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Posted on Fri, Jun 02, 2006 19:20

Wow... What a wake up call. I've been reading profiles on this site and it seems that the guys here will date every race, but mine. What's the story?

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Posted on Sat, Jul 02, 2011 07:02

It's ok everyone has a preference. All women have something to offer and there is beauty in all shades. I happen to be African American and I LOVE who I am as a person and love the beauty I have to offer (inside and out). It's important that we love and accept ourselves. So celebrate yourself!!! Never mind what anyone else thinks. God Bless


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Posted on Tue, Jun 13, 2006 23:23

Hi, I noticed in reading a few profiles that some guys check every box except Native American and East Indian too. What's with that? I think the race preference boxes should not be on the dating site as they promote racism/exclusion. Especially, the people that say they are a particalar race and only want that race. How do you know you don't like a whole race of people? I know on some dating sites they don't even include these type of preferences. A person doesn't need to know what race you are right away or ever. strangers that I meet off-line always ask me what race I am and lots of times I don't even tell them. It's none of there business. I am the human race!!! I like America's Top Model as it shows lots of women of colour that are beautiful and winning the contest. Beauty is not about colour.


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Posted on Sun, Jun 11, 2006 17:30

Hello Mr. Shenendoa! You are very sweet and I love your profile. Thanks for the compliment and right back atcha! -Take care! Nicole


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Posted on Sun, Jun 11, 2006 17:26

Hey Ms. Sweetgal2222! I absolutely agree with you. Now, if I'm being honest with myself, it took a while for me to be more diverse. Primarily because of the area I grew up in. The color line was apparent, so I never tried to cross it. I was younger and not mature enough to handle the ignorance. Things have changed. I could give a crap about what someone else thinks about who I date. Love has no color. Take care! -Nicole


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Posted on Sun, Jun 11, 2006 17:21

Thank you Ms. Ritzcrystal! I can respect a woman who knows what she is after! lol I just want to be clear, I've been getting winks. Its just that on my first day of navigating the site, I noticed this trend. I would click on guys in the age range that I'm looking for and read their profiles and then would get to the bottom and find that my race wasn't one of the preferences. Now again, people have preferences. I respect that of course, but after clicking on like 10 or 11 profiles and seeing most of the boxes checked except my race, it was a little disturbing. I'm not going to therapy for it or anything like that...LOL Just thought I'd see what kind of responses I could stir up. Take it easy girlfriend! -Nicole


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Posted on Thu, Jun 08, 2006 08:05

Well, that is very sad. I think that individuals should be given a chance. Regardless of race, because I feel like when you limit yourself you are not only hurting others, but yourself as well. Because while that person is stating their do's and don'ts that don't may perhaps be the love of their life and they will never know because they do not want to give them a chance.


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Posted on Wed, Jun 07, 2006 10:17

Thank you for your comment AsianAmericanIdol! Great points! Take care! -Nicole


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Posted on Wed, Jun 07, 2006 09:03

I'm going to play devil's advocate here and say that even if someone has some racial preferences when it comes to dating doesn't automatically mean that they're a racist. The main reason being the flip-side of the equation. Just because someone IS willing to date someone of a certain race doesn't mean that they AREN'T still at least partially racist against that group. They might think, "Well, sure, the person I'm seeing is a wonderful individual, but they're the exception. MOST people of that race are still ________ [insert whatever negative stereotype person can't seem to shake off]." Some guys will date girls of a particular race, but then still despise most of the MEN of that race. Some actually do it FOR that very reason. It gives them some sick thrill to feel like they're "stealing" that other race's women. We've certainly all heard stories of how commonplace it was for American soldiers to consort with the local women when they were in Korea, Vietnam, etc. It never got in the way of their willingness to blow away those same women's fathers, brothers, husbands, sons, etc. in the line of duty. Or sometimes really ignorant comments will slip out, like a member of our race will end up in the news, and not for GOOD reasons, and guy will turn to us and ask, "So why do 'you people' do stuff like that?" What is that supposed to mean, 'you people'? Are we all supposedly part of some borg collective or something? If I'm trying to make any point at all, it's that someone's dating preferences don't make for a very good litmus test on whether they're racist or not. There are better questions that could be asked, like if they'd have a problem with it if their college roommate, boss, doctor, etc. was of a certain race, or if one of their family members wanted to marry someone of another race, or if they believe in the general principle that every person should have the same rights under the law, regardless of race, ethnicity, religion, etc. If this was still the civil rights era, or if we were all trying to overturn the anti-miscegenation laws in California back when those were still in effect, the LAST thing I would care about in reference to any of the men on the same side as me would be what color their wives or girlfriends were.


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Posted on Mon, Jun 05, 2006 07:17

To Coriander: Wow! Great response Coriander! Thanks! So, do you feel that the person that doesn't include our race in the profile, but still winks at us is kind of two-faced? Meaning, they will have a secret relationship with a black woman, but marriage is out of the question? Hmmmm To lcabrera99: Thank you so much! I think you are absolutely wonderful yourself! To mscutie25: Thank you for your comment. Take care! To cutencuddlygal: Thank you for your comment and all for all the compliments!!! Right back atcha girl! You are such a sweetheart! I'll hope and pray that most people rushed while filling out their profile...lol Take care ladies! -Nicole


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Posted on Sun, Jun 04, 2006 08:41

Then they are missing out on being with a wonderful woman.


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Posted on Sun, Jun 04, 2006 06:18

So where are the Black men hiding?


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Posted on Sat, Jun 03, 2006 16:36

Thank you Fairuz13! I absolutely agree with you. I loooove black men. When I did the profile search and put in the criteria, I didn't single out any one race, which is how I got to notice the pattern. Take care!


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Posted on Sat, Jun 03, 2006 16:33

LOL...thank you AminaOne! You are too funny. Take care!


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Posted on Sat, Jun 03, 2006 12:24

Hello - Yes, I noticed to my surprise and it saddened me. I think you are gorgeous and intelligent. Would date you any time... but I am not into girls LOL. Thanks for speaking up.. and good luck with your search.


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Posted on Sat, Jun 03, 2006 10:23

You are absolutely right. I don't get it myself. What do they have against the black chicks?


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Posted on Sat, Jun 03, 2006 10:08

Great point! Also, I think it has something to do with the way we are portrayed in society in general. I understand that folks are just more comfortable with what they know, but I just hope that one day, race won't be such a big issue. I have a very diverse group of friends and we have the best of times together. We are sensitive to each other's culture and we appreciate the differences.


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Posted on Sat, Jun 03, 2006 10:04

Wow...what a great comment. Definitely something to ponder on. Thanks!


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Posted on Sat, Jun 03, 2006 04:43

What's really ironic is how many African-American men post profiles that show them willing to date almost any race but their own, and then will turn around and accuse any woman who doesn't list "black" among her dating preferences of being a racist. Oh, the hypocrisy is astounding sometimes.


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Posted on Sat, Jun 03, 2006 01:21

I've also notice preference on race I'm amused by it. Funny thing is some of those same guys write and send winks anyway. The truth is when filling out profiles we tend to fixate on an ideal mate. Unfortunately, African-American women aren't their ideal mate. Maybe, it's the way we are portrayed on television and the movies.


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