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BlueEyz2006
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Posted on Mon, Jan 28, 2008 22:42

I know many wealthy people who married for money and it was the worst mistake they ever made. Unfortunately, some on this site seem destined for the same fate. I swear, these are actual excerpts from a profile here - notice the grammar. Naturally, there are photos of a beautiful young woman on the profile "...i just recently lost my job, i think im on here to look for someone to take care of me for awhile finacially, and in return have some of the greatest times ever!... oh, and i love shopping! what girly girl does'nt?? Im not a bimbo by far, im very intelligent, you can bet to have great conversations with me, no awkward pauses! I will show you how to live life with your money, how to have fun! Im looking for a man who is finacially stable, not cheap, someone who actually would like apprication for the things he does, i dont care if your married, if your on here it's because your looking for me! i will break it down again: non committed relationship, who knows?? i would not date anyone while we are taking on our friendship, no drama, would help me out finacially and in return go on trips with me, dinners,shopping, cozy couch nights with movies, a confidant, a true blue friend, if you are the kind considerate man im looking for, i will treat you like gold, no more crap from crazy women, no more unappreciative gold diggers! hope to find a new job soon, but even if i do, i would love to keep you in my life. I can't wait to meet you!! please, serious inquires only." ARE YOU SERIOUS? Do she really think men with money who are worth meeting would go for this arrangement? And, even if so, would she expect to be happy with so little self respect ("i don't care if you're married")? I can only imagine what those "great conversations" would involve - perhaps comparing the antrhopologic implications of Prada versus Yves Saint Laurent? What are your thoughts on money in relationships? Do you agree that common goals, values, class and love are more important, or should we all just put a price tag on ourselves and see who's shopping?


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BlueEyz2006
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Posted on Tue, Jun 03, 2008 23:29

Shaz, good for you. I wish that more women and men saw money for what it is, a tool for but not a vehicle to happiness.


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Posted on Mon, Feb 04, 2008 16:54

my ex went from being a mulitmillionaire to having nothing close to overnight. What did I do ? I offered him every single cent I had to help him get a business idea off the ground.He didnt take it. My belief in him was worth far more than money.


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BlueEyz2006
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Posted on Mon, Feb 04, 2008 12:47

Wow! Great insights from everyone, we even got a Cassie appearance (hello wonderful Cassie, comly socks and all). I do agree that she's expended her capital up front and that she does need some friends with good advice. Phantomea, excellent point about love and money being unrelated topics! Far too many people do equate the two. Irocas, you're totally right about wisdom being sexy. Please keep the discussion going.


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Posted on Fri, Feb 01, 2008 20:35

My current lover has a good deal of money that he keeps trying to give me. However, I hear him as he talks about others he has "helped" financially. I listen as he complains of the amount of money he has spent on hotel bills while visiting his son. It all boils down to the bottom line for him. How much has he given financially? What has he had to expend to do his duty? When we part ways, as we will eventually, he will say he spent so much money coming to see me. He drove so many miles and spent so many days. But will he say how much he received from being with me? Will he tell of the shoulder he cried on? Will he tell of the nights spent when I simply held him because he was to upset with his ex to hold me? I think not. I think I am much better off taking an extra job to cover expenses as needed than to take money from him. Some people just equate love with money. Then there are the ones who equate love with time spent, hugs received, laughter shared.


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Posted on Thu, Jan 31, 2008 15:40

I honestly think some men would like this arrangement. Usually the divorced, been there done that type. They basically want no strings attached fun. I don't think she required much except expensive vacations. No man wants to think of it this way, but lots like that. Usually the women they go for are a lot more subtle about it... they hide the fact that they are after the money. Irocas I see how you compare women to vehicles. We depreciate. LOL!!! I guess if you look at a woman that way, superficially, you would see depreciation. I'd like to think we get better as we age. Of course that's not the case physically... gravity will hit, there's no stopping it really.


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Posted on Thu, Jan 31, 2008 01:27

Quoting: Originally posted by tpouchkina I guess I am too materialistic. I think it is cheaper to borrow than marry rich, but when was the last time you were in the Country Club; most hate their marriage, most love their life, have intelligence of a door knob and go home at night, knowing fair well that the significant other had enough of intelligent talk. The simplest economic theory ?Demand creates Supply?. During one of my meetings, the CEO of the prominent company, came to our table at the business development meeting for the successful entrepreneurs, there was eight of us, all females, all having careers, happy with the progression and all contemplating the fact that one day we will meet that significant other, what he said, to this day pops up in my mind ?Look at all of you, with all the work that you do, you still have time to look after yourself, but being a man of power, I wouldn?t dare dating any of you, I have enough people undermining my authority?. So you tell me, is it for love or money, or is it about finding that niche, that very few are seeking, when both are in balance? Just a thought, T.

This has been my experience as well. In my field (spinal cord research and neurosurgery), I am one of the few women and most of the men here want someone less educated and complex to be with. They endup with wives and girlfriends that are uneducated but good looking that stay a home. Regarding love or money. There is an evolutionary reason for the trade in commodaties. Men look for women with attractive features (high forehead, large hips, full lips) that indicate health and the ability to have children. In return, women look for a male that is capable of supporting her offspring...therefore the attractiveness of someone financially stable to a woman. So...there is a physiological basis to this money seeking behavior that is exhibited by women. However, as with all behaviors, there are those that take it to the extreme. I think that love is very important, but I find that I find financially stable men attractive, and still is a qualifying factor.


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Posted on Wed, Jan 30, 2008 14:55

Interesting blog. My opinion- money is a quick fix. It may make you feel happy for a while but in the long term love and happiness is far more important. I sense insecurity with this girl. A need to have 'anybody' in your life is a bit concerning. I just hope she does not attract a nasty guy. I was talking to my bf the other day and he was saying some girls in London hang about in harods just to try get a rich bf to look after them. For them its a chance for an easy life and some of the guys don't mind as its like they've purchased a beautiful gf. I told him that I honestly felt sorry for them. They must have low self respect or lack of self value. He was telling me of some of his business associated refer to others like how much is he worth. I was like you should always say you are priceless. Money is just an illusion. What we do in life matters more. Sarah :-)


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Posted on Tue, Jan 29, 2008 19:10

Dumb should be painful. VERY painful.


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Posted on Tue, Jan 29, 2008 19:06

QUALITY out ways quantity QUALITY has the power to attract quantity quantity might never achieve QUALITY Self Respect..a..priceless value What is the value of money?? Valueless relative to the needs.


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BlueEyz2006
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Posted on Tue, Jan 29, 2008 16:01

Hi everyone and thanks for contributing to this blog. I agree with the general consensus that value often has little to do with money.


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Posted on Tue, Jan 29, 2008 05:30

Yes this is rather tragic, but who is to blame for the delussional ramblings of this girl? In a country dominated by the ethics of the stock market, however sordid her profile may seem, is it not a logical progression? As a graduate of a well regarded British university, my criteria is far removed from the girl in question, yet I find myself pondering on the naieve honesty of her search. Do I find her search requirements offensive? Possibly. Do I villify her for them? Absolutely not.


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Posted on Tue, Jan 29, 2008 03:21

If she had typed in ALL CAPS, would it change anyones opinion????


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Posted on Mon, Jan 28, 2008 23:27

John, the world is made up of many kinds of people. Young pretty uneducated women especially tend to have an umwarranted and exagerated opinion of their comparitive "worth" They dont understand that a successful man, if they are the type to be so inclined, can get "their type" of female any time they want. A gold digger is trash, bidding time until she is thrown out.She is bought and sold and tossed out when he tires of her. Like you, I am astounded that a person comes on here looking to be "taken care of".Men do it too, but they tend to be much more upfront about it all. A relationship, such as you or I would envision, is not what this kind of person is looking for. For real love to exist, there must be respect, admiration, common outlooks, similar goals, morals and values that are in tune. For many, intellect and education is important as well. Money doesnt insure any of those elements being present. There are some men who really do enjoy "taking care of" a woman. I wouldn't want to do that, I prefer a parnter instead of a dependant. Having read your posts for some time now, I know that you personally would never be interested in a woman such as the one above. Its both sad and amazing that a person is so willing to sell themselves so cheaply. (ps. spellilng isnt always an indication of education or intelligence. Some people, like me, have dyslexia. My verbal communications skills far exceed my written ones !)


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Posted on Mon, Jan 28, 2008 23:26

I know one lady who recently married a millionaire. Turns out he couldn't even make his house payment. He was a complete fake, but he did spend money lavishly before the marriage to impress her. Marriage lasted about a month. And I know several millionaire ladies, one probably worth 100 million or more. Does nothing for me.


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