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Posted on Mon, Feb 08, 2010 09:12

When an attractive woman walks into the room, it seems as though mens' penises stand at attention, and their brains go on vacation!!! Patti Stanger, the self-professed Millionaire Match-Maker who is also the author of "Becoming Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps to Attracting Your Perfect Mate" asserts that with a man, what actually selects his match or desirable woman is his PENIS! Hmmm, is that right? Well, it must be, because e'ry time I hang out with my platonic PROFESSIONAL male friends, they are constantly complementing women's body parts. Then the "remember" that I'm in the room and commence to apologizing. I mean, come on, isn't there more to us women, according to men, than behinds and boobs??? I even have to correct my sons when I'm out with them, because the 3 of them together is like a pack of wolves or school of perona!!! "Man, did you see THAT walking past?" "Boy, what I could do to THAT at any given day! Woo Hooooo!" they say to one another, high fiving each other, as if I'm invisible. Didn't I raise these fools better than this? I think to myself? "Um, excuse me nimwits...THAT??!!" I ask them. "What the F$%k is THAT?! Please STOP objectifying women as if we are just some piece of meat created for your flesh-eating pleasure!" I rant! "I raised you all better than this! What is it with you guys?!" I demand. "Damn, Ma, you heard us? We can't say nothin' without you yellin' at us. We was just playin" they snicker, rolling their eyes at me and givin' each other dap, as I smack 'em upside their heads, which obviously houses puny little marbles, for brains!!! Come on, fellas, you came outta ME, can you PRETEND you have sense? And these kids of mine are real estate brokers, Music Directors, honor college students! What the hell??!!!

I mean, even on the millionaire dating site, I run across "men" or shall I say those of the male persuasion, who allude to sex in their initial conversation, with comments like, "you sure are sexy" ; "I like your mischievous smile" or "do you have a big booty?" Excuse me, you moron, I have a freakin' PhD and I'm a GROWN a$$ WOMAN with FOUR adult kids..can you ACT like you have some sense?! Sheesh! What a way to start a conversation!!! "Do you have a BRAIN?" I shoot back! Damn, what is wrong with people these days? Then when I chastise them, these fools have the audacity to admonish me to "calm down" or "chill" or ask me to "please stop being so HARSH." Harsh? Are they serious? We teach people how to treat us. Therefore I'm not letting a guy, or any one for that matter, get away with sex talk when he doesn't even know me! And excuse me, idiot, but there is NOTHING 'mischivious' about my smile! Give me a freakin' break!! I KNOW I'm sexy...DUH??? But um, can we talk about my PROFILE or what makes me tick? I always ask men on the dating site, "What was it about my PROFILE which resonnated with you?" Cricket Cricket Cricket...I can hear the silence as the crickets "chirp" in the background. I even think I hear the crickets in their "brains", I mean in that empty space in between their ears that we call their heads. Guys, can you talk to me with the head on your shoulders and not the one between your LEGS?! Uggh! What is it? I mean, I know the PENIS does the picking, but can guys at least keep his lil' buddy in check long enough to get to know us ladies first? Sure, I understand that mens' anatomy stands at attention at the sight of a beautiful woman, and yes, I keep my body in tack and look nicely at all times, but gents, there is more to a WOMAN than her body. Ladies and gents, is it just me, or do men attend a "charming" school which 'train' them on "manners", unbeknownest to the rest of the REAL world? LOL! Help me out PUHLEEEEZ!



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Posted on Tue, Feb 09, 2010 09:22

Quoting niceguylooking

Sister,, come on your kidding me right !



LOL! @ Niceguy!



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Posted on Mon, Feb 08, 2010 22:05

Quoting thenewman

AZ....It's not called thinking with the other brain.  It is called thinking with the wrong head.



I know some men who would disagree with you....LOL!



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Posted on Mon, Feb 08, 2010 20:21

Quoting thenewman

AZ....It's not called thinking with the other brain.  It is called thinking with the wrong head.



New man...aint no such thing as a wrong brain/head......each one points in different dierection....lol



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Posted on Mon, Feb 08, 2010 19:37

Sister,, come on your kidding me right !



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Posted on Mon, Feb 08, 2010 16:42

Quoting Arizona53

I was at Chapters the other day and actually picked up Patty's book and then promptly put it back on the shelf. There was just something not right about buying the book at that time, although I watch her show when I can as she can be quite amusing. I get the whole male Penis Perspective (there should be a book with that title, a white paper on thinking with your other brain....LOL).

 

So, my question is for the women, what does it for you? What would make you stand up and head over to meet a man who takes your breath away? And as a woman who is in touch with her own sexuality, preferences, and perspectives, how do you define it, recognize it, and utilize it?

 

Hmmm, devil's advocate.....LOL!



AZ....It's not called thinking with the other brain.  It is called thinking with the wrong head.



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Posted on Mon, Feb 08, 2010 14:28

Quoting Arizona53

Sister, if you were on one of those Speed Dating things like LBG is about to go on, this would be far too much time. I am talking about the very first attraction, like the penis perspective....



I can honestly say, it has never happened to me so I don't know how I would react.  Although outward appearance is important, and usually the first "interaction" I guess my brain is programmed to not simply react to the outward and more toward the inward.  Trust me, I have been swept off my feet by men who I didn't think were outwardly attractive until I got to know them, and then I couldn't keep my hands off of them.  My ex was a prime example of this!!!!



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Posted on Mon, Feb 08, 2010 14:04

Quoting sistercounselor

Okay, Okay, you GOT me Ms Arizona!!! Hmmm, why did you have to put the shoe on the other foot? Ok, let's see...I'd have to say that what does it for me as a woman is nicely toned MUSCLES and a "winning" smile! The physical gets my initial attention. LEAVE me alone, Moldy! I know you are reading! LOL! I think pheromones draw me, girl, like a sort of MAGIC!!!

Then after that, he HAS to stimulate my mind! That's a must. He can KEEP my attention if 1) he has an excellent command of the english language; 2) is ambitious and 3) is LIVING his life goals of a self-actualized individual. Unfortunately, I've been known to "interview" men at initial meetings with them rather at a club, or on a date. But that INITIAL thing is DEFINITELY physical! ;) These days I wouldn't say, "I love your bulging muscles and strong, manly arms! Come, here, let Momma touch them!" Although, I have CERTAINLY done that in the past! I'm sure you could see me doing that, too. Such a hypocrite, I know! LOL! Lawd, ham mercy!! I've changed,  I promise! Well, I'm trying, anyhoo! That's my story and I'm sticking to it. Love it, girl...Devil's advocate!



Sister, if you were on one of those Speed Dating things like LBG is about to go on, this would be far too much time. I am talking about the very first attraction, like the penis perspective....



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Posted on Mon, Feb 08, 2010 13:47

Quoting Arizona53

I was at Chapters the other day and actually picked up Patty's book and then promptly put it back on the shelf. There was just something not right about buying the book at that time, although I watch her show when I can as she can be quite amusing. I get the whole male Penis Perspective (there should be a book with that title, a white paper on thinking with your other brain....LOL).

 

So, my question is for the women, what does it for you? What would make you stand up and head over to meet a man who takes your breath away? And as a woman who is in touch with her own sexuality, preferences, and perspectives, how do you define it, recognize it, and utilize it?

 

Hmmm, devil's advocate.....LOL!



Okay, Okay, you GOT me Ms Arizona!!! Hmmm, why did you have to put the shoe on the other foot? Ok, let's see...I'd have to say that what does it for me as a woman is nicely toned MUSCLES and a "winning" smile! The physical gets my initial attention. LEAVE me alone, Moldy! I know you are reading! LOL! I think pheromones draw me, girl, like a sort of MAGIC!!!

Then after that, he HAS to stimulate my mind! That's a must. He can KEEP my attention if 1) he has an excellent command of the english language; 2) is ambitious and 3) is LIVING his life goals of a self-actualized individual. Unfortunately, I've been known to "interview" men at initial meetings with them rather at a club, or on a date. But that INITIAL thing is DEFINITELY physical! ;) These days I wouldn't say, "I love your bulging muscles and strong, manly arms! Come, here, let Momma touch them!" Although, I have CERTAINLY done that in the past! I'm sure you could see me doing that, too. Such a hypocrite, I know! LOL! Lawd, ham mercy!! I've changed,  I promise! Well, I'm trying, anyhoo! That's my story and I'm sticking to it. Love it, girl...Devil's advocate!



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Posted on Mon, Feb 08, 2010 13:36

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I am struggling here with this one,because I know that's the perception we present. Could be that the neanderthals in us hasn't yet gone insinct, or do we really want it too. For the moment only I'll duct tape the other brain down and see what comes up...lol

 

We men are in somewhat a dilemma. at times you want our intelligence, the thoughful one, the nice guy,mostly the ignored one. At other times you want the animal, the beast, the bad boy, the one that needs to be tamed. Amounst us men and the way we have been taught, we usually take on the later personna, One of those "leader of the cave" chest beating characters, "High fivers". Your sons like so many others have be taught these behaviors from male family members and peers, ....a societal norm.

 

The mind is a powerful tool in communicating with the world. Words we use many times can have a variety of meanings and the context in which they are presented can be both serious and playful simultaneously. We dont have to be blatantly obvious, let the power of suggestion fall where is may.

 

Yes, we do stand erect when we have an attraction to a good looking woman.....but it the brain's synapses that are the first to respond.....to which brain it goes to is a matter of discipline....lolol



Lol! I know Moldy, what DO we women want? My sons and brother says all the time..."You women confuse us!!! Please make up your minds!" LOL!



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Posted on Mon, Feb 08, 2010 13:31

I was at Chapters the other day and actually picked up Patty's book and then promptly put it back on the shelf. There was just something not right about buying the book at that time, although I watch her show when I can as she can be quite amusing. I get the whole male Penis Perspective (there should be a book with that title, a white paper on thinking with your other brain....LOL).

 

So, my question is for the women, what does it for you? What would make you stand up and head over to meet a man who takes your breath away? And as a woman who is in touch with her own sexuality, preferences, and perspectives, how do you define it, recognize it, and utilize it?

 

Hmmm, devil's advocate.....LOL!



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Posted on Mon, Feb 08, 2010 12:16

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I'm not disagreeing with you but let's pose this argument regarding direction.  He still is, as you say "steering" the relationship but you are allowing it to go that direction as well until you put a stop to it.  I only say this as I have never been approached this way by a man here, or in the "real" world as I don't allow the conversations to head that way...  Simple flirtations, yes, but putting it all out there?  No.  It's not until I allow it that I have ever spoken to a man about my sexuality or attributed body parts.  It is an open door that allows him to walk right into it. 

 

For the sake of argument, we ALL know (statistically or otherwise) how a man thinks.  It's never been a secret to any man, woman or child.  But there are ways to prevent a conversation, especially a new encounter, from heading that way.  You stay away from it altogether.  That's all I'm saying.



Right Right! I totally feel you. Girl, you said something there...so what I hear you saying is DON'T allow it to even come up!!! Chile, teach me! Teach me, Sister!!! LOL. I'm serious. Thanks sistergirl!



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Posted on Mon, Feb 08, 2010 11:59

I am struggling here with this one,because I know that's the perception we present. Could be that the neanderthals in us hasn't yet gone insinct, or do we really want it too. For the moment only I'll duct tape the other brain down and see what comes up...lol

 

We men are in somewhat a dilemma. at times you want our intelligence, the thoughful one, the nice guy,mostly the ignored one. At other times you want the animal, the beast, the bad boy, the one that needs to be tamed. Amounst us men and the way we have been taught, we usually take on the later personna, One of those "leader of the cave" chest beating characters, "High fivers". Your sons like so many others have be taught these behaviors from male family members and peers, ....a societal norm.

 

The mind is a powerful tool in communicating with the world. Words we use many times can have a variety of meanings and the context in which they are presented can be both serious and playful simultaneously. We dont have to be blatantly obvious, let the power of suggestion fall where is may.

 

Yes, we do stand erect when we have an attraction to a good looking woman.....but it the brain's synapses that are the first to respond.....to which brain it goes to is a matter of discipline....lolol



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Posted on Mon, Feb 08, 2010 11:23

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I 'onno, I just question: What happened to the man being the head and example and leader? Its like we don't have faith or confidence in those values. From my perspective, a MAN, made in God's image, ought to steer the relationship, conversation, values in a "righteous" manner, regardless of what a woman, child or other man does, says or presents him/herself. My God, what type of world do we live in where women blame women and men get off as "poor, helpless victims?" I reject that argument. One thing I can say about my serious suitors is that they appreciate the fact that while I'm very comfortable with my sexuality, I also demand they look at the totality of who I am, and treat me with respect. It usually makes other women uncomfortable, but REAL men...they dig it. And so do I quite frankly. ;)



I'm not disagreeing with you but let's pose this argument regarding direction.  He still is, as you say "steering" the relationship but you are allowing it to go that direction as well until you put a stop to it.  I only say this as I have never been approached this way by a man here, or in the "real" world as I don't allow the conversations to head that way...  Simple flirtations, yes, but putting it all out there?  No.  It's not until I allow it that I have ever spoken to a man about my sexuality or attributed body parts.  It is an open door that allows him to walk right into it. 

 

For the sake of argument, we ALL know (statistically or otherwise) how a man thinks.  It's never been a secret to any man, woman or child.  But there are ways to prevent a conversation, especially a new encounter, from heading that way.  You stay away from it altogether.  That's all I'm saying.



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Posted on Mon, Feb 08, 2010 11:04

I 'onno, I just question: What happened to the man being the head and example and leader? Its like we don't have faith or confidence in those values. From my perspective, a MAN, made in God's image, ought to steer the relationship, conversation, values in a "righteous" manner, regardless of what a woman, child or other man does, says or presents him/herself. My God, what type of world do we live in where women blame women and men get off as "poor, helpless victims?" I reject that argument. One thing I can say about my serious suitors is that they appreciate the fact that while I'm very comfortable with my sexuality, I also demand they look at the totality of who I am, and treat me with respect. It usually makes other women uncomfortable, but REAL men...they dig it. And so do I quite frankly. ;)



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Posted on Mon, Feb 08, 2010 10:37

Quoting CDinCO

With all due respect, sometimes it's about the presentation.  It's not always the man's fault and may be misunderstood through manerisms, body language, or the witten word as well.



Right. Right. :)



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Posted on Mon, Feb 08, 2010 10:35

With all due respect, sometimes it's about the presentation.  It's not always the man's fault and may be misunderstood through manerisms, body language, or the witten word as well.



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