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Posted on Tue, Aug 19, 2008 19:30

OK, I'm new to blogging and this is the third post that I've made so I've decided to start a topic. So, regarding past relationships, I was just wondering what will help you secure that love-of-your-life this time? Have you learned from your previous relationships what you'd like to bring into your new MM relationship? The first thing I have learned is how to survive the loss of a love and move on. Geeze that's a hard lesson to learn. But, carrying the past into future relationships or talking about your Ex continuously doesn't help to develop the next relationship. Unless he's a psychiatrist, then he/she is paid to listen... so spill! I have learned that everyone has brilliant qualities that I usually love. After all, I was attracted to them in the beginning wasn't I. And, the combination of all of them (usually about three men) together will make the perfect man. But, I want just one really, incredibly special man. So, I have learned to improve MY tolerance levels, my level of kindness and not sweat the small stuff. There's no perfection. However, I'm inclined to believe there's someone who will come very close to achieving that status in my mind and heart. I have also learned that I can't change the person that I'm dating. So, if he is not the right person and we don't have the right chemistry it's time to let go and move on. Finally and most importantly, If I summed up my experiences I would have to say that I have learned to treasure having an incredible relationship. They are rare. There's nothing better on this planet than experiencing true love! Cher

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Posted on Thu, Sep 11, 2008 13:37

Cher, Having had a few experiences in regard to relationships I can tell you what is most important. The best way to stop talking about your Ex is to find your Next! The past memories you have are just that, memories. There is a reason that person is no longer in your presence. So take the time to remember what it was about them that has removed them from you life. Find the person that will treasure you and complete the void in your life! Create and share new a life together that surpasses the old life you had. Don?t repeat the pattern, break free and discovery what you want and deserve! So what do you think, want to start a new life together?

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Posted on Mon, Sep 08, 2008 11:11

Optimyst, I like the term "Realistic Optimist" in regards to future relations. I must say, that really sparked my interest level. I often ask myself what is realistic to expect of one person that you love and adore. So, in our desires to be optimistic what are realistic expectations and which ones tend to be unrealistic? (((((((((((( hugs ))))))))))) realistic Optimist! Thanks for adding value to the blog. Cher


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Posted on Mon, Sep 08, 2008 11:03

Louise, I was out of town for the past two weeks so I'm sorry I didn't reply earlier. That was a GREAT post! I think one serious long term relationship qualifies you. It certainly gives you an open outlook on new relationships. I loved what you said about entering a new relationship with an honest, forgiving and unbiased heart... that's a great perspective to keep! Thank you for your post! (((((((((((( hugs )))))))))) Cher


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Posted on Wed, Aug 20, 2008 11:20

Hi Cher, i feel a little inexperienced and possibly a little out of my depth in replying to this post. But i found it really intriuging, and it definately hit home for me....so here goes. In all honesty, iv only had one serious, long lasting relationship in my life. But what i learnt from it will stay with me forever. And after alot of hurt, hard times...and laughter too, i learnt that no relationship is perfect. They all take compromise honesty and trust, and most importantly i learnt that no matter how bad a relationship can be with one person. You have to accept that it wasnt meant to be, move on and leave those hurt feelings and bad times where they belong. In the past. Too many people seem to carry so much emotional baggage with them into new relationships, and almost pursecute their new love because of something that their ex has done to hurt them, and by doing that ruin a chance at real happiness before its even begun. So in a nutshell what i have learnt is this: Nobodys perfect, people mess up and relationships end. But if you can enter each new relationship with an honest, forgiving, and UNBIASED heart. Then you might just be that little bit closer to finding the one for you. Thanks for the great post Cher Keep them coming! :) Louise. x


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Posted on Wed, Aug 20, 2008 08:01

I found the value of staying positive and being a realistic optimist


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