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sculptnudes1
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Posted on Tue, Mar 15, 2011 09:31

There are a lot of ways to make contact with the women that interest you. Wink, e-mail, Live Chat, Post a Comment on the profile for the woman you want to meet... I have received all forms of contact. and I have not been ABLE to respond because of the form of contact. 1-women with free profiles CANNOT initiate an e-mail. 2-even if you send a wink, we cannot respond if you have your account settings such that you are hidden, or not accepting winks. 3-if you are a paid member it would be best to send an e-mail and NOT a wink. Women with free profiles can respond to you in a return e-mail...and guess what- you get to say more about why you liked her profile, or what you think you have in common, etc. in an e-mail than a wink. 4-If you log in to LIVE Chat the list of members logged-in is on the right. a member can initiate a private chat with the woman they would like to talk to by clicking on her profile and starting a conversation. 5-you can post a comment on a woman's profile- tell her what you liked about the way she looks or what she said in her profile and invite her to look for you in Live Chat. About the Lobby- I have found that the lobby is generally attended by an established clique of members who have formed a support group, of sorts. Most of them are really more interested in a group encounter with their cronies than they are in meeting new people. so- when you see a woman on a profile through your general search, e-mail her, or comment on her profile, or invite her to a private chat. be sure she knows how to chat because you can only comment once every few days, and if she is not clear how to do it you probably will miss your opportunity. AND MOST IMPORTANT- Check you settings to make sure you are not filtering out possible ways to find you or respond! We may not be as snobby as you think...we just may not be ABLE to let you know we are interested!

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Posted on Mon, May 16, 2011 02:33

Some good advice as a newbie to these kind of sites ty!


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Posted on Sat, Mar 26, 2011 07:24

Quoting Ekaterina35:

Great point, CG! Men are hunters: if they really want something, they get it :)

E and CG,

 

Glad to see my question about feebies sparked some back and forth -- we haven't had much of that for awhile.

 

Check, if men really want something, they get it -- and I've noticed that the same is true of women.  Techniques may be different, however, generally speaking we're all thinking about how we can get what we want.

 

Granted, women are far more virtuous than me and generally think of others rather than themselves.  Yet this is supposed to be a website for successful people seeking to meet other successful people.  Seems to me that women could upgrade every few months to answer winks and emails.

 

Roger the cost-benefit analysis, E.  What I'm understanding is that the men and possibilities on this site are worth something as long as someone else is paying.  Given the culture, intelligence, grace, style and lovliness that women offer us of the less complicated gender, I see your point: we are honored to pay for the privilege of your company.

 

What's this halfway, 50-50 stuff Michael mentioned.  Partnership?  More pleasure for lower cost -- That's what it's all about.  Sharing, honoring, going the extra mile -- those have gone the way of the handwritten letter.  Who would prefer a card written, addressed and personally sealed by the sender when we just read a text.  Got it!



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Posted on Thu, Mar 24, 2011 16:51

I've never winked once.  I figure I may as well write if I'm interested.  Most women don't write back.  I figure they wouldn't respond if I winked anyway.  If somebody is interested in you they will connect.  Otherwise, I assume they aren't interested.



**My top strength is"learning." So, my blogs are learning-focused. ~Orlando

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Posted on Tue, Mar 22, 2011 05:39

If the maximum number of winks has been reached, open their profile and add a 'comment'. Tell them you were not able to wink, and ask them to e-mail you if they are interested. This often happens when a new member opens an account. Long term site users have seen most the the profiles that have been posted for a long time- they have exhausted the possibilities by process of elimiination, so a new member will get lots of attention at first... Or, better yet, in your comment, tell them why you liked their profile, invite them to look at yours & offer the opportunity to find you in Live Chat if they see you online. When I am on the site, if I am not too busy working, I am usually logged in to Chat. If someone is contacting you an orange tab will flash inviting you to respond.


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Posted on Tue, Mar 22, 2011 05:13

There is one sure way to know if a person of interest can respond if you make initial contact.Their profile will say (recommended). If that does not appear, they can only respond to emails, not winks. Also...if your profile is so generic that you appear uninteresting, even (recommended) members probably won't reply. It is even less likely you will get a response if you don't provide a photo. I always presume the No Photo profiles to be suspect, and with little or nothing of interest in the profile I would probably not respond. I suspect their are many like me.


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Posted on Sat, Mar 19, 2011 10:28

When I was a full paying member I got winks from gorgeous young women in Eastern Europe. Now that I downgrded I get emails from women who might be a fit and who are full paying menmbers. Go figure. LOL....


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Posted on Sat, Mar 19, 2011 09:33

Quoting Conyersguy:

Migs, I think women believe that we men WILL pursue something or someone of interest to us. :):) And I gotta say they are correct in my case, at least. :) -CG-


Great point, CG! Men are hunters: if they really want something, they get it :)


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Posted on Fri, Mar 18, 2011 20:52

Quoting migliore:

Why do women so often look to get something for free?  What's up with the free profiles?



Dear Migliore, As a standard member at the moment, I can say that it is not that we (at least, some of us) want to get something for free, but that there is absolutely no reason to maintain a full membership here, as there are practically zero new members, and we have already met/exchanged phone numbers with the current members of interest. The site is somewhat better than others, so we keep hoping that the new members would appear, and paying membership would make sense. Like pretty much everything in life it comes down to cost-benefit analysis.


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Posted on Fri, Mar 18, 2011 18:46

Very true and very well-written.



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migliore
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Posted on Thu, Mar 17, 2011 16:59

Why do women so often look to get something for free?  What's up with the free profiles?



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Posted on Thu, Mar 17, 2011 09:16

Well said conyers! Sarah :-)


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