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Posted on Fri, Feb 12, 2010 11:44

Is there a difference between loving someone and being "in love" with them? I had a conversation with a male relative who says he loves his estranged wife, but he doesn't get along with her. They just don't see eye-to-eye. They are worlds apart. When I asked him if he's "in love" with her, he said that was a STUPID question, because "in love" is a made-up phrase. He just loves her. Really? I wondered. Every time he speaks about her he's complaining, like he dislikes her, maybe even hates her, but refuses to get divorced because the bible says not to. He said, "in love" is something stupid that we WOMEN made up. Hmm, really? Maybe I'm confusing "in love" with lust. That made me think and pose the question: What's the difference between lust, love and being "in love"? And is this something we can control? What say you?



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Posted on Sun, Feb 14, 2010 08:17

Quoting sistercounselor

Is there a difference between loving someone and being "in love" with them? I had a conversation with a male relative who says he loves his estranged wife, but he doesn't get along with her. They just don't see eye-to-eye. They are worlds apart. When I asked him if he's "in love" with her, he said that was a STUPID question, because "in love" is a made-up phrase. He just loves her. Really? I wondered. Every time he speaks about her he's complaining, like he dislikes her, maybe even hates her, but refuses to get divorced because the bible says not to. He said, "in love" is something stupid that we WOMEN made up. Hmm, really? Maybe I'm confusing "in love" with lust. That made me think and pose the question: What's the difference between lust, love and being "in love"? And is this something we can control? What say you?



To me...being 'in love' with a person is loving everything about them...even the bad stuff you don't like but you still love them just the same. If they were to lose their looks, health, or anything else that may befall them....you would still love them. Being IN love is to love their soul.

Theo



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Posted on Fri, Feb 12, 2010 13:52

Quoting Arizona53

I have to agree with this, and I do think that being "In Love with someone" constitutes having all 3 without question, 2 out of 3 would just be settling. That however, does not mean you have to agree with them all the time....LOL!

I love my friends, but I am not "In Love" with them. I think that when you are young you are more likely to be "In Like" or "In Lust" and commonly mistake that for Love.

I know I'm leaving something out, but, I can't put my finger on it yet.....Later....LOL!



I agree with AZ, they are 3 completely and totally different things but you must have lust and love to be IN love.

 

I love my brother, but I'm not IN love with him.  I was IN love with my husband and loved and lusted him at the same time!



Courtney :)

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Posted on Fri, Feb 12, 2010 12:18

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I have to agree with this, and I do think that being "In Love with someone" constitutes having all 3 without question, 2 out of 3 would just be settling. That however, does not mean you have to agree with them all the time....LOL!

I love my friends, but I am not "In Love" with them. I think that when you are young you are more likely to be "In Like" or "In Lust" and commonly mistake that for Love.

I know I'm leaving something out, but, I can't put my finger on it yet.....Later....LOL!



"The best way to predict the future....Is to create it."

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Posted on Fri, Feb 12, 2010 12:14

I know for me, I want ALL THREE in a relationship. I want to love him (adore him, the totality of who he is), be "in love" with him (crazy about him..have that erotic, passionate lust thang goin' on) and lust (well, well well...the sight of him just whets my appetite AND makes me wanna wet my whistle...tryin' not to be X-rated here). Maybe 2 and 3 are the same. I felt this way about my 2nd husband. We were together 6 years and each time I saw him, I wanted to "jump his bones." Poor guy, he used to say, "I'm not a machine!" LOL! Too bad he didn't know how to treat me, I'd be jumpin' his bones right now! Mercy!!! I digress....what say you?


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Posted on Fri, Feb 12, 2010 12:12

For me the phrases have a few definite differences

 

Lusting....almost total physical attraction.That ...Jumping bones kindathang. little if no intellectual intercourse needed here. plain and simple... I WANT YOUR BODY

 

Love....as has been said "care for"....."appreciate".... respect for intelligence....Swirl I love you

 

In Love ....both the above with one exception.....what ever it takes I want / need you in my life,,,Now until when ever...Now ...as in this moment and the next...and next. Need nother Cause for worship



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