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Posted on Sun, Feb 03, 2008 13:59

After taking on the children's playroom (aka Chaos Central) I sat down at my computer and decided to read a few of the online articles (especially any that didn't contain the names Spears or Trump). I came across this article and thought it was rather very important to share here. It's from the online version of CanadianLiving and penned by Julie Beun-Chown. Spot the psychopath In film, a psychopath is easy to spot; he?s the guy with the charming smile, snaky eyes and knife up his sleeve. In real life, psychopaths can really only be diagnosed by professionals. But, say the experts, there are a few clues. ? Pity play: Psychopaths use our sympathy because we blindly believe they deserve it. "Consistently bad or egregiously inadequate behaviour with frequent plays for your pity is as close to a warning mark on a conscienceless person?s forehead as you will ever be given," says Martha Stout, a clinical psychology instructor at Harvard Medical School. ? Manipulative: Emotional puppeteers to the core, psychopaths love to make people jump, "even if it?s not to their benefit," says Stout. "If you?re left wondering why, or thinking there was no sense in what happened, that?s a red flag." ? Parasitical: Whether they use charm and manipulation or the pity play to meet their needs, "they prefer living off the work of others rather than their own efforts," says Robert Hare in Vancouver, a world authority on psychopathy. ? Deceitful: Big or little, deception is a tool of the trade. "Their lies are always woven with a thread of truth," warns Hare, "which, if questioned, they indignantly point out in their own defence." ? Charming: Compelling and charismatic, psychopaths are mesmerizing, like predators before the kill. ? Conceited: Psychopaths "think they?re the next step in evolution," says Hare, and they let it show with arrogance, boasting and undermining those around them. ? Not to blame: Not only do they never accept culpability, but psychopaths will also manufacture proof that puts others at fault. ? Reactionary: When it suits them, psychopaths can mask their anger, but will also "overreact in response to perceived personal insults or insufficient demonstration of respect for their authority," explains Hare. ? Risk-taking: Psychopaths never do dull, repetitive work but will lure others into taking financial, social or physical risks with them. ? Power-hungry: Attracted to positions of power, psychopaths are often found lurking in careers as politicians, lawyers, coaches, psychologists, counsellors and high school principals. If you know a psychopath You may think your love will cure him. Fuhgeddit. Psychopaths are untreatable. "People have a hard time getting their heads around that," says Donna Anderson, a U.S. journalist who launched lovefraud (sorry MM won't allow links so add the com at the end.)to educate the public after her husband defrauded her of $227,000 US. If you know a psychopath, she says, "put up your guard and get him out of your life." If you are suspicious, trust your instincts and take these steps: ? Check her credentials, university or criminal records, past relationships and work history for inconsistencies. ? Look past the smoke screen. "No matter what, always evaluate a person on what he says and how he behaves rather than the front he puts up," says Robert Hare, a world authority on psychopathy. ? Get a second opinion from friends and family on whose honesty you can rely. ? Don?t cover for her. If she acts in an unprincipled or criminal way, don?t lie to protect her. It will only give her more leverage in your life. *** now my notes*** Still more to think about in this dating world, but if it prevents one member from being hurt or taken then passing this information along was worth it. Leigh


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Posted on Tue, Feb 05, 2008 17:48

Quoting justKathi:
Quoting: Originally posted by _HONEY There is a commonly - known trait of psychopathic acting out. No matter how serious offense that s/he has committed, the psychopath is not able to sense feelings of pity, remorse, sorrow, or self blame. I would never say that this kind of psycho-social behavior is not treatable. Intense therapy programs and medication can be helpful at times. It all depends on the the level of the disorder, the intelligence of the individual, willingness and supports in place to improve, the strength of the program, and family and outpatient supports for continued assistance. It is a serious disorder that is not a term to use lightly. Not all people who act out are challenged with this disorder. I try not to identify those around me, but it is sometimes easy to see when others could use professional help. _Honey
So Leslie, sounds as if you speak from experience--like driving aound in a snow storm for 10 hours drinking chocolate milkshakes and keeping me awake all night on the phone. Remember that night? I sure do!

just wanted to make sure Leslie knows how a confidence is treated by some "creatures" here. In case the viper tries to do more backpeddaling.


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Posted on Tue, Feb 05, 2008 13:12

dont address me in any way shape or form. Do not harrass me, do not speak to me. Do not use my name. Nothing you have to say interests me in the slighest. You are a sick and twisted "it' who would betray her own child.


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Posted on Mon, Feb 04, 2008 02:35

being ill must be stressfull


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Posted on Sun, Feb 03, 2008 20:38

I find Brittany to be an interesting person.. not a psychopath.. a narcissist, or someone with an extreme personality disorder.. maybe a bit bipolar as well. I think she is really mentally ill, and very lonely.. I don't know if she has lost the line.. that line between reality, and fantasy. perhaps she can't test.. that is test reality. Perhaps she hears voices that don't exist. I don't think this is the case.. she has boarderline personality disorder. maybe a bit histrionic also.. she very 'out there'.. she's seeking attention like that of a histrionic. but there may be some bipolar also. not sure and drugs factor in here too.. don't be deceived... she's on drugs big time.. this may be a ploy to distract her drug use..' don't forget the fact that she shaved her head... this all started when Kevin started fighting her for her children... she's fighting him, the best way she can of, while holding on to public sympathy.


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Posted on Sun, Feb 03, 2008 19:51

Sadly, they are not just spouses and lovers. They are your friends. I have one I am now trying to deal with. I didn't go to her house for Christmas Eve as I usually do because I had company coming to mine and let her know at least a week before hand that I would not be there. But she insists that I blew her off at Christmas and I'm the bad guy.


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Posted on Sun, Feb 03, 2008 18:58

there are plenty of women that fit that description exactly. They are all around and are good at disguises. Except rip a disguise off of one and they fly into all kinds of rages, have public meltdowns and then blame everyone else. The later they come back round all sweet with a "pity me pity me" story of some kind. If I ran the "Island"...this type would receive a short walk over a steep cliff.


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Posted on Sun, Feb 03, 2008 17:37

They wrote an article on my ex!! Wow..he's always did think he was the center of the universe and now he has his own article.....! LOL Thanks for the reminder...after all there are psychopaths among us! ;)


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Posted on Sun, Feb 03, 2008 17:24

Noooo Trish. Not you *L* Never You. *LOL* Oh yeahhh I know exactly who you are refering to. My ex husband right? *LOL* Kidding. Or am I? Yes I would have to say that he definately could fit that profile to a T. No wait, THEY fit that profile to a T. If someone had made me sit down and read this article 15 years ago, I can assure you that it would have made a difference. And saved many a heartache too.


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Posted on Sun, Feb 03, 2008 15:15

"Psychopaths are untreatable." This is what we all have to understand. I have found that the only solution I have found is to get away from them, where they be boss, co-worker, spouse, or whatever the relationship. If you can expose them, fine, but that will not change them.


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