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Posted on Tue, Mar 02, 2010 14:06

So, I'm in Kentucky (from Cali) so I haven't blogged lately, but while here to meet with my dissertation committee, I've been spending a lot of time with my adult sons and my 18 yr old daughter. My eldest, 22 and my babyboy, 20 live together. My first night here, we stayed up until 6am reminiscing about old times. My eldest son, Doug, put his arm around me, kissed me on the left cheek, and said, "Mom, you said, 'one day, you all will thank me for the manner in which I raised you." He continued, "I thought you were nuts with all your crazy rules, but..well, here it is, Mom, thank you! thank you! thank you!" He said, "I hadn't had sex or experimented with drugs or any of the things my friends had done, because you were NUTS and we knew you'd KILL us. How were we so afraid of letting you down then? How did you do it, paying all the bills, staying on top of our academics, sending us to college and keeping your cool?" My babyboy chimed in, "we thought Dad was the fun guy (we were divorced), but now that we are grown, we see you really did have our best interest at heart. We are so much better off than many of our colleagues. It's unbelievable." I swallowed hard to prevent the tears from flowing. If only they knew the many nights I broke down crying. I can't tell you how elated and humbled I was to hear that from my boys! God is so good to me. All I can say is "Thank you!" I've always heard that children understand what we parents go through once they become adults themselves and have to figure life out and pay those bills. Lucky for me, mine worked from the time they were little boys, playing instruments as church musicians for various churches. My mom always said that a man must work. I encouraged mine to, because I needed help with rent. Now, they work and go to school, because its IN them. Priase the Lord! What a wonderful parental moment. Isn't it something how they (the kids) come to understand what we went through by raising them? I'm smiling.....


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Posted on Sat, Mar 06, 2010 12:59

Quoting chawita

Awwww, bless them and bless YOU for being such a wonderful mother. I hope someday to hear the same from my kids. And thanks for letting me know that it's OK to be NUTS! LOL


Yes, girl! I was NUTS Okaaaay?! I mean those poor kids couldn't go ANYWHERE without me meeting and spending time with the parents, having addresses, phone numbers and car plate numbers. I had to drop them off AND pick them up and I had to know the exact time they'd be out. I did NOT allow doors to be shut except for when they changed clothes. I went through pockets, drawers, telephones, etc. No one was allowed on any computer except the one in a common area and no one was allowed to spend the nights anywhere. I was completely NUTS! Hahahahaha! And I didn't allow dating, cable or violent games. Man, I was STRICT. Don't even know how those poor kids made it. LOL! I knew 1st names of ALL teachers, counselors AND principals..had their email addresses and phone numbers and volunteered and taught in their schools so I could have my eye on everything. I'm a NUT. No wonder I ended up in the psyche ward by the time they became adults. LOL!


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Posted on Thu, Mar 04, 2010 15:35

I don't think kids really understand adulthood until they become one, and have responsibilities along the way.  kids think they are entitled to everything they ask, mine is anyway.  so I say to him, if you want to earn the right to watch TV, do your homework, time on the computer, do your multiplication table, bring me a good grade and you'll get money depending on the grade. Did you really really scared them????



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Posted on Thu, Mar 04, 2010 11:35

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Thanks guys! You made me smile even more!!!! Praise God! Can't wait to get back to Cali so I can blog regularly. Lol! Right now..just spending time with the kiddos and trying to complete my dissertation proposal. The proposal itself is such hard work! However, I got the literature review written (chapter 2) which required me to read, review and summarize in writing hundreds of articles! Now, I'm working on chapter 3, the methodology. Then I will defend my three chapter proposal to my dissertation committee and THEN I can go on to conducting my study. I'll be soooo glad when this is over. Trying not to loose my stem. LOL! I'm longing for that Cali sun and walks by the beach...Cali Sun, come take me AWAAAAAY! :) Lol


*steam..trying hard not to loose my steam.


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Posted on Thu, Mar 04, 2010 11:33

Thanks guys! You made me smile even more!!!! Praise God! Can't wait to get back to Cali so I can blog regularly. Lol! Right now..just spending time with the kiddos and trying to complete my dissertation proposal. The proposal itself is such hard work! However, I got the literature review written (chapter 2) which required me to read, review and summarize in writing hundreds of articles! Now, I'm working on chapter 3, the methodology. Then I will defend my three chapter proposal to my dissertation committee and THEN I can go on to conducting my study. I'll be soooo glad when this is over. Trying not to loose my stem. LOL! I'm longing for that Cali sun and walks by the beach...Cali Sun, come take me AWAAAAAY! :) Lol


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Posted on Wed, Mar 03, 2010 05:53

Sis,,You had the moment all us Parents hope for, The day our Kids wake up and become adults.

I'm so happy for you !!



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Posted on Tue, Mar 02, 2010 23:09

I'm smiling for you too!

D.



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