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Posted on Tue, Jun 06, 2006 09:15

I have been recently dating a man for almost a month now...I guess you can say that I am very insecure after what I have been through in my past...but my guy and I were talking and it came up that he still loves his ex...even though he tells me over and over again that he loves me and wants to get to know me better...I am worried that he will go back to her...am I wrong for feeling this way or is it what most would consider normal? Any thoughts or suggestions would be highly appreciated...

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Posted on Thu, Jun 08, 2006 06:48

This is not rocket science, it's one word: REBOUND. Move on.


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Posted on Wed, Jun 07, 2006 22:23

Hey girl....if he's telling you he loves after a month, something wrong. If it seems to good to be true....it is........good luck....get secure with yourself.....or you will always be wondering......your a hot lady.....dont settle..=)


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Posted on Wed, Jun 07, 2006 21:32

Dear pretty woman how does a man love you in a month? he doesn't know you yet, real love takes months and years to surface. Now have higher self esteem, if he goes back to his X, then his LOSS not yours as you would not want be with a man who is thinking about another woman any ways. However, be secure with yourself do not let him see you weak and act all insecure around him. Act like a trophy and soon he will think that you are the trophy Have you heard the phrase fake it till you make it? now stop and write your self all the nice and wonderful things that makes you so special and stick it next to your computer or any where visible. Your worth it and all that...........


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Posted on Wed, Jun 07, 2006 13:33

RUN, DON'T WALK AWAY FROM HIM!!!!!


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Posted on Wed, Jun 07, 2006 11:55

He loves his EX or "is in love" with his EX ??? I have many friends that I cherish very dearly and would consider that love, but I don't want them for a partner...


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Posted on Wed, Jun 07, 2006 11:13

Alluring..I absolutely adore you hun...and Fairuz...ty so very much for your kind words...You two are women that I truly look up too..love your attitudes and your outlook...ty again to all of you that had replied...you are indeed some great women...


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Posted on Wed, Jun 07, 2006 09:09

Well lets look at it from your own words, you have been dating less than a month and this man says he's in love with you and his ex at the same time. I wouldn't call you insecure I would call you confused for good reason. I would say this man is selfish, as he should get his heart and mind in order before he proceeds to start new relationship. If what your searching for in life right now is hope of a lasting loving relationship then you deserve to have all of his heart, not part of it. Being in an insecure relationship from the beginning hinders you from expressing and feeling and that's not a healthy mind space to be in. There are no guarantees in life either but to me I see a red flag. I have walked in your shoes many years ago, and I would never do it again, I say all or nothing. Ask yourself what would you say to your friend or sister if they asked your advice on this, and you weren't the one emotionally involved, and you will get your answer.


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Posted on Wed, Jun 07, 2006 08:00

I don't really have any advice, but am still writing mostly to say I can definitely relate. I seem to end up in situations where the guy is still carrying a torch for his ex, but figures he can't have her because she's dating someone else now. Things don't work out between his ex and her new guy, she wants the guy I'M dating back, and he usually goes for it. I can't really judge them negatively for that and wouldn't be the best expert on how "normal" any of this is, since I can't say for sure that if I was dating someone else and MY last ex wanted me back before it got that serious with the other person, that I wouldn't do the same thing.


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Posted on Wed, Jun 07, 2006 08:00

You have to be very specific- ask him does he love her as in still care about her (which would be natural) or is he IN LOVE with her? That makes a world of a difference. If he's still in love, I'd say the relationship is probably doomed. Also, how does he feel about you? I'm aware that its' only been a month, but see what his thoughts are on this. Ask him who dumped who, and if she truly wanted him back, would he go back to her? You aren't a mind reader, and it surely wouldn't hurt to ask. Tell him... you only want honesty, because a lie could come back and slap you in the face down the road if he does in fact have deep feelings for the ex.


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