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Posted on Apr 03, 2007 at 06:23 PM

I have begun writing a book on why men cheat and the motivations behind their indescetions. For you men out there, feel free to post your comments or email me directly For you woman, tune in, because this blog is going to be very interesting. The first reason I would like to put out there for discussion is that Men have to cheat, to maintain their fragile sense of self esteem.

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Posted on Jul 20, 2018 at 09:50 AM

Now Let’s write a book on why men don’t have a back bone and make a excuses to blame on you for every selfish trait they have.

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Posted on Jul 19, 2018 at 10:09 PM

I’d like to add on.  This is a good tip for the ladies. Keep your man satisfied in the bedroom.  So many woman let their men go weeks or months without sex.  Men are are very different from women.  Me personally,  I don’t like to go more than 2weeks without sex.  But with men,  everyday without sex,  the testosterone builds up,  the male sex hormone.  So basically,  if you go long periods of time without sleeping with your man,  basically he leaves the house everyday with with an excess of sex hormormes.  He is coming into contact with all these other women and his sex drive is very high.  There is no excuse for cheating,  but it’s playing with fire ladies,  not keeping a man satisfied.


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Posted on Jul 03, 2018 at 08:42 PM

The main reason men cheat is when the passion is gone from the relationship.  I loved a woman so deeply back in the summer of 2006, this short but intense relationship was amazing. I wouldn’t have considered do anything to ruin the relationship,  let alone cheating! That feeling of love, desire and passion is so powerful.  Men cheat when tthe passion is gone.


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Posted on Jul 03, 2018 at 09:04 AM

2007 , really, ??
The post is just male bashing.
If the female cant keep him "happy" at home, just look in the mirror, if you picked a cheater, fix your picker, both men and women cheat, and for a variety of reasons. :). Grow up,

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Posted on Jul 02, 2018 at 04:08 PM

Quoting author:

I have begun writing a book on why men cheat and the motivations behind their indescetions. For you men out there, feel free to post your comments or email me directly For you woman, tune in, because this blog is going to be very interesting. The first reason I would like to put out there for discussion is that Men have to cheat, to maintain their fragile sense of self esteem.


"Tune in" No thanks. Only cowards cheat. People with a backbone leave when they aren't happy. There's your book in one phrase.

 

I've never cheated, never been cheated on, and would never date anyone who has cheated. Even while I was going through my divorce my husband and I continued our sexual relationship because until we were divorced, we weren't going to be with anyone else. We treated each other with class and honor despite the marriage not working. I wouldn't have had it any other way. 


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Posted on Jul 01, 2018 at 11:23 AM

Why so many people agree? That means it is true.

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Posted on Jul 01, 2018 at 10:51 AM

I agree with the self esteem component. However, one partner becomes unattractive to the other. No romance, no sex and they drift apart then they fall out of love. Happens everyday.

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Posted on Jul 01, 2018 at 05:03 AM

My true green eyes are much nicer than your self described self....


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Posted on Jul 01, 2018 at 05:02 AM

It’s not Bluetooth. It’s Near Field Communication that is necessary in a relationship. Geek back at ya.


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Posted on Jul 01, 2018 at 04:58 AM

It’s indiscretions...some men cheat because they are looking for something missing in their present relationship. A man with low self esteem doesn’t cheat to improve his self esteem. It will only make it worse for his self esteem. Many men love power over love of women. It’s lack of respect for women for other men who cheat. So I wrote your book for you. You can fill in the rest with vowels and consonants.

 

So your opinion of yourself is that you have the self esteem that other men don’t. A falsehood by you.


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Posted on May 24, 2018 at 07:17 PM

Both genders cheat, it’s not dna, it’s ego. It’s not their partners fault, And it’s a weak egotistical person who blames someone else for their actions. Here’s a thought, if you’re unhappy and not getting your needs meet, or you’re no longer attracted to your partner, leave. No one makes someone cheat, it lies totally on the cheating party.

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Posted on May 17, 2018 at 05:52 PM

Many men do not cheat, that said I place cheaters in 3 categories: 

1 serial cheaters: who will cheat no matter if they are with Christie Brinkley or Mother Theresa, the grass is always greener and they have the time, money and inclination to do it.  (this is the smallest group imho)

 

2 Rough Patch:  Sometimes a marriage/relationship hits a rough patch and its a mistake and either the gal or guy may cheat.  That can/may be salvagable if they note that it was an anomoly and they fix the undelying problem that lead to it.  Its possible albeit difficult.

 

3. Gals will not like this but... There's an unconscious contract you agree to and if you violate the unconscious contract then you may have to deal with infidelity.  While we may not want to admit it, men are physical/visual and if you choose to become 400 lbs or cease to shave or legs or nether regions then all bets may be off.  You have a duty to keep yourself in similar shape to how you were when you met your guy. 

 

No guy wants to hear you are too lazy or selfish or both to think about them when you are eating 80 bon bons a day!


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Posted on May 02, 2018 at 03:48 AM

Basically the emotional love connection has dwindled in the relationship to such an extent that the lust has become the primary factor ruling both heads, if the heart wins the battle of the mind, the temptation from the outside subsides.

 

Liken it to Bluetooth, as long as you're compatibly paired with one another and one does not decide to drop the connection, the love becomes primary once again, lust becomes secondary and takes a backseat to the temptation knocking on the front door.

 


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Posted on Apr 30, 2018 at 07:10 AM

Men cheat if they are given the opportune moment. And because they can🙌🏽

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Posted on Apr 28, 2018 at 10:15 AM

Men cheats because they attracted physically but not emotionally with the person.if the guy fell in love emotionally that was end of him.but this topic have more depth more than that.

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Posted on Apr 18, 2018 at 12:37 AM

Quoting author:

Typically, if a man is cheating, it's because his needs aren't being met in that particular marriage or relationship at that moment.


 

@Henry04,

 

But why could we not be grown up and responsible ?!

Why concerned person can't talk and open up their

feelings for each other and look for solution to save their

marriage .. I for one prefer that kind of encounter because

whatever comes out ...I will respect the decision so I can

start to work out on me even if it hurts ..

 

 

 

 


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Posted on Apr 17, 2018 at 11:08 PM

Typically, if a man is cheating, it's because his needs aren't being met in that particular marriage or relationship at that moment.


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Posted on Apr 14, 2018 at 05:01 PM

that’s sad, why not find a woman that will fill all those insecurities..... A woman that will sex you like no other and fulfill every need and want you desire but it’s onoy give when she is treated correctly, when she is loved, adored, appreciated, and taking care of!!!! I never left any man unsatisfied but I’ve never been given a 100 percent why is that???

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Posted on Apr 13, 2018 at 12:04 AM


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