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Posted on Sun, Jul 31, 2011 19:56

So many chat here and tell me..  "I have been hurt before"   "I don't want to be hurt again".   The heart is made to be hurt..  because it is a muscle.. it heals.  You miss so much not being open to hurt.. because you cant be afraid to get hurt and fall in love at the same time.  You just might miss the best person for you as you try to decide if you can come out of your cocoon and be in a relationship.   Its like you just bob along the surface of your feelings...

bobbing

down.. down.. lower and lower
into the depths of depression
of anquish..  of pain..
pushing myself to the limit
i realize my limit is even deeper

reveling in the self pity,
the remorse..  I test the
sanctity of my mind..  my soul..
my feelings..  my inner courage.

i reach a self imposed bottom
where i hesitate..  
drinking in the last tears

then i push upward..
like a struggling diver
returning through the depths
he so willingly passed thru

the pressure disapates
the light is less diffused.
breaking thru the surface
i devour the sweet air..
joy expands my lungs
heart fills with hope renewed

my hands reach skyward..
i pass through the surface.
flying free and high
into the rareified air of happiness..

to see how high i may fly..  
the envelope pushed

I have never reached my true depth..
nor found true happiness..
always capable of more..
but most...
         
    most       bob   long      sur
but      just      a      the      face..



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Posted on Tue, Apr 30, 2013 13:55

Yes praying is the best thing that one can do,God answers prayers.Thanks for the encouragement sister

Be blessed



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Posted on Wed, Sep 07, 2011 14:39

Interesting thread of comments. Nice to know that we are not alone in out hurt, just need to find ways to cope so we can move on. I love your poem, and the term "bobbing along"


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Posted on Wed, Sep 07, 2011 11:47

Good Morning cher2015? This is Evelyn7 and I hope and Pray that you find just who you desire in a Partner. But you must remember to Pray to God and ask him to Block all Negative People who would try to hurt you and ask god to strengthen your heart and to build you up to be what he called you to be, Strong and mighty, ask god for the man of your desire. Tell him exactly, Be very Pacific? Example: Father God grant unto me a Godly man who is humble,Loving,well build,healthy,whole,intelligent,adventurous, wealthy,etc. God did tell us all to ASK? So Please exercise your right! He Smiles at you and be happy when you do. Live,Love,Laugh and be happy. Evelyn7


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Posted on Wed, Aug 17, 2011 06:56

oh,i liked that very much i thought i was sailing alone.The worst thing i would accept again is getting hurt,though you never know when its gonna happen.i hope am going to get someone special,who will keep me smiling,and with whom am going to share my love with,love is real,it exists,if only we get the perfect match,and for that reason,i want to be freshly in love with a serious man...write me only if you are serious..good luck..

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Posted on Mon, Aug 15, 2011 07:53

Nice poem, Smax!!!  Lots of people cannot open up because of fear to being hurt over and over again.  Who are we to know who these people are really we are getting involve with until we have live with them.  But then people never learn from the past mistakes.  Making mistakes is part of life to help us grow more stronger.  And I would not stop from loving a man again if he comes along



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Posted on Sun, Aug 14, 2011 23:26

Quoting farshad911956:

i hurt very bad, i dont want to get hurt again, i need love, and real lady. to i give her for last time my heart and all the love in the world.


I am sorry for your pain...   I wish you all the luck in the world here...



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Posted on Sat, Aug 13, 2011 13:49

Oh so true, the heart need not close to life and experience, I think that the heart can learn to use the experiences to know that all relationships will fail us if we ask them to be our everything. The heart must know that a part of us will always be alone, accept that and go on in love, accepting what is offered as what is.

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Posted on Tue, Aug 09, 2011 18:57

Liked this very much....S


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Posted on Mon, Aug 08, 2011 20:45

walking in another's shoes...   thats what we should always do   thanks smilesong



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Posted on Mon, Aug 08, 2011 19:14

Agree... hurt is not a surface emotion. Nor should it be treated lightly.

It must be respected, revered and grieved, as well as understood before one can rise out of their ashes to live and love again. the 'fear' comes from those other people that have hurt us in the past and how deeply that hurt has penetrated that muscle (our hearts).

When we have been stabbed so thoughtlessly and callously by another unexpectedly, that is when we become so guarded.

Others need to be patient, understanding and try to remember if and when it happened to them.



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Posted on Mon, Aug 08, 2011 14:49

Thanks Yogisoul...   always great insights



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Posted on Mon, Aug 08, 2011 14:48

I'm glad it was "happily" said Paisley.



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Posted on Mon, Aug 08, 2011 07:36

I've got to comment now since this is the second time I have read this poem.......It is actuallly one I will have to save & share. The first time I got hurt I did just that & stayed "unavailable" for 6 years just staying busy with friends, church & raising my 2 boys before I took a chance again, but not this time......this time I am going to "devour the sweet air" & let my "heart fill with hope renewed".....I do know that one should stay open to be truly happy with family & friends anyway & they can STILL have the "joy expand the lungs" THAT way which is what I did do for 6 years. I still hold out hope that I can find what we all inately crave which is a true loving companion to share this life with......so, I think you have to also be prepared to enjoy this life even if you don't happen to find "it"......because the world just keeps turning.......that was "happily" said BTW!



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Posted on Mon, Aug 01, 2011 13:28

simply stunning imagery and beautiful poem.  thank you.

if you close the heart in response to the pain of lost love, you close the heart to the possibility of receiving love once again.  the heart is not just a muscle, but an energetic center that connects us to our soul and to our divine essence.  if we live with a closed heart, we cut off these connections as well and ultimately we find ourselves living a life of quiet desperation, in isolation from our own source.  this loss of connection to our own true nature, our own heart and the hearts of others, is ultimately the source of depression.



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