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Posted on Wed, Apr 29, 2009 16:35

Would you marry someone who is dying or seriously ill. I thought I knew the answer to this one, but after thinking about it, I decided that the answer was not so easy. People face this issue more than you think. I recently saw a video of a very young bride who just had days to live. They did get married, white dress and all, but it was really sad to me to see such a young person have so few days to live. It did make her and all of the family happy however. Your thoughts??


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Posted on Wed, Oct 06, 2010 12:29

bump I would love to see some of the new arrivals discuss this issue. It is something to think about


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Posted on Mon, Dec 14, 2009 15:06

Marriage is an act of love form where commitment borns naturally. If you love the person the answer is yes but if you don´t there is no reason to make this. I find it offensive toward the person to marry, that you will marry for other reason. Respecting yourself will give you the gift or respecting others ;)


?En que te ofendo, cuando solo intento poner bellezas en mi entendimiento y no mi entendimiento en las bellezas? -Sor Juana Ines de la Cruz. Xocoatl

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Posted on Fri, Jun 19, 2009 12:20

Quoting Ital2011:

I would efinately say yes.... Love is a wonderful thing and id definately marry someone with limited time... I am one of them ladies who believe in true love...Its the quality not the quantity.... I would rather have true love on limited time, then to never know what it feels like...


I would have to agree in general. I would have to make sure there was a way of protecting the financial support that I want to give to help my granddaughters go to college.


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Posted on Fri, May 29, 2009 20:12

That's a tuff question. It depends on the level of love.

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Posted on Mon, May 25, 2009 11:38

I actually think this question is a easy one to answer. i say yes because marriage is serious and if you love someone enough to marry them, them dying shouildnt be an issue u. i do think that would be a hard decision if your not sure of your feelings for that person but its alot easier knowing their condition rather you marrying them then them just dying on you. idk thats my opinion. but if the man i love is seriously ill or even hours away from dying and he say i wana get married before i die i will do it because thats how hard i love.

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Posted on Fri, May 22, 2009 20:38

I have a girlfriend who I grew up with, we were in fact born only 2 days apart. She and I have always been very close and share most of the same values and morals. Three years ago, she met a wonderful man, quite self sufficient, pround, handsome and very kind. On thier second date he told her that he had a genetic disease and probably wouldn't live for even another 5 years. His zest for life intrigued her, and even though she knew that he wasn't going to live long, she fell deeply in love with him. They married 6 months later and almost a year to the day after they married they had a son. I was her maid of honor at thier wedding as well as the liilt boys God mother. Her husband died 3 months after the baby was born. The reason I'm explaining all of this is because what she wanted more than anything, out of the deep love and commitment she had for him. She wanted to make what he had left of his life joyous. And that she did. Because of his financial indepence, they were able to travel to places they always wanted to go. He went bungee jumping with her, skydiving and even learned to play guitar. She was his rock and always made a point of making sure he did do all the things that he had wanted to do, but didn't have anyone before he met her, to do those things with or to to have someone like her encourage him him to do what he always to do or try or learn. So my answer to your question is definately! If I could give someine the happiest years that they had left, it would make me believe even more strongly that we are put on this earth for a reason. I am so proud of what she did for him, I know I would be proud to be able to do the same. Hexstar


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Posted on Thu, May 21, 2009 09:09

If the person who is ill wants to marry and you would have married them if they were not sick, then I see no reason why not. That would seem so cruel to walk away from someone in that situtation...that is when you are needed most. But then again I seem to be the only person to be around when people are in the most need. People can always show up for a funeral, but not when the person is still alive and in need of care, company and love. Now all the other issues of medical bills etc...one would assume in doing so you would not go broke and loose everything. I recently had this sort of thing happen. In caring for my love so he would not go into a nursing home (as his children wanted) I spent all my savings. The last time I brought him home from the hospital he wanted to go get married. I said ...no I just want to get you home and warm. He passed away 2 weeks later. Maybe I should have married him. He never wanted to marry before but I could not bring myself to do it then. His children were always he afraid I would marry me and they would loose there inheritance. I saved his estate thousands of dollars and was kicked out of his home 4 hours after he passed away. Over the years I saved his life several times and took care of him after many surgeries. So there are many ways to look at it. I would not have changed taking care of him. Now the children can fight over his money and in doing so they will see I never took advantage, never touched a penny and just shared what little I had. I just thank goodness I didn't give up my apartment as he wanted me to. When we love it should never change when someone becomes ill.


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Posted on Sat, May 16, 2009 17:29

We are ALL waiting in the spiritual line... Whatever the motivations they eventually are measured/judged by one greater than I. Fate is ALL. What I can be certain of myself, is that better a brief but meaningful memory, that evokes all the greatest moments in life, one that may be eternal ... Than a life of despairing boredom with someone there was no magic/real connection with. Those with depth recognise that you might meet your real soulmate only one second of their remaining life but in that exquisite second you capture a lifetime of comprehension. As for the practicalities they are part of the superficial material world that we are bound by tooth and claw, and realistically may be a test of our fidelity to true love.


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Posted on Fri, May 15, 2009 10:24

I think if I was already truly in love with that person, then yes I think I would. But I would have had to have been in that relationship for quite some time. I think it would be wrong otherwise and the other person would know it was just out of sympathy as they were dying, when or if I ever marry it will be because I am truly in love Joanna xx


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Posted on Tue, May 05, 2009 19:37

Quoting thenewman:

If we loved each other.??And if we both wanted to get married,?of course I would get married to her....Something tells me there is more to the question?



It is the legal (debts, IRS problems, etc.) aspects that might bite you. Many elderly couples are divorcing when one is seriously sick to spare the surviving spouse the medical bills. There is probably a way around this, in some kind of prenupt, but one would have to be very careful.


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Posted on Tue, May 05, 2009 07:58

That was very touching!!



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Posted on Mon, May 04, 2009 14:09

A couple at church whose son had leukemia got married and his wife knew he was terminally ill...his funeral was Saturday.They allowed him leave the med center and go home to try to enjoy the time he had left with his wife. If I loved the man I would marry him and enjoy whatever time we had left. Brian was 28.


Government's first duty is to protect the people, not run their lives. President Ronald Reagan

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Posted on Fri, May 01, 2009 11:38

If you truely know the person..Then why not?... The only other thought is if their situation change and they lived.. then what?? Do you want to be saddled with all of their medical bills? Or maybe they have 10 children .. then what? It would be harder to watch them die because you would be with them more so than just being a friend.. If we were close friends.. I probably would to give them a desired happiness to make their passing easier...


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Posted on Thu, Apr 30, 2009 12:57

True Love, Knows no limitations......noone can judge what is in a person's heart. I think it's wonderful if both people are happy.


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Posted on Thu, Apr 30, 2009 10:41

I dont know 4 ws. It would depend on so many factors. If I was allready in a deep and loving relationship with that person and we had bad news then maybe. It must be one of lifes toughest decisions......or is it if you are truly in love?

I hope Im never put to the test



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