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Posted on Thu, Aug 14, 2008 10:31

Got this from another dating site and thought it was funny and appropriate. As novices of online dating, some people don't realize that their profile picture doesn't represent them well. If your personal profile isn't yielding the amount of clicks you'd like, the problem may be your portrait. Before you get insulted by the title of this piece, we'd like to first compliment you on the choices you've made. You've taken the initiative to set up a profile, upload a photo, and put yourself out there, and that is no small feat. It takes gumption to be able to show the world who you are, and for that we give you kudos. After all, this new world of online profiles isn't exactly easy to navigate. Many people struggle with the amount of information they should put on their profile. Others wonder whether they should post a picture, and if so, which one? Should you post the photo that makes you look like an absolute 10, or the one that makes you look 10 pounds thinner? We aren't going to pull any punches here: how you look in your photo does matter. But not in the way you think. More often than not, your looks aren't the deciding factor in whether or not you're going to make a friend or score a date. What matters is what you are doing in your picture; in other words, how you present yourself to the world. You may think it's crazy, but it's true: you don't have to be the best-looking person on the site to meet people; you just have to represent yourself well. Check out the list below for examples of photos that you shouldn't post under any circumstances. Photo #1: You're at a Bar Drinking with Your Friends In an effort to come off as fun and well-liked, many people post pictures of themselves drinking at a bar with their friends. Big mistake. Pictures that show you drinking at a bar don't make you look entertaining, fun, or special; they make you look like a barfly. The snapshot may have been taken on the one night you go out all year, but the people on the other side of cyberspace don't know that. What they see is that you like to go out drinking with your friends. That's your priority. Something you do often. If that's the persona you'd like to reflect, fine. But know that drinking has lost its luster for most people over a certain age. Photo #2: You've Cut Out Your Ex We've all been tempted to do it, but cutting your ex out of a picture and then posting it online is a bad idea for a number of reasons. For starters, every time you check out your profile and see that picture, you're going to think of your ex. After all, he or she used to be standing right next to you! Second, in the age of digital photography, there's no reason why you can't easily take another picture where you look just as good. Or better! If you absolutely must crop your ex out of a photo, do it right and cut him or her completely out of the picture. Don't leave a big square in the middle where a face used to be. Photo #3: You're Standing Next to a Celebrity Unless you're good friends with Jennifer Aniston, there's no reason why you should be standing next to her in your profile photo. Actually, even if you're best friends with Jennifer Aniston, you probably shouldn't be standing next to her in your profile photo. This phenomenon is a little less common than the others, but it does happen. If you do happen to have a picture of yourself with a celebrity, don't post it. It won't make you look more important or more alluring. You'll just look like a person standing next to a celebrity. Photo #4: You're Dressed as a Superhero We get that some people really like to dress up in costumes even when it isn't Halloween. There are many social events and social circles where this is accepted and encouraged, and more power to people who find their niche in the world. However, while your friends may understand your penchant for dressing like the original Superman at Comic-Con, most people perusing your profile won't. We aren't suggesting that you make an effort to - excuse the pun - disguise who you are. In fact, any person who's worth your time will delight in your quirkiness. But when you're putting yourself out there, it's best to save the fun photos for later on down the road. Photo #5: You're Posing with Something Expensive To give the profile photograph some perspective, you've decided it would be a good idea to pose next to your brand-new luxury car. Surely no one will be able to resist someone who's leaning against a BMW, right? Wrong. When you pose next to one of your toys or stand in a way that shows off your Hermes bag, you come off as superficial. When it comes down to it, no one wants to be with someone who cares more about things than people. There is a caveat, however: if your hobbies include tinkering with or collecting expensive toys, it's okay to include them in your profile picture. Just make sure you are trying to represent you, not your net worth. We've all seen them and some of us may even have them on our own profiles eeeek! Do I hear little fingers hitting "edit my profile"? lol!


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Fri, May 01, 2009 23:29

THANKS FOR POSTING THAT ARTICLE ABOUT THE PHOTOS I REALLY LAUGH WHEN I SEE SOMEONE POSING WITH A CELEBRITY BECAUSE A LITTLE PHOTOSHOP PROGRAM CAN ACHIEVE THAT KIND OF "FRIENDSHIP" IN ABOUT 10 MINUTES! THANKS FOR THE LAUGH AND FOR LETTING PEOPLE KNOW THEY NEED TO CLEAN UP THEIR PHOTOS! MY ONLY QUESTION IS...DO I LOOK LIKE A SCHOOL TEACHER? LOL

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Posted on Tue, Nov 11, 2008 18:13

Quoting NaplesGolfer: So the cars pictures are a no no? Is that just non-sports cars? Can you use the photos getting off the Jet? Does it have to be your jet or can you borrow a friends, or better just stand next to one that says Delta next time your in the airport terminal...lol I added this shot because it has all the no no's....car, sunglasses, taken with a cell phone...lol At least I dont have a gut in it...And it within the last year. Perhaps this is why I am still waiting to meet Cher.

Actually, I love the car!..... oh, where you in the photo?


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Posted on Fri, Sep 12, 2008 18:34

note to Naples golfer,,,I happen to like a man with a big........... plane !


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Posted on Fri, Sep 12, 2008 09:47

Hey tinypebbles! - so nice to see a picture! Hi NaplesGolfer aka Sonny - sounds like you just may have found your Cher! As with BlueEyz who posted earlier on this blog, seems the men do like to pose with their toys, but your profile also shows many other shots too with friends so who knows if this list of not to do's applies or not. LOL Britt! - That picture most definitely qualifies as the #6 picture not to post hahaha! If anyone else has funny pictures, please post them, this could be fun!


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Thu, Sep 11, 2008 18:02

Photo #6 Don't show your ASS! This makes one wonder if you might be the type of person who is always in a hurry and has no time to pull up their pants, or it could portray that you really are an ASS!

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Posted on Thu, Sep 11, 2008 13:17

So the cars pictures are a no no? Is that just non-sports cars? Can you use the photos getting off the Jet? Does it have to be your jet or can you borrow a friends, or better just stand next to one that says Delta next time your in the airport terminal...lol I added this shot because it has all the no no's....car, sunglasses, taken with a cell phone...lol At least I dont have a gut in it...And it within the last year. Perhaps this is why I am still waiting to meet Cher.

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Posted on Wed, Aug 20, 2008 19:26

Welcome MonCher, enjoy the blogs ;) .... I was thinking about the blurry pictures... Sometimes we see new profiles which are pretty incomplete and have blurry pictures... look suspicious to me, if not scary.


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Posted on Tue, Aug 19, 2008 21:46

Awe.... Tiny Pebbles, That was really a very sweet post. I agree, I would rather have them see me the way I really am. Although one day I may go the professional route... lol. Thanks for the welcome to blogland.


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Posted on Tue, Aug 19, 2008 18:45

Quoting MonCher: Hi, I usually don't post to the blogs but I wanted to when I read this one. I may have broken all the rules. Well...not really! I didn't post pictures with an Ex... oh, yes I did... well he's a great friend now! So, I didn't think that counted. I'm not an expert at this. However, I am convinced I've committed the number 1 sin when posting photos on the internet! That's having your pictures taken with a cell phone camera. Geeze ... would someone please take a real picture of me. Just kidding, I have some... I just don't use them (smile). Oh well, here's my thoughts on the matter. If he likes you after seeing cell phone pictures, he'll be so relieved to meet you in "real life". It can only get better! On the other hand, having a professional photographer and a make-up artist could be extremely beneficial. After all, it's amazing to see the effects of brilliant artistry. It might really bring my numbers a lot higher (after all, I am 53.... smile). If I'm wrong, I'll deal with the numbers. I've met a few amazing men on MM. I'm happy with the progress so far. If it slows down a bit. I'll try the professional route. For now... I'll let you see my freckles & any imperfections - it's me! Oh, regarding the pictures that are blurry.... ((((((((((((((((( sorry )))))))))))))))). Isn't that a no-no too... lol? Thanks for choosing this topic. It's a fun one to read! Hey my second post is complete! ((((((((((( Hugs ))))))))))) to all of you who post. Cher

Raw pictures like these are better than the one that one go thru great lenghts to look good! At least, they know the looks does not change when they are sitting next to that special woman hours later and all the make-up is gone. And they are still beautiful and stunning!...or he would not had been sitting besides her in the first place. Welcome to Blogland! Melinda


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Posted on Tue, Aug 19, 2008 16:06

Ready, Thanks for the welcome. That was very sweet! I hope to blog more. (((((((((((( hugs ))))))))))))) Cher


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Posted on Tue, Aug 19, 2008 12:08

Hey Mariana! - yes I think the pictures with either gender surrounding the MM member sort of has that look Hi PM! - I thought you meant you got palpitations from thinking about posting a pic on your MM profile? Wasn't sure as you mentioned speaking engagements? Sure hope I get an invite to the wedding lol! MonCher - welcome to the blogs! always great when one of the "lurkers" (those who read but don't post) come out and join us! I think any picture as long as it's clear works fine, yours seem to be doing the trick! ;) Glad you like the bloggers and we look forward to you joining in.


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Tue, Aug 19, 2008 00:14

Hi, I usually don't post to the blogs but I wanted to when I read this one. I may have broken all the rules. Well...not really! I didn't post pictures with an Ex... oh, yes I did... well he's a great friend now! So, I didn't think that counted. I'm not an expert at this. However, I am convinced I've committed the number 1 sin when posting photos on the internet! That's having your pictures taken with a cell phone camera. Geeze ... would someone please take a real picture of me. Just kidding, I have some... I just don't use them (smile). Oh well, here's my thoughts on the matter. If he likes you after seeing cell phone pictures, he'll be so relieved to meet you in "real life". It can only get better! On the other hand, having a professional photographer and a make-up artist could be extremely beneficial. After all, it's amazing to see the effects of brilliant artistry. It might really bring my numbers a lot higher (after all, I am 53.... smile). If I'm wrong, I'll deal with the numbers. I've met a few amazing men on MM. I'm happy with the progress so far. If it slows down a bit. I'll try the professional route. For now... I'll let you see my freckles & any imperfections - it's me! Oh, regarding the pictures that are blurry.... ((((((((((((((((( sorry )))))))))))))))). Isn't that a no-no too... lol? Thanks for choosing this topic. It's a fun one to read! Hey my second post is complete! ((((((((((( Hugs ))))))))))) to all of you who post. Cher

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Posted on Sat, Aug 16, 2008 15:42

Not sure who had that pic in their profile, but sure was funny ;) Other profiles I pass up are those where a guy is surrounded by many women at a bar or night club. Makes me think he's kind of a Hug Heffner wannabe. Not my type. Next...

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Posted on Sat, Aug 16, 2008 09:16

Quoting BlueEyz2006: Dear Ready4You, Actually I haven't had any complaints about the photos so I am left to wonder if the criticism is there but unstated. The celeb is "Dr. Jack Hodgins" from Fox's tv show "Bones". I agree with you on the cutting out of ex-es being tacky. Mine's in one of the photos with me (she's the girl from India).

Hi BlueEyz - LOL! that I thought it was the Taco Bell dog hahaha! He's actually a solid tan colour chihuahau and the one in your picture is black and tan, I'm still chuckling on that one :) That is very cool to have a family member be an actor and when I do catch Bones I always enjoy it! Love the forensics combined with humour. I hear you re not having complaints about the pictures but wondering all the same whether these tips I've posted are founded? Maybe you could try an experiment and remove them to see what happens and see if there's any difference, mind you it will take time to see long term results. I always ask what it is that someone liked in my profile when communicating and what they thought in general, helps me to refurbish my profile. Your ex looks lovely in that picture. My thoughts are that if someone is interested in you and finds out that's your ex, she may think you're not over her yet and haven't moved on. Just my thoughts and how I would react. These tips came from a site that does matches according to personality assessments. When I first read it I found it humourous, but I also agreed with what they said as that is how I felt when I viewed men's profiles with these pictures, so they may well have a point? It's also a big numbers game online and I really do believe that you can't say the wrong thing to the right person, nor can you say the right thing to the wrong person. I just believe in doing your best to reflect who you are and being honest works best in a profile if you want to attract a life partner.


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Sat, Aug 16, 2008 09:14

Hey Queen! That is actually one of my favourite pictures of you! I love how natural and happy you look and I also love that majestic horse, and the horse is also looking right at the camera too! I knew you were joking as bragging isn't your style at all ;) Howdy loneranger! - how ya doin? Who the heck is Arnie? lol! Now stop all that flirting and get back to work laying those pebbles hehehe!


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Sat, Aug 16, 2008 09:08

Quoting BlueEyz2006: Dear Ready4You, Actually I haven't had any complaints about the photos so I am left to wonder if the criticism is there but unstated. The celeb is "Dr. Jack Hodgins" from Fox's tv show "Bones". I agree with you on the cutting out of ex-es being tacky. Mine's in one of the photos with me (she's the girl from India).

Hi BlueEyz - LOL! that I thought it was the Taco Bell dog hahaha! He's actually a solid tan colour chihuahau and the one in your picture is black and tan, I'm still chuckling on that one :) That is very cool to have a family member be an actor and when I do catch Bones I always enjoy it! Love the forensics combined with humour. I hear you re not having complaints about the pictures but wondering all the same whether these tips I've posted are founded? Maybe you could try an experiment and remove them to see what happens and see if there's any difference, mind you it will take time to see long term results. I always ask what it is that someone liked in my profile when communicating and what they thought in general, helps me to refurbish my profile. Your ex looks lovely in that picture. My thoughts are that if someone is interested in you and finds out that's your ex, she may think you're not over her yet and haven't moved on. Just my thoughts and how I would react. These tips came from a site that does matches according to personality assessments. When I first read it I found it humourous, but I also agreed with what they said as that is how I felt when I viewed men's profiles with these pictures, so they may well have a point? It's also a big numbers game online and I really do believe that you can't say the wrong thing to the right person, nor can you say the right thing to the wrong person. I just believe in doing your best to reflect who you are and being honest works best in a profile if you want to attract a life partner.


What is love? Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. :)

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Posted on Sat, Aug 16, 2008 08:38

LOL just a regular photo of me by myself makes me undateable.. so if I was in a group maybe they would concentrate more on the others and think she might be okay..LOL


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Posted on Sat, Aug 16, 2008 04:08

I was just trying to be funny....the horse is worth that much, I simply do not have a jet to stand next to, like Blue. Heck, my car is not a sports car either so that will not impress anyone. hmmmmm. Lets see. Wait, I do have one of those sunglasses shots. Only those who know would know what kind of sunglasses they really are...LOL. My tent would not impress anyone, the location and view would.. hmmmmmm Oh, wait. I do have the photos of me wearing one of my crowns...

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People may not remember what you say or do, but they will remember how you made them feel.

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Posted on Sat, Aug 16, 2008 00:30

Quoting Queenofyourdreams: Ok, This is a big secret. I have not told anyone but those who are reading this blog. The horse that I am with in this photo is worth $500,000. Should I mention this in my profile? Does this make me undateable?

That is a gorgeous, gorgeous horse!!!


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