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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 00:10

This blog is to be about serious issues.....no sex talk or implied comments.....Swirl, you and I are banned..lol. Excuse me ...a moment of weakness.

 

 

 

Only informative posts will be allowed. on subjects such as Politics, religion, global warming, state of the world. People that have remained in the background, cruisers and hovers are welcome, Speak your minds.

 

 

 

....oh no copy and paste cartoons or anything that might be taken a scarcastic or humorous.......and no infantile mindlessness.....spelling and grammatical errors will be graded



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Posted on Sat, Feb 06, 2010 12:02

Quoting sistercounselor

Awww, thank you Curious!!! Yes, ma'am, I've thought about it--writing a book, over and over. The only thing that holds me back from doing it is the guilt that my mom and others put on me, that I should not tell 'family' business. But honestly, secrets is what perpetuates abuse...right?

Thank you for the encouragement. I really needed that. Time for me to stop making excuses and get off my tooshie and DO SOMETHING. Write the darn book, Swirly! Hee Hee.

Sister, yes, you can whine. I do it sometimes too. Hee Hee! I needed that encouragement. Really, it made my heart feel all warm inside. Stop it, I'm not gonna cry, I'm not gonna cry. Awww, shucks! I'm getting all mushy! :)



Not in my case, well, not 100% of the time.  My situation was a controlling, arrogant, closet alcoholic.  We didn't have any secrets that I knew of at the time, until the end when I was terrified.



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Posted on Fri, Feb 05, 2010 14:52

Quoting Curious2078

You just said it, babylove!!!!  "Secrets is what perpetuates abuse...." 

Get them damn secrets out of the closet; up out of them tunnels.....throw them damn ugly miseries up for air. Go for it, girlfriend.  You could make one hell of an impact on so many "sistas" that need that impact so badly....

Sweetiepie---YOU GOT WHAT IT TAKES TO DO IT!!!!!!!!

Pat



Thank you Pat!!! Thank you Ladies! I'm sooo inspired! Hmmm, an impact on many "sista"??? Well, I betta get off my tooshie and get ta writing!!! :) Thank you all!



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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 22:08

You just said it, babylove!!!!  "Secrets is what perpetuates abuse...." 

Get them damn secrets out of the closet; up out of them tunnels.....throw them damn ugly miseries up for air. Go for it, girlfriend.  You could make one hell of an impact on so many "sistas" that need that impact so badly....

Sweetiepie---YOU GOT WHAT IT TAKES TO DO IT!!!!!!!!

Pat



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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 17:27

Quoting Curious2078

Swirl, you are amazing.  A woman to be admired for sure.  The next time I feel like whining or saying "I can't," I'll think of you and be standing at attention ready to tackle whatever the problem or chore is and get through it without a whimper [well, maybe one or two whimpers....]

Thanks for sharing, Swirl.  

P.S.:  With your most expressive, original way of writing, have you ever thought of writing your life story?  Youcould  inspire thousands with your no holds barred, unsentimental, humorous way of telling a story.  



Awww, thank you Curious!!! Yes, ma'am, I've thought about it--writing a book, over and over. The only thing that holds me back from doing it is the guilt that my mom and others put on me, that I should not tell 'family' business. But honestly, secrets is what perpetuates abuse...right?

Thank you for the encouragement. I really needed that. Time for me to stop making excuses and get off my tooshie and DO SOMETHING. Write the darn book, Swirly! Hee Hee.

Sister, yes, you can whine. I do it sometimes too. Hee Hee! I needed that encouragement. Really, it made my heart feel all warm inside. Stop it, I'm not gonna cry, I'm not gonna cry. Awww, shucks! I'm getting all mushy! :)



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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 15:45

Swirl, you are amazing.  A woman to be admired for sure.  The next time I feel like whining or saying "I can't," I'll think of you and be standing at attention ready to tackle whatever the problem or chore is and get through it without a whimper [well, maybe one or two whimpers....]

Thanks for sharing, Swirl.  

P.S.:  With your most expressive, original way of writing, have you ever thought of writing your life story?  Youcould  inspire thousands with your no holds barred, unsentimental, humorous way of telling a story.  



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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 13:23

Quoting CDinCO

Wouldn't it be nice???



Beach Boys, great song, great lyrics! Wouldn't what be nice?



"The best way to predict the future....Is to create it."

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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 13:07

Wouldn't it be nice???



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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 12:55

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Oh Arizona, that is sad.  innocent children took punishment and no one was there to help this women......

 

MY APPLAUSE to you Sister C for having turned your life AROUND.  We keep improving ourself all the time, or I'd like to think that.......I feel so lonely sometimes, most of the times, that is why I work hard, but I decided it will not bring me down, and should I feel that way, or my friends that are moms and not giving themselves the time they deserve! I will call them, and say, let's go out on a night out, or get our nails done, or a good massage!  it makes such a difference.  As silly as it sounds it is nice, and keeps away from being feeling lonely, down, depressed.  The hardest part was when My husband passed away.  you know who was there, My neighboor, and she wouldn't give up, my friend Leya would push me to go out.  Friends are so so important, I will stress that out, so I decided at some point that life should be filled with happiness, HOW TO ACCOMPLISH IT WAS TO BE MY OWN DOING.........

tears in my eyes about your sad stories......



@ Duchess:

You are such a kind lady. Bless you for how you bright up your friend's lives! Indeed, its the little things that make a difference. You are so kind.

I'm very sorry to hear about your husband's passing. I pray God blesses you with peace, and comfort and wipes your tears.  Wow, indeed, I hear you "how to accomplish happiness is t be our own doing." Wow! Thank you for the empathy and encouragement. It truly blessed me!

@ Arizona: Thank you too sister! I'm standing on God's prmises and resting in his arms. :) You are truly encouraging. Its so sad what ppl go through and to think some tragedies could possibly be averted. You inspired me to get out of my house and DO something, even if it means volunteering! :)



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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 12:43

devil wife......cute.....we are in our jammies.....make sure they are clean one little on ....you know what we have been taught !!!!!



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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 12:08

Quoting DONTFITMOLD

Swirl....I barely know thee, My pride in you has no depth. From the fires of hell's exsistence here, abusive relations both in private and public, Influences are great to suck up and deal.....takes a strong woman to seek the light of resurrection and enjoy the brilliance and joyfulness, You have fought and made your stand. Your sharing and lightfullness make us all stronger...I feel so privilaged .love yah Swirl



Swirl, I have to second this emotion! Your strength of character and ability to make a comeback is truly a message we should all take to heart. Thank you so much for this, and I hope the Peace, Love and Happiness you have found takes you through all the days of your life! You deserve it!



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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 11:46

Oh Arizona, that is sad.  innocent children took punishment and no one was there to help this women......

 

MY APPLAUSE to you Sister C for having turned your life AROUND.  We keep improving ourself all the time, or I'd like to think that.......I feel so lonely sometimes, most of the times, that is why I work hard, but I decided it will not bring me down, and should I feel that way, or my friends that are moms and not giving themselves the time they deserve! I will call them, and say, let's go out on a night out, or get our nails done, or a good massage!  it makes such a difference.  As silly as it sounds it is nice, and keeps away from being feeling lonely, down, depressed.  The hardest part was when My husband passed away.  you know who was there, My neighboor, and she wouldn't give up, my friend Leya would push me to go out.  Friends are so so important, I will stress that out, so I decided at some point that life should be filled with happiness, HOW TO ACCOMPLISH IT WAS TO BE MY OWN DOING.........

tears in my eyes about your sad stories......



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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 11:16

Quoting DONTFITMOLD

Swirl....I barely know thee, My pride in you has no depth. From the fires of hell's exsistence here, abusive relations both in private and public, Influences are great to suck up and deal.....takes a strong woman to seek the light of resurrection and enjoy the brilliance and joyfulness, You have fought and made your stand. Your sharing and lightfullness make us all stronger...I feel so privilaged .love yah Swirl



Love ya too, DFM!

Your kind and encouraging words truly strengthened me and brought a bright, wide smile to my face! Thank you, Love! I love the way you say, "to seek the light of resurrection and enjoy the brilliance and joyfulness..!" Wow! That was extremely beautiful!...very poetic and powerful. It is such a privilege to have met you! Muah!!! Hugs and kisses to my new friend, Moldy! ;)



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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 10:23

Swirl....I barely know thee, My pride in you has no depth. From the fires of hell's exsistence here, abusive relations both in private and public, Influences are great to suck up and deal.....takes a strong woman to seek the light of resurrection and enjoy the brilliance and joyfulness, You have fought and made your stand. Your sharing and lightfullness make us all stronger...I feel so privilaged .love yah Swirl



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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 09:56

Quoting Arizona53

Seriously! I got something! On Monday this week 2 children (18 months and 3) were found drowned in the bath tub here in Calgary. The couple was on their way to a divorce and the mother was suffering from severe depression and actually is in the hospital recovering from a failed suicide attempt.

 

My comment is not on the act itself, but, how does one NOT recognize when another person is suffering from depression so severe that this kind of thing takes place. Are we so wrapped up in ourselves that we fail to recognize when our friends and family are seriously ill? Do we recognize it and turn away instead so we don't have to become involved? Or are we just not cognizant of the signs?

 

Give your friends and family a hug today and ask if there is anything you can do for them. Get involved in life, yours and someone elses! Maybe you can avert a tragedy....... 

 

 

 

 



Amen MzArizona! As one who takes medication to treat depression and anxiety, I feel the pain of which you speak!!! I had pushed and pushed myself through the years..to work, raise my kids, go to school, work in minstry..and never STOPPED to deal with my lifetime of abuse...emotional, sexual (by my step dad), physical AND psychological (by my mom)..that after a while, I crashed! HARD!!! No one around me even noticed!!! They were just so used to having me around to do everything...especially family and church folk and my pastor...so used to me juggling everything that even when I tried to push back, they had the audacity to tell me I was copping out. The more I did, the more they put on me! Well, finally, I said, "I should just end it! Then this pain will stop!" I wanted to end it. My kids were almost grown. I had no support. I was so damn tired! I even had a plan to execute, but I somehow had the presence of mind (possibly because I used to be a therapist) to call a crisis hotline. They encouraged me to go to the psychiatric hospital and it saved my life. God sent me a wonderful godly psychiatrist and supportive, nurturing staff! I had NEVER had love & support like that...in all my life, and I was 37! This was 4 years ago. After a month of therapy there (by the way, I'm still in therapy) and medication, my life began to change and I had the strength after a while, to get rid of my toxic 2nd husband of 4 years...he was emotionally abusive, the 1st (my kids dad to whom I married at 18 to escape my mom's abuse, was physically abusive). Can you see all the bad decision making?! Ugh! Then I left my church, because it was occultish and the pastor acted like he was GOD! Demanding to be worshipped, putting demands on us, our lives and our children...it was waaay too much!

Fast forward to today..God has given me sooo much peace and Joy that at times I feel guilty to have finally found this JOY! Tears are whelling up in my eyes now as I type this. The years of pain, Ms Arizona! The years of mistreatment...the constant abuse was too much for me to bear! I dont' even know how I got college degrees and raised my children to be healthy and happy...but for the Grace of GOD!!!! And now, he has rewarded me with such JOY and PEACE that I just love him and praise him with everything in my being! Hallelujah! Sorry, I had to take a praise break! If it had not been for him, Ms. Arizona, I would have ended my life. I even thought about staging a car accident with me and my 4 babies in the car so they coud go with me and not have to be left behind without me. But the GRACE of GOD...reached out to me, when others, including the church, turned their heads. The church even held their noses in the air when I left my 2nd husband, despite the fact that he called me stupid, took my car and made me ride the bus, pushed my kids out of the house and told them they could not come back! I was too weak to fight...but the psychiatric help gave me the strength I needed to stand up for myself and go and get my kids!!! Albeit, they were older teens when they left, but I had to mend what that fool, my husband had destroyed!

I guess I'm saying, Sister, thank you for bringing depression to the attention of the readers. I had NO ONE! Because my mom was abusive and my dad, a heroine addict and convict ALL my life, I raised my kids totally AWAY from family..family was too toxic! So I was alone, which caused MORE depression. I leaned on the church, which took all my money, demanded my rent money, made me take out LOANS from them to feed my children, controlled my life, emotionally abused us by telling us God would kill us if we questioned or leaved them..for they were the spokesmen of GOD!!! Finally, I'm away from all that nonesense, but the medicine and therapy gave me that strength..God sent them, I believe. When I took the meds, after a few weeks, I said, "Is this what it feels like to be normal? Wow!" My life went UPWARD after that! Amen! Praise God! Hallelujah! I wish someone had been there for me, Ms.Arizona..but they weren't. Thankfully, God was! Thanks for the blog, it allowed me to look back over my life and look at where I am today and REJOICE in the God of my salvation! He is a Mighty deliverer! My Rock! My Peace! And my everlasting JOY!

Thanks to you too, Moldy! Muah! I love you guys! You're freakin' awesome! You guys can praise the Almighty with me!!! Hee Hee Hee!



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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 09:43

Arizona

Does say alot about the stresses of the failing family commitment. Alienation from reality, and it's happening more often. Sorry for the rest of the family...



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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 08:19

Seriously! I got something! On Monday this week 2 children (18 months and 3) were found drowned in the bath tub here in Calgary. The couple was on their way to a divorce and the mother was suffering from severe depression and actually is in the hospital recovering from a failed suicide attempt.

 

My comment is not on the act itself, but, how does one NOT recognize when another person is suffering from depression so severe that this kind of thing takes place. Are we so wrapped up in ourselves that we fail to recognize when our friends and family are seriously ill? Do we recognize it and turn away instead so we don't have to become involved? Or are we just not cognizant of the signs?

 

Give your friends and family a hug today and ask if there is anything you can do for them. Get involved in life, yours and someone elses! Maybe you can avert a tragedy....... 

 

 

 

 



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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 08:13

i ma dsylecix and yuo wnat em to speel correclty ?


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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 07:27

Gosh, dontfitmold....I'm trying hard here for something serious, clever and meaningful to write aboutl...BUT....I think I have Blogger's Block. Is there a cure?? Ha!

Theo



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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 06:06

Amend to the blog called "so" D? 



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