¿ Im writing this partly in response to Viva Victorias blog¿ to which I take great exception . However it does ask us some important questions. ¿ Is there a right time to be intimate? Does it say anything about she who gives it and he who takes it if that intimacy occurs early on?¿ Should it be seen as a giving and taking situation or rather a mutual joining together? Is there an official time limit when its ok for polite society to share such intimate delights? Is there a publication I dont know about where its written just how many dates there have to be beforehand? ¿ Not really, its a two way street after all isnt it. ¿ In this enlightened age we live in I do believe the old moral values are a little obsolete. I think theres no right and wrong anymore about when , where and how often you are intimate is there?. ¿ I think it all depends on the two people concerned and the chemistry they create. Certainly i dont feel theres shame to be had for being intimate early nor does it necessarily make the woman a tramp or the man a chancer taking what he can get. Looking at it this way is a very jaundiced view of interpersonal relationships isnt it? ¿ Im not just talking about online here although many view the online medium as being very risky , and sometimes it is but its also risky to pick up a man¿ or a¿ woman in a bar isnt it? How do you know what you are going to get?/ You dont and thats my point. Until you date¿ theres no real way of knowing. ¿ Sometimes an early intimacy can be a wonderful and exciting thing. To make a mistake is kind of juvenile [at my age] and if i decide to be intimate its because WE that is my date and I want to. It doesnt say negative things about either of us . Its just two adults making a choice. ¿ Regrets are for the very young and inexperienced. Most of us on here have had a lifetime of experience and know the difference between gratuitous sex and a joining together for mutual pleasure. Not dirty words these. ¿ To say that the men are looking for sex online as a cheaper method than prostitution is insulting. To say that women are stupid enough to not know the difference is even worse. ¿ Granted there are those online both MEN and WOMEN who are looking for quick cyber sexual gratification, and it¿is true and there are plenty but bloggers they are easy to spot and one chat and we know where they are at. If thats for you then fine, but to suggest its for all is wrong. Generally those who correspond , talk on the phone , then actually meet¿ have allready travelled a way down the line. Ground rules are¿laid down,¿confidences shared , common ground established,¿and the final seal of approval awaits when we meet to see if that magical chemistry exists. If it does, great. If you are moved to be intimate, great. no sensible adult should be pointing the moral finger. Judgement is not for us . We should leave that to a higher order. ¿ Each to his/her own I say ¿ What do you say?
¿ Im writing this partly in response to Viva Victorias blog¿ to which I take great exception . However it does ask us some important questions.
¿ Is there a right time to be intimate? Does it say anything about she who gives it and he who takes it if that intimacy occurs early on?¿ Should it be seen as a giving and taking situation or rather a mutual joining together? Is there an official time limit when its ok for polite society to share such intimate delights? Is there a publication I dont know about where its written just how many dates there have to be beforehand?
¿ Not really, its a two way street after all isnt it.
¿ In this enlightened age we live in I do believe the old moral values are a little obsolete. I think theres no right and wrong anymore about when , where and how often you are intimate is there?.
¿ I think it all depends on the two people concerned and the chemistry they create. Certainly i dont feel theres shame to be had for being intimate early nor does it necessarily make the woman a tramp or the man a chancer taking what he can get. Looking at it this way is a very jaundiced view of interpersonal relationships isnt it?
¿ Im not just talking about online here although many view the online medium as being very risky , and sometimes it is but its also risky to pick up a man¿ or a¿ woman in a bar isnt it? How do you know what you are going to get?/ You dont and thats my point. Until you date¿ theres no real way of knowing.
¿ Sometimes an early intimacy can be a wonderful and exciting thing. To make a mistake is kind of juvenile [at my age] and if i decide to be intimate its because WE that is my date and I want to. It doesnt say negative things about either of us . Its just two adults making a choice.
¿ Regrets are for the very young and inexperienced. Most of us on here have had a lifetime of experience and know the difference between gratuitous sex and a joining together for mutual pleasure. Not dirty words these.
¿ To say that the men are looking for sex online as a cheaper method than prostitution is insulting. To say that women are stupid enough to not know the difference is even worse.
¿ Granted there are those online both MEN and WOMEN who are looking for quick cyber sexual gratification, and it¿is true and there are plenty but bloggers they are easy to spot and one chat and we know where they are at. If thats for you then fine, but to suggest its for all is wrong. Generally those who correspond , talk on the phone , then actually meet¿ have allready travelled a way down the line. Ground rules are¿laid down,¿confidences shared , common ground established,¿and the final seal of approval awaits when we meet to see if that magical chemistry exists. If it does, great. If you are moved to be intimate, great. no sensible adult should be pointing the moral finger. Judgement is not for us . We should leave that to a higher order.
¿ Each to his/her own I say
¿ What do you say?
Checkmypulse.... at last a real opinion and a real answer Bravo !!!!¿my sentiments exactly, no judgements and NO labels Im sure you treasure the memory of it and thats exactly as it should be....for both of you
Checkmypulse.... at last a real opinion and a real answer Bravo !!!!¿my sentiments exactly, no judgements and NO labels
Im sure you treasure the memory of it and thats exactly as it should be....for both of you
If someone else is paying your bills and trying to live your life, then you might want to do what they ask of you. Now on the other hand, if your paying your bills, then live a happy life and do what makes you Happy.
All the best to all of you.
Rudy
If someone else is paying your bills and trying to live your life, then you might want to do what they ask of you. Now on the other hand, if your paying your bills, then live a happy life and do what makes you Happy.
My opinion is this- a few years back I met a woman sitting ten feet from me while vacationing at the beach. The attraction was there, we talked, and flirted and spent hours on the beach with our families. Made a date for that night. dinner and some live music and later enjoyed really great sex! I never thought this must be some ho working the beach or do I need to know everything about her right now. The spark was there and we lit it. We knew that if there was anything further, it would happen and if not, so be it. We both had a great vacation with no rules. Were we careless? maybe. Did we take a risk. absolutely. That adds to the excitement! I never viewed this chance encounter as a cheap immoral slut fest. Chemistry was there so we went for it. I am not ashamed or guilty and would do it again tommorrow. If you knew me, you would see that I am not a player. Very much a one woman man and I miss being with a partner. But while I am looking, I will take each encounter as it happens and not judge anyone.
My opinion is this- a few years back I met a woman sitting ten feet from me while vacationing at the beach. The attraction was there, we talked, and flirted and spent hours on the beach with our families. Made a date for that night. dinner and some live music and later enjoyed really great sex! I never thought this must be some ho working the beach or do I need to know everything about her right now. The spark was there and we lit it. We knew that if there was anything further, it would happen and if not, so be it. We both had a great vacation with no rules. Were we careless? maybe. Did we take a risk. absolutely. That adds to the excitement! I never viewed this chance encounter as a cheap immoral slut fest. Chemistry was there so we went for it. I am not ashamed or guilty and would do it again tommorrow. If you knew me, you would see that I am not a player. Very much a one woman man and I miss being with a partner.
But while I am looking, I will take each encounter as it happens and not judge anyone.
Censoring by who knows Kinda looses the humor of it all dont it.......too f**king bad censors.....might be giving some a##hole a thrill.....there yah go ...lololo D¿
Censoring by who knows Kinda looses the humor of it all dont it.......too f**king bad censors.....might be giving some a##hole a thrill.....there yah go ...lololo
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Quoting: Originally posted by Arizona53 It appears someone didn't like the first part of my comment, it's been edited out....what part of whores and hookers did they not like?.....LOL
Quoting Arizona53:
It appears someone didn't like the first part of my comment, it's been edited out....what part of whores and hookers did they not like?.....LOL
Dolphingirl weve all sewn our wild oats all im saying is¿ when to become intimate . The fact is there are no rules and whether or not you are does not detract from the possibility of a future. Its a personal choice no?
Dolphingirl weve all sewn our wild oats all im saying is¿ when to become intimate . The fact is there are no rules and whether or not you are does not detract from the possibility of a future. Its a personal choice no?
Hi Rob of course you are right but as we all know you are only as good as your last partner and you never know where theyve been do you. Sometimes lifes a bit of a lottery in that way isnt it.
Hi Rob of course you are right but as we all know you are only as good as your last partner and you never know where theyve been do you. Sometimes lifes a bit of a lottery in that way isnt it.
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