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Posted on Tue, Oct 09, 2007 22:27

Do you classify people in your life? Friend Acquaintance Colleague Pal/Buddy I do that. People often get offended, but friendship embodies that handful of people who you can trust and be safe with. My view: Acquaintance is someone you see every now and again, but don't share closely with. Colleague (even when you work together for long) is just that. Pal/Buddy is someone you can call on who practices a hobby with People so often use the word friend while they misuse, abuse and judge you. They base their relationship on things you do for and are to them. A friend of mine went on about if I only do this or act that way then I would be better. That is where I told this person that these are my idiosyncracies and if they cannot like me for those as well and all that embodies me, they're not my friend and they should take a hike. I said I won't be what they want me to be, then I'm a fraud. That cast a light on things for them. A friend is someone who; when you stuffed up royally will love you anyway, but know to chastise you in a loving way that won't damage the relationship. That is the people you hear the truth from, even when it hurts.


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Posted on Tue, Oct 23, 2007 06:34

Hi Jess, thanks for the grammatic interpretation based on the old english/germanic languages. I think stemming from older languages like Latin and Greek they had more descriptive words to make a better distinction. e.g bosom friend, close friend, friend of poor class, girl/boyfriend. With languages finding their origins from Latin, Greek and archaic languages through the ages, certain words watered down to just embody once concept which has so many different meanings. To me friend is someone who is close to you and almost family. Already English is divided into British English, American English, South African English etc. So it is how each group defines the word.


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Posted on Sun, Oct 21, 2007 07:25

Whisper and all, Friend is a broad spectrum word by definition. So in most ways it is not misused in terms of conversation. As Acquaintance is just another word for friend by definition and so on. Here is the definition:Main Entry: 1friend Function: noun Pronunciation: 'frend Etymology: Middle English frend, from Old English freond; akin to Old High German friunt friend, Old English freon to love, freo free 1 a : one attached to another by affection or esteem b : ACQUAINTANCE 2 a : one that is not hostile b : one that is of the same nation, party, or group 3 : one that favors or promotes something (as a charity) 4 : a favored companion 5 capitalized : a member of a Christian sect that stresses Inner Light, rejects sacraments and an ordained ministry, and opposes war -- called also Quaker What most of you refer to is the context in terms of how you feel about that person or group.Which defines or adds an adjective to the word in how it is used. Such as "True Friend" , so to call anyone your friend is not wrong in its use. But to call someone your true friend is, if they are not. As all of this is personal to how each individual feels and interprets words and context. So I would say it can go either way. Not always right, Not always wrong. Just an observation. Jess


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Posted on Mon, Oct 15, 2007 10:26

Re: Mariana2005 write: Peri, will you marry me? :0 ;) It's an honor for me to be you friend!

yeah, when we finally switch teams lol


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Posted on Mon, Oct 15, 2007 04:06

Peri, very true, how can one just go into the word friendship. It is a process that two people go through and trying times. Friendship soon gets exposed when money is involved. Stat, the latter happened to me when I found where a friend from childhood just showed herself up to be a good weather friend.


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Posted on Fri, Oct 12, 2007 09:15

I think that is a perfect discription. I have a very select few true friends. I have a lot of acquaintances. Then you have those friends who you thought were true friends but turned into acquaintances after all.


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Posted on Fri, Oct 12, 2007 06:45

and to add: it's just funny to me to see some people proclaiming each other "friends" or even "dear friends" here on the blogs... They never met, they probaly never spoke on the phone, they don't know much about each other, or care... On the other side, haven't we seen examples on MM of people lending money and then having trouble getting it back from so called "friends"? I said it before and I will say it again, life would so much less complicated for all if we did not confuse words and terms and called things what they really are - there is a big difference between "friends" and "colleagues" and "buddies", "like" and "love", "I want" and "I need" and the list goes on...


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Posted on Fri, Oct 12, 2007 06:33

WO, I am so in agreement with you! Even more, this has been a pet peeve of mine for so many years seeing and hearing people misusing these terms! My friends are a handful of people I can trust and count on, in good and bad. I know if I share a secret it's not going to go any further. I know they will always lend a sympathetic ear and a hand when needed. These people have been tested by time and turmoils. I value their opinions and ideas and even critisism! Now, can you say the same about your "pal" you bowl with once a week and who happen to work in the same building with you? So there....


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Posted on Fri, Oct 12, 2007 05:59

Shazzie, PM, Mariana and Angels thanks for further expanding. It is good to see other takes on this topic. It is true that one outgrow friends and you realise you don't have much in common anymore. PM boundaries are important. Mariana I can also count my true friends on 1 hand. Angels beautiful poem


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Posted on Wed, Oct 10, 2007 06:25

I also agree with the varying degrees of clarifications for I have many pals acquaintances, but very few I call friend, I also have a few colleagues this was written in high school: what is a friend you ask someone near to you someone dear to you someone who will accept and in return not won't expect someone to guide you through life and won't stab you with a knife someone who understands you no matter what you do someone you can trust who's friendship won't rust


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