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Posted on Fri, Dec 19, 2008 15:58

ok now we come to the tricky part, and that is MONEY. Who has it and what are we going to do with it. Traditionally the man has the money and the woman doesnt right? Well what if its the other way round? What happens then. Do you agree to pool your resources or do you do what the Americans do and sign a pre nup. Or do you on the other hand trust your partner. Even more complicated is if you divide the spoils before you are married and it all goes wrong. What then bloggers what then??


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Posted on Mon, Dec 22, 2008 15:16

you know what, the good ones are even better in the flesh



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Posted on Mon, Dec 22, 2008 07:56

LOL! Candi. That long distance hauler sounds very familiar to most of us. We called him Dog and then there were the others cons who have been here on the blogs, the famous NCO and his side kick NDA, and others.¿¿We really only know the ones who have been on the blogs.¿ Who knows who else is doing this, on this site, or any.

Mandy, Welcome to the funny farm. We all would like to find what you are speaking of. From your lips to Gods ears! However, you may not have been exposed to as many wolves in sheeps clothing as we have. You seem like you are new to this online dating game and are probably still looking through those rose colored glasses that we all wore when we started. Now¿most¿of us have learned to be much more careful in our search for love.

There are some good ones out here.¿ in fact, the best ones seem to be on this site. But you will learn to be very selective and check all their info before falling into the trap of a fantasy that was never real to begin with. But once we have been burned, we become much smarter and do not take any profile, or photos, on face value. No matter how many months you may talk on line, or on the phone, NO ONE is real until you meet them eye to eye. (a web cam can help you see what they really look like) Even then, the best cons and scammers will charm you into believing what ever they say.¿


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Posted on Mon, Dec 22, 2008 04:45

i wholeheartedly agree with you Mandy but as someone who has been caught the other way around. Lifes not allways like that is it

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Posted on Sun, Dec 21, 2008 19:33

I really like that you started this post =) My friend Crystal ended up going on a date with a guy who drove the long haul for a living and I remember being at her house when she received a call from a woman in california who had been dating the same guy who she went out with. Crystal was informed by this woman that he had scammed her out of $10,000 and another women from Florida out of $20,000. The woman said that she found all this information out and Crystal's phone number as the guy had left his cell phone at her house and she was calling all the numbers trying to get a hold of him to let him know where his phone was. This was pretty scary as my friend is pretty well off and has too big of a heart. She def. lucked out when the woman from california called as they had only gone on one date. It just goes to show you how crazy some people in this world are and to protect yourself no matter what your heart is telling you.. =) ~Candis~ PS: plus we don't want to put all those lawyers out of work either lol


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Posted on Sun, Dec 21, 2008 12:06

Quoting Tinkerbelle: think about this bloggers What if you trusted your partner and found hed not only had your money but had others too. What then bloggers what then eh?

RUN!!!! Do not look back. This is who they really are. They can not pay their own way in life....and will con anyone, anytime, anywhere, and any way they can. Funny how charming the best cons are...

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Posted on Sun, Dec 21, 2008 10:06

think about this bloggers What if you trusted your partner and found hed not only had your money but had others too. What then bloggers what then eh?


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Posted on Sun, Dec 21, 2008 00:33

Quoting irocas: Never let your heart put at risk that which your a$$ cannot afford to lose.

Correct Boo. I have allways believed in this philosophy, but if you were never married whether it be for a broken promise or other reasons and are still building a future together there has to be an element of sharing and trust...... until it all goes wrong of course lol


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Posted on Sun, Dec 21, 2008 00:29

Silver that is so much the truth Im extending the trilogy to deal with this


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Posted on Sun, Dec 21, 2008 00:27

Quoting stilljustme: Good question Tinkerbell, but not knowing the persons involved personally, in general I'd say "Keep your pocketbook closed and always nearby! Of course I don't I don't know about laws in your country, so don't want to judge too quickly! JMHO Queen put in bluntly in the 2nd part of your trilogy as well as here. If they "ask you to marry too soon or ask for money--run"--I would agree with her on both counts! Once burned you learn not to believe the dream too quickly the second time around are we?

wel im of the old school where money is not my primary concern. In cases like these its the motive isnt it?


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Posted on Sat, Dec 20, 2008 13:04

Quoting Queenofyourdreams: Rule #1. Be careful of scammers and cons. They come in many forms. They will say and do anything to convince you that their love is enough. That they love you more than anyone else. (as they continue talking to other potential scams) These people are very good at making you believe anything they say. That is how they survive. Rule #2. If they can not take care of themselves, without your help...WHAT ARE YOU THINKING? Rule #3 (if #2 applies) If you ever get married they will continue taking all that you have, until you have nothing. Than they will dump you and go to another person who can take your place and pay their way...Even with a pre nup they can empty all of your accounts before you can say, I love you. Because they really do not love you. They are using you. Rule #4 Never trust someone who tells you to trust them. Because they love you.... From the voices of experience. And there are many of us here. Beware of wolves in sheep's clothing....

Second voice of experience echoing this. Also: The best solution to the money problem, no matter who holds it is to keep separate accounts and then a third one for shared bills if it gets that far. Never, ever totally give up your financial freedom, because it can be used against you to take your other freedoms away. No matter how 'together' you are, always keep a part of you separate. It protects both of you.


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Posted on Sat, Dec 20, 2008 09:41

amen Queen wise words indeed


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Posted on Sat, Dec 20, 2008 07:17

Never let your heart put at risk that which your a$$ cannot afford to lose.


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Posted on Sat, Dec 20, 2008 00:23

thats because you are a gentleman Brian


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Posted on Fri, Dec 19, 2008 20:01

D, You write the best blogs. Again the dynamics of a relationship can never be predicted with accuracy nor figured out in advance by formula. I feel it really depends on the couple and the values they bring. There is no right or wrong. Personally, I have to provide the funds for the fun (lifestyle). I just don't feel right or good spending a woman's money. One of the best dynamics I've seen is a former mentor of mine. Every week his wife got a substantial check. That was to run the household, money for kids,her needs etc. He never asked for any back. His other money was put at risk in growing companies. Sometimes he won big, sometimes he lost. But he always had his family taken care of and multiple ventures going on. I like that formula.


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Posted on Fri, Dec 19, 2008 19:54

Quoting Queenofyourdreams: Rule #1. Be careful of scammers and cons. They come in many forms. They will say and do anything to convince you that their love is enough. That they love you more than anyone else. (as they continue talking to other potential scams) These people are very good at making you believe anything they say. That is how they survive. Rule #2. If they can not take care of themselves, without your help...WHAT ARE YOU THINKING? Rule #3 (if #2 applies) If you ever get married they will continue taking all that you have, until you have nothing. Than they will dump you and go to another person who can take your place and pay their way...Even with a pre nup they can empty all of your accounts before you can say, I love you. Because they really do not love you. They are using you. Rule #4 Never trust someone who tells you to trust them. Because they love you.... From the voices of experience. And there are many of us here. Beware of wolves in sheep's clothing....

"I se-cond that e-mo-tion" la la la la ...da, de da" 1. I will add to never get married in a "community property state. 2. If it was your $ before you met, you may hide it in a Swuisse bank account. 3. Try living a more simple life to see if the love is true. Honey


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Posted on Fri, Dec 19, 2008 19:14

I trust G-D, all others sign a pre-nup. These are not the days of till death do us part. These are the days of till boredom, lack of lust, someone gets a wrinkle, do us part.


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Posted on Fri, Dec 19, 2008 18:40

Rule #1. Be careful of scammers and cons. They come in many forms. They will say and do anything to convince you that their love is enough. That they love you more than anyone else. (as they continue talking to other potential scams) These people are very good at making you believe anything they say. That is how they survive. Rule #2. If they can not take care of themselves, without your help...WHAT ARE YOU THINKING? Rule #3 (if #2 applies) If you ever get married they will continue taking all that you have, until you have nothing. Than they will dump you and go to another person who can take your place and pay their way...Even with a pre nup they can empty all of your accounts before you can say, I love you. Because they really do not love you. They are using you. Rule #4 Never trust someone who tells you to trust them. Because they love you.... From the voices of experience. And there are many of us here. Beware of wolves in sheep's clothing....

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Posted on Fri, Dec 19, 2008 18:26

This may sound really messed up but MY money is always MY money and his money....is also MY money. LOL Problem solved. Simone


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