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Posted on Sat, Nov 04, 2006 03:44

I suspect that the only people we can truly love unconditionally are our children, and even then, there are scenarios where we might have to exercise "tough love." It can never truly apply to a dating or marriage partner. You can't really love them no matter what, because there are just some behaviors that no one should have to put up with. What if they develop a drug or alcohol addiction that they refuse to try to quit? What if they cheat on you? What if they physically abuse you? What if they molest your kids? What if they're convicted of a crime where they're going to be in jail for the rest of their life?


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Posted on Thu, Feb 14, 2008 19:12

I honestly believe that we can love unconditionally. I suppose it depends on what your understanding is of unconditional love. I loved my husband with everything that I had in my heart.That doesn't mean that we never got on the bad side of each other. Also, I have cared for so many foster kids that I cannot name them all. However, I do not think that I could love them any more than I did, if they were my own. My parents seem to remember things so much differently than me though. I think that unconditional love is just allowing yourself to view the glass full, not empty nor half empty. that to me is what it is all about. When you lose someone who is the world to you, the world becomes so superficial in almost every aspect. In relationships, I find that I always say, if I lost this person today, would this little upset matter? And I always say no it wouldn't matter because I would miss them and mourn their absence.

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Posted on Thu, Jan 25, 2007 06:39

Hi.Basia ..gosh ha vent see you for a while...thank you so much for sharing...sometimes it is through our suffering and pain that we learn the capabilities of the heart....and that there is no greater love than the love that holds on where there seems nothing left to hold on to....... Erica Anne @)---------


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Posted on Wed, Jan 24, 2007 23:11

This is a great question. I do believe we can love unconditionally (as 75thRanger notes, it's more a question of willingness). Think about how a new parent looks at their child, how you feel about your very best friend in the world, how you want to be loved. We have the capacity and should do it more often!


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Posted on Wed, Jan 24, 2007 13:59

Ime...We do love our children ..no matter what they do or how they treat us.. Its almost as if we have no choice but to love them no matter what..yet if someone else outside this realm hurts us disappoints us...or does harm to us or others..do we still love them...if we loved our significant others in this way..I would thing there would be no divorce...relationships would remain true and on course...for we would forgive everything...we by nature put limits on others...loving unconditionally is not easy...Perhaps God's love is the only pure love. Or does he have his limits too? I like to think we can love others as we love our children... Thank you for posting... Erica Anne @)----------


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Posted on Wed, Jan 24, 2007 07:20

Queen...I agree..to love unconditionally is a journey ..It isn't easy...we seem to love our children in this way..but we by nature are conditional with our love...we are given opportunities every day to grow and test our love ...to elevate our spirits ..hearts...and minds....we give love to get love...conditional...to love unconditionally is to give freedom....without judgment or consequence of the withdrawal of affection and love....not an easy thing to do... ..your word are filled with wisdom... thank you for posting.. Erica Anne @}---------


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Posted on Tue, Jan 23, 2007 20:52

Man has two basic natures..a lower animal brain self and a Higher Self (the part made in God's image).. Only when we exercise Higher mind can we love unconditionally.. Unconditional love can rule in the midst of chaos..


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Posted on Tue, Jan 23, 2007 20:36

Thank you Bill..You are not only a romantic..but full of wisdom..where did you get all that wisdom Bill? It Seems a welcome back is in order...I havent been around either so I didn't know... Good to see you again..you are a bright light here... Erica Anne @}-----------


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Posted on Tue, Jan 23, 2007 15:38

Hello Boobster...I love your new photo....how lovely you are who are the cute munchkins? giggle..thank you for the welcome back you are very kind ...it feels good to know I have been missed.... Ebreeze..wow you look different...beautiful as always... Thank you both for your posts... Erica Anne@}------- Erica Anne@)--------


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Posted on Mon, Jan 22, 2007 09:20

Welcome Michael... " Words and thoughts that are filled with wisdom ... beauty and the depth of insight..." Thank you so much for posting.. Erica Anne @}--------


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Posted on Mon, Jan 22, 2007 06:41

So glad that this blog was brought up again! I have enjoyed reading what everyone has shared. It is good to see some familar faces returning and sharing their words of wisdom. I believe many of us are on the path to learning more about the meanings of unconditional love. This begins with loving ourselves unconditionally. A life long process that we seem to learn more about with each passing day... The next step is to learn how to love others unconditionally. For many years I thought unconditional love meant I needed to accept what ever anyone did that was around me. Now I know better. Unconditional love is loving yourself enough to choose what and who you want in your life.

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People may not remember what you say or do, but they will remember how you made them feel.

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Posted on Mon, Jan 22, 2007 06:24

Erica, It is so great to see you back and I really hope you stay, we need your peaceful touch on the blogs.


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Posted on Mon, Jan 22, 2007 06:14

Hello Ranger...Happy New Year! Ranger ..great question....Its true in action is a choice....Love is an action and an emotion....some people say love is a choice....I agree with some points of this but with all my heart I feel there are times perhaps more than not that love is not a choice...We just love...its as if the heart has a mind of its own..almost as if it is a separate entity living within our body......I truly believe when the heart recognizes its one t rue love..Our Soul-mate ? Our one love of our Life ? The one we are meant to be with ? The one we were born to love ? Whatever one wishes to call it.. I believe the heart knows and leaps....I believe we have absolutely no control...perhaps our minds may try to make sense..talk us out of it....we may not even like the person in the beginning yet we feel that intangible pull...magnetism....and it seems no matter what we do or they do ..that love remains.... You can see and read proof of this love throughout time...men have died and killed for the love of a woman ....women have done the same...and sometimes the love has been nothing but tragic....which only seems to intensify and flame the fires of the heart.... So yes ..it is a choice but then again is it? The people I love...I love completely ...unconditionally and some of them have done me great harm and have broken my heart..but still I love...... Hope you are well ...how are you and your lady ..... Take care....and thank you for Posting Philip.... Erica Anne @}-------


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Posted on Sun, Jan 21, 2007 23:00

Hey girl! Yes! Yes we can! Absolutely. Remember in school when you liked someone. There was not this big huge plan to revamp their life to fit in our parameters or anything. You remember, we just hit em upside the head with a piece of paper. So, I say grab some wads of paper, go to Barnes and Noble and hit some cuties upside the head. For real. Get busy with the unconditional love paper head peggin.


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Posted on Sun, Jan 21, 2007 13:52

07-NOV-06 Edit comment Remove comment Comment about blog -----{@Can we truly love unconditionally?@}----- Can we truly love unconditionally? @@@@@-------{@@@}--------@@@@@ Loving unconditionally suggests accepting others as they are....... Furthermore, loving unconditionally also suggests accepting one's self as a whole and complete being on the journey of this learning experience we call life. Acceptance, love, and forgiveness are as necessarily interrelated as each side of a triangle is to the triangle as a whole..... acceptance is the natural process we knew as children. For instance take the event of light fading into night, each of us accepted that this just was the way it worked, and we learned to live accordingly. ....As we grew older we began to manipulate our world by means of electricity. Understanding that there are some things in the world can and even should be manipulated to our benefit --and it is obvious that turning the dark into a bright space by flipping a light switch may be one of them..even so there are other elements in our environment over which we have absolutely no control, nor should we....One of the major events we try to manipulate is our control over other people... Attempting to change other people into what we want them to be by manipulating them is what many of us have spent our lives doing. The best way in which each of us can influence our environment is in our presence of being.....we must know and be accepting of whom we are...it is important to like whom we are...to be healthy in mind and in spirit....then we must accept others as they are as well..... When we accept other people for whom and what they are, we have taken the first step toward accepting ourselves and contributing to the improvement of any condition or situation...... When we reflect peace and joy from an inner level of being, the world mirrors it back to us. When we judge, condemn, hate, lust, and so on, the world shows us these qualities. The world is a mirror, for the principal function of the world is to provide us the opportunity to learn. It is all a learning process..and the most important gift we can give ourselves is to forgive and to accept others as they are...after all is this not what we all want...just to simply be loved for whom we are... My question is ...are we truly capable of this unselfish love....It is a question we as one can only ask ourselves....how can we expect unconditional love if we are not willing to give it ??? Do we expect too much..do we set the bar too high....Are we simply canceling ourselves out from ever finding true happiness ??? Thoughts?????? Erica Anne @}----------------

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Posted on Sun, Jan 21, 2007 13:10

Thats a good question....you are right can you truly love someone who does something so unforgivable. But maybe you still love them or love the person you thought you knew. Do you stop loving you son if he rapes the girl next door? Do you stop loving your daughter if she murders someone?


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Posted on Sun, Jan 21, 2007 12:53

To My Brothers and Sisters, which Means...All of You... This is a Worthy Topic...You are Wise for Contemplating the Answer. There is a Perfect and Indisputable, Unassailable Answer to the Question regarding "Unconditional" Love. I will help you along your journey. Continue to seek. A Quote: "What is Meaningless is neither good nor bad. Why, then, should a meaningless world upset you? If you could accept the world as meaningless and let the truth be written upon it for you, it would make you indescribably happy. But because it is meaningless, you are impelled to write upon it what you would have it be. It is this you see in it. It is this that is meaningless in truth. Beneath your words is written the Word of God. The truth upsets you now, but when your words have been erased, you will see His." If you know the Source of the Quote, you already Know the Answer. Michael


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Posted on Sun, Jan 21, 2007 12:52

To My Brothers and Sisters, which Means...All of You... This is a Worthy Topic...You are Wise for Contemplating the Answer. There is a Perfect and Indisputable, Unassailable Answer to the Question regarding "Unconditional" Love. I will help you along your journey. Continue to seek. A Quote: "What is Meaningless is neither good nor bad. Why, then, should a meaningless world upset you? If you could accept the world as meaningless and let the truth be written upon it for you, it would make you indescribably happy. But because it is meaningless, you are impelled to write upon it what you would have it be. It is this you see in it. It is this that is meaningless in truth. Beneath your words is written the Word of God. The truth upsets you now, but when your words have been erased, you will see His." If you know the Source of the Quote, you already Know the Answer. Michael


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Posted on Sun, Dec 10, 2006 22:29

hey erica i believe its not canwe love unconditionally but rather are we willing to. big difference


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Posted on Thu, Dec 07, 2006 07:37

Only animals love unconditionally, without expecting anything in return..Ive seen some comments here starting with "yes of course, but...", when you see that "but" word (not to be confused with the other "butt" word!!, lol, lol), it means it is not "unconditional", this is why our world is soooo turned upside down, cause "US" humans still dont & probably will never learn to "love unconditionally", THIS IS WHY I LOVE ANIMALS SO MUCH, THEY DO KNOW HOW TO LOVE "UNCONDITIONALLY", just watch a new mother with its little ones, how nurturing & protective they are in the meantime humans kill their youngs sometimes...think about it!!!,but it's "JUST" a thought!!!, KARINA


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