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Posted on Sat, Aug 30, 2008 17:24

Which is a wiser choice; to have never fallen in love and not know what it is or to have fallen in love and lost, left with a broken heart? Perhaps the question is badly phrased. It is not the matter of "wiser choice," rather preferences. I surmised in order to fully make the decision that better shoots you, one has to go back and evaluate this with the general knowledge. Some people spent their entire lives searching, always searching, for true love and never found. They will be disappointed and say that they have never known love. However, there are those who have fallen in love and say that to never known love is better.... Of course, this is quite unfair because they only say that through experience. Whether it be curiosity or yearning for that assumed (better put, widely agreed) wonderful feeling of falling in love or being in love makes a lot of people wanting to know what love is even with all the risks. Personally I think it is better to have never known love. From my previous experiences... I have seen that love fade due to many circumstances, top of the list being that people change. A couple truly in love with each other married, have children, changed, and through the changes no longer recognize each other, the impossible distances cannot be cover, so they part. They were in love once but they have lost one another and themselves. Tragic but you see it more and more every day. Let's see... how many people, claiming, have committed suicide as a result of a broken up left with a broken heart? I don't know the answer to this but the pain... I can understand. There are many challenges in life and painful scars as a result of this... some not erasable, this is one. One can move on with one's life if and only if he or she can find the means to do so from a broken heart but one never forgets and it always leave a mark. Now, I ask you this; no matter how wonderful the feeling of being in love is... it is worth it? The length of that temporary love compare to the times of the pain afterward that seems to last forever? The hole that it leaves in your heart? Unfortunately for some people, they never move on. Those are the one that succeed in taking their own lives. And how many people has deny it or bury it or closed the door to their heart forever? These people suffer even more than those that has literarily die. It is worth it? True, you will miss out that wonderful feelings of being in love but you will also eliminate the sorrow that haunts afterward. Of course, like everything else, I'm being cynical because there are rare (beautifully rare) cases in which "happily ever after" exist. But what are the chances? Besides... the curiosity and the search for the answer in itself is, most of the time, worth more than the answer itself. The journey, not the destination that counts. So be curious, have fun running into what might have been love but save yourself the trouble. Growing up, my mother taught me that it is better, if I ever love, to marry someone who loves me more than I can return the love. She said it is the best way to hold it and make it last. I thought it was selfish... and that love cannot be selfish. In my mind, there is only one more thing more selfish than love: suicide. For those of you who think otherwise, I hope you have the best of luck when you find love. And it is all right because you have known something that I never will and because, once conquer, you have faced one of the most challenging thing in life; heartbreak. I applauded you. However, Do not think that I'm a coward because I chose this path. Do not think that you are braver because you will take the risk. It is simply the choice of preferences. I rather not have what I might lose... unless I have the capacity to have it forever. There are no merit for who is right or who is wrong here nor who is braver or who is coward. The only merit is the choice you make and how you face the consequences of your choice. Will you ever rise again if you should fall from the grace of love? Do you still consider me a coward when I refuse to try my happiness knowing I might be too weak to get up? What of you then? If you rise? If you fall... forever, then happiness will be lost too? In the end, if there be merit, it is who is happier with their choices. I'm happy with mine. What about you? Still searching? Then I hope you find, because it is the only way to know. I should extent my pity toward all those who is uncertain. If one know, one can walk the path thoroughly rightly or wrongly. But at least one has walked it with a sense of knowing, believing, and confidence. This person may have the capacity to know, also, when reaching the end that he or she is wrong. The person who is right will be happy. But the uncertain. They might not know it, they might not understand it, and they might never will; but one has to pay the greatest price sometimes for being uncertain... almost always the most expensive of all.


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Posted on Thu, Sep 11, 2008 03:01

Let me make a few comparative questions here...... Why have societies had the need to invent the concept of religion? Does this suggest we seek the love and acceptance of a higher power whatever it's source? Is it not that power of love that we seek in the eye's of a beloved? Has this escaped our connection with this nature of our being? We come to this world innocent and the only thing we seek is nutrition and the loving smile IS IT WORTH IT????? Damned if we do and damned if we don't. Give me..... and permit me... to give all of it I can possibly know D (*)(*)


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Posted on Thu, Sep 11, 2008 01:00

it's a matter of audiences i supposed. in my mind most of you are strong people who has risen above the fall... who chose to stand once again and to love if the chance permits... but really... it's a matter of audiences.


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Posted on Sun, Sep 07, 2008 10:47

If it is a feeling shared equally by both partners, it is a wonderful thing!!! If it is only shared by one and not the other, it is a terrible thing...


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Posted on Sun, Sep 07, 2008 09:33

Yes, I think love is worth it. But...I should also add that as we get wiser we are MUCH more selective about who we really love. And that real love only comes (for those with cyber love) after you have met that person and known them for awhile. Love is what we are all looking for. The question might be, is it unconditional love that we are really looking for? Or that fantasy of love that is impossible to achieve?

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Posted on Sun, Sep 07, 2008 08:50

Love is ALWAYS worth it. TRUE Love is what we HUMANS SEEK. as in the Broadway musical (touring cast) of Spring Awakening song "You're gonna be my bruise .... I'm gonna be your wound." The play so opens our eyes to love. I would much rather soar above the clouds for a time and fall. Then never have experienced it and be lonely or worse yet not truly ever feeling the "immersion of love"

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Posted on Mon, Sep 01, 2008 12:19

no, love is not worth it.


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Posted on Sat, Aug 30, 2008 18:30

I believe love is a choice. No one is perfect and you can't expect perfection from the one you're with. Just as you enter by choice, you recover and grow by choice. When you decide to be with someone, you focus on that person. When you start doubting this choice, that is when it breaks down. If for whatever reason, it doesn't work out, after everything settles, you realize that you have learned something and that makes you more likely to do it better the next time. Fear shouldn't keep you from your best successes.


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