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Posted on Mon, Dec 01, 2008 21:25

Yes it is not that complicated... don't dwell on the past... live for today...live for tomorrow...if you love and care for him/her show it openly, tell them, live each day like it is your last, keep it real...

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Posted on Tue, Apr 13, 2010 22:44

How 'bout that?  A blog on MM that's really a blog!  You continue to amaze.  And I will read it all as time permits.  Already, you've made me smile and I've never even met you.  I love California, but you've proven once again that for wonderful women, there's no place like Texas.  Talk with you soon, I hope.



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Posted on Thu, Nov 05, 2009 18:48

NewMan... I don't know - it may have happened on MyFace or something like that, but I don't ascribe to those juvenile social networking sites.

Instead, I uphold a greater sense of social decorum. I network here.

(yes, Newman, that IS funny and you MAY feel free to use it.)



~ Mark "Doing my part to KEEP AUSTIN WEIRD..."

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Posted on Thu, Nov 05, 2009 06:54

you are absolutely right, it seems some people choose the cowardly way out to avoid showing human emotion or having to feel guilty. But in life there is always good and bad and we truly are blessed that with technology we are able to communicate with people all over the world. One never knows if the person we are destined to be with is in our own backyard or 10,000 miles away...

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Posted on Wed, Nov 04, 2009 16:51

People come in all different sizes, backgrounds and baggage...I can best speak for myself and friends (male & Female) that I have listened to... I have been a widow for almost 6 years now and realize that the past is the past...and living for today and tomorrow is where I am at... it was just meant to be an uplift to those that even after 6 months or longer just cannot seem to move on...that only makes it more difficult to really enjoy life...as let's face it none of us know whether we will be here 1 year from now or 1 day from now...life is precious and you have to love yourself before you can truly share and be loved. Did not mean to offend.

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Posted on Wed, Nov 04, 2009 07:40

Jen, I sincerely believe you have an awesome, beautiful outlook on life. Your experiences, thoughts, ideas you share are the product of a happy, fulfilled past that really comes through in your profile and your writing. I don't come away with any sense of bitterness or resentment. Too few people I meet are that way, and it's refreshing. You are a very lucky person, Jen. Mark


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Posted on Wed, Nov 04, 2009 07:01

Jen, I am in agreement with you. I am NOT looking for just anyone to marry... I doubt anyone is. There are a couple of points to make/clarify: 1 - This is a sales/marketing tool. To that end, everyone on here is 'selling' themselves. Spin it however you may like, that's what it is; 2 - As such, we endeavor to put forth the best possible 'advertisement' we can; 3 - There is no governing rules that stipulate online dating 'Truth in Advertising'; You can make up a completely false persona and sell it here, free from prosecution (but not from Blahgland PERSECUTION, as witnessed quite often on these pages! :-) ) 4 - Men who 'serial date', 'parallel date' or any other multi-dating process (regardless of whether they are/aren't resulting in sex) are derogatorily regarded as 'PLAYERS'; 5 - WOMEN who do likewise refer to themselves simply as, "But I am JUST DATING." interestingly enough, those who have said this to me are also those same women who have selected 'marriage/serious relationship' on their profile, have been interested in me in a serious manner long enough to know me and to know if I am or am not 'The ONE', and just as things are going great... they disappear. No fights, arguments, disagreements; no advanced warning, no lame excuses, nothing except perhaps a 'Dear John' email or worse yet, a TEXT!!! How pathetic can one be, anyway?) I could go on and on, citing various examples. I can also point to several wonderful, meaningful friendships created between myself and women with whom I've developed deep emotional connections to; women who got to know me just as the 'candy store shoppers' did; women who, because of geography, jobs, children, bitter ex's, cannot relocate, nor could I do so at the time. No animus, no hard feelings or spiteful words. No letters, phone calls or texts telling me were suddenly not right for each other but "Can we still be friends"!!! Yeah. Right. Um, let me get back to ya on that one, okay? In summary: there are a lot of wonderful men and women on here. Distance is a prohibitive factor for everyone - I don't advise going the long distance relationship (LDR, as I've seen it referred to on here) route, for all the reasons previously cited. I do advise you vet your potential mates wisely; This doesn't mean asking for their driver's license and SSN, for crying out loud! Have fun, ask questions, watch body language. Spend Quality time together - not just an hour every other week. Don't commit to paying someone's expenses to meet you... this only results in bad feelings later. And most importantly, YOU will NEVER be happy with ANYONE if you're not happy with YOU. All the money, toys, trips, clothes, great sex, wining and dining will NEVER amount to more than wasted dollars if you aren't comfortable in your own skin. (Well, maybe the sex part is okay... :-) ) - Mark "Why bother with marriage? Just go find a woman who hates you, and buy her a house."


~ Mark "Doing my part to KEEP AUSTIN WEIRD..."

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Posted on Mon, Oct 05, 2009 20:19

almost sounds like your blog was about the same as the last one...many women are working just as hard and some harder the men in todays society, and let's face it many men have been known to be players whether single or married...so it does not suprise me that some women are playing as you called it... or dating... just as men do... those of us that know we are not like that do not need to defend ourselves...well I know that I don't... but hope things work out for you...just trust in yourself and get to know her first, take it 1 day at a time...that is all any of us can do...but not all men and women are in that same category....


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Posted on Thu, Oct 01, 2009 10:19

Sorry about your not so good exerience J. Ded, but in life this is how the dating world can be. Men use to be known as players or heart breakers... and sometimes people feel the need to distrust and hurt others after they have experienced it. All men and women are not the same so keep your mind and heart open as the next one could be the one. I was very blessed to have once had the love of a wonderful man for 15 years and he was taken at the age of 48. I believe in love, fate and timing and believe when it is time the right man will enter my life. I disagree that it should be a negative that you are on a dating site a certain length of time that makes you a speed dater or player. I do not think it is hard to find anyone to marry you if that is all you are wanting is a companion, but to be with the one you love as much as he loves you, well I can only speak for me but if it took 7 years for me to be happy and in love for the rest of my life it would be well worth it. We are truly blessed that we have the internet as it is you are very limited if you depend on restaurants and such to meet the right one. Yes I agree you should e mail a few times then talk over the phone, ask for a fresh photo not on the profile before meeting. Not everyone is ready whether on a dating site or not. Best to you. Jenny

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Posted on Thu, Oct 01, 2009 06:42

Quoting: Originally posted by Alchem_US_t
Jen, I couldn't agree more. Yet I find that wearing your emotions so openly at the wrong point in a budding relationship will only lead to... nothing. poof! Gone. I met a woman on here recently. We talked a few times, then met here in Austin. Wow, I really liked her a lot! And, it appeared at the time, she felt the same for me. Looking back, I recognized the tell-tale signs that tend to repeat with women who are new to the online dating thing: they just can't get past the candy counter and up to the checkout aisle. I now make a point of asking a)just how long have you been out of a serious relationship and b) how long have you been online dating. I am looking for a serious relationship, and have no desire, time or need for women who are players. OOPS! sorry... you girls aren't players, are you? No,no no... my mistake! you are simply 'just dating'... J. Ded


Bravo.... well said! I've been online dating since its inception. There were very few sites and they were free back then. It was just one of several venues available to meet people and there were fewer people online. I found it to be very effective. The price of PCs has plumeted, the number of dating sites has exploded and everyone has a PC. Most of the other venues have virtually disappeared. I've used the "kid in the candy store analogy" too. There are so many matches available your head keeps turning. It reminds me of being in a singles bar in the 80s. Back then if you were talking to someone who kept checking out the new arrivals you knew it was time to move on. I'm sure there are players out there just looking for a Saturday date... but, by and far, I think it's the environment and it won't be changing anytime soon. I've found that I have to do a better job of screening and ask more pointed questions prior to meeting.


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Posted on Thu, Oct 01, 2009 00:04

Jen, I couldn't agree more. Yet I find that wearing your emotions so openly at the wrong point in a budding relationship will only lead to... nothing. poof! Gone. I met a woman on here recently. We talked a few times, then met here in Austin. Wow, I really liked her a lot! And, it appeared at the time, she felt the same for me. Looking back, I recognized the tell-tale signs that tend to repeat with women who are new to the online dating thing: they just can't get past the candy counter and up to the checkout aisle. I now make a point of asking a)just how long have you been out of a serious relationship and b) how long have you been online dating. I am looking for a serious relationship, and have no desire, time or need for women who are players. OOPS! sorry... you girls aren't players, are you? No,no no... my mistake! you are simply 'just dating'... J. Ded


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