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READ!!! Posted on Mar 05, 2018 at 10:01 AM

There is a quote that is often attributed to Mark Twain..."the man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who can't read them".


I added this quote to the "rules of life" presentation, and the young and/or cynical among the audience often dismissed its importance by suggesting that old Mark was just trying to sell books.


For me it came to have a much deeper meaning...and one of the more difficult of my "rules" to follow.


My spin is this...the person who refuses to read opinions from all sides of an issue has no advantage over the person who chooses to ignore it completely.


Think about often do we pass by a news source, or commentator, or opinion driver simply because we have most always disagreed with their views in the past?


I find I must force myself to read as many sides of an important story as I can find...even if some of those "takes" make my blood boil...I think that's what the founding fathers had in mind with their "free speech" argument.  But that doesn't make it any easier to listen to someone shouting at the top of their lungs their support of an issue I have spent my life arguing against at the top of mine...(stolen from a movie many of my "friends" refuse to consider).


I'm not always successful in following this rule...but I do give it an effort.


Be good work...keep in touch

hrair Posted on Feb 14, 2018 at 07:25 AM

"Guess I had too many balls in the air..."


Ever heard anyone use that phrase to try to explain why a seemingly simple task goes off the rails...or even something as simple as leaving out an ingredient in a recipe?


Well...there is actually a good bit of science about this.  In the 50's there was a seminal paper by George Miller called "the magical number seven plus or minus two".  It's a pretty heavy read, and I don't pretend to understand it completely, but the cliff notes version basically says that there is an upper limit on the number of threads that can be kept in "active memory" in the human brain...maybe an upper limit on how many balls each of us can keep in the air in a given situation.


In the 70's a guy named Tom DeMarco was pioneering some interesting concepts about software, and how it should be designed, engineered, tested, and deployed.  Some say his work over the years led to the current "Agile" approach to software.  In one of his first works, DeMarco assigned the term "hrair" to the magical number seven plus or minus two, when describing what was then considered a key tool in the "structured" approach to designing software - the Data Flow Diagram (nee "bubble chart").  Hrair is a term from the book Watership Down ( a very good read by the way).  The book follows a warren of rabbits trying to find a new home as their current one is in danger of being destroyed.  There is an entire "language" designed by the author (Richard Adams) that is used by the rabbits (think Lord of the Rings), and for them "hrair" is an upper limit to their numerical universe.  For these rabbits, hrair was 4...that is...their numerical universe was 1,2,3,4,hrair.


While both Miller and DeMarco agreed on the same upper limit while studying somewhat different topics, both eventually revisited and even appeared to recant some of their work...many years after original publication.  But for my personal toolbox, I like to keep their stuff handy...especially when I am trying to calculate my personal I realize I left out the nutmeg.


Be good work...keep in touch

Insanity Posted on Jan 31, 2018 at 06:43 PM

We've all heard the phrase...


Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result...a definition of insanity.


While I agree with the basis of this idea...and certainly agree with the predicted a lifelong golfer, I watch a very good teacher on the The Golf Channel called Martin Hall.


Martin is an "older" Brit..meaning he is almost as old as his early 60's I believe.  And they keep pairing him up with hot young female co-hosts...currently Blair O'Neal...a very competent player who first came to "fame" on a show called "The Big Break"...a show that in its second season was won by a guy I once played a great deal of golf with...a guy named Kip Henley, who currently caddies on tour for a young guy named Austin Cook...they manged a win earlier this season.


But I prattle on...the point of this post is to offer a wrinkle on the earlier stated definition of insanity.  Mr. Hall ends each of his lesson shows with what he calls his mission statement:

   "If you keep doing what you've been'll keep getting what you've been getting"


Somehow, I find that is a better way of stating the concept...and though his take is about getting better at golf, my own take is about getting better at life...all parts of life...even relationships.  Something I should probably give more consideration to.


Be well...





When you get a Yes...SHUT UP!! Posted on Jan 13, 2018 at 09:03 AM

Ever been in a discussion/argument/negotiation whether at work, at home, wherever, and you make a point or a suggested solution or just an observation, and everyone sort of goes...yes...that makes sense...and then you keep talking and the whole thing goes back to square one.


Way back in sales school...MANY years ago...the instructor gave us a very simple, but powerful, rule...when you get a yes, shut up...otherwise you'll buy back whatever you were trying to sell...and have to start all over.


Later in my career, I found this very useful in business meetings.  Ever been in a meeting and the group seems to have reached a decision...but the meeting was set for 30 minutes, and only 20 have passed.  Invariably you, or someone else, decides to fill the time, and before you know it the decision is somehow lost, the time runs out, and you set another meeting.  I learned the hard way...when a decision is made...meeting over...tell them you are giving them 10 minutes back and leave.


Works in personal negotiations too...just a thought.

Hmmmm Posted on Jan 07, 2018 at 09:22 PM

It says here that 6 people actually viewed my test post...resulting in ZERO comments.  Certainly not a surprising result given the fact that my post raised no ideas...but was simply a test to see if this thing still works.


And so...I promise to attempt to be more interesting.  I suppose it will be fairly easy to judge if I am successful.


For well, do good work, and keep in touch.

Back again... Posted on Jan 06, 2018 at 09:40 PM

...after yet another long absence.  Still not a paying member...just don't see the value...but this area is the one thing that still appears available for us freeloaders.  So this would be a test post to see if it gets published, and to see if anyone actually reads these posts.  Always interested in what people might have to say.


Be well,


this is a test Posted on Sep 05, 2014 at 08:43 PM

this was a blog for a gold profile many years ago...and was abandoned...i assumed it ceased to exist...and yet here it is


as a non-paying member it will be interesting to see if this actually gets posted


be well

a little late.... Posted on Mar 31, 2010 at 05:00 PM

a bit behind in my blogging...

as predicted, saugahatchee was basically dormant...though the bradford pears were spectacular...the problem is they are on the entrance road and never managed a picture...

the team result was very much as it has been for 15 years (or more...we can't remember...we're old)...bottom half of the field though our young flat belly had the lead in the amateur division after round one...

i suppose a total re-think of the beach house trip followed by the golf tournament is now in order...but at least i have year to work it out...

sorry for the minimal info...but the days at this tournament are rather full...

be well,


heart of dixie - 2010 Posted on Mar 24, 2010 at 05:42 PM

no beach house this year...but the golf tournament is on...

a bit earlier this year so the grass will be mostly dormant and the azaleas are unlikely to be out so any pics will be a bit more drab than usual....ah well....

must do what we can with the tools at hand...;-)

be well,


...the pic is number 7...from last year...

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it's official... Posted on Mar 14, 2010 at 09:49 AM

no 'rite of spring' trip this least not the first part...

just 'too many balls in the air' this year so i am very reluctantly skipping the 'beach house' part of the trip but will be heading south in a little more than a week for the 'golf tournament' portion...

first time visitors to this blog will not have a clue what this is about...others might recall last year's notes and pics...

take good care

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snowbow???? Posted on Feb 15, 2010 at 06:07 AM

last night and this morning we are having our third accumulating snow event here in the nashville area in just over two weeks...

here's my question...

when it rains and the sun comes get a rainbow

so...when it snows and the sun comes out..........

sure is pretty though

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big snow.... Posted on Jan 30, 2010 at 07:04 AM

as you might imagine, we don't get many significant 'snow events' here in middle tennessee

well...we got one yesterday and last night...looks like at least 4 inches in my area...probably more to the north

so...chores and chili this weekend...

sure is pretty though

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site performance... Posted on Jan 05, 2010 at 03:58 AM

am i the only one who has noticed that this site has slowed to an absolute crawl over the last few weeks...even seems to crash completely from time to time...

this is a recurring event around here as membership numbers surpass infrastructure capacity...i've tried complaining to management...fat chance that works...they are far too happy depositing our funds to add bandwidth at an acceptable rate...

so...i'll just vent a little here and move on with the rest of my morning...

be well

big day... Posted on Dec 19, 2009 at 07:02 PM

watched my daughter graduate from college today....big day....

i had my children somewhat late...and far son was born when i was daughter when i was there i was...a white haired 60 year old amongst the 40 somethings....i suppose they assumed i was the grandpa....;-)

her older brother was the "smart" one...honors student...aerospace engineer...while she just kept her head down and worked hard for a degree in english....if you sense enormous pride in those words then you read well....

really big day......

turkey on to the cheesecake.... Posted on Nov 26, 2009 at 11:42 AM

as promised....deep fried turkey breast...wish this site had "smell-cam"....;-)

cheesecake is truly "from scratch"...first operation....beat the crap out of a bunch of graham crackers for the primary ingredient in the crust...

hope everyone is having a great day...

be well.....jay

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really hot oil...;-) Posted on Nov 22, 2009 at 08:19 AM

if you've never had "deep fried turkey" for thanksgiving, you really don't know what you're missing...i started doing it back in 2002, and wouldn't dream of using any other prep method...there are plenty of sites on the net to get you started...and hopefully keep you from burning your house down....;-) give it a go....and be careful out there...

sort Posted on Oct 31, 2009 at 01:06 PM

anyone know why this place screws up the sort every time you edit a blog???

just good ole m-match technological know-how i suppse

laurel Posted on Oct 31, 2009 at 01:03 PM

finally got around to creating a new flickr set....laurel - 2009

go to flickr....look for jayinbrentwood

be well

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results...and other stuff... Posted on Oct 26, 2009 at 04:20 AM

the cup is back in missouri....:(...but life goes on...

it appears i need to stop attempting this blog on the fall trip...

just not enough down time to create entries that satisfy the meager?but vocal followers...

but will go on here as well

with luck the flickr folder will get updated soon

be well

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promised... Posted on Oct 23, 2009 at 08:52 PM

promised i'd post...very late...very long day...

the boys from mizzoo took the better of the boys from tennessee this day.. but the tournament is young yet...

will try to get the pics to flickr....

we call this one 'dueling motor homes'....we win...;-)

be well,


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