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Posted on Jul 11, 2010 at 07:30 AM

The past 3 months have been a microcosim of my experiences here.  I have met or talked to 3 women who all said "I can't find the right man for me."  I think women are looking for a man who can fit perfectly into their lives and not disrupt their habits or lifestyles. Esp NYC women who think the Hudson River is the end of the known Universe.  Every NYC woman I have chatted with if I ask them "which and the city woman are you" can tell me who their role model is.  Get over it!!   Its a TV show..   not real life!  They also think dating anyone outside of the 5 borroughs is a long distance relationship.  If you think these are isolated incidents..  theyre not.  Theyre very representative of my on line experience

Prospect 1  She contacted me.  She was from NYC.  We spoke for two weeks every day for hours.  I drove 3.5 hours to NYC to meet her for dinner.  We spent 5 hours together talking.  It was wonderful.  The next day she says "We can't see each other any more.   You're the type of person I could fall in love with and you live 3 hours away and I want to stay in NYC."  Now she had already told me she couldnt afford to stay in NYC any more and hadnt had a good connection with a man in years.  I said I would move to NYC if it came to that but would have to travel for my job.  "No.. I want my husband home every night"  "What if I get a job in NYC and then get transfered..  you would leave me?  "No..  I would go with my husband.  thats why I don't want to get started with you because we might end up upstate".  We still chat now and then but I havent gone back out with her.

Prospect 2   We chatted for 2 months and decided to meet. She said she hadnt had a date in 5 months and was tired of all the games men played. "I will fly there" I said.  "No, I want to meet at the ocean..  Tampa.  I have a tight schedule so I have to leave after 9 on friday morning and be back by 2 on Monday and I want to fly out of my local airport which is 15 minutes away.  I have a tight budget so you have to pay for all of this"  I checked the flghts..  It was 14 hours of travel time one way from that cow pasture airport.  She had major airports 2 hours away..  but she insisted only her local one.  I told her that it wasnt possible because of the timing.  She said "Well check other Forida locations and California then get back to me"  I responded "I'm not a travel agent, its your airport let me know where you can go from it to the ocean"  She texted me "If you have that attitude..  forget it!"  I have forgotten it.

Prospect 3  We chatted on line on thursday.   She told me how it has been impossible with her schedule to meet men in NYC.  I said I would try to meet her.  She said "But you're so far away" I said I could handle it.. lets try.  She said ok.  She said she had friday afternoon til sunday morning off.  I said lets get together on Friday next week.  The next day (friday night) she texts me and asks me to come see her the next day(Saturday)..  I say I told you I have already made family plans (my sister is in from Florida and staying with me) but we're still on for next weekend.   She was upset.  We spoke saturday afternoon and she said come pick her up after work at 8 on sunday night and take her to a movie.  I said my sister leaves Monday morning..  we're having a going away BBQ Sunday but we're still on for next weekend.  She said "Forget it"  and I have.


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Posted on Apr 18, 2015 at 06:10 PM

Your blog posts are very interesting. You experience the same thing all of us experience  here I think. One sided. And one sided only never works. It takes two people always. Any woman who insists you pay to meet her, unless you just really want to visit the area she lives, is not worth your time. You are a classy man. You need a classy woman. Don't  settle for less than that. When a woman puts herself out there making general comments to portray a persona that she thinks will catch her a man who will support  her you will always know if she tells you to pay for it, that she is not really looking for love. I feel sorry for those women. They do not know what real love is. When a woman thinks someone is offering love but can't afford a ticket she will take the extra time off and hitchhike across the county to get it. This entire internet, long distance thing is difficult  to saythe least.


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Posted on Jul 24, 2011 at 10:34 AM

SMAXX117... HAVE YOU HAD ANY BETTER LUCK SINCE YOU POSTED THIS?

 

 

 

Bachelorette #1- She was an easy read.. Max.. she wasn't into you.. bottom line.. A woman will do anything if she loves a man and you certainlyy had enough time to establish a friendship... Had she been "into you" .. it would have been great. She was trying to let you down without hurting your feelings.. The "spark" wasn't there for her.

 

 

 

Bachelorette #2 A Wanted a vacation? B. wanted a sugar daddie or C. wanted BOTH. The correct answer is C.. wanted BOTH... Nothing wrong with that.. but MAX.. learn to read women better! When a woman wants you to fly her to a vacation spot when you haven't even met, yada yada.. and she says YOU must pay for it all... She is investing NOTHING to meet you and felt getting a vacation would make it worth while... You would get treated better by a true sugar babie.. LOL

 

 

 

Bachelorette #3 Was just spoiled and selfish and hopefully you have learned your most important lesson here...

 

 

 

IF A WOMAN HAS NOTHING INVESTED IN MEETING YOU... SHE JUST ISN'T THAT INTO YOU...

 

 

 

LANEGRITA.. (HEY PRETTY LADY!!) and BILLZEKE summed it up best...

 

 

 

CHANGE whatever you were doing,, and if 2 people share the same desire to meet. they will find a way.. If one is not invested... doesn't matter if they are your next door neighbor... They ain't walkin over to ring your bell! :)

 

 

 

CURIOUS/PAT funny 'bout the bagels.. SEND SOME TO ATLANTA PEOPLE!! :)


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Posted on Jul 24, 2011 at 01:50 AM

Hi smax.. 

Really those woman are spoiled rotten.. i hope they know what they are missing out off.., think you are a great guy ., and have i been a bit more your age or you mine i would look you up:-D 

But..,, hope we can be friends., you are a very kind sweet man .. i hope for you you find the sweetest woman that can make your heart go BOOM ... 


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Posted on Jun 04, 2011 at 06:21 AM

us florida girls love to travel, reguardless of the distance ;) especially if its to NYC to see a Yankees/Red Sox game!!!

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Posted on Mar 10, 2011 at 09:50 PM

You my dear are a good read.

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Posted on Dec 28, 2010 at 08:48 PM

Your stories are interesting and its unfortunate you had experiences with women that aren't willing to take go that extra mile. 

Your poetry is awesome.  Im sure you have an incredible selection of your writings.

Good Luck


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Posted on Aug 21, 2010 at 08:42 AM

When two people really want to see each other; they usually find a way. When it's only one who really cares you can both live on the same block and  still never find a suitable situation. It's not a matter of location. It's a matter of interest and desire...


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Posted on Jul 15, 2010 at 01:06 PM

CAN'T HELP THEM THERE NOT IN YA BOOK LOL COVER THE NEWS N LIVE IT WELL HOPE ALL THE HASSLE LET U KNOW NO ONE LIKE BEING PUT ON SCHEDULE I THINK WOMEN ARE BUSY NOT ENOUGH TIME TO PLEASE THIER LIFE STRUGGLING WITH LIVING IT WELL

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Posted on Jul 13, 2010 at 05:06 PM

SMax, "It must be a dream" Poem was writing by you?. "Noone was there this morning. Anyone else have this dream? Anyone else miss this feeling?" Wowoo..TO which one of your three women was it dedicated ? Number one ,number two or three ...? Tell me cause I can help..!!!! :-))

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Posted on Jul 12, 2010 at 09:00 PM

Well, that is really interesting. 

These women were a joke. Think about what you're attracted to, or what's attracted to you and make a change.  Something's not working.  Obviously.  I'm saying it because I'm just about to make some changes myself.

 

 


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Posted on Jul 12, 2010 at 07:05 PM

sorry you havent had much luck but NYC woman are worth it if it is the right none. As for the Hudson river that is for circle line tours most of us nyc women are more familiar with Kennedy Airport and where we can fly to and if we are on this site we should be able to pay for it ourselves. you just havent met the right one yet send me a messaqge lol


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Posted on Jul 12, 2010 at 12:59 PM

Hi Smax,

I am happy that all the ladies who answered to your frustration know that there are good ladies out there, ask yourself why you are attracting these types..... 3 in a row

you sound a nice guy move on and change your  vision to the kind of  lady you want to meet and I  know you will meet her.

Good luck and stay well

Jamiewhite  (Jamiela)


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Posted on Jul 12, 2010 at 09:05 AM

Quoting wwww12345

Why in the world would you want to date someone from NYC in the first place?


She'd be able to bring the best bagels in the world to the table, Bernie.

 

LMAO.

 

Smax, maybe Bernie is right.  Stay away from NYC women who think the Hudson River is the western border between civilization and the 15th Century. 

 

Pat


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Posted on Jul 11, 2010 at 02:27 PM

forgive me, but I was allways under the impression that it took two to tango, not ont to jump through hoops. Looks like you hooked up with three women not worthy of you. Move on quickly! There are lovely women out there, you just havent found them yet


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Posted on Jul 11, 2010 at 02:14 PM

So far you have not been having much luck, but bachelorette #2 made me laugh.  I just got done writing to someone else and I said not to worry about location.  You don't know where or when you are going to meet someone.  Keep trying, there are a lot more women out there.


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Posted on Jul 11, 2010 at 12:00 PM

Why in the world would you want to date someone from NYC in the first place?

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Posted on Jul 11, 2010 at 12:00 PM

I can't believe those women for NYC! Ridiculous! You need to find a Southern girl that knows how to treat a man!

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