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SCORPIOBEAUTIE
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Posted on Mon, Jan 01, 2007 08:07

Hi gang, I think it was SweetBrazillianLady tjat wrote in another blog of late about the CHOICES we make. Of course we are all aware of how good or bad, choices alter our lives. My French Canadian love made a choice to meet "just for sex" w ith another women. He felt "free" enough to tell me once the "rendesvous" was set up. My heart was in my stomach when he annunced this news, my pulse quickened, this was WRONG of him to do. We are obviously DONE. He tells me he loves me and that it is just SEX and he's lonely so far away...then get your azzz to me you idiot! On second thought, stay there! Corrupt your own country! I have been a foolish woman. Soooo not seeing this coming. Ok gang, my date book is WIDE OPEN haha but on second thought, maybe I will remain manless and celebate in 2006. I think that is best for me. That's it..2007 will be th year of NO MORE BROKEN HEARTS and FOOLISH DECISIONS. Any advice??


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Posted on Sun, Jan 14, 2007 15:12

Be happy he told you. At least, you knew up front and was given the choice to decide whether or not you would want to be his main woman in his mix of women. Now, you can move on and hold your head up high since you are not going to stay in that relationship. I'm sure it must be painful, but the bright side of it is that he told you.


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Posted on Tue, Jan 09, 2007 21:28

Scorpio Beauty, Well, at least you didn't waste YEARS on him. I would love that honesty upfront.


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Posted on Mon, Jan 08, 2007 20:20

You flirtin' with me, Leonic? *wink*


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Posted on Sun, Jan 07, 2007 23:16

Scorpio, Celebrate the great woman that you are and wait for the man you deserve. Why settle for second best? WO


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Posted on Sun, Jan 07, 2007 20:25

I can't really think of any advice other than to forget about the guy, which I know is a lot easier said than done depending on how much time you'd invested in him. I haven't been having much luck in that whole area during the new year either, but what you said in your starter post kind of reminded me of why I avoid long distance relationships. It's hard enough finding a guy that'll be true to you when he lives nearby, but when he's away and can use the "you're too far away for me to get enough sex" excuse, then they really don't feel much obligation to be faithful.


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Posted on Sun, Jan 07, 2007 20:11

LEONIC where have you been? i for one, have missed u!


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Posted on Mon, Jan 01, 2007 21:12

Scorpio Better you know all this now - it is not just the fact that he was going off to have sex with another woman that is WRONG.... To me it is what he may have bought back if he didn't practise 'safe sex' - so perhaps it was a lucky escape? Allow yourself to go through all the natural feelings and be kind to yourself too. It will take time but you will heal and there are some very good men out there. Sue x


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Posted on Mon, Jan 01, 2007 21:01

scorpiobeute, That's awful! when i saw your post in the list I was sad for you even before I read it. It is wrong on so many different levels I dont know where to begin. You did the right thing... the hard thing...I think you are a very strong and amazing woman for doing what you did. It's only my opinion but I think one of the hardest things to do in this world is to walk away from someone you love regardless of the reason (i.e. justified or not). I, myself, am not very good at it. It's one of my biggest flaws... I admire you! ...i know your heart hurts now...but if it helps at all, I'm starting a fan club in your honor!!! (BIG SMILE!!!) Jenn P.S. I think the saying goes..."it doesn'T take a lot of strength to hold on, It takes a lot of strength to let go."


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Posted on Mon, Jan 01, 2007 18:45

Scorpio in the end he did you a favour this way you are not hanging on or around for nothing; now go out and get em tigger it's a New Year and a New You!!


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Posted on Mon, Jan 01, 2007 17:34

Okay now I'm really embarassed for my Country and for Quebec. I'm really sorry that this has happened to you Beauty. I lived in Montreal and slightly north of the city in the Laurentians for a few years. I grew up in part across the river from Quebec also. I can say that most of the men I met and knew while living there were gentlemen and would never try a trick like that. Now a few would have or much worse. Same can be said for the women too though. It has nothing to do with being French Canadian though. Jerks come from all over. Besides.. We don't want him either *L* Now that being said here is the rest. Okay I've been in situations simular to yours a couple of times before. The first time I reacted with a "Go Screw yourself Asshole" (that's polite for what I really said *LOL*) and later on I wasn't so umm.. shall we say vocal with my thoughts and emotions and well.. had half expected it (He was from Athens and well I'd been told to expect that sort of thing by other greek friends and even his own family *L*) The first time I had to deal with that it was my first real long distance relationship and it ended really fast. I used my emotions in my reactions. I didn't think things through and I simply walked away. Okay I ran and screaming too *LOL* The second time I sat down and thought about it. I knew that he loved me and I knew I loved him. I knew that he would always come home to me. But I also thought about what the knowledge would do in time to destroy the relationship. "Trust is a thin thread. Once you break it, it is almost impossible to put together again" - Ayum Khan Very very wise words indeed. For me walking away was the right thing to do and I have no regrets at all. Everyone will have some bit of advice to give. But when it all comes down to it you are the one that needs to look within and decide. I can almost bet this won't be the only time that this will happen. Especially in a long distance relationship. Just a hunch here though. Right now you are upset and mad. First of all find out the facts before you jump to conclusions. He may have been frustrated and used it as a ploy to try to convince you that he needed you there with him faster. And he might have gone out with friends. Don't act while you're upset and jealous. Give yourself a bit of time and cool down. Think this all through and then act. Don't settle for less then the best for you though. If it's too late and you've called everything off then give yourself a little bit of time and then get right back up in the saddle (so to speak) and find Mr. Right. Any hurt that you feel will in time ease and perhaps even disappear. My hugs to you. Good luck Beauty. Leigh


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Posted on Mon, Jan 01, 2007 14:12

I agree with Sharp - people enter into our lives for a reason. He was in your life for one reason or another. To open your eyes, or maybe just to get you through a different moment in your life. Be happy that he told you and it's over with - he could have left you in the dark. Little saying: Don't ever regret anything that ever made you smile, because at one point it's exactly what you wanted


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Posted on Mon, Jan 01, 2007 13:36

Sweetheart, you are better off without him, eventually he would have broken your heart if this happened!!, He did not deserve you and Im sure real real Prince is out there looking for you!!!..Chin up girlfriend!! Hugs, KARI


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Posted on Mon, Jan 01, 2007 13:36

I saw a little sign in a store yesterday with a saying that seemed to speak to me, and I hope it stays with me all year. Now, I share it with all here: LOVE LIKE YOU WILL NEVER BE HURT


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Posted on Mon, Jan 01, 2007 13:30

Scorpio, He didn't deserve you, you know that or he wouldn't have done what he did. In your heart you know this. The right one will some day come along and in the meantime like Sharp said you are learning your lessons along the way. Look forward to all the good thing that will come your way in 2007. Hugs to you!!


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Posted on Mon, Jan 01, 2007 09:31

Ladies, thanks, all. I feel the group hug. I just love you all for your positive encouragement. Alexxia, never even bren to NYC. Girl, would i love that shopping trip, just what the doc. ordered!!! You so sweet! Lotus, you are such a sweet, kind hearted friend,,,just love you! Barbara, of course you know i love my girlfriend and STILL WANT YOUR HAIRDO!! hah Need such a big CHANGE in my life for the better. Gals, let's all chant together now.... NO MORE BROKEN HEARTS IN O7. I will keep my chin up, not expect too much , so as to lessen the disappointments. If a man comes my way, so be it, if not, I am ok with that too. this time it is the RIGHT ONE FOR ME!!! Alexxia signs puffy lips, Sign me: puffy EYES from crying all nite. :(


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Posted on Mon, Jan 01, 2007 09:24

Ohhh, Scorpio- broken hearts abound, it seems. You, Alexiaa, me... What is it about 2007? You are so beautiful, you deserve much better than all that. Anytime you want to have a girl's night out, feel free to let me know- we don't need no stinking men! Hugs your way! You too, Alexiaa!


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Posted on Mon, Jan 01, 2007 09:09

Ah Scorpio, that is a sad one. But deep in your heart you know he was NOT the ONE. I wish you much love and happiness in 2007!


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Posted on Mon, Jan 01, 2007 09:01

It's his loss Mel, you deserve better...


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Posted on Mon, Jan 01, 2007 09:00

I'm sorry that happened to you Scorpio. My heart sank just reading this. There are gentlement out there that would not do this to a lady, it's just unfortunate to find out the hard way that the one you admire isn't one of them. Chin up, kick him to the curb for good, put on some new shoes, and go strut your stuff like only a woman can do! Take Alexiaa up on her offer of retail therapy! *Time flies when you're having fun but seems to go so slow when you have a broken heart.*


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