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Posted on Tue, Jun 12, 2007 03:50

So, You want to know what I have learned about men? This was a question that was recently asked of me. It is what I have discovered that works in my life, and with my choices, while searching for a partner to share my life with. This may not be the type of man that other women desire, or even need in their lives. If you are a man, this may not be the type of man that you are, and may never be the man you choose to become.

1) The men that I find attractive have an unwritten code of honor that they practice daily. They have a reputation of integrity and show good manners at all times in public. They treat all people with respect, and do not feel the need to be rude to others. When they are with me, (at least in public) they open doors for me,help me remove my coat, and pull out my chair when I sit at the table. There is no question as to who pays the bill when it comes. (Sometimes I will surprise him and pay it when before he knows what I have done...) It is interesting how many men like and want a woman who will let them be a "man." (What ever that really means) It took me many years to learn how to allow a man to treat me like a woman, or should I say, like a queen. I learned that I do not always need to be in control, and that it can be nice to let a man lead the way...when he wants to.

2) Many of the most powerful and wealthy men that I have met look like ordinary people. They usually have good posture and stand out in a crowd regardless of what they are wearing. They do not dress flashy (unless the occasion calls for it), and are often soft spoken and humble. However, when they are on stage, or doing their thing, these men have a presence that fills the room. They know who they are and do not need anyone's approval.

3) If they are interested in me, they will move heaven and earth to let me know. They pursue me. It seems that the harder they have to work to get my attention, the more they want me. I no longer chase a man. I have learned that there are men looking for a woman like me. As I result, I have become very selective and comfortable in taking my time, while waiting for the "man of my dreams." The men that I let into my world feel special and know that if they really want to capture my heart and soul, it will take time.

4) It takes more than fame or fortune to attract my attention. It is who the man is, and how he treats other people or animals that attract me. Most men know when a women is desperate for a man, or is after the money or fame that may come with him. This is a huge turn off for most men and they will find any excuse to get away from a woman like that. There are many women who will do "anything" to get their attention. I am not one of those women. Men sense this and know that I really do not need a man to take care of me, or to make my life better. They make sure that any time that they share with me is special. They plan ahead and look for new adventures to take me on that we will both enjoy. I make sure that the time they share with me is also very special...

5) Those who come on to me for sex quickly, before we even know each other, are not the type of man that I want. These men show who they are very early. They start talking about sex right away and are quick to demand a kiss, or try to put their hands on me in a sexual manner. This is a sure sign that they are not the man for me. This type of man will bed any women, anytime. They are not looking for a serious relationship and will not take the time to develop one. The type of man that I like will ignore the woman who comes across as being easy or accessible. These women are a dime a dozen (just like the men like them) and are not special. Men love it when I say no and they respect me for this. They know that this is important to me. The longer they have to wait,(not talking years here) the more they want me. The more they want me, the better they treat me. This was another lesson that took me a long time to learn...

6) There are many men who are attracted to powerful women who are confident, and who expect to be treated well. I have found that the man that I am looking for does not want a woman who will take care of him, or solve his problems. (well, maybe every now and than....) They like a women who is not afraid of who she has become, who will let him take charge part of the time, who likes to laugh and is fun, and flirts with him so that he feels, and knows, that he is desired as a man. This type of man wants a woman that he can take anywhere, who can handle any situation, or people, with grace and ease. He likes a woman who treats others with kindness and respect.

7) There are men who are attracted to a woman who can work hard physically or mentally. I find that they enjoy it when I can work along beside them, or when they watch what I do in my life. They like when I can change from my work attire, (and attitude) and return dressed up as a lady (or temptress) to play with them....

8) When the time is right, sex is important. :) I will not go into detail here, but by the time we get to that point, they will be very happy that they waited. LOL! I like a slow build up, emotionally first, that leads to my body physically responsing. For me, the best part of sharing this, with a partner I care about, is the anticipation of what is to come. I like it when the sexual tension builds up to where I catch my breath as he touches me, or when he kisses me and my body quivers a little as it aches to feel his touch... That is when I start daydreaming and imagining what it would be like to be with him. By that time, even thinking about being with him makes me get excited. I like to be romanced, flirted with, teased, and slowly seduced.

9) I have learned that men like to give gifts and even though I can buy them myself, will allow them to bring me gifts of flowers, jewels, shopping trips, castles, or what ever they feel that they would like to give to me. I am not sure why some of them feel this is so important. But, have noticed that in certain circles it just something that men like to do. Or maybe it is simply the way that I treat them that makes them feel like a King, and it is their way of returning the gifts I share with them....

10) Men need their personal space and quiet times so that they can clear their minds and plan for the next deal or plan of action. I also need this time to be alone. I do not like a man that clings or becomes dependent on my being with him everyday, every moment.

11) If a man says he is separated, or is recently divorced, I stay away. I prefer a man who has not been in a relationship for awhile. At least a year, if not longer. This tells me that they know who they are and do not need another person to make them happy.

12) A spiritual man is important to me. He does not need to be a member of any organized religion. However, if he trys to convert me to his beliefs, or makes fun of mine, I let him go. A man of spirit lives by an unwritten code of honor. They simply are who they are, while living through the spirit of all that is, and for the highest good of all concerned.


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Posted on Fri, Mar 21, 2008 18:26

Yes, Vida. We should all dance and bounce around! Spring is a great time to so just that!! Are you talking about those bouncing bubbles of fun or bed bouncing? Update on ChefAngla. She has graduated! And she really can cook. I remember when her cooking skills where worse than mine. Now she is better than most of the chefs I know. Maybe someday she will take time off her busy schedule and come back here to play...

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Posted on Thu, Oct 25, 2007 16:15

Look who is back! How are you doing, brat? For those who do not know ChefAngela has been in cooking school. She is the top Chef in her class! I will see you when I get to Minnesota next week. Please keep the weather nice for me... In the meantime, please try to stay on topic. What have you learned about men since you have become a Chef?

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Posted on Wed, Oct 24, 2007 10:26

Nice, I like that sorry been so busy have not had the time to play online for a few weeks and am getting ready to move to Utah for my new job!!! Keep up the great blogs!!


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Posted on Wed, Oct 03, 2007 04:50

Re: Cassie2004 write: Queenie ~ I don't know how I missed this blog the first time around, but WOW! It is a masterpiece. What a wonderful set of guidelines for the rest of us. I understood some of these already, but to have them laid out and explained this way is just remarkable. Truly, one of my favorite blogs ever! I'm only sorry I didn't find it sooner! LOL!

Thank you Cassie. This blog has been around for awhile. Thank you for taking the time to make a comment. It was created as a response to a question that Mr. Kisses asked... It would be fun to see this from a mans point of view. Maybe we need to add to this blog that we also are expecting a man who loves our pets as much as us?

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Posted on Tue, Oct 02, 2007 03:55

Mariana. WOW. Those are beautiful bubbles of reality that you have formed! They are so clear and shiny. I see that you have been practicing rolling yours around. It is interesting that we can stay upright most of the time in our bubbles when they are moving. I think mine was broken for a few months as I was spinning all over... Now you can learn to bounce and float a little bit more. Since you have two bubbles of reality this should be very interesting and fun. Wait a moment. That sounds like what happens when we get into a relationship... We blow up our balloons of reality and join them with another. In the process we learn to stretch our imaginations and allow another person to influence the reality that is in our personal bubble. All the bouncing, floating, rolling, and shimmering is simply more ways to communicate better with the bubble of the person we wish to join with.... Don't come knocking if this bubble is a rocking....

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Posted on Mon, Oct 01, 2007 06:45

Yes, Soulfulone. You are so right. Welcome to the Blogs! Some of us have have become somewhat (or very) successful in our realities. When this happens we often look for a partner that is able to be comfortable in that lifestyle and the people who are a part of it. That is why we might seem very selective. We are. May all your dreams of happiness and love come true!

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Posted on Mon, Oct 01, 2007 06:31

Re: Mariana2005 write: Do you have a man who is honest and realistic somewhere in your bubble store for me? =)

hmmmmmm. A man who is honest and realistic? In a bubble? There are lots of bubbles filled with men like that. Now all we need to do is find a bubble with a man that either lives where you are, or is willing to float his bubble over to where you are... Maybe he could bounce his bubble from country to country? The secret to finding that man in a bubble that you are looking for is to imagine that you can see him in all his perfection while in his bubble. Than you will need to fill your bubble with all the good things that men like and you are. Honesty, being realistic....the list goes on but we are allowed to be selective in our search, so why not? Than imagine that your bubbles have bumped. At first it will make you both giggle a bit. After a few bounces your bubbles will begin to stick together. Before you know it, the walls will start to merge and you and the man of your bubble will become one bubble filled with love and happiness. These two bubbles of reality are preparing to join as one.

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Posted on Sun, Sep 30, 2007 12:05

Re: shazbot82 write: Queen..you and I want the exact same kind of man. I dont think its a lot to ask for !

Shaz. Yes. We both know the type of man we need for a partner. Now if we could just stop being so independent maybe we could slow down long enough to think about actually allowing one in our lives... What is this? LOL! This bubble is coming in for you Shaz. You might notice the man in the center? Its the only way he could get you to notice him. By the way, you have also probably noticed he has no shirt on, who knows what that bubble is hiding...

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Posted on Sun, Sep 30, 2007 11:59

Re: RomanticGoddess write: Queenie you forgot her bubble... hehe welcome MK. <3

There are so many new people that have come in while I was in my own illusion. I am still catching up! So MK. Here is one reality bubble filled with magic for you. May it wrap you in happiness and love as it fills you with laughter and giggles...

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Posted on Sat, Sep 29, 2007 04:31

[MissKim. Welcome to the Sacred Blogs of MM. You will love this place. It takes a little time to adjust to some of what happens here, but as you say, the quality of both the men and the women on MM is outstanding!!! May all your dreams of happiness and love come true. QUOTE] Re: misskim write: I enjoyed every word of this blog and dont think it is asking for much to meet a man who is genuine and a gentleman of honor and integrity.

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Posted on Fri, Sep 28, 2007 01:22

Queen..you and I want the exact same kind of man. I dont think its a lot to ask for !


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Posted on Thu, Sep 27, 2007 18:09

Re: boldnsexy write: Wow Queen, I love your blog! It would seem that you and I have the same taste in the qualities we look for in a man. And by the way, I hardly recognised you with the new photo, you look sexy as hell (in a non-lesbian sort of way, lol). Really, really nice picture

Bold, Thank you. This blog was a result of Mr. Kisses asking me on another blog what I was looking for in a potential partner. Also, thanks for the compliment on the photo I have up. I really do need to get some new ones. As you may have noticed, life has been crazy for me this past month. I am slowly coming back to reality and playing with you, and my other friends here in the Sacred Blogs of MM.

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Posted on Thu, Sep 27, 2007 18:00

Re: blueeyesonlake write: Hey there Queen, Not asking for a lot are you? Lol, I say more power to you. Smiling at you my friend. But what I have found..... Is that all men put their shirts on in the morning the same way (If they can find them).

LOL! I had forgotten about this blog. Yes, blueeyes. I am asking for a lot. I am very selective and not in a hurry. I would rather be alone than to settle for less...There are many men, but few with the personal authority of a King. By the way, all men do not put their shirts on the same way in the morning! Something tells me that you are as selective in finding your life partner as I am. May all your dreams of happiness and love come true!

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Posted on Thu, Sep 27, 2007 07:02

I enjoyed every word of this blog and dont think it is asking for much to meet a man who is genuine and a gentleman of honor and integrity.


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Posted on Sat, Jun 16, 2007 14:18

Re: 1RareFind write: Yeah...that! And thanks for posting!

You are welcome. There are many wonderful men like this, here in MM. Oh, and by the way, Welcome to Blogland! It is a fun, and often crazy, place to play. Imagine that you can look through a window at other people's worlds...than you will recognize that you are really here.

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Posted on Fri, Jun 15, 2007 19:18

Yeah...that! And thanks for posting!


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Posted on Fri, Jun 15, 2007 03:52

AngeLgirl, Yes, not chasing a man is the way to go. My goodness, the difference when we let them chase us! I have heard that this is a genetic thing, that men prefer to do the chasing and are not interested when the women chases them. What do the men out there think about this? I made a few contacts when I first arrived here, than learned it is better to let the man make that first contact. Most men will contact a woman if they are interested. Otherwise, they are not interested... This seems so simple, but is confusing at times in this day and age. When they contact me is the only time that I will respond to an email, or wink. A wise woman told me that men do not like receiving more emails than they send...also, she said that we should only write a few lines and not a book. Most men shut down when they see the book and do not write back. It has been difficult for me to allow men to chase me. I am comfortable asking for what I want, and doing what I want to do. This is what has made me such a success in my work. Now, I have learned, in this land of finding an equal in love, that I need to sit back and wait for the right man to find me. This can be hard at times... I also have learned that the type of man that I need, and want, likes to be with a woman who will let him treat her like a lady. So, I have been practicing this more often. It has not been an easy shift, but I am having a blast...now they are chasing me! What do you guys think about this? Do you find that you prefer to do the chasing? Or do you like the women who contact you and initiate the relationship?

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Posted on Thu, Jun 14, 2007 15:00

Barbara, as you know, there are lots of millionaires and billionaires on this site, and of course, up here on my mountain. LOL! However, they are not all this type of man and can often be very boring. The type of man that I speak of on this blog is a very rare breed indeed... So, what words can be used for a search? What ever interests you may have, is a good way to start. Or try looking for men that live nearby, or in 100 miles. I also had great success in simply looking at the profiles so they could see that I looked at them. If they were interested they usually come back for a look at my profile. There must be more words and thoughts that others know. Anyone else have any ideas they would like to share?

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Posted on Thu, Jun 14, 2007 03:47

imagol4, Great thoughts! I think that who or what a man (or women) is depends on who they really want to be. Yes, there are some who are the cold silent type, but there are also those who maintain the old values and are still living in this time. You might be one of them. In my humble opinion, many of the men of this time have learned how to communicate better. They feel safe in learning more about themselves and have comfort in knowing that it is ok to have feelings and to be able to express them, for the highest good of all concerned. Back in the days of our grandparents, most men were not allowed to show their emotions, and the knowledge of communication skills was not as it is today. There was no Dr. Phil to guide everyone! What do you think?

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