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Posted on Thu, Nov 03, 2011 17:28

Am I the only one who needs that first kiss to be super charged, like BAM ! POW ! what the hell just happened the hair on your arms stands up, your toes curl,, etc..

 

or is it something that can be worked on ? I really don't think it can be,, but hey, I open to other opinions.



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Posted on Wed, Nov 23, 2011 06:28

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@ July, it is something I strive to find, with a full understanding and awareness that it's not whats going to rule my brain. I'm far to wise at this stage of life, to let a pretty face and incredible first kiss make me lose my common sense !  LOL ( at least I hope so,, LOL )

 

@Magic, looking for the combination of both.

 

@Diana,, I guess thats my point. Because there has been maybe twice where I kissed the woman on the first date/meeting. I let the metal side kick in after a few meeting/dates, but when I decide the time has come to move in for the kiss,, I want it to be "POW" !   LOL The problem really comes in though, is I say ok,, it's time,,only for that first kiss to be like Pat says, a slobberer, or you just don't have to movement timing whatever and you go,, holy crap that was terrible !  LOL



NGL, I respect the fact that you have a certain strongly held opinion, and obviously no amount of contrary evidence or persuasive argument can sway you. I myself tend to follow my own compass too. Yet, I've been in a "POW" first kiss situation in the past which, I felt, was so maddeningly alluring that drained all my common sense off at the time. Different cultures, perceptions, unique cortship customs,but the power of attraction/chemistry is still the same. Maybe I should work on my brain. lol


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Posted on Mon, Nov 14, 2011 10:16

Quoting JulyMorning:

Need not, NGL. Want - oh, yes! We all have been there - picturing that perfect "sweep me off my feet" first kiss, which makes us somewhat overwhelmed and retreat into a delightful self-delusional dreamland unfolding before us. lol Just don't forget to poke yourself out if/when you happen to find yourself in such a state.


@ July, it is something I strive to find, with a full understanding and awareness that it's not whats going to rule my brain. I'm far to wise at this stage of life, to let a pretty face and incredible first kiss make me lose my common sense !  LOL ( at least I hope so,, LOL )

 

@Magic, looking for the combination of both.

 

@Diana,, I guess thats my point. Because there has been maybe twice where I kissed the woman on the first date/meeting. I let the metal side kick in after a few meeting/dates, but when I decide the time has come to move in for the kiss,, I want it to be "POW" !   LOL The problem really comes in though, is I say ok,, it's time,,only for that first kiss to be like Pat says, a slobberer, or you just don't have to movement timing whatever and you go,, holy crap that was terrible !  LOL



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Posted on Sat, Nov 12, 2011 14:16

Need not, NGL. Want - oh, yes! We all have been there - picturing that perfect "sweep me off my feet" first kiss, which makes us somewhat overwhelmed and retreat into a delightful self-delusional dreamland unfolding before us. lol Just don't forget to poke yourself out if/when you happen to find yourself in such a state.


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Posted on Sat, Nov 12, 2011 12:50

I think Chemistry is over rated. Let call it what it is Chemistry is just about looks. Ladies are just guilty as guys in this arena. Have you been with someone on the first date you think you have chemistry. Then after the third date you get to know the person and there is nothing there. So how is chemistry working for you. Using chemistry you miss great women and guy who you reject. I am guilty but now more aware and give someone a chance to get to know them and who they are before making a judgement.


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Posted on Sun, Nov 06, 2011 13:22

NO, I think most people want that.



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Posted on Sat, Nov 05, 2011 19:21

Hmmm….interesting question. Chemistry doesn’t happen for me instantaneously….even if he is very good looking. For me, chemistry is predominately a mental thing. The sparks fly because my brain gets turned on long before my body ever does. But hey NGL....take my comments as just one person talking. Because a 20 year old's chemistry can likely be vastly different from a 50 year old's. *wink*


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Posted on Sat, Nov 05, 2011 13:27

RAY SAID:

 

 

 

@ Hope,, Help me to understand this, "You can have serious CHEMISTRY w/ someone... and guess what?
NEVER "LoVe" them!! "
So are you saying, you have really good chemistry, but you know the guy/girl is a pig, so you just don't go there ?

 

 

 

******************************

 

 

 

ARE WE TALKING ABOUT THE "OLD ME".. OR THE NEW IMPROVED MODEL?? LOLOL

 

 

 

NO... What I am saying is.. CHEMISTRY IS THERE OR NOT... PERIOD!! There are signs .. say like over the internet.. you can get "vibes" w/out meeting someone... SURE! You like their pictures or the way they carry themselves.. etc... And you can deveop an "emotional" chemistry for them...BUT.. You could meet them and just not have "IT" for them...... Or the opposite could happen.. One time I went out with this guy off match.. many years ago... and guess what? Of ALL the men I had talked to.. he was the man I thought I would LEAST be attracted to... BUT did sparks ever fly IMMEDIATELY for both of us when we met!!  Luckily.... both of us had children at home... (well, maybe not so luckily.. LOL) so it went no further that night than heated passion in his SUV... BUT THAT IS TRUE UNDENIABLE CHEMISTRY..

 

 

 

WE ARE ANIMALS PEOPLE!! MEN ARE DOGS... AND WOMEN ARE SEX KITTENS!! :) SERIOUSLY!!

 

 

 

FACE IT... If it weren't for SEX.. we wouldn't put up with each others crap and we wouldn't be scouting profiles on the intenet all hours of the night! WHAT WOULD BE THE POINT? I can take out the garbage myself and pay someone to change the oil...

 

 

 

We are like pigs feasting at a trough!!

 

 

 

BUT TRUE DEEP CHEMISTRY.. is all about smells, taste, touch.. all our SENSES one doesn't receive over the internet...

 

 

 

The "game plan" I got going down now at this stage in my life is to quit acting on "impulsive chemistry" and find a man where we both share a mutual chemistry... but we also share an "emotional connection" as well...  IT'S CALLED "BALANCE" .. and you have to have equal sides or it won't work... SEX is JUST SEX... UNLESS you share a GENUINE BONDING CONNECTION.. and that is what I now seek!

 

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You said really good chemistry.. but know the guy/girl is pig so don't go there...  

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DEPENDS ON HOW SMART ONE IS...

 

 

 

The old me didn't care... HOT SEX was HOT SEX...

 

 

 

But the "New Improved ME"..... well... I WANT IT ALL!!! I want the ROMANCE and FRIENDSHIP and CHEMISTRY and COURTING.. do we still use that word?? The BONDING and TRUE PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL CONNECTION...

 

 

 

And you just can't receive REAL EVERLASTING LOVE.... if ALL you seek is CHEMISTRY... 

 

 

 

CHEMISTRY FOR ME IS LIKE AN UNDENIABLE ANIMALISTIC FORCE THAT MAGNETIZES US TO ANOTHER INDIVIDUAL...(BASED ON OUR SENSES)

 

 

 

THEN... AFTER WE FEEL THAT MAGNET PULLING US TOGETHER.. WE HAVE TO WORK ON ALL THE "OTHER ASPECTS" OF THE RELATIONSHIP... BECAUSE CHEMISTRY IS NOT LOVE...

 

 

 

That's why "Internet dating" is possibly a better move for me.. Because I AM the REASON they place chocolate bars and gum at the register.. I am an IMPULSIVE individual... Getting to converse w/ men through a forum as this makes me SLOW DOWN... take my time, doesn't allow my CRAZY hormones to get in the way... and I get to KNOW them, as well as them know me... Versus grabbing all the candy bars in line and running with them... even if it isn't my favorite brand... :)

 

 

 

Hope I made sense to @ least one person!! LOLOL



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Posted on Sat, Nov 05, 2011 06:11

Quoting LilyofValley:

Ohhh wow NGL,

 

what an interesting question about the "all mighty Chemistry"... yes for me it is... and I feel the special level of the chemistry in the first couple of seconds... or not, not at all.

 

When I meet up or look at the Man....  and I dont feel the high level of the chemistry I can not get kissed and I do not kiss the man...I do not even touch his hand... If the All Mighty Chemistry is there on a high level I desire his touch on my hand, his cuddle and kiss... 

 

... and no you can NOT work on Chemistry... it is there between the two person or NOT...



Lily,, I talked to women who have said they know before they even sat down for a drink with the guy, if they are going to like them. Is this what you mean ?



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Posted on Sat, Nov 05, 2011 06:08

Quoting Babyinnocent2:

With me ,chemistry sparks through the first physical attraction when i see the other person... more sparks sky rocket through good compatible conversation and the chemistry will reach for the star through the first touch or kiss...and after .. the once upon a time i met you story will begin...


@ Baby,,so lets say you have the chemistry/sparks thru first physical attraction, then thru compatible conversation,, he goes in for the first kiss, and it's like Pat says, he's a slobberer/biter and it hurts, then what ?



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Posted on Sat, Nov 05, 2011 06:04

Quoting Hoping4Love2000:

NO WAY.... NO HOW...

Two people either "got it" .. or they don't...

And you can guess, dream, fantasize.. etc...

but one NEVER truly knows until that FIRST KISS! ;)

FRIENDSHIP is built over time, as is LOVE...

LOVE IS NOT CHEMISTRY~!

You can have serious CHEMISTRY w/ someone... and guess what?

NEVER "LoVe" them!!

Just sayin!



@ Hope,, Help me to understand this, "You can have serious CHEMISTRY w/ someone... and guess what?
NEVER "LoVe" them!! "

So are you saying, you have really good chemistry, but you know the guy/girl is a pig, so you just don't go there ?



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Posted on Sat, Nov 05, 2011 06:00

Quoting Curious2078:

I haven't even bothered to yet read the rest of the posts, Ray. I agree with you totally. We might be wrong, I don't know...but I've never dated a man who DIDN'T curl my toes [shades of Arizona??????] who two months later did curl my toes. That basic physical attraction, I think, has got to be there from the start. Or maybe, after 2 or 3 dates it can somehow get turned on. But after that, 2 months into the relationship, if it ain't there--it ain't ever going to be there, I think. Oh, and slightly off point, but what about that first kiss that makes you want to puke your guts out? A slobberer? A biter who thinks he's [she's] a sexy nibbler, but it HURTS? Yuch for sure. Basic stuff: You gotta like the smell, you gotta like the taste, you gotta like the feel--the overall feel. Or, no go, I'm afraid. BYE, BYE, for sure. That one is never going to get better.


@ Pat, a "slobberer LOL,,, that is the worst ! I've never kissed a biter,,on the first kiss that just sounds wrong !   LOL

 

@Liv, The Zing,, nice !



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Posted on Fri, Nov 04, 2011 20:52

Quoting Hoping4Love2000:

NO WAY.... NO HOW...

Two people either "got it" .. or they don't...

And you can guess, dream, fantasize.. etc...

but one NEVER truly knows until that FIRST KISS! ;)

FRIENDSHIP is built over time, as is LOVE...

LOVE IS NOT CHEMISTRY~!

You can have serious CHEMISTRY w/ someone... and guess what?

NEVER "LoVe" them!!

Just sayin!



Yup, that's for sure. You can have chemistry with someone and never love them. Oh, do I have stories.... But I ain't telling even one of them. Just trust I know what I'm talking about. Or.....ignore me.


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Posted on Fri, Nov 04, 2011 20:51

Quoting NGL2011:

Am I the only one who needs that first kiss to be super charged, like BAM ! POW ! what the hell just happened the hair on your arms stands up, your toes curl,, etc..

 

or is it something that can be worked on ? I really don't think it can be,, but hey, I open to other opinions.



I haven't even bothered to yet read the rest of the posts, Ray. I agree with you totally. We might be wrong, I don't know...but I've never dated a man who DIDN'T curl my toes [shades of Arizona??????] who two months later did curl my toes. That basic physical attraction, I think, has got to be there from the start. Or maybe, after 2 or 3 dates it can somehow get turned on. But after that, 2 months into the relationship, if it ain't there--it ain't ever going to be there, I think. Oh, and slightly off point, but what about that first kiss that makes you want to puke your guts out? A slobberer? A biter who thinks he's [she's] a sexy nibbler, but it HURTS? Yuch for sure. Basic stuff: You gotta like the smell, you gotta like the taste, you gotta like the feel--the overall feel. Or, no go, I'm afraid. BYE, BYE, for sure. That one is never going to get better.


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Posted on Fri, Nov 04, 2011 14:11

Yeah, Chemistry is Chemistry - it's either there between two people or not! It is not learned, practised or cultivated, nah, nah, nah! Chemistry is either there or not! Like Hoping said, friendship can be built/developed but not chemistry. I call it the ZING thing! It happens on you. Liv


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Posted on Thu, Nov 03, 2011 20:27

With me ,chemistry sparks through the first physical attraction when i see the other person... more sparks sky rocket through good compatible conversation and the chemistry will reach for the star through the first touch or kiss...and after .. the once upon a time i met you story will begin...


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Posted on Thu, Nov 03, 2011 17:58

NO WAY.... NO HOW...

Two people either "got it" .. or they don't...

And you can guess, dream, fantasize.. etc...

but one NEVER truly knows until that FIRST KISS! ;)

FRIENDSHIP is built over time, as is LOVE...

LOVE IS NOT CHEMISTRY~!

You can have serious CHEMISTRY w/ someone... and guess what?

NEVER "LoVe" them!!

Just sayin!



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