Posted on Dec 23, 2011 at 10:43 AM
This week I was contacted by a hansome man who wanted to meet me this weekend.
I agreed to a date this Friday,,tonight actually.
He lives about 75 miles away. He is coming up here ,as a gentleman should.
I wanted him to select the restaurant and I would meet him there. ( he didnt like that idea,,wanted to pick me up)
Recently I moved to San Francisco.Being new to SF, Im not familiar with any of the MANY fantastic places to eat in this wonderful culinary city.
The man in question is 49 years old, a very successful engineer. Hes far from poor.
Yesterday evening he called me to set up the time and place I was driving in heavy traffic and I dont have a headset, so I was pretty distracted while trying to talk to him.
I was floored when he suggested the place he wants to take me.,,,for our first date,,,in one of the top Foodie Places in the WORLD.
He wants me to meet him at Fre*h Choi*e. For Dinner. On a Friday Night. In San Francisco.
That is a chain "Salad bar Buffet" that is SELF SERVE cafeteria style. Its the kind of place that is found in shopping mall food courts.
He asked me what I thought of that idea. What I thought was " you MUST BE KIDDING"
what I said was " I wont be wearing a dress and high heels for that"
Admittedly, had I been at home or someplace where I could have given the conversation the attention it deserved,I would not have been so surprized and maybe would have said something a bit more gracious.
The convo ended as I was driving into a tunnel ( yes for real)
This from a man who was very actively pursuing me for a date the last two weeks.
Truthfully, I was instantly turned off by his " suggestion" Totally cheap, totally lacking in any imagination. I lost all desire to meet this man right then.
It now 10:30 am. I havent heard from him and I and wavering on hoping he doesnt call me back,,and wanting to go meet him after all.
I dont think I care to go to the effort if his idea of a good time is eating in a mall food court.
First meetings are always weird. I get it about people not wanting to invest too mkuch money or time in a meeting.
AM I being too hard on this guy ???
OR, are you of the same opinion as am ??? FC is horrid suggestion and its NOT the way to impress anyone on a first date.
I dont think Im going. Not my idea of a good time.