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Posted on Mon, Feb 12, 2007 22:50

But it's from someone I am not interested in. One of my employees, Aimee, got a call from a gentleman asking about me this evening. He was calling to verify that I worked there, and to check on the spelling of my name. The sweet man wanted to send me flowers for V-day. Aimee came to tell me about it and I was a bit disappointed that she didn't get his name. THEN, 1-800-FLOWERS calls, to verify that I will in fact be available to sign for the flowers. Aimee, smart woman that she is, talks the flower girl into giving her the name of my would-be secret admirer. So now the secret's out. And I wish it wasn't. See, he's a very nice guy. He came into town for an art show and we got to talking, I helped him set up his show and even scored a few free paintings (my co-workers told me he was interested in me then, but I didn't believe them!). But I have no romantic interest in the guy whatsoever. Even if I did, he lives in Texas and... I do not. We have talked on the phone a few times, and had a few pleasant conversations. He asked if I was going to be in his area any time soon, and I told him that I probably wouldn't. I don't think I have given him any indication that there is a chance for romance, but I have been nice- and that can be misconstrued at times. Argh! How do you tell someone that you're not interested without hurting their feelings???


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Posted on Wed, Feb 14, 2007 20:46

Redhot, I totally agree! At work, I must be accomodating, gracious, diplomatic, kind and understanding. It is what I am paid to do- make people feel comfortable and appreciated. Luckily for me, I love my job and these traits it seem to come somewhat naturally to me. What people don't seem to understand is that I am this way with everyone. Lonely businessmen can interpret it as flirtation when I laugh at their silly jokes, or smile at them. I even get one-liners when I say, "Is there anything else I can do for you this evening?" Don't even get me started on some of the replies I have gotten to the wake-up call question. *sigh* I thanked the gentleman in question for the flowers. They really are lovely. He asked again if I would come to Texas soon and visit him, and I had to decline. I feel a little guilty, but then I didn't encourage him in the first place.


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Posted on Wed, Feb 14, 2007 20:39

Sue, I did this just for you. My flowers, ladies and gentlemen. Presented for your viewing pleasure. Help yourself to one, I want to share the wealth!

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Posted on Tue, Feb 13, 2007 16:42

Well Lovely It is now Valentines here in the UK and I have had my first e-card and I don't know who it is from???? Please take a picture of your flowers and post it for us. We may not get flowers - then we can share yours. Ta!


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Posted on Tue, Feb 13, 2007 16:33

Trey has, in fact, told me in no uncertain terms that he is not getting me a Valentine's Day present. This is AFTER he wouldn't give me birthday booty. And AFTER I told him he was my valentine. I am heartbroken. Someone talk some sense into this man...


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Posted on Tue, Feb 13, 2007 11:55

When you scored those free paintings, from my perspective, that would have been your first clue of his interest in you. There were probably other signs at the time also that you may not have picked up on. Also phone calls after...definitely signs...not sure what you discussed, but it's rare guys simply chat on the phone with a lovely lady like yourself. As everyone said, accept the flowers graciously and let him down gently, but be honest with him. Nothing is worse than when another person (male/female) leads another person on, or hanging. Good luck! Now I'm a person who hasn't a clue what to do for Valentine's Day. I was thinking of a bouquet of chocolate cookies in the shape of a heart...but...the place I knew of that used to make them has closed shop! What do you do for a guy?


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Posted on Tue, Feb 13, 2007 11:29

its ok hon just take what you get. haha. I've gotten many gifts/flowers from men I have no interest in and I say if they want to send it I'll take it. It sucks saying youre not interested but whatever. Tell him the truth. you're a nice guy but not the one for me.


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Posted on Tue, Feb 13, 2007 09:40

Honesty but with compassion is always the right way to go. Be gentle with his feelings and maybe you could become the best of friends. Valentines Day always brings out the optimist in us all, so maybe he is hoping for a really good friend. Hugs Morganth


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Posted on Tue, Feb 13, 2007 08:58

Shame Lovely But such a nice thought! Maybe you could turn it into something POSITIVE and get yourself a new FRIEND, rather than ROMANCE. Good Luck Sue


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Posted on Tue, Feb 13, 2007 02:22

Eek a sticky situation! Well I'd say thanks for the flowers that is very thoughtful of you. You are a really nice guy. However, my heart is devoted to another( even if there is no other). Then he hopefully won't feel so rejected as he thinks he was just too late rather than you saying no I don't fancy you. OR Just say thanks for the flowers and if he asks for a date just say - Thanks for the offer thats really sweet, however I'm not wanting to get involved in a relationship at the moment. I hope you understand but I'm flattered you asked. Therefore hopefully either of those two options will let the guy down gently. Good Luck Sarah :-)


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Posted on Tue, Feb 13, 2007 02:11

Sometimes there is no other way than to say it plain. Be totally honest and up front before it goes too far. One can understand how a man getting nice vibes from such a pretty woman could be mistaken. Never change though be nice to all just that some as you say do read signs awry. Communication, verbal and non-verbal, is not what you do but how the other party interprets it


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