One common theme seen on many women’s profiles is that they want to find a man who is equally comfortable in anything from jeans to a tux. A tux is about as comfortable as a suit and neither is comfortable. Still, both have the virtue of making men look good who don’t look good. You can be shaped like a football and look quite dapper in a well fitted suit (or tux). Another compensating factor is that women really look nice all dollied up.
A friend of mine read “Dress for Success,” way back when that book was first written. He took it completely to heart, and did it. He told me in all seriousness, one, that it worked, and two, that it also worked with women. Said he was disappointed in both the working world and women in that they were both so shallow.
Men who have retired often have retired as well from the idea of suits, tuxes, and especially ties. This is especially true if they were software developers. Of course software developers retired from all that when they became software developers.
Men, if they are good enough, sometimes retire from all that even in the non-software working world. When you are the CEO of a self owned company you can dress as you please even as you require your employees to follow a more conventional dress code. So too can eccentric geniuses once the company understands that the company needs them more than they need the company. I have known examples of both.
Equally comfortable in anything from jeans to a tux is asking too much. Perhaps women would scare fewer suitable (no pun intended) men away if they only asked that men be willing, on occasion, to put on the appropriate attire without undue sulking before, during, or after the occasion. Same idea on the number of such occasions per year might help too. Fair warning, this might require women to attend some functions or participate in activities that they would really rather not in fair exchange; again without undue sulking before, during, or after the event (activity).
Examples might include roughing it in the wilderness many miles from a rest room, motel, or restaurant; attending a model train exposition; attending a model aviation trade show, or spending a few weeks in an isolated mountain cabin with no TV, no phones of any sort, and only primitive cooking facilities. None of these examples as a joint activity appeal to me, except maybe the mountain cabin; they are just examples.
#1 Ancient and maybe as such not on the internet. You have a quart jug of milk and you need exactly one ounce for a new recipe you are trying. You have no graduated measuring cups, but you do have a 5 ounce measure and a 3 ounce measure. How can you obtain exactly one ounce? This is likely too easy for a bunch as smart as you all.
#2 Also ancient. A man is traveling upstream in a little outbord boat that goes 12 mph in still water. The water is flowing downstream at 5 mph. He loses his hat which luckily floats. Before he notices he has traveled 27 minutes. Presuming all speeds are additive, he can turn the boat around instantaneously, and acceleration is instantaneous, how long does it take him to catch his hat.
I know you all can set up the algebra and solve this. The numbers were selected to make that awkward. Can you solve #2 in your head near instantaneously as the kids back in the day were expected to be able if they wanted to win.
Explain how you got your answers.
Both puzzlesadapted from the Putnam Math Exams from backpre1945. Not exactly the same.
There is always a catch, I tell you, always a catch. You see the perfect lady, those eyes, that smile and oh my oh my all the rest of her, and then the catch; maybe just one or maybe even all of these. She wants you to be sophisticated, well dressed, as comfortable in a suit/tux as you are in your old baggy worn out jeans, on and on and on and on, oh my oh my, a catch I tell you always a catch.
Considering the calendar system we now use, neglecting the corrections that have to be done every century, or even less often, but including leap years, how many unique calendars are there not considering the year?
That is, remove the year from a calendar, and in the course of time there will be another year with exactly the same arrangement of days. You could put the different year on it and it would be exactly right.
You can solve how many unique calendars there are with pure reasoning, by working through it year by year, or some combination of both.
Related to that, what is the number of years it takes to use them all if you start counting the first year after a leap year? That too you can solve with pure reasoning, etc.
This may be entirely too easy for a bunch as intelligent as you all, but we shall see.
Funtimes posed a puzzle in his outrageous comments blog that was kind of fun. This is a takeoff on that except that the code or key is backwards. That is Z is 1, Y is 2, and so on down to A is 26. Also any legitimate American English or English English word can be used. The word does not need to be adversely related to work place performance. Those would be permitted, but not required.
The idea is to find a word that maximizes the sum of the numbers corresponding to the letters in the word using the code above.
Limit the number of letters to less than or equal to 20 please.
I spent a number of years as a university student followed immediately by being a university professor.
The university environment allows a professor the luxury of being able to be exactly as eccentric as you really are. The students expect it.They would be a little disappointed if you were not at least a little.
It is hard to know just how eccentric that is because the real world discourages it in so many ways we don't think of or worry about.We have been hammered, molded and had the sharp edges knocked off for so long we don’t even know it is happening.
The first thing I noticed on my first ventures out into the real world was that everyone thought they were normal.They were not of course, no one is.The big mystery was they wanted to be.They actually wanted to be considered normal.They would have been offended at the very idea that they were not.
I understand that.When someone accuses you of not being normal they are really meaning to insult you.They are saying that there is something wrong with you -- something wrong with you as opposed to being exceptional in some innocent or even a good way.
You have met the one.He (she) really is the one.Causes your toes to curl, spine to tingle, nose to itch, or whatever signals inside you that you might happen to have.Now there is a big problem he (she) violates three to seven of the twenty plus items you have on your wish list.No kidding, I have counted them, twenty plus is pretty realistic.Are you going to sigh sadly and let him (her) get away?Or, are you going to proceed with a prolonged long term relationship to explore further whatever combination of compromise and live with it might work for you?
Now we could get into a big discussion on whether 3 to 7 and 20 plus is fair, realistic, whatever.Don’t care.
The point is there is for everyone some set of numbers and the question remains.What are you going to do?
I don’t think anyone is ever going to find that perfect everything.If you think you have you likely don’t know them well enough yet.
A man running an all-night convenience store has some five dollar per pound bulk coffee and some ten dollar per pound bulk coffee.
A lady wants some eight dollar per pound coffee.So, the man says, “I just might have some in the store room.So he goes back “to his store room and mixes some of each of the two bulk coffees he has on hand so that the mixture is worth eight dollars a pound.
What fraction of a pound is each type of coffee in his mixture?
know, this problem is really too easy for folks as smart as you all.High school algebra.Not a trick in it.
So that everyone can have the fun of solving it, post only the answer.Not the set-up, equations, process, reasoning, and so on.
I will not confirm or dispute anyone’s answers so all can do on their own.
"He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you." ~Bob Marley
One of the “so called” experts on “picking up” women said, “Get her number and walk away.Don’t chat her up, anything you say at that point won’t help you later get a date and may well be used against you.”
“When you later ask her for a date, just ask her for the date, if she agrees save all the chit chat for when you actually meet.Anything additional you say at that point won’t help you and may well work against you.She does not know you yet; wait until you are face to face over coffee, drinks, or dinner for further conversation.”
How does this apply to online dating – well -- what is the purpose of all the emails, chatting online, and the phone conversations?It is to rule you out.Find a reason not to actually meet.Trouble is, you will be ruled out on limited and possibly misconstrued evidence.
That may not actually be the perceived purpose, but that is how it works.
How much “get there” time is reasonable for starting a long term relationship (LTR)
To get around in a heavily populated area, miles are a useless term. Time to get there, rush hour and non-rush hour, is how people here usually answer when you ask them how far away something is.If they give you the miles, the usual follow up question is how long does it take you to get there.
Rush hour is itself no longer an hour.2 to 4 hours usually.Staggered starting and quitting times is part of the reason.More people drive on some days also.Flexible starting and quitting times at some companies adds a certain randomness too.
So, what is a reasonable amount of travel time to routinely and regularly travel to see a date?Someone with whom you would like to establish a LTR?
How often do you need to see this person to establish a LTR?