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scarletibis24
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Posted on Tue, Jun 20, 2006 21:13

So, we've all heard this exclamation at one point or another, whether it was directed at you, or someone you know, etc., you know what it means. Does it have any *real meaning? If a guy happens to be twenty years plus older than you, does that mean he's automatically off limits? Why is it so frowned upon? today? Years ago (and I do mean *years), this was a common thing more often than not. If it happens today, someone or both parties come off as looking desperate. Why is that? I think we should keep up with the times, and try not to be so biased and judgmental. If someone were a mere fifteen years my senior, then why, he'd still be old enough to be my father in this day and age. So friggin' what? I'm twenty years old, and I find that, unless I have had an extensive relationship with the guy previously (school, work, etc.,) I find that guys my own age are quite boring, and bring nothing to the table (i.e. intellectually). If I have to spend my time telling him all the things he doesn?t understand, and I'm unable to have a substantial conversation (which is something I enjoy doing, as well as debates), then I'm not doing anything besides wasting my own time. So yea, in that sense, particularly conversation wise, I find older guys, excuse me, I find *men more intriguing. In addition to that, I've been told countless times that I *don't act my age; that I seem much more mature when a person actually gets to know me. In fact, I'm more mature than some twenty-something's and thirty year olds that I know. Age has no bearing on intelligence, on life's experiences, and on an individual's personal state of mind. I'm not quite sure how this sounds, but it is nothing but a mere observation. Any thoughts? Comments? I'd love to hear some...

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Posted on Fri, Jul 07, 2006 03:40

Sharp, I see the big bad bully Will is dissing you. So what else is new? He is pathetic. Shame on you Will. Once again. Why do you always have to go into attack mode with your mean little snide remarks when someone does not agree with you 100%? You should realize how unattractive this makes you look.


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Posted on Wed, Jul 05, 2006 20:10

September1998- it's cool. If you see me as a girl... then it's fine. I understand and accept your perspective. I know I'll feel differently about things 25 years for now. I guess... I don't like to be written off because of my age. You know- that condescending "you'll understand when you're older, dear" bit? That's all.


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Posted on Wed, Jul 05, 2006 20:03

Whether you are a man or woman...it is a major faux pas to share or offer to share private emails unless the person who sent the emails has given their consent. In this case, litobitoficas has not consented. Just imagine if things turn bad between you and willprt as they have between him and litobitofafrica he will probably do the same to you. No class. And maybe he should look in the mirror, for what he says about litobitofafrica could apply to him too! Sheesh! "Actually litobitoafrica...I don't like you think you are an unusually unaatractive person in fact...if I EVER had any smidgen of interest it was before I found out about you. Also I like Scarlett which BTW is NOT her real name and only people that SHE likes would know that!!!LOL Now regarding emails...anyone that would care to see litobitoficas (wholelotonothin) emails to me...please contact me..Ithink you will like them..lol"


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Posted on Tue, Jul 04, 2006 22:17

I was aware of the name thing. As for the drinking, underaged drinking does NOT equate to underaged DRUNKS. In fact, I just read a blog the other day about a man who had a friend (in his age range), who was considering giving fellatio to a cop because she didn't want a third DUI. WTF? It affects EVERYONE in a negative matter if taken in excess. You don't have to be a teen or under 21 to get wasted. And for the record, I haven't been [drunk] in my life. Yes, one can drink non-virgin drinks, and not get drunk. It is possible. Also, even if one is drunk, it does not mean that they are driving. You don't have to be drunk to get in a car accident either.


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Posted on Tue, Jul 04, 2006 18:47

Older men are not attractive... not for Me... They can reflect Experience, Intelligence and a sense of security but I think people should date other people in the same age range.


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Posted on Tue, Jul 04, 2006 06:29

BOO HISS Will...didn't your momma teach you to play fair and to treat others like you wanna be treated? Apparantly you never learned that lesson. Leave lil bit alone..........


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Posted on Mon, Jul 03, 2006 09:12

yungsexc- they can still be attractive even if they don't feel the same, lol. thomas1546- Thanks. lovelylotus- I agree with you 110%. You can't bring something to the table, then I don't need you sitting there in the first place. willprt- Thank you as well for the compliments and for pointing out that a 20 year old actually *has maturity.


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Posted on Mon, Jul 03, 2006 09:09

lilbitofafrica: Okay, nobody cares about underaged drinking to the point where someone will call the police on you. One also doesn't have to go to a club or bar with an older man or to meet older men, maybe they're just hanging out with their older friends? I have been to places where I wasn't carded at all, or showed my actual I.D. with my actual birthdate on it, and they still let me in. There *is* no risk. As for "serious criminal charges," well, I've never seen any reinforced. It's no big deal.


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Posted on Mon, Jul 03, 2006 08:19

Scarlet, I too gravitate toward older men, if only because I have a bit of an old soul inside me. I have been fortunate enough to have some wonderful life experiences, am college educated and understand that there is a difference between a career and a job and so choose the latter. The men I date appreciate the fact that I am driven and can talk about things besides shopping and who is sleeping with whom. Younger men are cute, sure, but where is the substance? I am not enthralled by an ability to play video games, don't particularly care how wasted someone got last night and don't think McDonald's is a good date venue (unless you've been dating long enough to be comfortable with each other). I know that not all young men are like this, but I have found precious few exceptions to the rule in my experience. I liken men to a fine wine- they get better with age. Show me a man that will open doors for me, appreciates ambition and intelligence in a woman and doesn't expect me to "mother" him... I will show you an older man I would probably like to date!


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Posted on Sun, Jul 02, 2006 21:43

crazybeautiful200- you *Clearly didn't get that I meant in general. I have written things like this before, long before I happened upon this site. But thanks anyway for your mature comment and clearly aged views.


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Posted on Sat, Jul 01, 2006 09:07

Once again Will has to add his mean little snide remarks. Scarlet, you can not see this? You still think Will is your big hero? Maybe you aren't as mature as you thought....


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Posted on Fri, Jun 30, 2006 17:55

OLDER MEN ARE ATTRACTIVE AS LONG AS THEY FEEL THAT WAY AS WELL.


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Posted on Thu, Jun 29, 2006 08:13

I had to come back and speak about this issue from a perspective of a mother. I have a 19 year old daughter. She is very beautiful, outgoing and smart. Her father took her to New York for her graduation present from high school. During their visit, there was a parade and my X husband, his lover and our daughter attended.(Yes, I said lover) My daughter noticed this very well dressed gentleman "checking her out" he crossed the big, very busy street to make contact with her. He told her he was a New York police officer and gave her his card( he was 30)...asking her to have lunch with him the next day. Her father told her it was just fine...they had lunch in the hotel restaurant the next day. When she came home and told me, I could not believe my X allowed it! She was thrilled by it, but thank goodness she was not so interested to have continued to pursue it! From a personal stand point, It does concern me when a 4o year old man says in his profile that he wants to date 18-19 year old girls...I just "see" my daughter and it makes me ill. Another point,her life experience should grow with her. Not be thrust upon her by an older very experienced man of 40sh.


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Posted on Wed, Jun 28, 2006 14:17

bentleyboy123: "...whatever colour or background my only concern would be that he was good to her and was not playing her." Excellent point. I think many people miss the forest for the trees. cosmopolitancntrygirl: I'm sorry to hear that your father has made a mistake... And you're right- it's situations like that that make everyone else look bad. Maturity does not come with age... NoJunkMalePls: First of all, love your username, lol. Thank you so much for your kind words. I wish you the best of luck as well. And hey, it worked for Demi and Cameron. fairuz13: I know what meant, I just meant it didn't bother me. Kind of like a "yea right," sort of thing. Steve475: I appreciated your first comment, because it pertained to the blog. However, this is getting a bit ridiculous, don't you think?


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Posted on Wed, Jun 28, 2006 14:11

Okay, I haven't checked this in a bit, so now I believe it's time to makes some additional responses. AsianAmericanIdol: Your thoughts are always appreciated. Please write another blog. I need something to read, lol. lilbitofafrica: Thanks for also thinking I was older than twenty. However, you have to know that people who aren't 21 still manage to get into clubs... IrishRedGigi, sarah sweet 21 and zinker: Thanks to you both for concuring with me and leaving feedback. September1998: One's maturity levels don't necessarily have *anything to do with their age. You're still judging someone by a number, calling an 18 year old YOUNG LADY or WOMAN a GIRL- I don't think its fair to make a general statement like that, because it does not apply to everyone. Speaking of immarture folks over 21- look at Kevin Federline, Paris Hilton and that rich, oily guy who always hangs out with her. A good sign of immaturity would be leaving comments about things that aren't relative to the blog itself, necessarily. Which brings me to my next point. When I write blogs, I write them to see feedback, positive or negative and to know what others think. I do not write them, however, for people to signify, point fingers, act like babies, etc. Who cares? If you don't like someone on here, fine, but be mature and get over it. I'm one of the youngest adults on here, and it's a shame to see that people my age, who are allegedly immature, act more like adults then some people. In closing, if you don't like someone, and you want to call them out or whatever, leave me out of it. Post your own blog, or write an email. Just don't put me in the middle of your B.S.


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Posted on Mon, Jun 26, 2006 16:43

Scarlet, You are a beautiful woman and have an apparent wit. You have received some well advise, do what feels great for you. Steve has given you some very key points too, follow them. Just the opposite, I have dated men quite younger than I am. It just didn't feel right. But I am trying to put aside traditional thoughts and go with what feels good from my gut. Listen to my heart more. Best of luck to you and do just that, follow your heart. Jennifer


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Posted on Mon, Jun 26, 2006 15:31

I have found that age is relative. I typical date older men and always have but they can be just as immature if not more so sometimes than the thirty year old next to him. So it boils down to maturity, not age. 4EVERFIT, my father, who is on his fifth marriage but I am sure would have died at a very old age with his third wife had she not died of cancer before him, has now married a woman 6 months younger than me; his only daughter. My problem isn't the age and I do realize she likes the security of being with a Texas Millionaire but facts are facts it's gotta be the money. And she used to be his secretary, she knows his health is failing and she wants the mula! Last year he went in with a heart attack and she never bothered to call me!! Can you believe it? It's woman like her that give woman like me a bad rap. If I date an older man people tend to assume it must be the security; not that I could possibly be attracted to him and genuinely care for him. Ugh!


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Posted on Mon, Jun 26, 2006 08:48

Interesting point, I have been involved in the NightClub, Music and Film Industries at various times in my life,at 44 i have only dated a women my own age once in the last 10 years (after my divorce) and she lied that she was 33. I attract younger women and when I do meet older women they have emotional,baggage and or are bitter, this is not true in all cases but is a majority. Only this weekend I was with a friend and her 22 year old friend, she thought I was 33 and when I asked her out she said Iam a bit old for her, however I reminded her that she thought I was younger and said so whats the big deal, I am out on a date with her tommorrow night. This girl has her own business, home and car and is not some little dolly that can be manipulated by an older guy Many of my friends are women in their 20s and they all favor an older guy as the young guys dont know how to treat women. It really depends on the circumstances but Iam sure its less of a problem if the guy is a good looking and successful business man,than if he was a garbage collector living on the wrong side of the tracks. Its all about circumstances. If my daughter dated a guy my age, whatever colour or background my only concern would be that he was good to her and was not playing her. If he was that would be a different matter


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Posted on Fri, Jun 23, 2006 10:36

I prefer dating guys slightly older than me as I find guys my own age act like little boys and are more interested in one night stands. Older guys are fun, know where they are going in life and I just prefer it like that. However, I do think in the long run especially if the age gap is large people should think about it. As the older you get, he gets even older, so think when ur 60, he could be 80. Yet thats just the negative side. Whats important is that you care alot or love that person. You love the person not their age.


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