Hoping asked a question on another blog, and I felt my answer was going too far afield for that blog subject, so I'm answering here.
she asked (paraphrasing): if dating a wealthy woman made a man feel insecure ??? So, I'll answer, and encourage other guys to do so as well.
I've only dated a very few women in my lifetime who were financially better off than me. So it's VERY unusual when it occurs, for me. (And I don't mean that in the "I got all that" sense. I do OK, but there are plenty of women who've done better, financially. I just mean it that I don't have a very large pool of experience from which to draw.)
But, I don't have a problem with it, just because of the money. I have run into a problem when rich women act like jerks, just like rich male jerks do. A jerk is a jerk, no matter the gender. The same reasons that make women say, "It's not worth it, no matter how much money he has" are valid reasons for guys, too. And unfortunately, the same reasons SOME women ARE successful are the same reasons SOME guys are.....they're either obnoxious, controlling, manipulative, self-serving or all of the above. These women (or men) are impossible for me to tolerate OR date.
But some women have done well through good fortune (being in the right place at the right time), being born to wealth, bad fortune (death of a spouse, death of a marriage though no fault of her own) or just plain ol' hard work, and working a good plan. Just like men, these women run the entire gamut of human types. Beautiful, plain as hell, sensual, frigid, smart, dumb, skinny, fat, sexy, not, educated, not, tolerant, inflexible, kind, uncaring...... And among these women, just like the ones with no money, I'm only interested in the great ones. I haven't knowingly dated one with those bad characteristics. A couple turned out to be unacceptable character types, but I didn't know that before I datd them.
Among those good people, who just happened to have money, I had no problem with being the lesser pocketbook. The good person, whether male or female, will not use their pocketbook as a weapon. And if she's not using it like that, DUH, it's MY shortcoming if I have psyche problems with her having money. I never had that problem. Among those great women, who had money, it was never a big deal at all. I paid for what I could, and wished to, pay for, and she did likewise. If she wanted us to take an Alaskan cruise, and I wouldn't have, or couldn't have, spent the money on it, I have no problem with going and having a great time. We men expect women to do this all the time. What's different about it?
One thing I wouldn't do (and I always respected the women who wouldn't do this with me) is mislead her into thinking I feel something I don't, just to get the trip (or the jewelry, or the clothes.) I've had women tell me, "Thanks, but no thanks" when I suggested a pricey pleasure, because they felt I wasn't the one for them. I'd do the same, here. If I know you think me going on that cruise means I plan to keep growing our relationship into a permanent one, and I just don't feel that way, I won't go. The hurt she'd feel is an honest one, and she should respect that. I know I do, and have.
But if, the woman who makes me feel good (and potential for great):):) has enough money to make me set mine on fire, so what? Money is a tool, not a weapon, when two people care for each other.
-CG-
Hoping asked a question on another blog, and I felt my answer was going too far afield for that blog subject, so I'm answering here.
she asked (paraphrasing): if dating a wealthy woman made a man feel insecure ??? So, I'll answer, and encourage other guys to do so as well.
I've only dated a very few women in my lifetime who were financially better off than me. So it's VERY unusual when it occurs, for me. (And I don't mean that in the "I got all that" sense. I do OK, but there are plenty of women who've done better, financially. I just mean it that I don't have a very large pool of experience from which to draw.)
But, I don't have a problem with it, just because of the money. I have run into a problem when rich women act like jerks, just like rich male jerks do. A jerk is a jerk, no matter the gender. The same reasons that make women say, "It's not worth it, no matter how much money he has" are valid reasons for guys, too. And unfortunately, the same reasons SOME women ARE successful are the same reasons SOME guys are.....they're either obnoxious, controlling, manipulative, self-serving or all of the above. These women (or men) are impossible for me to tolerate OR date.
But some women have done well through good fortune (being in the right place at the right time), being born to wealth, bad fortune (death of a spouse, death of a marriage though no fault of her own) or just plain ol' hard work, and working a good plan. Just like men, these women run the entire gamut of human types. Beautiful, plain as hell, sensual, frigid, smart, dumb, skinny, fat, sexy, not, educated, not, tolerant, inflexible, kind, uncaring...... And among these women, just like the ones with no money, I'm only interested in the great ones. I haven't knowingly dated one with those bad characteristics. A couple turned out to be unacceptable character types, but I didn't know that before I datd them.
Among those good people, who just happened to have money, I had no problem with being the lesser pocketbook. The good person, whether male or female, will not use their pocketbook as a weapon. And if she's not using it like that, DUH, it's MY shortcoming if I have psyche problems with her having money. I never had that problem. Among those great women, who had money, it was never a big deal at all. I paid for what I could, and wished to, pay for, and she did likewise. If she wanted us to take an Alaskan cruise, and I wouldn't have, or couldn't have, spent the money on it, I have no problem with going and having a great time. We men expect women to do this all the time. What's different about it?
One thing I wouldn't do (and I always respected the women who wouldn't do this with me) is mislead her into thinking I feel something I don't, just to get the trip (or the jewelry, or the clothes.) I've had women tell me, "Thanks, but no thanks" when I suggested a pricey pleasure, because they felt I wasn't the one for them. I'd do the same, here. If I know you think me going on that cruise means I plan to keep growing our relationship into a permanent one, and I just don't feel that way, I won't go. The hurt she'd feel is an honest one, and she should respect that. I know I do, and have.
But if, the woman who makes me feel good (and potential for great):):) has enough money to make me set mine on fire, so what? Money is a tool, not a weapon, when two people care for each other.
Datin a wealthy woman doesn't make me feel insecure. I have dated them but didn't find them attractive. I haven't run across that man wealthy but beautiful women in my life. Without that initial attraction the money means nothing to me.
Datin a wealthy woman doesn't make me feel insecure. I have dated them but didn't find them attractive. I haven't run across that man wealthy but beautiful women in my life. Without that initial attraction the money means nothing to me.
In that case, let me give you that bank acount to wire the money into, again. That half a million you promised me just never shows up like you said it would. I feel so used. :(:( :):)
-CG-
July,
In that case, let me give you that bank acount to wire the money into, again. That half a million you promised me just never shows up like you said it would. I feel so used. :(:(
:):)
I have a unique respect for all women but especially an accomplished WEALTHY WOMAN who know how to conduct her affairs personally and professionally. I have been very fortunate to meet some very awesome females that really value their status of wealth better than most men their age because men can be real jerks with wealth if they are not cultured or desire to be.Money alone do not define wealth but it also included intellectual capital,Assets, Political , social and spiritual equity and how it is balanced to the benefit of you, family and friends. If we are given much wealth we are held accountable daily for how we manage and distribute all aspect of that wealth in society locally, nationally and internationally. Wealth should be to add to pleasure or enhance but never bring pleasure especially if you had to create it and not trying to attach to someone who know what it takes to toil for it and mush manage that in a manner that will reproduce positive and good merits of our labor continuously for generations. Wealth is a state of mind and actually demonstrated by our deed, reactions and actions daily continuously. Let's have fun and appreciate the wealth in all sexes and respect the accomplishments of our Goddesses of the world that inspires us, motivate us daily and because of these gorgeous wise creations called (Women) we can expand beyond &Billion daily weather you agree with expansion or not.We are so fortunate to have brilliant and wealthy women as our equals I LOVE IT! It makes us all sharper and wiser and better for our community and makes fun even more enjoyable;-)
I have a unique respect for all women but especially an accomplished WEALTHY WOMAN who know how to conduct her affairs personally and professionally. I have been very fortunate to meet some very awesome females that really value their status of wealth better than most men their age because men can be real jerks with wealth if they are not cultured or desire to be.Money alone do not define wealth but it also included intellectual capital,Assets, Political , social and spiritual equity and how it is balanced to the benefit of you, family and friends. If we are given much wealth we are held accountable daily for how we manage and distribute all aspect of that wealth in society locally, nationally and internationally.
Wealth should be to add to pleasure or enhance but never bring pleasure especially if you had to create it and not trying to attach to someone who know what it takes to toil for it and mush manage that in a manner that will reproduce positive and good merits of our labor continuously for generations.
Wealth is a state of mind and actually demonstrated by our deed, reactions and actions daily continuously. Let's have fun and appreciate the wealth in all sexes and respect the accomplishments of our Goddesses of the world that inspires us, motivate us daily and because of these gorgeous wise creations called (Women) we can expand beyond &Billion daily weather you agree with expansion or not.We are so fortunate to have brilliant and wealthy women as our equals I LOVE IT! It makes us all sharper and wiser and better for our community and makes fun even more enjoyable;-)
SLUTS? SEX KITTENS HERDING? MATING TIME AND AGAIN??
IS YOU GUYS WRITIN ABOUT ME LIFE AGAIN!!?? BWAHAHAHAHA
MICHAEL... Forgetabouther.... WATER UNDA DA BUS.... (gets the tires wet and makes road slippery!) Seriously... The children will always be an issue.. 12000 miles is too far for a mother to be away for babies... I know... 4 hours is too far... Lotsa mermaids in da sea...
As for sleeping.. I agree w/ DI.. and I have gone through the same thing.. I was a "sofa sleeper" for years... Now I've learned to relax a bit more and break out a book around 2 am... (that I really want to read..) Works every time!! Kinda like wanting to watch a really good movie.. I turn it on... it gets interesting and ZZZZzzzz....
SLUTS? SEX KITTENS HERDING? MATING TIME AND AGAIN??
IS YOU GUYS WRITIN ABOUT ME LIFE AGAIN!!?? BWAHAHAHAHA
MICHAEL...
Forgetabouther....
WATER UNDA DA BUS.... (gets the tires wet and makes road slippery!)
Seriously... The children will always be an issue.. 12000 miles is too far for a mother to be away for babies... I know... 4 hours is too far...
Lotsa mermaids in da sea...
As for sleeping.. I agree w/ DI.. and I have gone through the same thing.. I was a "sofa sleeper" for years... Now I've learned to relax a bit more and break out a book around 2 am... (that I really want to read..) Works every time!! Kinda like wanting to watch a really good movie.. I turn it on... it gets interesting and ZZZZzzzz....
It is easier to conceal financial success than explain its lack of relevance - to a good one on one relationship - to those who view it as a potential benefit/hurdle. It is only one aspect of an individual. There are many others of considerably more value in a relationship. It is however an aspect that appears to invite some comments from men who are less financially secure. As far as I'm concerned .....it simply buys me some freedom and flexibility, allows me to not worry so much as I once did and time to do the stuff that I missed out on when working 24/7.
It is easier to conceal financial success than explain its lack of relevance - to a good one on one relationship - to those who view it as a potential benefit/hurdle. It is only one aspect of an individual. There are many others of considerably more value in a relationship. It is however an aspect that appears to invite some comments from men who are less financially secure. As far as I'm concerned .....it simply buys me some freedom and flexibility, allows me to not worry so much as I once did and time to do the stuff that I missed out on when working 24/7.
I don't remember which comment of Hoping's it was. Maybe she can help. She just asked if men had problems dating wealthy women, and if so, what problems. Since it was someone elses blog, I ddin't want to hijack it, so I started this one to answer her. I think we've long since run out of gas on my original topic here, so it's perfectly OK this has turned into a free for all.
Allyours,
I don't remember which comment of Hoping's it was. Maybe she can help. She just asked if men had problems dating wealthy women, and if so, what problems. Since it was someone elses blog, I ddin't want to hijack it, so I started this one to answer her. I think we've long since run out of gas on my original topic here, so it's perfectly OK this has turned into a free for all.
Hey guys, remember the purpose of this blog was to answer Hoping's question about dating rich WOMEN.
Sooooooo, I'm thinking a 'SHE' needs to pay for this yacht trip for a few of her boy toys. I'll be the stately voice of reason giving the boy toys advice from the afterdeck in my best Sean Connery voice. Someone has to teach them how to behave for their benefactress, right.
-CG-
Diana, Hoping and Voyager,
Hey guys, remember the purpose of this blog was to answer Hoping's question about dating rich WOMEN.
Sooooooo, I'm thinking a 'SHE' needs to pay for this yacht trip for a few of her boy toys. I'll be the stately voice of reason giving the boy toys advice from the afterdeck in my best Sean Connery voice. Someone has to teach them how to behave for their benefactress, right.
~~~CONYERSGUY!!!~~ WHERE DA HELL U BEEN!! You have missed some major excitement..
Apparently.. your HOPING Princes has been blocked (or hidden) off some of the blogs... Our LADY DI has a new UPDO and sexy look goin down.. and we've witnessed Hungarian-family food throwin fights! OH! AND NOW I SEE WE'RE ALL GETTING TRASHED IN A DINGY W/ LADY DI AT THE OARS!! WE BEZ IN TWUBBLE NOW!! :)
VOYAGER...
Yes, I do like online dating... (for most part) This site... Well I only came here because it was a site that was available I was not already on! Bwahahahaha!! I am not the kind of Princess that believes in "Limitations." Hence.. not usually great results when a bottle of Kettle One and I are within arms length! Bwahahaha
However... Now I am recalculating, oh.. sorry.. my GPS always says "recalculating" as apparently.. I am notorious for making wrong left (and right turns)!! Haha!!
So anyway... I am re-thinking my stance on this site now as I mainly use it for blogging and apparently I am continually getting censored or hidden and no one has granted me any explanation... I find it utterly ridiculous I am the one to be "hidden" with many of the comments and blogs I have reviewed here!! And here I always thought I was THE VOICE OF REASON... LOL
~~~CONYERSGUY!!!~~ WHERE DA HELL U BEEN!! You have missed some major excitement..
Apparently.. your HOPING Princes has been blocked (or hidden) off some of the blogs... Our LADY DI has a new UPDO and sexy look goin down.. and we've witnessed Hungarian-family food throwin fights! OH! AND NOW I SEE WE'RE ALL GETTING TRASHED IN A DINGY W/ LADY DI AT THE OARS!!
WE BEZ IN TWUBBLE NOW!! :)
VOYAGER...
Yes, I do like online dating... (for most part) This site... Well I only came here because it was a site that was available I was not already on! Bwahahahaha!! I am not the kind of Princess that believes in "Limitations." Hence.. not usually great results when a bottle of Kettle One and I are within arms length! Bwahahaha
However... Now I am recalculating, oh.. sorry.. my GPS always says "recalculating" as apparently.. I am notorious for making wrong left (and right turns)!! Haha!!
So anyway... I am re-thinking my stance on this site now as I mainly use it for blogging and apparently I am continually getting censored or hidden and no one has granted me any explanation... I find it utterly ridiculous I am the one to be "hidden" with many of the comments and blogs I have reviewed here!! And here I always thought I was THE VOICE OF REASON... LOL
Okay.. first off.. VOYAGER... (IF you have stayed around)
I agree w/ your "Think Global/Act Local" or however you put it...
YES... We all should put ourselves out there in ALL arenas... Now in regard to your comment about WHY one is on here...
MY NAME SAYS IT ALL!! I ammmm after all...
HOPING4LOVE...
However, I did not join this site to "find a man with wealth!" THAT would be a bonus..
I joined this site actually after a guy on EHarmony treated me very poorly and hurt my feelings... We had gotten very close and I shared some very private details of myself and when it fizzled..I was hurt, cried, went through my emotions for 2 days and PROCESSED.. and then PULLED MYSELF UP AND SAID.. Let me see what other sites are out there.. I have been on yahoo (when they had one) I am on match, SD, Spark, Mingle, EHarmony.. and possibly others I have forgotten about! LOL
I have been online dating (between relationships) for over 12 years AND LOVE IT!
I have met MANY men in this process and learned a lot about myself and what I want, need and desire in a man!
When I started with online dating I was a waitress/bartender... Worked many hours and spent many hours alone as my ex and I had joint custody. I found myself on the computer rather than being in a bar nightly after work... (although I did do the bar scene for quite some time and what a freakin DISASTER!!)
Then when I became an office worker.. I was in front of a computer all day and it was easiest to converse with people who were on the computer. My bosses and co-workers loved seeing the profiles I would share and I would get their thoughts!
Then when I worked offshore.. there was no interaction as I was "stuck at sea" mostly.. so it gave me an opportunity to converse with others while stuck on a boat!
Now I blog and try to search for work through the internet forum, so hence again... ONLINE DATING...
I have enjoyed the process, it has been a mostly POSITIVE experience... and I have learned much about people and cherish MANY...
Love of my life yet? NOPE.. But I will honestly state that the couple of men I have met through online dating I held a bit of a torch for.. (and the relationships did not work out..) were possibly more my fault than theirs.. I LEARNED MANY THINGS ABOUT MYSELF!!
Oddly.. The MAIN one I liked whom I met online dating.. called me this morning to see how I was doing... Although we made no immediate future plans, he told me he wants to keep in contact....
Will HE be the "Love I am HOPING 4?" I don't know... But I did nickname him my "Mr Big!" LOL
Oh... and yes... he IS very wealthy.. but when we met.. I had NO CLUE!!
What have I learned in dating men with means? I LOVE bell hops and valet parking and being treated like a Princess in a fairy tale...
I'm just waiting for my happy ending now and enjoying myself in the meantime!
HI "MY" LADY DI!!!
Okay.. first off.. VOYAGER... (IF you have stayed around)
I agree w/ your "Think Global/Act Local" or however you put it...
YES... We all should put ourselves out there in ALL arenas...
Now in regard to your comment about WHY one is on here...
MY NAME SAYS IT ALL!!
I ammmm after all...
HOPING4LOVE...
However, I did not join this site to "find a man with wealth!" THAT would be a bonus..
I joined this site actually after a guy on EHarmony treated me very poorly and hurt my feelings... We had gotten very close and I shared some very private details of myself and when it fizzled..I was hurt, cried, went through my emotions for 2 days and PROCESSED.. and then PULLED MYSELF UP AND SAID..
Let me see what other sites are out there.. I have been on yahoo (when they had one) I am on match, SD, Spark, Mingle, EHarmony.. and possibly others I have forgotten about! LOL
I have been online dating (between relationships) for over 12 years AND LOVE IT!
I have met MANY men in this process and learned a lot about myself and what I want, need and desire in a man!
When I started with online dating I was a waitress/bartender... Worked many hours and spent many hours alone as my ex and I had joint custody. I found myself on the computer rather than being in a bar nightly after work... (although I did do the bar scene for quite some time and what a freakin DISASTER!!)
Then when I became an office worker.. I was in front of a computer all day and it was easiest to converse with people who were on the computer. My bosses and co-workers loved seeing the profiles I would share and I would get their thoughts!
Then when I worked offshore.. there was no interaction as I was "stuck at sea" mostly.. so it gave me an opportunity to converse with others while stuck on a boat!
Now I blog and try to search for work through the internet forum, so hence again... ONLINE DATING...
I have enjoyed the process, it has been a mostly POSITIVE experience... and I have learned much about people and cherish MANY...
Love of my life yet? NOPE.. But I will honestly state that the couple of men I have met through online dating I held a bit of a torch for.. (and the relationships did not work out..) were possibly more my fault than theirs.. I LEARNED MANY THINGS ABOUT MYSELF!!
Oddly.. The MAIN one I liked whom I met online dating.. called me this morning to see how I was doing... Although we made no immediate future plans, he told me he wants to keep in contact....
Will HE be the "Love I am HOPING 4?" I don't know... But I did nickname him my "Mr Big!" LOL
Oh... and yes... he IS very wealthy.. but when we met.. I had NO CLUE!!
What have I learned in dating men with means? I LOVE bell hops and valet parking and being treated like a Princess in a fairy tale...
I'm just waiting for my happy ending now and enjoying myself in the meantime!
Voyager and Diana: The Farengi were all hooked on large lobes, but they were ear lobes. The liked the whole ear large too. Not just the lobes. I don't think those were the lobes Diana was talking about.
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Voyager and Diana: The Farengi were all hooked on large lobes, but they were ear lobes. The liked the whole ear large too. Not just the lobes. I don't think those were the lobes Diana was talking about.
HMmmmm.. "POT" stirring and a man sitting on a toilet.... Bwahahha!! (Admittedly.. my curiosity got to me and I had to view this so called "pot sitting"...) LOL
Hi all... Hope everyone is having a wonderful day!! CG.. this blog has just been tossed all around hasn't it! LOL
VOYAGER.. When the man of this Princesses dreams comes along... I will gladly allow him to chop off the gonads.. But until then... they are my safety!! :)
HMmmmm.. "POT" stirring and a man sitting on a toilet.... Bwahahha!!
(Admittedly.. my curiosity got to me and I had to view this so called "pot sitting"...) LOL
Hi all... Hope everyone is having a wonderful day!!
CG.. this blog has just been tossed all around hasn't it! LOL
VOYAGER.. When the man of this Princesses dreams comes along... I will gladly allow him to chop off the gonads.. But until then... they are my safety!! :)
At last!! An interesting conversation! Special thanks to Sister and Voyager for keeping it real. I enjoyed your comments which were refreshing and well articulated.
Quoting CG: And I will agree with many points you made regarding organized religion. Too many churches and preachers are ego driven themselves....and want money to drive those egos. Absolutely shameful, in my book. As for the 'eye of the needle' philosophy, you can pick any position on anything, and find a justification somewhere in the Bible. I BELIEVE. But I also know the Bible as we know it was edited by men, with personal agendas, hand copied, translated across AT LEAST three languages, with the earliest version of the Gospels of Jesus' life being written AT LEAST 80 years after his death, with MANY contradictions. Not a recipe for an accurate transcription of God's word. I think a more appropriate rule, for money and anything else, is, "If you have to ask yourself if it's the right thing........it isn't."
CG - Cudos on your intellectual curiosity in researching who really wrote the Gospels. It is unknown! But they certainly weren't written by anyone that was an eye witness to the events presented... and as you stated, translated multiple times with many contradictions. Few people know that!
Quoting Hope: There are many of us who "DO things" out of desperation because we've nowhere else to turn...
Absolutely true! If only people would remember this when they judge others and look down their superior noses at the 'others' of our society. The strippers, homeless, jobless, women on Medicaide, the uninsured....so many faced with desperate circumstances in this land of plenty. The empathy deficit seems uncommonly profound!
At last!! An interesting conversation! Special thanks to Sister and Voyager for keeping it real. I enjoyed your comments which were refreshing and well articulated.
Quoting CG:
And I will agree with many points you made regarding organized religion. Too many churches and preachers are ego driven themselves....and want money to drive those egos. Absolutely shameful, in my book. As for the 'eye of the needle' philosophy, you can pick any position on anything, and find a justification somewhere in the Bible. I BELIEVE. But I also know the Bible as we know it was edited by men, with personal agendas, hand copied, translated across AT LEAST three languages, with the earliest version of the Gospels of Jesus' life being written AT LEAST 80 years after his death, with MANY contradictions. Not a recipe for an accurate transcription of God's word. I think a more appropriate rule, for money and anything else, is, "If you have to ask yourself if it's the right thing........it isn't."
CG - Cudos on your intellectual curiosity in researching who really wrote the Gospels. It is unknown! But they certainly weren't written by anyone that was an eye witness to the events presented... and as you stated, translated multiple times with many contradictions. Few people know that!
Quoting Hope:
There are many of us who "DO things" out of desperation because we've nowhere else to turn...
Absolutely true! If only people would remember this when they judge others and look down their superior noses at the 'others' of our society. The strippers, homeless, jobless, women on Medicaide, the uninsured....so many faced with desperate circumstances in this land of plenty. The empathy deficit seems uncommonly profound!
Love, you mean to tell me you have NEVER seen a woman fall in love with an ignorant ignoramus? I have. Now it may not be tolerated for ME, but I have seen people, both men and women fall in love with ignorant people. Lol.
My point is that people have the propensity to "fall in love" with whomever they allow their chemistry to attract. But I personally don't believe we should fall in love. I believe we should choose to love. I've seen ppl fall in love, by allowing pheromones to dictate who they have relationship with. But when we use our brains and choose wisely and consciously, I think that's different from simply falling.
Therefore, I see your point. Choose wisely. ;-) Do not choose an ignorant ignoramus. Lol. Got it. Good day to you, Love.
Love and Light, Kia
Quoting Conyersguy:
Mach, Good insights. That male ego IS a hindrance sometimes.
Finally Free, I agree with you, of course. However the psychologist in me says that anyone with a screen name of "finally free"........ isn't. If you're really free of that abuse, you have to let it go, and not taint the next guy with it.
And Sister, you have hit on some good threads of all wealth, not just women with wealth. I'll disagree with one thing you said. It is NOT just as easy to love a man who is not ignorant. If you are a thinking or caring woman, it is impossible to love an ignorant man. So the ignorant guy is really never an option. IMHO
And I will agree with many points you made regarding organized religion. Too many churches and preachers are ego driven themselves....and want money to drive those egos. Absolutely shameful, in my book. As for the 'eye of the needle' philosophy, you can pick any position on anything, and find a justification somewhere in the Bible. I BELIEVE. But I also know the Bible as we know it was edited by men, with personal agendas, hand copied, translated across AT LEAST three languages, with the earliest version of the Gospels of Jesus' life being written AT LEAST 80 years after his death, with MANY contradictions. Not a recipe for an accurate transcription of God's word. I think a more appropriate rule, for money and anything else, is, "If you have to ask yourself if it's the right thing........it isn't."
Regarding monetary wealth, in my personal opinion, it takes experience WITH it, and WITHOUT it, to really understand it.
I agree SO much that money is not the true measure of a person's wealth. I feel the wealthiest when I tuck my healthy children into bed,,, when I look around at a funeral and realize I am fortunate enough to be a part of a caring group of people,,, when I see my parents swell with pride at something one of their grandchildren has done,,, when I wake up with my arms around the woman I love.
I believe a truly rich woman feels the same way. What we're saying in this blog is she just happens to have some money, too.
-CG-
Quoting Conyersguy:
Mach, Good insights. That male ego IS a hindrance sometimes.
Finally Free, I agree with you, of course. However the psychologist in me says that anyone with a screen name of "finally free"........ isn't. If you're really free of that abuse, you have to let it go, and not taint the next guy with it.
And Sister, you have hit on some good threads of all wealth, not just women with wealth. I'll disagree with one thing you said. It is NOT just as easy to love a man who is not ignorant. If you are a thinking or caring woman, it is impossible to love an ignorant man. So the ignorant guy is really never an option. IMHO
And I will agree with many points you made regarding organized religion. Too many churches and preachers are ego driven themselves....and want money to drive those egos. Absolutely shameful, in my book. As for the 'eye of the needle' philosophy, you can pick any position on anything, and find a justification somewhere in the Bible. I BELIEVE. But I also know the Bible as we know it was edited by men, with personal agendas, hand copied, translated across AT LEAST three languages, with the earliest version of the Gospels of Jesus' life being written AT LEAST 80 years after his death, with MANY contradictions. Not a recipe for an accurate transcription of God's word. I think a more appropriate rule, for money and anything else, is, "If you have to ask yourself if it's the right thing........it isn't."
Regarding monetary wealth, in my personal opinion, it takes experience WITH it, and WITHOUT it, to really understand it.
I agree SO much that money is not the true measure of a person's wealth. I feel the wealthiest when I tuck my healthy children into bed,,, when I look around at a funeral and realize I am fortunate enough to be a part of a caring group of people,,, when I see my parents swell with pride at something one of their grandchildren has done,,, when I wake up with my arms around the woman I love.
I believe a truly rich woman feels the same way. What we're saying in this blog is she just happens to have some money, too.
-CG-
Thank you, Love, for responding!
Love, you mean to tell me you have NEVER seen a woman fall in love with an ignorant ignoramus? I have. Now it may not be tolerated for ME, but I have seen people, both men and women fall in love with ignorant people. Lol.
My point is that people have the propensity to "fall in love" with whomever they allow their chemistry to attract. But I personally don't believe we should fall in love. I believe we should choose to love. I've seen ppl fall in love, by allowing pheromones to dictate who they have relationship with. But when we use our brains and choose wisely and consciously, I think that's different from simply falling.
Therefore, I see your point. Choose wisely. ;-) Do not choose an ignorant ignoramus. Lol. Got it. Good day to you, Love.
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