. I only hope she has thought things over and recognizes how offensive her words were in an already cruel and vile world.

 

I do not know this individual, or what SHE has endured in HER PAST that had caused her to be so insensitive. I know many of us felt, even behind the scenes, she needed to seek emotional help. I also feel after reviewing her profile, the possibility remains she may have just “thought” she was being humorous and didn’t quite know what to convey coming into a new station with new people and trying to “fit in.” I hope she has learned to “OBSERVE” a little more the environment surrounding her before speaking. Being the “new girl” is never easy, as all eyes are upon you! Time will tell if this was a valuable learning tool to help her succeed further in life in an upstanding and classy manner.

 

One thing I will state is; there was some merit to what I feel she was trying to convey… all be it should not have been portrayed in a mockingly manner in this forum. Many victims of sexual assault, esp victims perpetrated upon in younger years, DO have brain malfunctions leaving them with sick,  twisted, mind-bending relations to the beauty of what a sexual relationship is to be like between 2 individuals. I knew a girl in school who was raped at knife point with her boyfriend being held back watching who later dated her rapist. It can be an extremely UGLY world out there! I know, as I have my own “sexual issues” I deal with on a daily basis. I only pray LIV’s little friend escapes those demons. Somehow I think not though and this saddens me.

 

What I also know with all certainty is that every one of us has been placed on this Earth for a REASON. Each of us has a personal history which brings us to where we are at and NONE of us is exempt at making mistakes and having to correct them mid-stream. I sincerely hope this is the intent of this individual who has caused some level of pain for many. And further, I sincerely hope she recognizes if we portray ourselves in an unworthy manner, we will only receive positive attention from unworthy people. That kind of attention will NEVER bring forth a man worthy of her love. 

 

Thank You,

 

~~Hope~~



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Posted on Tue, Nov 15, 2011 11:17

"FISHY!! NO MORE PICS OF SNOW!! DA PRINCESS IS FREEZING NOW!! BWAHAHAHA!! Salmon Season in 6 months? One thing about salmon is.. Either people seem to "love it" or "hate it".. I'm in the LOVE realm.. I could eat it almost daily.. However, I could also eat filet almost daily... (Med RARE PPL!!.. we ain't makin a pocketbook! LOL) But IF I did... I don't think my jeans would fit... That's why God designed "dresses".. For a Princesses "fat day!" ;) So what do you do up there when not working.. I mean.. How much "snow seeing" does one person need? Do you guys sit around in bars all the time and get drunk? That's what I'm thinkin Id have to do if I was living in that environment.. Either that... or wrestle bears... Can't be much more difficult than some of the men I've encountered in my life! HeeHeeHee~~" Ya right Hoping,a fat day for you is about 3 lbs max? I'll gladly make an opening in my full appointment book for a privet fur bikini fitting to help keep you warm as the next 5 months will be snow pictures,then about 1 month of mud,then the good ones will be around 3 months of fish when I've the time to take any,comming home to 3 months of overgrown with winter comming lol.Sadly out of the numbers of sockeye I caught not even 1 fish made it home so I have to eat stake for another winter yet again.I'll dust off my small meat grinder just so I can have New York hambuger from time to time. Remember when we was blogging about drinking enough rum to float a small nucular aircraft carrier?That was back before Hollywood went crab fishing and during the time old Joe Hazelwood parked his oil tanker 40 miles from my front door on a reef some guy found with a rock and string 200 years before.Hoping,for me fishing 300 days a year are over,drinking is seldom but can be done professionally should the time arise.Bear wrestling got put on hold after 4 of them suffered fatal injurys at the beginning of surprize matchs [nobody told me it was my day to wrestle].So I'm just a fuddy duddy nowadays.I sound like rice krispys in the morning,often all day.Once a month or so I'll take a truck load of laundary [I really do have that many cloths] to town,buy supplies and return home to my birds,moose,bunnies,wolves and coyotes.With 3000 feet of road and driveway to keep plowed open plus what I plow in the yard I can stay busy for awhile [will tell you more after I move this foot we have on the ground]. With my second birthday comming up I might have a brew or 2 even though I'll only be 20 this year.Nov 20,1991 I sunk my small boat outside of Whittier Ak,Passage Canal,Prince William Sound.3 1/2 hours later,VERY near death my rescuers pull my frozen body off the beach I'd washed up on,thawed me out,and here I am.Have you even layed down and watched a flower open?Or just listen to the beauty of silence?I don't know how my rock and roll is these days but I'll bet its like bicycles. Oh yea,Did I mention while I'm out here in the woods that I often make some the the most beautiful and elegent earrings almost ever made.Out of [you get 1 guess] FISH.Imagain that,lol.It's the Otolith [google it],the inner ear of fish.I use Pacific Cod [true cod,grey cod] and that big flat one you liked,halibut.This pc doesn't have pics but I'll try getting something up on here.Free earings with every bikini fitting.

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Posted on Sun, Nov 13, 2011 12:58

FISHY!! NO MORE PICS OF SNOW!! DA PRINCESS IS FREEZING NOW!! BWAHAHAHA!!

 

Salmon Season in 6 months? One thing about salmon is.. Either people seem to "love it" or "hate it".. I'm in the LOVE realm.. I could eat it almost daily.. However, I could also eat filet almost daily... (Med RARE PPL!!.. we ain't makin a pocketbook! LOL) But IF I did... I don't think my jeans would fit... That's why God designed "dresses".. For a Princesses "fat day!"  ;)

 

So what do you do up there when not working.. I mean.. How much "snow seeing" does one person need? Do you guys sit around in bars all the time and get drunk? That's what I'm thinkin Id have to do if I was living in that environment.. Either that... or wrestle bears... Can't be much more difficult than some of the men I've encountered in my life! HeeHeeHee~~

 

******

 

LIV, LIV, LIV... You've no clue how it hurt my heart to read the words you posted.. There are some pains in life which can not be measured... They are just that insurmountable... I am sorry.. and I am here if you need me..  XOXO

 

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MMMM... I HEAR YOU LOUD AND CLEAR.. I too have had the dealings of our precious and unjust at times legal system... I think what the * clears throat.. (author...) failed to realize is there is a way to discuss such matters, depsite the pain some have endured.. It was the immature mockery that was made that did her in... It simply can't be tolerated.. in this room.. or in society...

 

I AM PROUD OF EVERYONE WHO CAME FORWARD TO SET THE RECORD STRAIGHT ON WHAT WILL AND WON'T BE TOLERATED...

 

We all enjoy our fun around here... but we do NOT choose to have fun at other's expense in anything other than a jokingly manner.. We are not a mean spirited group! At the end of the day I think ALL should bear in mind...

 

WHAT WE WRITE IS A TRUE REFLECTION ON OURSELVES... THE WAY OTHERS PERCEIVE US IS EVERYTHING IN LIFE... And if we see we have hurt others in any manner... It is our DUTY in life in the name of humanity to stand up and say.. I'M SORRY!! True.. eating crow is not always easily done... but sometimes it is necessary!! Takes a big person to admit they are wrong... But our character is defined by how we handle the negatve situations, not the positive... Kind of like being a friend on a sunny day... WELL THAT'S CERTAINLY EASY! Who can't be a friend when all is going well in our lives?? It's the people that STAND BY YOU when the ball drops that are your true friends...

 

Of my divorce: (and stated in similar fashion as the slutty Blanche Deveroe would say on the Golden Girls... HeeHee~~)

 

TRUE FRIENDS REMIND ME OF THOSE STRONG, HUSKY, HUNKY, TIGHT BODIED, GORGEOUS FIREMEN...

 

(Blanche takes cloth to her forehead!! Jeez.. is it getting hot in here... She starts to fan herself about now!! LOL)

 

WHEN EVERYONE ELSE IS RUNNING OUT ON YOU...

 

A TRUE FRIEND IS COMING IN TO SQUELCH THAT FIRE AND SAVE YOU!!

 

(even if you were the one who started it!! Just sayin....)



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Posted on Sun, Nov 13, 2011 11:14

HI TAM/ANGELSPEAK...

 

Allow me to be the first of many to say:

 

WELCOME TO THE BLOGS!!

 

To summarize...

 

There was a young lady who was new here and she posted what many found as an extremely OFFENSIVE blog regarding "Rape Fantasies." Now understand... in this group... we are, for the most part open-minded and non combative... and it was not the "content" which upset many.. It was the manner in whch she MOCKED being raped and referred to calling her rapist "daddy" and was going to call her rapist and said she would have a pretend rape and post pics!! Then after she was called to the carpet... She further made an idiot of herself by posting a blog about hating dumb people!

 

Now the way my little blonde brain operates.. I truly believe we learn more from our negative experiences.. so I was in high hopes when she pulled the blog that it was due to recognition of her insensitivity to others.. However, her post on dumb people left me to believe she had learned NOTHING..

 

As a rape survivor, I could not calculate what purpose her blog served other than getting attention.. I let her know.. she no doubt got mine! LOL Yes.. many of us are NOT shy around here!

 

So WELCOME to our little humble abode TAM... You will enjoy it here.. It is a pleasure to have a newbie who hasn't come in and started insulting members from the get-go!! :)

 

 



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Posted on Sun, Nov 13, 2011 08:43

Now I'm curious about this whole thing. As a Taurus I can relate to you, Hope, and

find your karmic philosophy of life very close to my own. I too believe we picked this

life in order to grow spiritually and our willful mindset attracts like conditions, positive

or negative.

 

       ​        ​        ​        ​        ​         Peace, Tam



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Posted on Thu, Nov 10, 2011 17:36

Hoping honey,I woke up to maybe 1 inch of snow today.Anchorage Daily News [online] covered the storm decribed below and I thought to myself "Myself,how can you tell when a fisherman's lying?"And myself said to myself "Myself,that's easy,their lips move.". Hoping,when you read the weather report below just keep in mind who wrote it,lol.Only 6 more months until salmon season.

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Posted on Thu, Nov 10, 2011 10:46

Hoping, thank you for this! You cannot imagine how much emotion that post evoked within me. I was truly upset - now I just push it out of my mind. You know I live everyday with this precious little boy and the reality of what he was subjected to! Mach, thanks for your post on here too. Sincerely yours, Liv.


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Posted on Wed, Nov 09, 2011 22:08

Hoping,I've eaten crow a time or two in my younger years.My elders were gentle yet firm in feeding it to me,it does not taste good.It is tough to get up and say I was wrong,my intentions were not bad,I am sorry,I hope I have learned from this [see above "a time or two"].It doesn't take much crow before most people figure it out. I agree with postive,you get more done but more importantly it just feels better.Like your bloging,your fun to blog with.So moving to a weather update sence you ask,we are having one of the worst winter storms in recorded history on the western side of the state right now.Nome [about 600 miles Northwest of me] is getting the full end of it with winds hitting 85 knots [thats 102 mph for those without salt in their blood].Storm surge waves 8 feet higher than normal is sending feet of water down Nomes mainstreet carrying logs and anything else that will float.Thats going to give them folks something to talk about for awhile.Down here in south central we are out of the wind but there is so much snow in this storm we might end up with feet of that lovely white stuff.Its hard to say till its over but still anyways I've got 65 gals of gas to keep the driveway open.I had 7 inches fall last week with temps running from -7 nighttime to a warm 23 daytime for a couple of hours.Hoot Hoot goes one of my owls as I blog.Here's a pic taken today for you,but I must warn you!I live in the back of a truck.Hoot Hoot goes my owls again.

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Posted on Wed, Nov 09, 2011 12:32

Hoping, Your insight and knowledge is so inspiring. I do thank you for posting. Yes, it is true that I've spent twenty plus years as a sex crimes investigator. I have thousands of hours of training and experience with some of the leading experts in the field. In fact, when Janet Reno was the Attorney General, I was one of eighty members for a think tank that formulated some of this country's current policies for individuals who commit sex crimes. The group focused on three main areas, Investigation (my area of expertise), Prosecution, and Treatment. The think tank still exists today, however, it functions now more in an advisory capacity to states seeking assistance with their own policies and practices. Given the above I can certainly speak from a level of expertise and personal knowledge. However, for all my training, experience and knowledge, the one thing I was not prepared for was the price I'd have to pay in dealing with the face of evil. Early in my long career I became aware of two things, 1. The rules by which I was raised were not relevant to those who committed these horrific acts. 2. There are some experience in life from which you can NEVER go back. On the first point these individuals made choices which can not be reconciled by any measure. This is not just my sentiment, it is the sentiment felt by many people. On the second point, I have found there are some experiences from which you can never go back. I learned early in my long career that my preception and experience of the some individuals was not entirely based on reality. The reality is that people will always attempt to keep the inferior and evil aspects of their personality carefully concealed from others as well as from themselves. In order to keep hidden from others the deplorable condition of their internal conflict. For more reasons than I care to list I found that in some ways my sense of justice to be an illusion. This is not meant as an indictment of the entire Judical system to which I was a member. However, I saw many times when victims of these horrific crimes came with an expectation that justice would be served. They soon learned that justice in some cases was based on the "Golden Rule" he that has the gold makes the rules. When this happened as it did on ocassion, lady justice became the great illusionist, the seductress, who drews everyone in with the illusion of fair play, equality, and equity. In the end for the victims it was at the very least frightful, painful and disappointing. Having said this it saddens me to read the cavailar and mocking way about an act that is designed to dominate by force and complusion aginst another human being was portrayed. After having been victimize by the perpetrator, again victimize by the Court, media, and the community. To add insult to injury, for anyone so victimized the issue was reduced to a joke, inspite of the violent nature of the act. At the end of the day we as a society can only survive IF we put aside or pretense, envy, jealousy, ambitions, conceit and resentment. One of the best ways for us to put ourselves in another's shoes, to take the other's point of view to try and imagine what it would be like to be that other person. For me it was one of the primary reasons I had to walk away from the job. If I had it to do over again, I would make the same choice. There is absolutely no doubt in my mind I was able to help many over the years, sometimes we do what needs to be done for a greater good. Lastly, as someone who believes in Karma, I KNOW it is made by our DEEDS, not by our prayers.


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Posted on Tue, Nov 08, 2011 22:26

HEY FISHY!!!

 

 

 

How's the weather up there? I've had days when I've already been cold here in Hotlanta!! LOL

 

 

 

Fishy.. Ya know honey.. it's just this simple for me...

 

 

 

Whether one is RIGHT, WRONG or INDIFFERENT.. (Mine and MMMM saying!! LOL)

 

 

 

IF one can CLEARLY VISUALIZE they are upsetting others.. They should have the human decency to RECOGNIZE ANOTHER'S PAIN...

 

 

 

Many people have been through a lot in their lives,... and we know not what makes everyone tick... BUT WHEN WE SEE THEM TICK.. IN A BAD WAY.. DUE TO OUR ACTIONS...

 

 

 

Well.. I just feel in my heart, one should stand up and say... "Hey, I'm sorry I upset so many and I obviously did not express my thoughts very well here."

 

 

 

I think the problem lies with HOW one SEEKS attention..

 

 

 

PICTURE THIS: (as old lady Sophia says on my fave show Golden Girls.. which I am watching right now!! LOL)

 

 

 

A little girl.. about 4 years old .. dangles her tiny little body in front of the television as her father is intently trying to watch football... he screams to his wife.. "Come get her!! before I kill her!"

 

 

 

Well.. those people were me and my parents.. (obviously) and when my mother told me that story.. I asked her.. "WHY did I do that?" And she said.. "Sissy, you wanted sooo much for your father to just PAY ATTENTION to you that it came to the point where it didn't matter if it was only NEGATIVE attention you received or not... You yearned for affection and ANY ATTENTION from him was better than none." 

 

 

 

Sadly, NEGATIVE ATTENTION is far easier to receive than POSITIVE RESPONSES. If all one seeks is ANYTHING in life, then it matters not what we say or do.. We can take whatever we receive and bask in the good, the bad and the ugly..

 

 

 

BUT.. when we GROW from our past and we learn just how much a true BLESSING it is to be granted love, respect, kindness and mercy from others.. Well, when one truly receives THAT kind of attention.. they NEVER want to go back to the filthiness of the deep, dark world of UGLINESS...

 

 

 

So when I speak.. I speak from a beautiful heart." I am not always right... This I am fully aware of.. BUT.. at the end of the day.. (me and MMMM also share this saying!! LOL)

 

 

 

Well.. at the end of the day...

 

 

 

I KNOW, IN MY HEART, that I have TRIED to make the right call...

 

 

 

And in the end.. I think that makes others more FORGIVING when one does make a mistake...

CAPICE??

 

 

 

Have you been fishing? I think we need to have a fish fry to go with that BBQ MACH and V speak of! ;)



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Posted on Tue, Nov 08, 2011 19:32

MMMM!! (My Main Man MACH!!)

As one who enjoys writing and self-expression, I tangle with censorship very little. To me, I delete nothing.. etc, etc..

HOWEVER... I do feel there are times when we have to not look unto ourselves and look at the faces of others for direction.. The voices I heard were offended and in pain.. It was clearly not written in an educationl manner....  it was produced in a mockingly manner and THIS is what I personally took offense to..

Rape fantasies exist... (well thus is what they call them..) Personally I have difficulty with the clinical terminology of RAPE and FANTASY being used in the same line... I always thought "fantasy" meant it was "make believe.. " and since RAPE only exist "against ones will" .. How can you "make believe" a "crime that is derived from your loss of control... ??? " How does one FAKE losing control?

I was surprised, knowing your background, you did not respond.. But now I understand...Some memories truly are better off left alone..

Well.. I've been working on my computer all day.. Had to take the gosh darn settings back to factory.. Lost all my docs and pics and have been placing what I DID have BACKED UPPED.. back on the darn thing! Grrrr.. PEOPLE DON'T FORGET TO BACK UP!!

I swear I felt like Carrie did in that SEX episode when her Apple got BIT! Everybody was like..

"Did you back up??? You backed up right???" She was like.. "What's backing up?" LOLOL

Only I'm not lucky enough to have an Aiden buy me a new computer! LOL

Well.. Thankfully I have some items on here..

But Lordy! What a day!

BACK UP YOUR PICS AND DOCUMENTS!! ;)




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Posted on Tue, Nov 08, 2011 14:50

Lady,the more I read of your post to more I admire you.From fun and witty to flat out as chewing,to understanding someone may lead with the wrong foot with their first step you have an inter beauty greater that your physical self.I'm sure there is a price you still pay and I don't know how to help with that.Here's a hug for you Hoping.

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Posted on Mon, Nov 07, 2011 09:24

Hoping, Once again your comments are SPOT ON. I did read the blog as I'm sure many others have here on MM. I wanted to make a comment. However, as a sex crimes investigator with more than twenty years of experience, I was saddened both by the cavalier and insenitive manner in which the opinions were expressed. In my twenty years of experience one of the primary reasons for this aberrant behavior is that the individual ceases to see people as human beings and rather as objects of desire. This shows very clearly the contempt these individuals have for women and children. There is absolutely no doubt in my mind, evil does exist and this IS one of the faces it wears. Even as I write my thoughts and prayers go out to the hundreds of victims and families who have suffered at the hands of these individuals. I do want to thank all who wrote to have the blog taken down. For those of you who might say this smacks of censorship, I would only say you have no "fracking" clue.


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