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Posted on Jul 29, 2011 at 07:46 PM

In one of my favorite movies the main character reveals the concept of using generosity to assist strangers in their lives. He calls this concept, “Pay it Forward” and he believes everyone should practice this concept with 3 strangers to make a dramatic change in the world. He believes the generosity must be a “really big” act the individual cannot do for themselves. The teacher makes recognition to the class on how “Paying it forward” requires a tremendous amount of faith in the goodness of people. Trevor’s first generous act was bringing a homeless, hungry stranger home, unbeknown to his mom, to feed and shower. He then allows this stranger to live in his garage and gives him his savings. The stranger, a needle junkie on the street, takes the money, gets new clothes and then finds a job. When the mother finds the man in her garage tinkering with her truck it is then the stranger reveals the nature of how he began his friendship in her son’s life.

I have been blessed with this type concept many times, sometimes by friends, other times by strangers. Regardless, when I think of those times, it always brings a smile to my face. I thought it might be nice to “share” any of our stories here that have impacted our lives in a positive manner. I believe when we throw enough “positive” around, some of it is bound to stick. I realize most “Christians” do not like the word karma, but I feel for the most part, whatever energy we put out there will come back to us, eventually. (boomerang effect.)

My daughters and I have always made it a routine to have “beauty day” together.  I would bring them to the beauty shop to be pampered when I had hair or nail appointments. My hair dresser would dye my hair and curl my daughters and paint our nails. There were times I would have to ask my girlfriend to “hold my check” until I had the money in the bank to cover it. It was too difficult to rebook appointments and she knew I was good for the money. Several years ago I called her inquiring about a check I had told her she could put through that had not cleared. The following is what she told me. “Oh that check? I thought I told you? One of my clients overheard you asking me to hold your check and she said she wanted to pay for you and the girl’s appointment. She also insisted on remaining anonymous, but she has been a client of mine for years, a very nice lady.” Tears came to my eyes. It was like being paid twice for me, as I was now not only debt free, but I also was $160 richer! I had the money eventually to pay for that appointment, but the stranger’s act of kindness always brings a smile to my face when recollecting and a warm feeling shadows deep inside. This woman was “paying it forward.” Oddly, Tracie became my hair dresser out of her and her mother’s “generosity” many years before. I was a waitress at the Country Club her mother was a member of. I waited on her mother and step-father often and her mother introduced us shortly after 9-11 . We hit it off immediately and the next thing I knew they were telling me how they wanted to do something nice for me. They decided to “make me beautiful” free of charge!  This was November 2001. A beautiful and loving friendship began that day while I served tea and coffee and someone decided I was worthy of having it “Paid forward.”

I have done things in my time to “Pay it Forward” so to speak. My acts may not be of the magnitude the little boy was meaning in the movie, but I believe any time we incite behaviors which induce positive reactions; we are releasing a more positive energy throughout the atmosphere. Studies have proven “positive things happen to positive people.” In the simplest ways we can affect someone’s life daily, even strangers. I have not been financially blessed where I can hand out money to people in financial need, but I have found different ways to “bless others”.  I’ve learned to take a moment to smile or laugh with someone or spend a few extra minutes and allow someone to go first in line or I allow someone to “squeeze in” during rush hour traffic. I compliment people, especially women, as I know many of us need reassurance. I've done lots of community charity events and worked in animal shelters, etc. Mostly, my time and effort is involved. I am the type person who will walk over to console a stranger when I see them crying. It’s the way I have always been, and quite possibly one of my favorite personality traits about me. Obviously, there are plenty of bad ones, but I try to focus on my positive side, as one day I hope it drowns out the negative!

I believe our lives are equivalent to beautiful paintings. If we try to view a painting from too close a proximity, we can’t see the picture for all it’s worth, therefore it loses its visual value. As we start to take steps back we can see the frame, the colors and shapes- and nothing is blurry anymore. Sometimes we are just too close to our own painting!  

As the little boy says at the end of the movie, “People can’t always see what they need.” I find this to be very true. Sometimes all we need is simple like someone who is willing to listen. People with open ears become like our angels. They have the warmest hearts giving us the softest place to land!

Thanks for listening! LOL….

And don’t forget to PAY IT FORWARD!! ;)


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Posted on Aug 16, 2011 at 06:11 PM

HI LADYSTARTUP!! Very nice to meet you... Yes, it can be an addictive feeling when we see our actions create such a smile on other people's faces! I think that is the most rewarding part...

I know I've been blessed in my time and hopefully in some way, shape or form... I have given a little something back!

HEYA RMAC...

Hope things are going well for you. Haven't had much time on here I am afraid.. And I do find it difficult to keep up with in so far as not being notified..

You know RMAC.... I certainy hope people read my "sincerity" and that I speak from my heart versus condoning my thoughts, as I truly speak from how I feel and what I have endured... Nothing I say do I ever state lightly...

Not certain what my stated criterion is these days either. but I have just decided to lay low and go with the flow... :)

HOPE EVERYONE WHO VISITS HERE HAS HAD A WONDERFUL DAY!! AND AN EVEN BETTER TOMORROW!!


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Posted on Aug 15, 2011 at 08:23 AM

Hoping -- Re your quote: " So no one has "hooked up" and stayed hooked? Hmm... Okay, well perhaps it isn't such a bad thing then that I write about the "real me" like I do.. Apparently I wouldn't find a spouse if I lied either! :) " You have talked around it completely enough that I doubt you need to worry. At least a few of us would not be afraid of you. By the way, this is not a come on. I know I am way outside your stated criterion. rmac

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Posted on Aug 13, 2011 at 01:34 PM

I also love the Movie 'Pay it Forward". I have it on CD. It is something I try to do in my life, whenever I can. Thing about it is, it can get addictive cause it makes a person feel good. Such an addiction!

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Posted on Aug 12, 2011 at 10:27 AM

So no one has "hooked up" and stayed hooked? Hmm... Okay, well perhaps it isn't such a bad thing then that I write about the "real me" like I do.. Apparently I wouldn't find a spouse if I lied either! :)

 

 

 

These blogs are boring me Pat.. There doesn't appear to be many who post profund statements or ideas.. And then I never know if someone has posted a response to anything! I just saw NGL21011 posted on another blog of mine...

 

 

 

This truly is not the best format they have here for bloggers.. :(

 

 

 

Ho Hum... Looks like I may be headed to Charlotte area next week .. Atlanta hasn't been much for me.. and I have run out of places to stay.... I am from FLORIDA!) Working offshore was sooooo much FUN... but you know.. That "event" over past year made my life very unstable...  and CHAOTIC!! BUT DID I EVER HAVE FUN!! Ahhhh... Raoming Princess really needs to PARK IT .. and be NORMAL for a while!! WISH ME LUCK!! And if anyone prays on here.. Pray for me.. HE knows who I am!! TRUST ME!! HE and I have "tangoed"... Yes, I LOST!! :)

 

I took this pic while underway 54' up on the mast!! Kind of a dare-devil... BUT I WON'T BUNGEE! Them's crazy people!! I do miss being offshore though.. but somehow.. putting a Princess on a boat locked up with men never seems to work out very well... GO FIGURE!! NOTHING BEATS THE BEAUTY OF BEING OFFSHORE WITH NOTHING BUT THE WATER SURROUNDING YOU... It's absolutely mesmorizing!!

 

 


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Posted on Aug 10, 2011 at 06:15 PM

Quoting Hoping4Love2000:

HI CURIOUS/PAT.. right? and RMAC...

I have read your posts often.. Welcome to myy thoughts.. Always a pleasure to meet new people...  Although Pat.. I see you have 1435 posts.. When I saw that I was astrounded.. Guess you have been here for quite some time! I'm sure you've seen a lot of ppl come and go.. Know anyne w/ "LOVE" success from here?

RMAC... I wonder at times if I do "enough" as well... and that is usually about the time "guilt" sits at my table and I end up doing something nice I'm not really in mood to do.. but after I complete the tasks.. I always feel so much better! IE: When I got to WalMart and the cashier does not seem to be in very "up" mood.. I will compliment her and smile and crack a joke and get the person behind me involved and next thing.. we are all laughing... LAUGHTER IS CONTAGIOUS!! I know it may sound a stupid little thing... but I am AMAZED watching people's faces light up.

So even if all I have is a smile to pass the buck... I know it may only be a little thing.. but sometimes it's the little things in life that make the biggest difference to us most.. :)



Very quickly--no, I don't know anyone on here who has hooked up successfully for a long term relationship. But I know quite a few of us have made very good friends we keep in touch with over the long term. BTW, I'm shocked! I've had 1435 Posts??? When the heck did I find the time for that????? LMAO

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Posted on Jul 31, 2011 at 03:27 PM

AND YOU DID AN EXCELLENT JOB IN EXPRESSING RMAC!!

 

I think this is what I I was trying to convey.. Life is not necessarily "always like in the movies." Movies tend to make their points very "dramatized" or "pronounced" for what is going on... but yes... it is amazing how something so simple as having someone change a tire can impact our lives. That man saw you were in pain... and made the DECISION to help you.. and YES.. it is a DECISION many people may walk away from...

 

On most days.. good or bad.. I choose not to walk away from others in need. I have, out of safety, curtailed some things. I do not pick up people walking on streets or highways anymore...(Yes.. I used to.. my friends won that battle....)

 

However.. there was a man at McDonalds the other day.. He had a sign for "work needed." I could not help him, unemployed myself.. I told him.. "I cannot give you a job.. but if you are hungry, come let me get you something to eat." He offered thanks and said someone had just fed him. The man was obviously homeless.. I did not offer for him to stay with me, as I said.. (we have to keep safety in mind.. ) But I felt good I offered what I could.. and actually, felt even BETTER that someone had seen him first and beat me to the punch! :)

 

Then days later.. PAY IT FORWARD comes on the telly! I thik everyone should be strapped down and forced to watch that movie.... Then if we can't see their hearts. we should just line um up and shoot um! Bwahahahaha!! J/K.. I know.. MY BAD.. but hey! IN MY DEFENSE.. It's MY thread and MY dry humor! :)


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Posted on Jul 30, 2011 at 03:38 PM

HI CURIOUS/PAT.. right? and RMAC...

I have read your posts often.. Welcome to myy thoughts.. Always a pleasure to meet new people...  Although Pat.. I see you have 1435 posts.. When I saw that I was astrounded.. Guess you have been here for quite some time! I'm sure you've seen a lot of ppl come and go.. Know anyne w/ "LOVE" success from here?

RMAC... I wonder at times if I do "enough" as well... and that is usually about the time "guilt" sits at my table and I end up doing something nice I'm not really in mood to do.. but after I complete the tasks.. I always feel so much better! IE: When I got to WalMart and the cashier does not seem to be in very "up" mood.. I will compliment her and smile and crack a joke and get the person behind me involved and next thing.. we are all laughing... LAUGHTER IS CONTAGIOUS!! I know it may sound a stupid little thing... but I am AMAZED watching people's faces light up.

So even if all I have is a smile to pass the buck... I know it may only be a little thing.. but sometimes it's the little things in life that make the biggest difference to us most.. :)


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Posted on Jul 30, 2011 at 09:38 AM

You asked for shared stories – so here goes. I agree, small things also count. It makes both the giver and the receiver feel good. I once had a flat tire a few days after suffering a severe injury. Essentially all my stomach muscles were barely attached. I was told by my physician to not cough, sneeze, or lift anything for six months to allow them to reattach. Struggling to change the tire, I was getting nowhere when a man in a huge truck stopped and changed the tire for me. I tried to explain and he simply said, “I could see you were in pain,” I offered to pay him and he simply said, “Next time you see someone who needs help, help them.” It may have been a small thing for him. For me it was huge. Going forward, I have changed a lot of tires. This sort of thing was common where I grew up. Farmers would pull you out of a mud hole on the back country roads and if you offered to pay them they always said something like, “You will be called on to help someone else someday.” A variant went something like, “I may need help myself someday.” They would help you, even if it was the middle of the night and pouring down rain, as I have had the misfortune of finding out first hand. Actually, I am using way too many words. These folks, including my truck driver, didn’t say much. Pretty quiet mostly. I am doing my best to capture the spirit of what they did say. . rmac

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Posted on Jul 29, 2011 at 09:13 PM

I don't know. A lot of folks have stepped forward and helped me. I in turn have tried to pass it on. Still working on it. rmac

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Posted on Jul 29, 2011 at 08:07 PM

Pay it forward indeed.

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