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Posted on Thu, Feb 18, 2010 12:26

I was sitting at the bar of this local pub having dinner. A woman came in and sat down right next to me. We began to talk you know the usual stuff. Then we started talking about kids, in particular teens and what a pain they can be at times !  LOL

Anyhow, to make a long story short and to get to the question. She mentioned that even though she has been legally divorced for almost 2 years, very Sunday she gets together with her ex husband and the kids (who are all in their teens) and they have family dinner.

 

So my question is, what do you guys and gals think about this situation ?



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Posted on Wed, May 12, 2010 05:02

OK my opinion, I might be the only one from Europe here, so let's check oversea thinking ?

You said kids were teenagers right, I think if kids do not expect them to be back together and are happy with it + girlfriend or boyfriend of each accept that - then what's wrong with it?

By having a child in a relation, I made clear to my partner that anything I could ever think of him or him of me, would NEVER affect the child. So no talk on each others back etc, and that was very important to fix before having a child.

Now we are good friends, sometimes we meet up with our son if he wants to do something with both of us, I have no anger or no fear from my ex partner, so why should I just make my kid pay what Life has decided ?

Why not simply let Life flow as it should, simply with honesty and respect: before, during and most of it AFTER the relation. Just have a code of conduct of yourself, and you will understand I think. As I mentioned in a previous post, I have values, that no ONE will make me drop them: I respect everyone, if it would become a problem to my future partner, then communication and sharing the moments could be a solution.

Not sure this is understandable, but if you want I write better in French LOL

x Nat X



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Posted on Thu, Mar 11, 2010 06:01

Quoting niceguylooking

I was sitting at the bar of this local pub having dinner. A woman came in and sat down right next to me. We began to talk you know the usual stuff. Then we started talking about kids, in particular teens and what a pain they can be at times !  LOL

Anyhow, to make a long story short and to get to the question. She mentioned that even though she has been legally divorced for almost 2 years, very Sunday she gets together with her ex husband and the kids (who are all in their teens) and they have family dinner.

 

So my question is, what do you guys and gals think about this situation ?



if you can get along with your ex as friends that is the best thing in the whole world..esp to your kids and there future's....everybody should be so lucky



Candy...;)

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Posted on Mon, Feb 22, 2010 05:37

Hey I couldn't resist that one!!!! LOL  you put yourself out there........it is for us to comment as we like.  But NLG I do speak my mind, and wouldn't say something unless I mean it.....take that to heart.



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Posted on Sun, Feb 21, 2010 13:19

Quoting Tinkerbelle

Hells Bells Dekan you dont look old enough to have kids of that age!!!! Hats off to you! Dx



Girl, I was thinking the SAME thing! Dekan looks FABULOUS!!!



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Posted on Sat, Feb 20, 2010 19:35

Quoting niceguylooking

Arizona,, you crack me up !  LOL



LOL....laughter and smiles are free, and in never ending supply......



"The best way to predict the future....Is to create it."

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Posted on Sat, Feb 20, 2010 17:38

Quoting Arizona53

I'd pay to see that....LOL!



Arizona,, you crack me up !  LOL



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Posted on Sat, Feb 20, 2010 17:37

Quoting Tinkerbelle

Hell Ray looks like you have a little fan club going on here !!!!! Lucky you!



Deb,,No where near as big as yours !  ;) and like I said before their just being nice to an old guy !



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Posted on Fri, Feb 19, 2010 23:51

Hell Ray looks like you have a little fan club going on here !!!!! Lucky you!



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Posted on Fri, Feb 19, 2010 23:48

Hells Bells Dekan you dont look old enough to have kids of that age!!!! Hats off to you! Dx



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Posted on Fri, Feb 19, 2010 21:58

Quoting niceguylooking

oh you 2,, I'm starting to blush here !  ;)



I'd pay to see that....LOL!



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Posted on Fri, Feb 19, 2010 21:10

Quoting niceguylooking

Sister, i don't think your being Judgemental,, just curious about the motivation behind the every Sunday dinner. It seems a little strange to me too, thats why I asked the question here on the blogs,, many good minds here.



I must admit though that my exhusband and I became friends, despite the fact that he fell in love with my best friend and had four children with her...I digress...hee hee! but we did NOT do weekly dinners! LOL! We opted instead for getting together on special occassions. And I tried to stay friends for the kids' sake, but it made my then boyfriend uncomfortable, and my ex-husband's girl friend outraged! So I cut down on the friendly chats and "family" picnics during my kids' birthdays. Ironically, it was my ex-best friend who became INSANELY jealous of my relationship with my exhusband! I think that's hilarious! Okay, that's mean of me. I sorry. I think her jealousy was her guilt. As CD said, "I callz 'em like I seez 'em! Hee hee hee!



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Posted on Fri, Feb 19, 2010 21:00

Quoting niceguylooking

oh you 2,, I'm starting to blush here !  ;)



Lol! The first thing came to my mind when you said that was a line from MacBeth: "et tu Brute!" Lol!

Well, Ray, I plead the FIFF! Ebonics for fifth! Lol



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Posted on Fri, Feb 19, 2010 20:55

My ex moved out of the state to avoid seeing me with anyone. And guess who got married 3 months after the divorce was final??? There is no way in the world he would ever have done something like that. My children are 25, 27 and 29. God willing there will be grand children. I don't know how in the world that will work out at the hospital!



Government's first duty is to protect the people, not run their lives. President Ronald Reagan

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Posted on Fri, Feb 19, 2010 20:06

Quoting duchesse22

Well I am really glad we still have you......I felt a little jaleous!  LOL



Duch,, you sweet talker you !  ;)



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Posted on Fri, Feb 19, 2010 20:04

Quoting sistercounselor

Tell him, Courtney! Lol!



oh you 2,, I'm starting to blush here !  ;)



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Posted on Fri, Feb 19, 2010 20:02

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Here's my two cents. While I understand that it is awesome for the kids if the two adults can be cordial, I wonder if it is sending mixed messages to the children. I hope I'm wrong and being too judgemental. Lord help me, if I am. I don't know about this one....only 2 years after the divorce? I don't know about "family" dinners EVERY Sunday? I personally don't think they are done with each other. And why did she feel the need to tell you that when she JUST met you? I'm just curious. Maybe I'm not secure enough yet, but I just "see" all sorts of red flags! Being a woman, I'll bet she's still sleeping with him or desires to do so or secretly wishes to get back together. I mean, c'mon!!! EVERY Sunday? Some intact families, unfortunately don't even do that. Well, I wish her the best of luck, but I don't know if she'll get a man who will go for that, unless he's her boy toy, like Ashton Kutcher. Lol! I've heard he is a part of Bruce's & Demi's Big Happy Family. Lol



Sister, i don't think your being Judgemental,, just curious about the motivation behind the every Sunday dinner. It seems a little strange to me too, thats why I asked the question here on the blogs,, many good minds here.



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Posted on Fri, Feb 19, 2010 19:57

Quoting gallina2000

I think it is absolutely the only sane dicision  in a divorce



Gallina,,, please explain.



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Posted on Fri, Feb 19, 2010 18:27

Quoting niceguylooking

I was sitting at the bar of this local pub having dinner. A woman came in and sat down right next to me. We began to talk you know the usual stuff. Then we started talking about kids, in particular teens and what a pain they can be at times !  LOL

Anyhow, to make a long story short and to get to the question. She mentioned that even though she has been legally divorced for almost 2 years, very Sunday she gets together with her ex husband and the kids (who are all in their teens) and they have family dinner.

 

So my question is, what do you guys and gals think about this situation ?



Here's my two cents. While I understand that it is awesome for the kids if the two adults can be cordial, I wonder if it is sending mixed messages to the children. I hope I'm wrong and being too judgemental. Lord help me, if I am. I don't know about this one....only 2 years after the divorce? I don't know about "family" dinners EVERY Sunday? I personally don't think they are done with each other. And why did she feel the need to tell you that when she JUST met you? I'm just curious. Maybe I'm not secure enough yet, but I just "see" all sorts of red flags! Being a woman, I'll bet she's still sleeping with him or desires to do so or secretly wishes to get back together. I mean, c'mon!!! EVERY Sunday? Some intact families, unfortunately don't even do that. Well, I wish her the best of luck, but I don't know if she'll get a man who will go for that, unless he's her boy toy, like Ashton Kutcher. Lol! I've heard he is a part of Bruce's & Demi's Big Happy Family. Lol



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Posted on Fri, Feb 19, 2010 18:18

Quoting CDinCO

Think what you will but I call'z um as I see'z um!!!!!!



Tell him, Courtney! Lol!



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