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Posted on Tue, Mar 25, 2008 05:06

Hello. As of recently I *finally* started receiving regular emails/winks (on this site and others) from different members. My problem is that at the very first email more often than not I feel as if I'm being rushed off of MM. I'm being asked for my personal email address and telephone number. At times they will provide their telephone number within their email. I don't feel comfortable sharing that type of information right away. Don't get me wrong, in the past when I first registered, I have spoken with a couple of "candidates". I also don't believe in the eternal-neverending-emails. I just find it awkward to share such personal information right away. Am I the only sharing these thoughts and feelings or am I just paranoid? I hope that everyone has a fabulous day.


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Posted on Fri, May 23, 2008 10:57

I never ask for #'s..I will meet in person with out talking.Because in the past,ive wasted hours on the phone,to find out there is NO physical attraction,on my part.


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Posted on Mon, Apr 07, 2008 08:01

I agree with you. Such a hard line, because getting to know someone via email is impersonal and daunting. I think the best rule is to get thier full name, and county. If your able, look up thier info by the county clerk of court. It takes 2 minutes, and you see any restraining orders and the picture to be sure it is who he says. It sucks that our world is where it is, but I don't want to be wishing I had taken things slower. YOU HAVE NO IDEA who is really on the other end of this thing. Pictures are easily posted by people that are not who they say they are and they did not verify that I was who I said. That makes me nervous. I agree block your number, and wait until you feel safe. I dont think they should push so fast it is tacky for guys to do that to us. It is bad Nettiquette for them to move so fast. They should wait for the women to request a phone call, and you should block them until you know they are safe. I wish you the best. GREAT TOPIC. Kisses Jeanne


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Posted on Sun, Mar 30, 2008 06:07

Hi GenieK, No not quite! "NolaSaint" is my best friend. She recommended the site to me. My profile has a few pictures of us together. I wrote a sort of hello blog to you all when I joined over Easter. But hello again! :) Although we do kind of look alike and our screen names are similar. I took mine because of a song titled "New Orleans Lady" which has been a favorite of mine for years.


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Posted on Thu, Mar 27, 2008 18:52

I have only been on the site for a few days and have had a similar experience. Having never done online dating before, I didn't know what to think. I mean I am just a little hesitant to give out my phone number to people I have never seen or met on the internet. However I want to agree with Sweetlili here. My friends that have tried this told me that meeting people online, for many is just that. A place to meet. If you met a guy in a coffee shop or a bar or the library or whatever, you wouldn't give them your e-mail address. You'd give them your number. It saves time taking things to a more personal level that e-mailing through MM. Personally, I don't mind giving my e-mail out if the guy doesn't seem too weird but I have said that I would feel more comfortable writing a couple of times before exchanging numbers. I think taking caution before giving out a phone number is a good idea. If that is something you want to do, most men should respect that without being too pushy. Just remember for many there comes a time when you kind of have to decide whether you want to move forward or not. I mean we aren't on here to make penpals. At least most aren't.


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Posted on Thu, Mar 27, 2008 18:28

damn bunch of hotties posting on this page. .. let me be in this group. haha and you two look legit too. . . no trolls. Anyhow, I agree. Definetly annoying when they send their phone# or ask for mine in first email. I like to chat online a few times at least


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Posted on Thu, Mar 27, 2008 08:10

Theres a real easy way round it, i always wanted to hear a voice if the person sounded interesting,


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Posted on Thu, Mar 27, 2008 07:18

it is the favorite trick of scammers,hackers and webcam boys to ask you to go off site asap. I'm sure that sometimes its harmless too. BUT DONT do it until you feel secure. Persoanlly, I do NOT like to talk on the phone. I prefer emails and Instant Messenger until I get to know someone. When you archive the conversations, its much easier to REALLY pay attention to what is being said. Any inconsistencies are easy to spot. Red flags become glaringly obvious. My last BF and I IMed for over a year before we finally met. ( he worked all over the world,so Im was an ideal way to comunicate.) By the time we did meet, I felt totally certain of him and all he told me. He was always consistent in all his communications. Listen to your instincts.


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