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Posted on Wed, Jan 31, 2007 17:57

This blog is brought to you in parts by GianFranco4u's blog "How to say I love you", NCO/NDA saga and (sigh) upcoming Valentine's Day. If you think it's just another juicy scoop on NCO/NDA, then I will have to disappoint you... But keep reading, you might find this blog somewhat helpful. Years ago, when my oldest son was just a baby, I witnessed the following situation on the playground. Next to us, there was this cutest little Shirley Temple look-alike with curly blonde hair and a doll face. She was not older than 5. She was a naughty little thing and always tried to do what her Dad would not let her to do. He'd raise his voice several times to call for her attention, she'd stop misbehaving for a few minutes just to do it again and again... And one time when she climbed much higher on a playset than she wa supposed to, her father got very angry, got up, marched toward the playset and in a very elevated voice told little girl: "Missy, that's enough, we are going home and you will be punished!"..... That little naughty face instantly changed, the most angelic expression appeared on it and she said softly: "Daddy, I love you!" , "innocently" blinking her eyes... What do you think happened next? That angry man melted before my eyes, he hugged her and said kind of apologizing: "I just did not want you to get hurt, honey".... and voila - she got away with it!!! I could not believe my eyes - this little manipulator already knew HOW to get her little cute behind out of trouble, and what would be the most effective weapon in paralyzing her father. Not even 5 years old, she ALREADY learned the power of a phrase I LOVE YOU if used "wisely"! LOVE..... the most used, misused and abused word in English language!!! I've lived long enough to see that the original meaning had deteriorated from the constant abuse by people who don't mean it and don't feel it... Love - the most sacred word of all....a feeling of strong affection, unselfish loyalty and benevolent concern for others, immeasurable passion and overwhelming desire and unconditional trust... This all has been demoted to a prosaic "Honey, don't forget to take the garbage out! Love ya!" I always wonder whether people totally lost their ability to differentiate LOVE from INFATUATION from LUST from "JUST FEELING GOOD"? And I am not talking about predators who are looking to benefit from an innocent victim! That what the first page of our blogboard is for lol I will NEVER say I LOVE YOU to a man if I just saw two blurry pictures of him, I have never met a man, I never spent enough time with him face to face on the same territory I see at least one red flag about his behaviour, I don't think my kids would be comfortable around him and he'd be a good role model for them, I have not seen him managing stress without much collateral damage I will NEVER say I LOVE YOU..... UNLESS after the proverbial butterflies in my stomach calmed down a little.... Still...I am totally convinced I just can't spend another day without him by my side, Without a shadow of a doubt I can totally trust him with my finances, health and ultimately, my LIFE Do you think to get to this point all you need is to spend 60 hours of the phone? Call me pragmatic, call me too practical..... I refuse to throw this sacred word left and right when it's convenient for me to get what I want. After all, I am a single mother with plenty of unspent love and who still believes in romance and a healthy union between a man and a woman, but is too smart to fall prey to somebody who starts his FIRST email or IM with "Hello, love!"


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Posted on Sat, Jul 07, 2007 00:16

Just read this blog for the first time and I cant agree more ! My own daughter says I love you when she is in trouble,,,it doesnt save her as I am on to it ! But we say it to each other often. Some men in other countries use the word Love as i Hi, love,,like we say hi bud o r like aussies say g'day mate. But any guy that starts saying lovery dovey stuff after only a few emails gets kicked to the curb ! Im with you on all points RE men.


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Posted on Thu, Jul 05, 2007 18:03

I thought we decided on Buenos Aires...I'll fly down to Stgo. and catch a flight over the Andes to meet you galz. Get your tango shoes polished for January! ...and you can bring the tiara, too.


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Posted on Wed, Jul 04, 2007 21:24

Trish does look hot in red! Leonicvirgo is the king of the festivities (hell, did I miss something? were you giving away tiaras?) Mariana and SteelM, looks like I owe you, ladies, a 7 course dinner either in Buenos Aires or Iquique/Santiago, just chose ONE place, I can't do them all ;o)


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Posted on Sun, Jul 01, 2007 16:24

I will ditto what Mariana has to say. Peri is a great friend, indeed. Get that tiara out now, Peri. We want to see you wearing it from now on. Have a Happy 4th of July! I'll speak to you when you get back.


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Posted on Thu, Jun 28, 2007 19:01

Trish and Leon - thank you! I guess I owe you lunch, guys ;o) I will have to retrieve my tiara from the basememnt and dust it off a little... those were the times lol Trish, how come you did not put this red dress pic as your main one from the very beginning? That's the main attraction! ;o)


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Posted on Wed, Jun 27, 2007 20:38

Re: leonicvirgo write: WHATEVER

Leonicvirgo, and why have I always thought that I needed Aries??? So you wanna blend? Got a mixer? let's boogie


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Posted on Tue, Jun 26, 2007 15:25

Re: leonicvirgo write: beautiful Nordic goddess...

Thank you, I will take it as a compliment! I am sitting here and wondering... do I really look like the fifth wheel of the ABBA-mobile? hmmm... I am a dancing queen, that's for sure lol


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Posted on Tue, Jun 26, 2007 10:12

leonicvirgo, that's exactly what I was talking about... why don't you substitute "love" with "like", "obsessed" or "infatuated" and then things will fall right into place and you'll sound believable and credible! I "like" you in a strange kinda way too! I believe in making things easier and uncomplicated vs confusing the hell out of others...


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Posted on Tue, Jun 26, 2007 06:12

Re: imagol4 write: I think it should be illegal to say "I Love You" until you've been in a relationship with someone for at least six months.

imagol4 for President!!! ;o)


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Posted on Mon, Jun 25, 2007 13:08

Fairuz, nice to see you!!! Where have you been? Trish, thanks! this blog was written right before Valentine's Day, but who cared about the Vday, or anything else at that point, when NCO saga had reached its pinnacle? Many, too many good blogs got buried under the load of NCO/DAN info and even those bloggers/readers who's normally respond, got too busy participating or watching all that drama... That was the time I left the blogs due to a lack of interest.... I think I just miss blogs and authors from last summer!


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Posted on Mon, Feb 05, 2007 12:24

my mistake perihelion, I THOUGHT YOU WERE FAMOUS. * famously talented * famously brilliant * famously beautiful * famously classy * famously integrable * famously inspiring * famously insightful * famously exuberant in confidence and humility at the same time * famously etc...... sure, it would be an honor to be your spokeswoman, yet I don't feel as though you actually need one. LOL there are actually several women that I aspire to here at MM , and they know who they are. Jess


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Posted on Fri, Feb 02, 2007 12:26

Jess, will you be my spokeswoman when I become famous? ;o) Everybody had a valid point here. People say it without "meaning" it with or without the purpose of hurting you, but they do anyway... When will people start saying what they mean and meaning what they say???? How about when you are feeling kinda amorous, you just say "I really like spending time with you! I am so grateful we've met!" Does it reflect the true state of affairs? yes! Is there a promise of anything? no! In this case you are not deceiving your partner by deceiving YOURSELF!! As for the predators, I just hope they rot in hell when they finally get there... ;o) But before that happens, I hope we all can keep our BS radar up and running and trust our instincts. We would have much fewer broken hearts that way....


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Posted on Thu, Feb 01, 2007 14:11

Peri, I think people say them so fast now days they have lost most of there meaning. It would take a great deal to get me to say them, except to my kids and grandkids.


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Posted on Thu, Feb 01, 2007 12:36

Hiya Peri, Just hijacked your blog to say Hi and thanks for giving me something real to read for a change. I was getting tired of the daily fare served up in here--you know what I mean--:0) Nice blog and will mail you soon. Hugs, Kristin


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Posted on Thu, Feb 01, 2007 11:26

add to that: I will never stay with a man that says I love you WAYYYY too soon! Love this blog.


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Posted on Thu, Feb 01, 2007 09:51

Cupid, I think perihelion was trying to make the point that the words " I love you " are abused words in sense they are often used to get what you want out of someone....yet they are often empty or manipulative words without meaning to the one who is saying it. But to say you Love someone without really meaning it in your actions often sends signals to those who know what to look for, of deceit, self wantonness, greed, and a lack of knowing what love is in general. True love,knows no boundaries, does not tilt,stands in the face of adversity, shows in your actions, reflected in your smile, an overall glow that cannot be faked or mimicked or pretended, never used to gain pretense in a situation, never used to hurt, although true love does hurt from time to time in the mistakes we make in learning about each other in all that we are and how we feel.It is never done intentionally or with the manipulative manners for personal self gains. It is that love when you know that you know. True love puts nothing else first in sharing and caring for someone. True love is filled with passion, cradled in giving and receiving, always there to lift each other in times of desparity, always protective, always concious of the other and their wants and needs. The love you speak of Cupid is the unconditional love we should have for everyone. Yet love has its boundaries even in those that we love dearest as family and such. To attain "true unconditional love" would be angelic in the eyes of God. Yet very few will ever be able to sustain such love, as we are all human and with flaw. The point is: too many people in this world use the words " I love you " lightly with no meaning behind their words. When in reality it would have been better to say " I like you" but the difference between the words "like" and "love" are like that of cubic zirconia and a real diamond. Which one carries more true value in obtaining your wants and desires. So it is often used in this same manner.


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Posted on Thu, Feb 01, 2007 08:30

Once again, another great blog from you!


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Posted on Thu, Feb 01, 2007 07:36

Peri, You blonde genius you! Wonder if I'll ever say those words again?


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Posted on Thu, Feb 01, 2007 03:34

Jeff217, do you mind posting the lyrics here? Thanks!


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