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Posted on Wed, Nov 12, 2008 11:20

Here is a short essay I believe in. People's assets, traits, and qualities can generally be categorized into three positive categories plus a negative category. 1. Those assets you were born with, and had nothing to do with: Such as beauty, intelligence, inherited wealth and family money, good genetic mental health, good genetic physical health, sexy looks, natural talents or abilities, charisma, inherited social position, etc. Some of these characteristics are often "flashy" and attract a lot of attention and admiration in most societies. However, this category of traits does not make you a "class act" by any means. Regardless of the items on this list, the key factor is that you had to do nothing to gain these assets. 2. Those assets you had to work for to obtain: Traits and accomplishments such as: education; interests, knowledge, wisdom, developed skills and abilities; accomplishments, personality, development as a whole-a balanced person; common sense, sound philosophy of life, tolerance of others; trying to be a good person, trying to be a good parent or role model; admirable but realistic values; open and honest with themselves and others, know themselves; good work but balanced ethnic. They may have: wealth, success, pleasant personality, sociable, interesting, a good leader; have a balanced personality,(not extreme introvert or extrovert); sound goals ideas, etc. They may recognize their special talents and try to improve their weaknesses; accept challenges in life, etc. Regardless of the components of the list, the key factor is that you had to work and expend effort and thought to gain these assets. 3. Those assets that define your character and the higher-level traits of a good human being: Such as: honesty, integrity, honor, compassion, kindness, flexible, understanding, responsible, affectionate, patient, tolerant, capable of love, stable, good morals, spiritual, dependable, easy going, mature, willingness to compromise, be slow to anger, help the less fortunate, and about 60 other higher level traits of a good human being. These people usually are able to give love to people who deserve it, and sometimes to those that don't. Their respect, love or affection cannot be bought with flowers, dinners, promises, status, position, wealth, being catered too, or any of the ways that people put a price on their selves. 4. Negative traits A few are: drugs, alcohol, promiscuity, rage, unjustified anger, undependable, immature; unrealistic expectations; sensation seeking; emotionally cold and unfeeling, feeling they; are "entitled"; and the converse (or the lack of) of the many positive traits. Of utmost importance are the harmful personality disorders, which cover many negative behavior traits and bad behavior. It is important to understand that the sociopath and psychopaths of the world cause much more damage (often to millions) than the town drunk will ever cause. The third and fourth categories are the most important. We can appreciate the other categories. ********************************* The previous essay was my attempt to define what I feel are the most important traits in people, the traits that it would take to be my lifelong friend or mate. I am sure I left out many things, but blame it on senility. I would be interested in your additions or modifications, please post them here. ADDITION SCORE KEEPING I believe we all keep score. Our score, and the score of others. This score is the sum of the positive traits, minus the negative traits, modified (weighted) by a priority system that each of us has - what we value the most, hate the most. We use this weighted score to determine our value, and the value of others. comments?


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Posted on Thu, Apr 30, 2009 13:08

Love is spontaneous.It cannot be controlled .You cannot "make" love; you cannot do anything about it.And the more you do the more you will miss it.You have to let it be. April x


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Posted on Mon, Nov 24, 2008 15:06

I want to thank everyone for their comments. I have not been posting much lately, but I assure you I will read all comments and appreciate the input. Thanks


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Posted on Thu, Nov 20, 2008 08:28

WWWWWWW...great minds think alike. LOL unconditional love = doormat


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Posted on Wed, Nov 19, 2008 23:35

Quoting shazbot82: it is often said that love should be unconditional. In fact,,love is the MOST conditional of our human emotions. If those we are with do not fit our parameters, then we cease to love them. I dont even buy the concept that parents love their children uncondtionally.. because if that were true, there would be no child abuse. or neglect, or out right murder. I like this list and agree with you on its principles. I hold myself to a pretty high standard of intergrity and honor, though some who do not know me have questioned my level of compassion. WE ALL keep score, and thats how we choose who it is we form relationships with. There is nothing innately negative about doing so. Life is a never ceasing jounrneyu of discovery. We can strive to be better,,or we can be happy with the status quo. I prefer to learn somethingg new everyday.

I don't believe in unconditional love either, but many people will swear that they have unconditional love for their children, even if their children abuse them or the child is on death row for mass murder. If my child was a mass murderer, I would feel the obligation to put them away myself. A obligation to victims and to the world.


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Posted on Sun, Nov 16, 2008 09:51

Quoting wwww12345: I modified the blog by adding the following: SCORE KEEPING I believe we all keep score. Our score, and the score of others. This score is the sum of the positive traits, minus the negative traits, modified (weighted) by a priority system that each of us has - what we value the most, hate the most. We use this weighted score to determine our value, and the value of others.

4 ws I cant count..... does that mean im in trouble? lolol


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Posted on Sun, Nov 16, 2008 01:18

it is often said that love should be unconditional. In fact,,love is the MOST conditional of our human emotions. If those we are with do not fit our parameters, then we cease to love them. I dont even buy the concept that parents love their children uncondtionally.. because if that were true, there would be no child abuse. or neglect, or out right murder. I like this list and agree with you on its principles. I hold myself to a pretty high standard of intergrity and honor, though some who do not know me have questioned my level of compassion. WE ALL keep score, and thats how we choose who it is we form relationships with. There is nothing innately negative about doing so. Life is a never ceasing jounrneyu of discovery. We can strive to be better,,or we can be happy with the status quo. I prefer to learn somethingg new everyday.


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Posted on Sat, Nov 15, 2008 18:43

Quoting wwww12345: I modified the blog by adding the following: SCORE KEEPING I believe we all keep score. Our score, and the score of others. This score is the sum of the positive traits, minus the negative traits, modified (weighted) by a priority system that each of us has - what we value the most, hate the most. We use this weighted score to determine our value, and the value of others.

WWW, Wow your brain is on a roll. You could not be more right! Tay


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Posted on Fri, Nov 14, 2008 01:11

I modified the blog by adding the following: SCORE KEEPING I believe we all keep score. Our score, and the score of others. This score is the sum of the positive traits, minus the negative traits, modified (weighted) by a priority system that each of us has - what we value the most, hate the most. We use this weighted score to determine our value, and the value of others.


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Posted on Thu, Nov 13, 2008 13:59

WWW, I think you summed up that point very well. There are things we can control and things we choose not to. You listed them with appropriate ration. Tay


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Posted on Thu, Nov 13, 2008 05:51

4 Ws A highly commendable list for the good. One however that i feel is a lifetimes work for any human being. Theres a balance to be had dont you think? As flawed as we are,most posess some of the good qualities you mention and probably a lot of the bad too. It is necessary to learn and grow as we go through life and although the character traits for the good you list are an ideal , remember it can take for some a lifetime of work to achieve. Some will never make all those things but that doesnt make them less. I have learned many lessons myself this last year . I hope I am one step further towards the ideal. Im not perfect but i am able to look at myself and learn and be better. Its all we can do is to continue the journey learning and growing as we go. Great blog 4 Ws


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