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Posted on Sun, Sep 21, 2008 09:42

I don't usually share much of my personal life, but in this instance, believe so strongly in the power of positive thoughts and prayer that I thought I would ask on behalf of my Mom. My Mom will be 79 this Christmas, and unfortunately we've just recently discovered through a routine colonoscopy that her colon cancer has returned. She had it back in 2003, had the surgery and recovered beautifully. Had 5 years with a clean bill of health. This time not so fortunate, it has returned in almost the same location but entirely on the other side. She was devastated by this news and initially stated she wouldn't go through that again, but by the time we saw the surgeon and she was told that if she didn't have the surgery she would die, she has decided she will go ahead. My Mom is a very strong, cool lady and also my best friend. We've shared much over the years and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we'll make it through this once again. She has her ups and downs which is to be expected, but I'm very pleasantly surprised at how well she is handling it. There have been quite a few appointments since the discovery. This past Friday was my birthday but was also the earliest appointment available for her CT so she took it. She kept apologizing while we waited for 3 hours to have it done, I told her it's okay and my pleasure to be with her through all this. I feel so strongly that I need to be there for her and am thankful I have the time to care for her. Her surgery is Oct. 6/08 and I have been saying a wonderful, remote healing prayer morning and night from a favourite book of mine. I've asked her to spend a few minutes each day to lay down, relax and calm her mind and just visualize herself being completely healthy and cancer free. She's not a big believer, but says she is trying it. My hope is they get it all, that it's not spread to the lymph nodes and that she doesn't have to go through chemo which is very hard on anyone, never mind an older person. She's in great shape and doesn't look her age at all, has so much to live for, which she doesn't always agree on, but that's when she's having a down day. I would ask for you to keep her in your thoughts and prayers as I really do believe so adamantly that the power or energy created by many does have a positive effect and outcome. Thanks! I'm adding today (Oct. 4'06) a picture of my Mom from a party last Sun. so you can see what she looks like and maybe focus a little bit better. I asked her permission for this and she's okay with it.

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What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Sat, Nov 01, 2008 07:50

Thank you stilljustme, I do believe the combined efforts of many have an energy that has huge impact. Thanks for your post. Hey shaz - yes I remember about your Mom and I'm sorry for your loss, our mothers are such a gift and not with us long enough! I do keep telling her this is like getting a 2nd chance and we're both making the best of it! I visited her yesterday for a bit, showed her once again how to use her CD player and put on one of her favs Englebert Humperdink "Please Release Me" lol! Spoke to her later in the evening, she said she made herself a nice drink, sat and listened to the CD and put on another and enjoyed it very much. Music is such a positive, uplifting thing you can do for yourself!


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Thu, Oct 30, 2008 20:11

Ready, As you may know..my own mother succumed to brain cancer this past Easter night. There was nothing that could be done to save her, as it was far too advanced by the time it was discovered. So I am especially happy to learn that someone else's beloved mother WILL make it...In a way, its vicarious victory. You have been blessed with more time with her. You already know how to be a great daughter and Im sure you will make good use of it. Hugs, D


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Posted on Thu, Oct 30, 2008 04:47

Quoting: Originally posted by shazbot82 Hi Ready,,Im stillout of town and On a free internet cafe thing,,,limited time..so I just saw this update. GREAT NEWS GF ! I hope her receopvery contiunes uneventfully. Hugs, Darc

Thank you shaz! Took Mom for her follow-up appointment with the surgeon yesterday, had to wait 2 hours! He checked her incision, said it's healing beautifully and she can do pretty much what she likes, just don't lift over 15-20 lbs. for the next 6-8 weeks, so although she tires easily, she's doing very well. Thanks for caring!


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Mon, Oct 27, 2008 17:47

Hi Ready,,Im stillout of town and On a free internet cafe thing,,,limited time..so I just saw this update. GREAT NEWS GF ! I hope her receopvery contiunes uneventfully. Hugs, Darc


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Posted on Fri, Oct 24, 2008 10:47

Quoting: Originally posted by Ryleigh2000 That's fantastic news Ready, I'm so pleased your Mother is doing so well. God Bless

Thanks Ry! So am I!!!


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Wed, Oct 22, 2008 16:11

Update! Oct. 22'08 Just wanted to let you know, I brought my Mom home to her own apartment today and she's absolutely thrilled to be home in her own surroundings! She's tired but so happy to finally be home. The respite place was excellent for what she needed, but nothing's quite as good as your own place and sleeping in your own comfortable bed. Got her all unpacked, we had a coffee, then I headed out to get groceries and she stretched out for a rest. Visited a bit after getting back and made sure her dinner is all ready and just had to be reheated in the nuke! She's doing remarkably well considering the surgery and heart attack happened just Oct. 6th, but she tires very easily. I live only 10 minutes away from her, so can be there very quickly if need be. I'm looking into getting her those emergency alert necklaces that can be pressed if needed just for everyone's peace of mind. I am so thankful she's okay, happy and safe and sound at home once again. I believe much in part due to all the great energies from everyone's healing thoughts and prayers. Thank you very much!


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Thu, Oct 16, 2008 17:18

That's fantastic news Ready, I'm so pleased your Mother is doing so well. God Bless


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Posted on Thu, Oct 16, 2008 14:04

Today I took Mom to a lovely respite care facility that is just so homey and caring. She has a lovely little room, single bed with nice bedding, a wing chair with a foot stool, tv, etc. and her own bathroom. She was so excited to get out of hospital and the respite home is just minutes away from the hospital too. I put all her clothing and stuff away and then we went for lunch in the dining room at 1pm. She had a ham sandwich, salad and split pea soup and ate every bit of it which was great as she's not been eating well. I tasted her dinner last night at the hospital, and although it looked great, tasted terrible! She's thrilled to be in her own place and has help with just a call button, meals provided, help with her meds and help putting socks or shoes on. They will also help her the next few days with a shower, etc. so it's all wonderful. She said she'll stay the full week and if need be, even longer, but we're hoping she can come home to her apt. after one week too, but this way she gets to just rest and recuperate without the worry of meal prep, etc. I saw her incision today and it looks great and is much smaller than I expected and she's able to walk on her own without assistance, but does tire easily. I am so thankful she's recovering so well and just wanted to update you all.


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Wed, Oct 15, 2008 07:27

Hi Queen! - yes it has been very heart warming! Mom is getting stronger every day and I'm sure it's all the good energies from everyone contributing. Today we got great news! The cancer has NOT spread to the lymph nodes, which is fantastic and what I've been putting out there for weeks now! Her staples are coming out and she'll be able to go to respite within 1-2 days so she's in 7th heaven and so are we! We just found out that Dr. Foster who was the ICU doctor has left to go to B.C. He had mentioned he was moving, but we had no idea it was so soon. He was an amazing doctor and to think this was his last week while Mom was in ICU is nothing short of a miracle! One part of my healing prayers said "The doctors are divinely guide and directed, and whoever touches my mother is guided to do the right thing". Although we and she sometimes felt frustrated at the lack of communication as to my Mom's condition, I had great faith they were doing their very best. I am not a religious person, more spiritual, but know beyond a shadow of a doubt, that all those keeping her in their thoughts and prayers made a difference. It was one week ago she underwent the surgery, and although tired and weakened, it is remarkable she's able to walk on her own and has progressed so far in such a short time. I thank all of you for your support and caring.


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Wed, Oct 15, 2008 05:46

Thank you for sharing your experience, Ready. It has been heart warming too see how many wonderful people are here, who care about others who are a part of our community. Very cool. I hope your mother continues getting stronger and feeling better everyday.

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Posted on Mon, Oct 13, 2008 17:35

Ry - thanks so much for your post, I believe everyone's thoughts and prayers have helped tremendously so a huge thank you to you and everyone who posted on this blog. Today my Mom did get moved out of ICU into a regular room, she's off all intravenous and just on the nose drip oxygen. We were just discussing how amazing it is that she's had so little pain and what a great thing that is! She's able to hoist herself up in the bed, ate a good amount of dinner tonight and is doing some deep breathing exercises every hour. I told her to diligently do her breathing exercises every hour or more, make sure to eat as much as she can and to drink the proper amount of water so she gets her strength back and can get the heck out of there lol! She agreed and although my brother had been to visit her earlier and said she was in a grumpy mood, she was fine when I arrived. Gave her a nice leg and foot massage as her feet and knees are a bit swollen, she loves that and says she'll be so spoiled by the time she gets back home lol! She's improved greatly and I hope she can get out soon and go to the respite home for one week, she'll be much happier there. Thank you to everyone for all your wonderful posts, they have been greatly appreciated and have reignited my belief that there's many good people out there and most definitely on MM!


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Sun, Oct 12, 2008 11:21

The important thing to remember Ready is that your Mother knows you are there for her. The bond you share will never be broken. Everything happens for a reason, setbacks may happen when the mind is willing but the body isn't quite yet able. Know that you and your Mother are in our thoughts and prayers. God Bless


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Posted on Sat, Oct 11, 2008 06:59

Yesterday was not a good day for Mom. My brother and I visited later in the day, she was resting comfortably by then but is needing transfusions and wasn't eating. Seems every other day she has an episode, so tomorrow should be better. I called this morning to get an update and was so surprised when they put my Mom on the phone! I told her how wonderful it was to hear her voice!! She'd had a good night, no episodes is how she put it lol! My step sister and her hubbie are visiting today, my cousin too, I'll go in a bit later to spread it out as she said yesterday she finds it lonely. It's a gorgeous, sunny, warm day and my mood brightened considerably when I heard her voice! We usually talk every morning and evening so this was great hearing her today and felt somewhat normal!


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Thu, Oct 09, 2008 13:57

Hey Shaz! - yep I'm very tired but getting good sleep, I try to visit twice a day and that eats up many hours so not getting much else done right now, but that's okay too. Thank you for keeping her in your continued thoughts. Thanks Britt - sure not what she needed on top of this pretty major surgery, but she's in good hands. I am keeping the faith and am very positive, it will all work out for the good. Not going to update all that often unless there's something very positive happening. Mom is still in ICU, had a good start yesterday by getting out of bed and sitting in a chair for about 1 hr., but then her heart went wonky and she was very short of breath, about 8 doctors and nurses were buzzing around, meds administered to lower her blood pressure, then meds to bring it back up and full oxygen for a while. After about 1 1/2 hrs. of this, she began to normalize but was totally exhausted, anxious and agitated. Said she was very discouraged, but I reminded her it's been just a few days and she's been through huge trauma to her body so not to let it get her down and to remember to celebrate every milestone she does make. Reminded her again today how many people love her and how much good energy is coming her way from thoughts and prayers and to focus on that. She gets almost claustrophobic with the mask on and too many people, so I suggested to her today to just close her eyes and focus on her breathing in and out, in and out and see if it doesn't calm her down. Her getting so worked up is the worst thing for her heart and breathing, but she did say today she talked herself out of having an episode today so that's great. It broke my heart watching her struggle so yesterday and her eyes looking so panicked and not being able to do anything for her, but I knew they all were doing their best for her so stayed out of their way. I'm heading back over shortly for another short visit. She's so tired as in ICU there is always someone at you either for taking her temp, an ECG, chest xray, etc. and she doesn't get unbroken sleep. I feel good sleep is the best form of healing, don't get why they don't get that, but hopefully she's out of ICU in the next few days. I had a shiatsu massage today that tremendously helped relax me, my own heart was bothering me, I can feel it in my chest like an ache, but it's all good now. I think it's going to take much longer than was first anticipated for recovery, but it will take as long as it takes and I'm getting used to rolling with the ups and downs and continuing my healing prayers for Mom each morning and evening. My heartfelt thanks to all those keeping her in your thoughts and prayers.


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Tue, Oct 07, 2008 13:29

Ready, So sorry to hear about the set-back with your mom. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Keep the faith and stay positive. Hugs, Britt


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Posted on Tue, Oct 07, 2008 13:22

Ready..I dont plan on being around much , so I wanted to say I do hope the best for you both. I had those leg massagers on after surgery,,they feel really good..make getting up a bit of a challenge with all the lines. Ive often wished I had a pair at home. Make sure you get enough rest and eat right , all that.You need to keep your strenght up. good luck


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Posted on Tue, Oct 07, 2008 11:53

Just got back from seeing Mom in ICU, she's had a minor heart attack but they're not sure when. Mom told me that on Sun. she got quite cold and couldn't get warm, then said didn't I tell you? I said yes you mentioned being cold, but then she went on to say her hand went a bit blue, she felt light headed and woozy but didn't think anything of it. It was probably on Sun. the day before the surgery that she had it, but they're monitoring her very closely right now to make sure and there's mention of an angiogram, but nothing definite. Sure not good news, but she is doing well and isn't in pain, in fact has used very little self administered pain meds. At this point they seemed much more concerned about her heart than her colon. Her colour is very good, they've got these automatic massagers on both her legs and that's great for not having clots. Her humour is great too, but it's a lot and she joked that she's falling apart. The next 24 hours will dictate what's to be done heart wise, they may even send her home after recovery without an angiogram for now. There is risk with an angiogram which the doctor confirmed, so I'll have to research that a bit more. Such a rollercoaster of emotion, one minute it's all good news, the next not so good, but I'm doing my best to keep positive and calm and so is Mom.


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Tue, Oct 07, 2008 06:32

you ve got it.


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Posted on Tue, Oct 07, 2008 06:08

Thank you cutiebooty! - My Mom really is a sweetie, but as the doctor told me yesterday, she's tough and a fighter, but has such a sweet disposition. Queen - Retrograde is still causing a few issues, has been an unusual time with emotions, I'll be glad when it's over lol! thenewman - thanks for your wishes for a speedy recovery, she's going to need them. Thanks for your lovely compliment too, I make my Mom number one priority right now, can't explain it but just know I need to be there for her right now for a whole bunch of reasons. shaz - yes it was fantastic news! My brother picked me up at 1:15pm once getting back into the city, we got to the hospital about 10 mins. later, were told her room had been assigned so we went there only to find her not in the room. I set all her stuff up and then we went to find out what was going on. Much confusion, no one seemed really to know exactly where she was. We got to a waiting area, had a wonderful elderly volunteer check and she told us my Mom was in ICU! We went to ICU, saw Mom's name on the board, yet she wasn't in ICU yet, still waiting for the surgeon's reply. Now I was getting very frustrated, went back to the nice volunteer, she checked again and said your Mom is still in recovery. This was now 3:30pm. I asked if I could see my Mom, was told Mom's OR Nurse didn't like visitors, which ticked me off no end, but I calmly sat back down. The surgeon finally emerged, told us Mom was a "bit dehydrated but was fine" and we could see her in about 1 1/2 hrs. once she got to ICU. I'm not one to take no for an answer so I very sweetly explained to the volunteer, we'd been up since 2am, were both exhausted and fading fast, could we please just see my Mom for a few minutes and she came back to say yes come with me! Mom looked good, good colour, etc. was very lucid and clear, told me there'd been doctors at her all day, she had another ECG, heart echo, abdominal ultrasound, all of which the surgeon hadn't mentioned. I was concerned about her heart as we'd found out just before surgery that she has a moderately leaky heart valve which means when the right side of her heart pumps blood, it doesn't all go out as it should, it backwashes back into the heart and this is why her circulation isn't good. Just wished the darn doctor wouldn't sugar coat things and just level with us, but seems how it's done. Mom wasn't in any pain which was a blessing, I kissed her and told her I'd be in tomorrow, then my brother went in for a bit. We left the hospital and around 6:30pm I called to find out whether she was in ICU yet. Long story short - after many phone calls, some of which I couldn't even get through, about 9pm I finally got through to ICU, spoke to her nurse who said Mom's blood pressure had been low but was now stabilized and she was not in pain, oh and to call anytime I wanted an update. I called my brother, filled him in then went to bed. This morning I called at 7:30am to see how Mom was, got someone saying call back at 8:30am because the nursing shift had just occurred and the new nurse was assessing my Mom. Not what I wanted to hear, but hung up, said a few healing prayers and thought I'll call back. Called back and spoke to the nurse, she said they are concerned about her heart, she still has very low pressure. A cardiologist is coming to assess her again today. Mom is resting comfortably, is totally alert and aware of everything, she's not in pain and will remain in ICU. The nurse will call me back once the cardiologist has been in. I ask that if you can, and you have no idea what all these loving, caring comments have meant to me and I've passed them along to my Mom too, please keep her in your thoughts and prayers.


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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