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Posted on Mon, Dec 06, 2010 17:40

After spending a little time here, well really alot off and on,, I'm still trying to figure out how all this works. (I have been accused of being slow, so bear with me) I often sit here, looking at profiles, sending emails, answering emails,, you all know the dance,, right ?

I'm confused as to how this site works. I know it's supposed to be easy, you know, email, chat, meet, see if there's any chemistry etc..

So my question to you all is,, what is the thing that happens here or any dating site that makes you confused or makes you say "Huh" what the heck is going on ! or what the heck happened.

 

I'm interested to find out if your possibly in the dark like me !  ;)



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Posted on Sat, Oct 22, 2011 03:08

I'm believe  when you can start a lifetime relationship that can build Love & Trust and of course marriage. I believe we (all of us in the World) are meant to be with a special person and God will bring us together.


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Posted on Tue, Dec 28, 2010 21:32

Quoting NGL2011:

Pat,

Thanks i appreciate what you've said..I flattered that you would write such nice things about me.

 I will not delete your comment about me, especially when it's True !  LOL  You are right, I'm not the most excitng character in the world, I can be a heck of alot of fun, but it's going to be very sutle and low keyed. I didn't all the wild stuff in my 20's,, been there done that,, so to speak. but if anyone wants to go out have a few drinks, laugh and dance like crazy,, then I'm your guy. That being said though, I'm not flashy in any way shape or form,, I don't wear fancy clothes or drive fancy cars,, all my things are very nice,, but again,, low key, fly under the radar !  LOL  and i think guys like me,,don't get alot of attention for the exact reasons you stated.

 

The one thing I can tell you though, a woman who is my partner, lover etc,, will never have to worry about being cheated on, disrespected or treated poorly in any way and I don't think that gets enough attention either,, women say they want guys like me who they can trust,, but they go for the flashy guy instead and as you say,, cry way to much about the way he treats them,, kinda funny. Character seems to not be part of the decision making process, until they get crapped on ! 

 

Pat, I wish you the very best over this holiday season and all through out the year,, again thanks !

 

oh yeh, by the way,, what happens if we meet, golf, and she beats me ?   ;)

 



First I've seen this, I must have been under that dang mushroom again....LOL!

 

I have been golfing for about 3 years, and none of it full-time as I live in Canada.....so I only play against myself......even when I have company.   A friend of mine once said good golfers are not required....but fun ones are!  I am however, going to take some lessons in the spring, so I can at least stop embarassing myself and my golf partners....LMAO!

 

So in light of this information Ray......no worries.....now stop procrastinating!.....LOL!



"The best way to predict the future....Is to create it."

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Posted on Sun, Dec 19, 2010 21:48

Quoting NGL2011:

Pat,

Thanks i appreciate what you've said..I flattered that you would write such nice things about me.

 I will not delete your comment about me, especially when it's True !  LOL  You are right, I'm not the most excitng character in the world, I can be a heck of alot of fun, but it's going to be very sutle and low keyed. I didn't all the wild stuff in my 20's,, been there done that,, so to speak. but if anyone wants to go out have a few drinks, laugh and dance like crazy,, then I'm your guy. That being said though, I'm not flashy in any way shape or form,, I don't wear fancy clothes or drive fancy cars,, all my things are very nice,, but again,, low key, fly under the radar !  LOL  and i think guys like me,,don't get alot of attention for the exact reasons you stated.

 

The one thing I can tell you though, a woman who is my partner, lover etc,, will never have to worry about being cheated on, disrespected or treated poorly in any way and I don't think that gets enough attention either,, women say they want guys like me who they can trust,, but they go for the flashy guy instead and as you say,, cry way to much about the way he treats them,, kinda funny. Character seems to not be part of the decision making process, until they get crapped on ! 

 

Pat, I wish you the very best over this holiday season and all through out the year,, again thanks !

 

oh yeh, by the way,, what happens if we meet, golf, and she beats me ?   ;)

 



If she beats you, I guess that means you would need to put in some extra practice before the next time.


The reward of a thing well done is to have done it. Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Posted on Sun, Dec 19, 2010 19:11

Quoting luckylover2000:

i have a different way of looking at it....everyone else is in the dark. One thing at a time (well maybe couple more) and one day at a time it all comes together...lol


Lucky,,

 

I hope your right !  ;)



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Posted on Sun, Dec 19, 2010 19:08

Quoting Curious2078:

Just have to comment on this one, Ray. How very true that you are NEVER mean-spirited or nasty in any way. I've been here long enough to know that for sure. In fact, folks, Ray is just about the nicest, sweetest guy around here--without being a dork or a nerd or any other negative kind of male critter. Just saying. Just saying because I'd love to see him make a great love connection. Which brings me back to the start of this blog, more or less. I think when it comes to internet dating, most of us are clueless/scared to death/looking for ideals that don't exist anywhere on this planet. It seems that when we go on an internet dating site we automatically think we've found the way to find that super-duper, ideal mate because the whole world, literally, has opened up to us, and now we're bound to find that most perfect creature. What's more--and I surely hope you won't be angry at me for this, Ray. If you are, just delete this comment--what's more, I'm willing to bet that a majority of the women who have turned Ray down have done so because they thought he wasn't exciting enough. A week, a month later, they met some exciting bozo in a bar somewhere, one of those "dangerous" men who seem so exciting at first, they went out with him once or twice, got their heart broken in a million pieces for one reason or another, and went home and wept salty tears while praying to God He would send them a decent, sweet, kind-hearted, intelligent man to love--and never once recalled that they'd rejected that very man on MM because he seemed too "nice." That, then, is my spiel. A very Merry Christmas to you, Ray--and most especially to Arizona as well. If you and she don't make a golf date for sometime in the near future, you both deserve a good clobbering with A nine iron!


Pat,

Thanks i appreciate what you've said..I flattered that you would write such nice things about me.

 I will not delete your comment about me, especially when it's True !  LOL  You are right, I'm not the most excitng character in the world, I can be a heck of alot of fun, but it's going to be very sutle and low keyed. I didn't all the wild stuff in my 20's,, been there done that,, so to speak. but if anyone wants to go out have a few drinks, laugh and dance like crazy,, then I'm your guy. That being said though, I'm not flashy in any way shape or form,, I don't wear fancy clothes or drive fancy cars,, all my things are very nice,, but again,, low key, fly under the radar !  LOL  and i think guys like me,,don't get alot of attention for the exact reasons you stated.

 

The one thing I can tell you though, a woman who is my partner, lover etc,, will never have to worry about being cheated on, disrespected or treated poorly in any way and I don't think that gets enough attention either,, women say they want guys like me who they can trust,, but they go for the flashy guy instead and as you say,, cry way to much about the way he treats them,, kinda funny. Character seems to not be part of the decision making process, until they get crapped on ! 

 

Pat, I wish you the very best over this holiday season and all through out the year,, again thanks !

 

oh yeh, by the way,, what happens if we meet, golf, and she beats me ?   ;)

 



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Posted on Sun, Dec 19, 2010 15:59

Quoting NGL2011:

Arizona,

 

 

 

I completely understand both you and Pat. don't you find it even a little bit interesting why that is ?

 

But, just so you understand it goes both ways. 99% of the women I send emails to whether it be an introduction or just a very pleasant compliment that I read their profile and it sounds very nice or that their pictures are beautiful,,happy birthday if it's that little cake on their profile,, whatever it may be,, you have known me long enough to know, I'm never mean spirited or nasty in anyway,, and I get pretty much nada, zip zero replies. I find that interesting ? Most don't even take the time to say, Thanks ! again, interesting to me,, wonder why ?

 

But I'm still having fun here   !  :)



Just have to comment on this one, Ray. How very true that you are NEVER mean-spirited or nasty in any way. I've been here long enough to know that for sure. In fact, folks, Ray is just about the nicest, sweetest guy around here--without being a dork or a nerd or any other negative kind of male critter. Just saying. Just saying because I'd love to see him make a great love connection. Which brings me back to the start of this blog, more or less. I think when it comes to internet dating, most of us are clueless/scared to death/looking for ideals that don't exist anywhere on this planet. It seems that when we go on an internet dating site we automatically think we've found the way to find that super-duper, ideal mate because the whole world, literally, has opened up to us, and now we're bound to find that most perfect creature. What's more--and I surely hope you won't be angry at me for this, Ray. If you are, just delete this comment--what's more, I'm willing to bet that a majority of the women who have turned Ray down have done so because they thought he wasn't exciting enough. A week, a month later, they met some exciting bozo in a bar somewhere, one of those "dangerous" men who seem so exciting at first, they went out with him once or twice, got their heart broken in a million pieces for one reason or another, and went home and wept salty tears while praying to God He would send them a decent, sweet, kind-hearted, intelligent man to love--and never once recalled that they'd rejected that very man on MM because he seemed too "nice." That, then, is my spiel. A very Merry Christmas to you, Ray--and most especially to Arizona as well. If you and she don't make a golf date for sometime in the near future, you both deserve a good clobbering with A nine iron!


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Posted on Sun, Dec 19, 2010 15:33

Quoting Arizona53:

OK, meet me in Florida, we'll can golf there all year round....LOL!



Now that sounds like a great idea. Even if you don't want to move to Fla permanently, Ray, I really do think you and Arizona should set up a mini-vacation together for a few rounds of golf down there where the golf courses are open year-round. Separate accomodations. IT'S A GOLF DATE!!!! You two could have a blast. And if either of you, Ray or Arizona, think I'm being a buttinsky--tough you know whats! Once a gal hits 65, she's officially licensed to say whatever the heck she wants to no matter how much buttinskyism is involved. LOLOLOLOL


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Posted on Thu, Dec 16, 2010 10:19

Quoting GentlyWoman:

ok, to be fair, in the SF Bay area, I do have to ask if he's gay, lol. I appreciate your open and honest conversation....always have, Ray, you should never be scared of that, it's one thing we women can't get enough of! My comment about "too much information making us experts" is referring to the thousands of profiles we see and how, as in the case of the woman you met in the bar, we think we can tell what a person is like with a quick glance over a few choice photos and careful paragraphs. I mean, this woman thought she would do herself a favor and ignore you, until the day she met you and realized she was probably wrong. If she had met you first, in real life, maybe you'd have that second date, but instead, on the internet, you were stacked on a five by five grid like tic tac toe. Speaking for myself, I only win THAT game about half the time. Migs and Timber seem to have the right idea...if you have the time and energy, why not just MEET? You won't know much about a person until those first few minutes, which often speak VOLUMES. The rest is just sales-pitch.


Eva, Missed this one too.

 

I agree Migs and Timber have the right idea of meeting in real life that is really the only way to see if there is a connection at all. I also think that even thought there is that first attraction, you need to spend time together to find out the other issues that I know for sure you and I both want in a relationship, even though I will probably never like going to the DMV  ;)

 

I'm running things through my mind about whether we (people on the Internet) dismiss people to quickly ? I mean my Mom and Dad, were Married for 58 years before my Dad passed,, and can tell you,

I heard Norman (my Dad) your driving me nuts about 10,000 times.   LOL

 



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Posted on Thu, Dec 16, 2010 08:40

Quoting Timberoo:

Sweets...you missed the point, YES of course I agree with you, that all humans should be, "Clean teeth, fresh breath, integrity, and fresh clean smell"  So "quick" to put your stamp on my comment...My point was that Arizona wants NLG and is there for the taking(what he wants AND COMPLAINS ABOUT NOT HAPPENING!)  I just reminded him, in jest, like you stated, correctly, to be on his best behavior and well kempt, SO it works out!!  It's a shame so many of you women are so eager to correct, put down, act superior, pick apart words, be difficult, belittle other's good heartedness, miss the point and get aggresive with your comments, et all.  Did you notice the LOL? in my post?????  Now go away, yur not my type...SERIOUSLY!

 

OH, maybe Arizona, is just, a sweetermystery and just beat ya to the punch....hehe....does anyone want one of these? ...YES, LOL....



Timberoo, My comment was not meant as an attack and I am sorry that it sounded that way.


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Posted on Thu, Dec 16, 2010 06:22

i have a different way of looking at it....everyone else is in the dark. One thing at a time (well maybe couple more) and one day at a time it all comes together...lol


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Posted on Wed, Dec 15, 2010 18:31

Quoting Arizona53:

Who ya nailin'......Eeevvvvaaa!.....LMAO



I don't think Eva's the type to kiss and tell !   ;)



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Posted on Mon, Dec 13, 2010 20:46

Quoting GentlyWoman:

I'm all for "nailing it" as often as possible...lmao


Who ya nailin'......Eeevvvvaaa!.....LMAO



"The best way to predict the future....Is to create it."

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Posted on Mon, Dec 13, 2010 17:29

Quoting GentlyWoman:

Funny! I've always felt that real life, and particularly internet messsaging, lacks the epic mood music of great movies. Even in the bad ones, you can always tell by the music when the bad-guy is around the corner. Can you imagine how much more effective typing would be if there was a soundtrack?


Haha! You're right! That would be perfect!


The reward of a thing well done is to have done it. Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Posted on Mon, Dec 13, 2010 04:23

Quoting Arizona53:

Jeez can't get away with anything these days......I have to work on my flirting!



Oh AZ! No, if memory serves, you got game!


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Posted on Mon, Dec 13, 2010 03:10

Quoting NGL2011:

Eva,

I can always count on you. you have once again nailed it. " when considering love ever after. what isn't ok for me is the callous way we behave to one another, considering that we all humans, most of us, seek the same things." That is exactly how I feel. I say it all the time, in my personal and professional life, "from one human being to another, how could you treat someone that way or talk to them that way" I think in someways we have lost alot of compassion in our lives.




I'm all for "nailing it" as often as possible...lmao


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Posted on Mon, Dec 13, 2010 03:03

Quoting SweetMystarry:

GentlyWoman, Yes, I did read the blog. This issue is one that I feel is a reflection of what we see in our "real" lives. Common courtesies don't seem to be quite so common anymore. This venue creates a fertile ground for such behavior and perpetuates it. IMHO, we are much less likely to be rude, condescending, hurtful, etc. if we are witness to the results of those words and actions. Online, we can remain totally anonymous and oblivious to any pain. Sometimes, we cause that pain simply by being unclear or abrupt. Since we are not witness to the reaction of the other party, we may not realize that we were misunderstood. It takes much more effort to make ourselves clearly understood when we have only words printed on a screen. Perhaps it is laziness. I often get emails with the subject “Hi”. The message? “Hi”. Ah, well, I am still here and trying.


Funny! I've always felt that real life, and particularly internet messsaging, lacks the epic mood music of great movies. Even in the bad ones, you can always tell by the music when the bad-guy is around the corner. Can you imagine how much more effective typing would be if there was a soundtrack?


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Posted on Sun, Dec 12, 2010 06:09

Quoting lee661910:

age is not a number .its how u carry yourself with class .buity comes within u young old it does not matter, .also i believe in humor .and to tell jokes, laughter is great so no matter what we tend to joke and to know class is important and other people tend to take things the wrong way .it all depends on the person for me im easy going and being yourself is buitiful and sense of humor is ok but also know that people .women esspecially are all flowers ,so class is important and respect too,


Lee,

 

I'm beginning to agree with you. A very wise woman from this site said to me, (I can't remember exactly the words) something like this, why do you put a restriction on age,, your soul mate might be a women in her 30's,, you never know, don't you think it's possible ! Now when this woman talks to me I listen very closely to her words. So since that conversation I have been thinking about it,, I have not come to any conclusion.

 

As to all women being Flowers, for the most part I agree with you, but we've all found a few thorns. How you handle the flower after that is the real test.



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Posted on Sun, Dec 12, 2010 06:01

Quoting Curious2078:

God, this LOOKS scary.


Pat,

 

come on,, out with it,, whats your thoughts ?



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Posted on Sun, Dec 12, 2010 06:00

Quoting SweetMystarry:

NGL, Thank you for the welcome, although I must admit I have been here before, back when you were using the longer version of NGL I believe.


Sweet,

Yes, there was a longer version of NGL but everyone always responded with NGL, so I thought, since I want to shake things up a little bit now. (for me personally) I would shorten it and add 2011, because I believe in my soul,, this is going to be a great year for me both personally and professionally.

 

I can't wait to get started, but won't rush  things long.  :)



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