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Posted on Sat, Mar 24, 2007 15:08

Well I've been absent from internet dating for the last several weeks. I met a really good guy. Really liked him. He's not really rich, young! he doesn't fit my typical list of what I wants. But he blew me away. Intelligent, funny, hot as hell, easy going, can talk to him for hours on end about a vast array of subjects. . . a really really great guy. I smiled all day long thinking about him. Every text, every phone call, every email made me giggle like a schoolgirl. And in case you all havent figured this out about me, I'm not a mushy person. Well I will not go into details, but essentially I did something "not cool" to him. (No it did not involve cheating or another man!). And basically, I ruined our developing relationship. At this point we are off. For the first time in my life I have NO IDEA what made me do what I did. I feel like when i was 22 and really discovering myself and really understanding myself for the first time. And it sucks. I basically sabotaged a good relationship. . . for what purpose? So it sucks, and so I'm really upset with myself, but I don't want to just shrug it off like I usually do when things go wrong. I want to figure this one out. Because God forbid I do it again. . . And I have no clue why I just shared all that personal info with all of you. . . haha!


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Posted on Tue, Mar 27, 2007 06:23

Sep, Honey, I am the last person to be judemental of anyone. I wasn't saying that he was a jerk for not taking you back, he has that right. I was trying to say that he should at least offer forgiveness. J


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Posted on Mon, Mar 26, 2007 19:35

J Don't judge you don't know the whole situation. Trust me when I say there is NOTHING Wrong with him if he doesn't take me back. Actually I might respect him more. . .I don't do anything half a**. Including F**k ups!


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Posted on Mon, Mar 26, 2007 18:38

DoubleDoc..... LOL!!! You're funny. TP


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Posted on Mon, Mar 26, 2007 17:30

Sep, Trust me I have the same incredible ability to chase off the good ones. If you feel you have apologized, and he still won't forgive you, then take his intolerance as a sign that you were not meant to be. If he is not willing to accept the mistakes of others, and at least offer forgiveness, no matter what, then he isn't the one. You need someone who is tolerant and loving. This was just a lesson and a sign for you to continue growing and learning. I know you don't believe in it, but I will pray that God will reveal the man whom he has chosen for you. Don't worry Sep, I'll do the prayin'. J


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Posted on Mon, Mar 26, 2007 16:26

haha DD that was good!


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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 18:18

All of you saying go get him . .I cannot. I did my part to apologize. But I don't blame him at all for not being willing to take me back. So it's essentialy over.


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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 18:17

Sep, go to him and be honest about what you did and why you think you did it. Tell him you are honestly sorry and ask for his forgiveness. If anything, it will give you the closure and forsight to move on. Plus, you'll know you did the right thing by apologizing. I've done the same stupid things before, I think we all have, but now you know, and knowledge is power. Be honest, true, and loving with yourself and those you encounter. Good Luck Sweetheart!


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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 17:50

Awww Sep, sorry to hear that. Now go get him back.


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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 15:06

Sep hun, I don't believe I wrote to you before, however, reading your blog brought back recent memories of what I thought was a screw up too. Today I realize it was not a screw up at all. It was to be. I see it as God's way of letting us have a little taste of what's out there waiting for us,but we're not quite ready to embrace it at this point. As in my case patience is what you're being tested with right now. Relish the good memories and believe that it's possible and it will happen. Having tasted what you have, You will never settle for less again. Deep down I see a sweet girl wanting to be loved just like every other person on this planet. You will find the right partner when you become one yourself. In the meantime, enjoy the journey. Hugs


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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 09:41

I just recalled a little something I was taught as a kid and I think it was about forgiveness or repentance; RECOGNIZE - the mistake REMORSE - feel regret for the mistake RESOLVE - never to repeat the mistake Can't remember the rest but it can aid anyone in life's lessons. Glad to see so much support here.


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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 08:50

You are so fortunate to have this chance to get to know yourself. Take this situation and ask "What am I supposed to learn from this" Enjoy the path it takes you on. Many of us continue to make the same mistakes over and over.


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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 08:34

Hi Sep, I've been off of here for a few months. Met a guy...I just adored him. Pretty much fell head over heels. He wined/dined/romanced me. Implied marriage commitment...the whole nine yards. Total dream guy. Then I found out he was still active on dating websites. (Thats the very short version of the story) I broke it off. I've been crying for two days. I am so hurt. Sad truth is I still love him anyway. Just felt the need to share. Sorry to hear of your mistake. Regardless of fault... it hurts doesn't it. TP


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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 08:09

Everyone makes mistakes once in a while.... Hardest thing to do in a relationship sometimes is swallow your pride and apologize. But only if you mean it. There's a big difference between being sorry for what you've done, or sorry for being caught. The balls in his court at that point. Sounds like he hasnt learned how important it is to forgive someone. Everything always gets blown out of proportion and the littlest things become huge problems..... I hope that if this is someone you really want to continue to see, that he'll realize that the good times far exceed one bad thing you've done. Keep us posted !!!!


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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 08:05

Aimee You are totally correct. If this was an extremely serious issue I wouldn't be discussing it here. I have gone through some pretty serious things in my life in the last year, none of which I shared on the blogs. I do agree that certain things are not appropriate for blogging. But in this situation-was a new relationship. I am not devastated. I can still see the humor in it. So I figured what the hell, I'd let you guys know where Ive been the last few weeks. Kitten you're a sweetie. I took myself shopping on friday actually. But it wasn't so much as a pick me up as just part of my "must have all new clothes" addiction. As far as therapy goes, uhhh I don't think that is necessary. I do not typically sabotage relationships and this was a very new relationship so I'm not OVERLY concerned. Although I do want to figure it out.


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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 08:00

I sabotaged a good relationship once. I didn't understand what I had been doing wrong until I started dating another fellow who needed to talk. I learned alot about myself and what I had done wrong in my previous relationship from listening to this man. In hindsight, I'm glad the relationship ended. It was never meant to be. Maybe you will learn by listening to someone else what you did wrong also. Those who are open to figuring things out, generally do eventually. Good luck!


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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 07:19

Bummer! If I were you I'd try to figure this one out in the real world and not here.


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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 07:02

DD You're just plain annoying. I have no tolerance for you. I didn't confuse anything- essentially anything you say makes me roll my eyes. Most psychiatrists are a mess that's a proven fact. PM I dunno we will see. He has eluded that he just needs time to cool down. Personally, if I was him, I would most likely walk away without looking back too.


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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 00:30

haha mr kisses-you always make me laugh. Bambi-ummm I thought there was nothing worse than what I did then I realized what you suggested is WAYYYY worse. Omg I am not THAT stupid! haha Hi Emperess not sure who you are,but hi Debbie-I dunno about the right guy pushing through-sometimes I think the right person DOES walk away. Cause they are too smart to deal with idiots! Gem, typically I believe that. When things workout or don't workout I truly believe it is just fate. But in my case I think I played with fate and switched the outcome. And of course I would like to see him again-granted we were just starting. It wasn't love or anything. Just a really nice infatuation on both our parts. And Gem, I most definetly would not make the same mistake. It was just a spur of the moment stupid decision that I made . . .one of those things that you aren't thinking about the consequences until it's the next day. And don't waste you're time trying to figure out what I did. . .it's complicated!


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Posted on Sat, Mar 24, 2007 19:41

Hi Sep This may be the 1st time we actually ever talked in a sense!! Sorry to hear about your love lost, but maybe it's not gone completely. By the sounds of the way you decribed you, "screwing things up", did you use those 3 forbidden words in a blossoming relationship???? That can scare anyone away really fast. Whatever it is that you did, let some time past and try again from the beginning. If he liked you enough, the feelings are still there!! Good luck and lots of hugs and kisses for you!!


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