I'm an ol' timer on MM and remember always looking forward to the fun, friendly bantering and Christmas spirit that used to take place on here, so thought I'd start a new blog today wishing everyone a very Merry Christmas, Season's Greetings or Happy Holidays!
To me the month of December is something I look forward to. So many are in a good mood, wishing each other the best, coming out of their shells to talk where they usually don't. The "spirit" of Christmas has always amazed me how strangers can suddenly open up, why they'll go the extra distance to be friendlier, help someone out. I so wished we could capture this essence, bottle it up in 12 jars and open a new jar every month to keep that spirit going all year round.
None of us really know what is going on in another's life, some may be depressed, some may be jobless, some may be lonely, some may have health issues or relationship issues, etc. I think December is a month to at least try and show some empathy, to extend courtesy, kindness and compassion, best wishes for everyone - at least for a little while.
So my hope with this post is that the bickering, name calling and criticism can abate for just a short time. Practice acceptance of each other's differences, show tolerance, show respect and see what happens. If you know of someone who is alone over the Holidays, extend an invite, meet them for a coffee or a meal. The holidays are a very difficult time of year for many, reach out to them.
The blogs are always reflective of those blogging, so maybe in the Spirit of Christmas, we can attract some new bloggers with new viewpoints and start seeing a more positive, engaging outcome.
I wish everyone a very Merry Christmas, hope you're spending it with good friends and family and enjoying what it was meant for. May Santa bring us all what we're looking for!
I've not been on here much lately, and even less on chat, but a few days ago, up pops an IM window from a guy I recognized who used to go by another username. I'd heard from a few gals he's a perv, so decided to chat long enough to get something to get his sorry arse removed. I reported it to John at MM who informed me he no longer handles this sort of thing and he'd pass it on to MM. That was Tues., March 9th and he's still on the site. I figured they'd at least get back to John sooner than I, but after not hearing back, I emailed John again only to be told no he'd not heard, he'd look into it.
I'm sick of these pervs being left on the site, this perv (I refuse to call him a man) has been on MM for a very long time, first as HuggyBear2000, now on as KissyFace2000 (what's up with the dorky usernames? lol!). Anyhow, haven't heard anything and am tired of waiting, so I'm posting the chat to warn others to steer clear of him and hope MM does remove him. Would love to hear if any others have had the displeasure of chatting with him too. Maybe if they realize they'll end up on the blogs, they'll stop.
He IM'd me then took 12 minutes to come back to the chat lol! Can you spell multi-tasking? He asked me what dasy meant and that I had typed it, I hadn't, so he was probably chatting away to someone else at the same time :(. This is a 68 year old man, guess he can't read profiles either because I clearly say on mine I'm NOT into sex chat.
Kissyface2000 IM - MM Mar. 9, 2010 10:58am
Kissyface2000: Hi there
READY4UNOW: Morning, how are you?
READY4UNOW: looks like you've disappeared? Bfn
at 11:10am he replied:
Kissyface2000: I am here
Kissyface2000: sorry about that
Kissyface2000: are you having a fun day
READY4UNOW: pretty good so far and you?
Kissyface2000: gooder now that you are here
READY4UNOW: lol, is gooder even a word?
Kissyface2000: it is according to the bok of Joe
READY4UNOW: you've changed your username?
Kissyface2000: yes I am flattered that you remember me
READY4UNOW: I just notice these things
Kissyface2000: you are very pretty
READY4UNOW: thank you
READY4UNOW: how are you finding the site?
Kissyface2000: so so
Kissyface2000: have you had any luck here
READY4UNOW: no but have made a few nice friends
Kissyface2000: have you dated many
READY4UNOW: no and you?
Kissyface2000: a few
READY4UNOW: well a few is better than none
Kissyface2000: not if one is super horny LOL
READY4UNOW: guess you'll just have to get to work on that
READY4UNOW: what was your old username, Huggy something?
Kissyface2000: so that is probably why it didn't register
READY4UNOW: what didn't register?
Kissyface2000: Yes Huggybear 2000
Kissyface2000: that was meant for my daughter
READY4UNOW: why did you change it?
Kissyface2000: too many gold diggers were chasing me
READY4UNOW: yep lots of those for sure
Kissyface2000: and many want cyber sex which is fun
READY4UNOW: do many women do that?
Kissyface2000: what does dasy mean
READY4UNOW: don't know
Kissyface2000: you typed it
READY4UNOW: I did? might be a typo
Kissyface2000: do y9ou like cybersex?
READY4UNOW: can't see where I typed that
READY4UNOW: don't know, haven't ever tried it
Kissyface2000: Hmmmmmmmm a cyber virgin LOL
READY4UNOW: sounds like you're a pro lol!
issyface2000: I can get pretty seductive
READY4UNOW: I'm sure
Kissyface2000: are your nipples very sensitive
READY4UNOW: I've heard about it, just never tried it
READY4UNOW: for me to know
Kissyface2000: awwwwwwww I'll bet if i was fondling and kissing and licking and sucking them you would cum
READY4UNOW: I had heard this is what you do
READY4UNOW: it's really not my thing
Kissyface2000: How do you know if you have never cum this way begore
Kissyface2000: when is the last time you fucked a guy?
READY4UNOW: I know that I don't have these types of conversations on a 1st chat with a total stranger
READY4UNOW: but I'm sure there are plenty on here who would be happy to accommodate you
Kissyface2000: so then you have done it with someone you knew
READY4UNOW: again not something I'm wanting to discuss
Kissyface2000: it's you that needs to be accomodated and gratified as well as me
READY4UNOW: why do you think it's ok to contact someone and immediately go into sex chat?
Kissyface2000: well if you must know, it is very unusual but you are sending me very erotic vibes
READY4UNOW: don't think so
Kissyface2000: has a man ever told you what it's like when you make his cock yearn for you?
READY4UNOW: I'm done with this, you're a perv
Kissyface2000: someday you may learn to love that about me
READY4UNOW: I'll be reporting this chat & you'll likely be removed,
READY4UNOW: I'd think by your age you'd have learned how to be a gentleman, not this sort of garbage
Kissyface2000: that's not necessary
Kissyface2000: I can be everything
Kissyface2000: OK I will let you go anot bother you again
READY4UNOW: yep sounds like a good plan
I'm heading to Vegas for a conference the early part of November.? Have never been to Vegas so should be quite the experience.? It's a wonderful 3 day event hosted by a dynamo woman that teaches mostly female entrepreneurs how to grow their existing businesses or starting a new one and taking it to great success.? She's done very well for herself and is #263 out of the top 500 Inc. growth this year so she must be doing something right!? I'm really looking forward to it.
I've been to a few conferences promoting personal growth, but this one seems different to me, she combines passion with purpose but does it with a step by step plan.? It's been quite a while since I attended a conference like this with approximately 1,000 people so thought it would be good for me to get out of my comfort zone and box, so I signed up.? She's got some top knotch guest speakers too like Barbara Corcoran, of Shark Tank fame, Julie Clark the founder of Baby Einstein and Marlee Matlin, academy award winning actress and activist. All are remarkable women.
I'm not much of a gambler per se, but am taking a bit of a gamble by going, but know it will be a positive experience for me.? It's always great networking with like minded entrepreneurs.? Just wondering if others explore these types of opportunities?? I love self development/personal growth and look at this as an investment in me.?
I've seen other members mention their travels and thought it's a great idea to combine travel with meeting new people, just makes a lot of sense to me.? It's a fairly intensive conference, but I would welcome the opportunity to meet MM'rs living in Vegas for a drink and conversation.
Just wanted to wish all the wonderful Mothers on MM a very Happy Mother's Day!¿ Not too sure what I'm doing just yet but will be visiting with mine later today, might just try out a new Thai restaurant and have a nice relaxing meal together.¿ I'm very fortunate to have mine with me still, talk to her twice a day always and see her often, but this is a day to celebrate the sacrifices all Moms have made over the years and to show them how much they mean to us.
For those without their Moms, just send out a Happy Mother's Day - they'll get it!¿ Motherhood can sometimes be a thankless job, but to me there is no greater joy!
I received this in an email today and it made me laugh so thought I'd share!
Now that Vancouver has won the chance to host the 2010 Winter Olympics, these are some questions people from all over the world are asking. Believe it or not these questions about Canada were posted on an International Tourism Website. Obviously the answers are a joke; but the questions were really asked!
Q:I have never seen it warm on Canadian TV, so how do the plants grow?( England ) A. We import all plants fully grown and then just sit around and watch them die.
Q:Will I be able to see Polar Bears in the street? ( USA ) A: Depends on how much you've been drinking.
Q:I want to walk from Vancouver to Toronto -can I follow the Railroad tracks? ( Sweden ) A: Sure, it's only Four thousand miles, take lots of water.
Q:Is it safe to run around in the bushes in Canada ? ( Sweden ) A: So it's true what they say about Swedes.
Q: Are there any ATM's (cash machines) in Canada ? Can you send me a list of them in Toronto , Vancouver , Edmonton and Halifax ? ( England ) A: What, did your last slave die?
Q:Can you give me some information about hippo racing in Canada ? ( USA ) A: A-fri-ca is the big triangle shaped continent south of Europe .. Ca-na-da is that big country to your North...oh forget it. Sure, the hippo racing is every Tuesday night in Calgary . Come naked.
Q:Which direction is North in Canada ? ( USA ) A: Face south and then turn 180 degrees Contact us when you get here and we'll send the rest of the directions.
Q: Can I bring cutlery into Canada ?( England ) A: Why? Just use your fingers like we do .
Q: Can you send me the Vienna Boys' Choir schedule? ( USA ) A: Aus-t ri-a is that quaint little country bordering Ger-man-y, which is...oh forget it. Sure, the Vienna Boys Choir plays every Tuesday night in Vancouver and in Calgary , straight after the hippo races. Come naked.
Q: Do you have perfume in Canada ? ( Germany ) A: No, WE don't stink.
Q: I have developed a new product that is the fountain of youth. Where can I sell it in Canada ?( USA ) A: Anywhere significant numbers of Americans gather.
Q: Can you tell me the regions in British Columbia where the female population is smaller than the male population? ( Italy ) A: Yes, gay nightclubs .
Q: Do you celebrate Thanksgiving in Canada ? ( USA ) A: Only at Thanksgiving.
Q: Are there supermarkets in Toronto and is milk available all year round?( Germany ) A: No, we are a peaceful civilization of Vegan hunter/gathers. Milk is illegal.
Q: I have a question about a famous animal in Canada , but I forget its name. It's a kind of big horse with horns. ( USA ) A: It's called a Moose. They are tall and very violent, eating the brains of anyone walking close to them. You can scare them off by spraying yourself with human urine before you go out walking.
Q: Will I be able to speak English most places I go? ( USA ) A: Yes, but you will have to learn it first.
Not sure if you've heard of her, but she's a 47 year old woman from Scotland who performed on Britain's Got Talent.¿ She's sort of frumpy looking and the audience and the judges had judged the book by the cover, but when she began singing, her voice was nothing but astounding!¿
She sings "I Dreamed a Dream" from Les Mis that was phenomenal, brings tears to your eyes, tears of pure joy listening to her beautiful voice.
Her you tube video has already received more than 25 million views and climbing!¿ The looks on the faces of judges Simon and Piers were priceless.¿ This woman's life has changed overnight and what a gift she has!
She's also got another video up "Cry Me a River" that is a sultry, sexy sound.¿
Such an inspirational way to start the day!¿ Sure shows you the power of the internet!
I was just reading this on a man's profile and thought it was such a lovely saying that I would post it here to share with you:
"Careful" If you make a woman cry, God counts her tears. Woman was formed from a man's rib. Not from his feet to be walked on, not from his head to be superior, but from his side to be equal, from under the arm to be protected, and next to the heart to be loved.
He prefaced it with "This is not mine but it touches deeply and is so true". I don't know about you, but it certainly struck a chord with me! Note to self - add that boy to favs! lol!
I'm just listening to Seal's amazing "Soul" album and just wanted to share it with everyone. I saw him perform his "A Change is Gonna Come" on Jay Leno recently, it's a remake of the original by Sam Cooke and it's remarkable.
This entire album is soul music, very moving, very passionate, and just wonderful.
The album was created in partnership with David Foster.
Noticed my Dating on MM blog was gone later yesterday, just found out it was because ReverendGene and his 29 blogs were pulled, and because he posted on my blog, it caused the entire blog to come down and can't be reinstated. Was told I could repost it, but don't think I will.
Just wanted to thank all those who took the time for some great comments, it was good to hear how others on here find the dating and also to hear others' viewpoints as to why they don't reply to contacts.
I've been on this site for quite a while and just recently joined a new site and updated on another site and must say there is a huge difference!
My experience on here is that the men don't contact often, rarely reply if you do contact them, yet continuously view my profile. Very odd!
So it's been a lot of fun actually communicating on these other sites, but more importantly, connecting with a few that are quite interesting and may lead somewhere. I've replied to every contact I've had and it's been so refreshing that they take the time to reply back saying thank you for letting me know. It's always been a complaint of mine that people can't be courteous and mature enough to at least reply they're not interested, and I know some say no response IS a response, but etiquette and manners seem to have flown the coop on here for some reason.
I was getting quite jaded with the whole online thing and was just about to pull my profiles, but am now having such a blast, that it's rekindled my interest and restored my faith in this venue.
What have your experiences on here been? Would love to get some male perspectives too with the women on MM.
I don't usually share much of my personal life, but in this instance, believe so strongly in the power of positive thoughts and prayer that I thought I would ask on behalf of my Mom.
My Mom will be 79 this Christmas, and unfortunately we've just recently discovered through a routine colonoscopy that her colon cancer has returned. She had it back in 2003, had the surgery and recovered beautifully. Had 5 years with a clean bill of health. This time not so fortunate, it has returned in almost the same location but entirely on the other side.
She was devastated by this news and initially stated she wouldn't go through that again, but by the time we saw the surgeon and she was told that if she didn't have the surgery she would die, she has decided she will go ahead.
My Mom is a very strong, cool lady and also my best friend. We've shared much over the years and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we'll make it through this once again. She has her ups and downs which is to be expected, but I'm very pleasantly surprised at how well she is handling it.
There have been quite a few appointments since the discovery. This past Friday was my birthday but was also the earliest appointment available for her CT so she took it. She kept apologizing while we waited for 3 hours to have it done, I told her it's okay and my pleasure to be with her through all this. I feel so strongly that I need to be there for her and am thankful I have the time to care for her.
Her surgery is Oct. 6/08 and I have been saying a wonderful, remote healing prayer morning and night from a favourite book of mine. I've asked her to spend a few minutes each day to lay down, relax and calm her mind and just visualize herself being completely healthy and cancer free. She's not a big believer, but says she is trying it.
My hope is they get it all, that it's not spread to the lymph nodes and that she doesn't have to go through chemo which is very hard on anyone, never mind an older person. She's in great shape and doesn't look her age at all, has so much to live for, which she doesn't always agree on, but that's when she's having a down day.
I would ask for you to keep her in your thoughts and prayers as I really do believe so adamantly that the power or energy created by many does have a positive effect and outcome.
I'm adding today (Oct. 4'06) a picture of my Mom from a party last Sun. so you can see what she looks like and maybe focus a little bit better. I asked her permission for this and she's okay with it.
Just wanted to wish all my fellow Canucks a Happy Thanksgiving! Thanksgiving is a time for giving thanks, I think many are so busy they sometimes forget to be mindful of all they do have.
I have lately been mindful each day of 5 things I am grateful for, it's a wonderful way to start the day with a positive spin. They don't have to be earth shattering, just the simple things. I usually come up with more than just 5 and it's amazing how it shifts your mood.
Today I am thankful that Mom is still with me, she's having a rough go right now in hospital, but she's getting phenomenal care and will improve, so that's what I'm thankful for.
Would be lovely if some would like to share what they are thankful for!
Here is another article I found on another dating site that I found very informative and thought I would share.
9 Signs You've Met "The One"
The person you're dating is funny, kind and all around a good person. But is he or she "The One"?
Can you ever really know whether you've met "the one"?
Unfortunately, there isn't a foolproof litmus test, but you can be fairly confident in your relationship if you notice these nine signs that are characteristic of a really special connection between two people.
1) You're Not Chasing the Relationship's Potential
Many people have romantic relationships fraught with obstacles. On a basic level, the relationship is satisfactory, but there always seems to be something standing in the way of true happiness: a stressful job, an annoying ex, a distasteful habit. Both people feel that once the obstacle is removed, they'll be truly content together.
Unfortunately, relationships don't work that way. Once the problem is resolved, another one pops up. And - surprise! - the couple is still unhappy.
What people may not realize is that if they are waiting for true happiness in their relationship, then they are in the wrong relationship. Landing a better job may make life easier financially, but no amount of money will help two people who just aren't a good fit for each other.
The truth is, a happy, well-adjusted couple doesn't have to chase what could be or should be. A good relationship just is.
2) Who You Are Is Good Enough
You know you've met the one when your partner loves you for who you are. We know it sounds pretty cliche, but like all cliches, it's true. "The One's" admiration of you is so powerful that it's almost as if he or she is awestruck by your very presence. He takes great pride in the choices you've made. She finds you smart, sexy, fun to be with, and so on. You never have to try to impress "The One" because you've already done that by just being you.
3) You Manage Conflict Well
Let's say we have two couples that have been together for the same amount of time. Couple A fights regularly. Couple B has never argued in the history of their relationship. Which couple do you think a relationship counselor would say is at greater risk?
That's right: Couple B. Upon closer examination, you'll find that someone in the relationship, perhaps both parties - isn't being forthcoming. Someone's needs and wants aren't being voiced and therefore aren't being addressed.
Couple A, on the other hand, makes it a point to bring up topics that are bothersome or dissatisfying within the relationship. This couple regularly engages in respectful, healthy conflict - without insults or throwing things - and comes out the other side a stronger couple that gains a deeper understanding of one another with each conflict they resolve together. How much a couple fights isn't the issue, unless they don't fight at all. It's how a couple manages conflicts that determines how well the relationship works.
4) The Mundane Is Suddenly Interesting
If you're spending time with someone who really is "The One", then you probably want to pay attention to even the smallest details of his or her life. Specifics from his work interest you, stories about his childhood hold your attention, and even old photos or home movies fascinate you.
When this happens, then this person is likely much more to you than a ship passing in the night.
5) There's Minimal Drama - or None at All
Like we said above when we talked about conflict, even the healthiest relationships deal with their share of arguments. So when we say that there's not a lot of drama in your relationship, we don't mean that the two of you never fight.
But when you do, you do your best to fight fair. You admit when you're wrong, you listen to each other, you acknowledge one another's good points, and you apologize when you cross lines. It's not that you have to be perfect, but if this person is "The One", then you are at least trying to make your conflict work for your relationship rather than against it.
So if you two are dealing with constant drama, where one of you is trying to create high emotions to manipulate the other or where there's constant turbulence without some sort of resolution, then be careful about fully committing to the relationship at this point. High drama is a definite red flag when it comes to long-term relationship success.
6) Your Friends and Family See What You See
If the people who love you the most are begging you to get away from someone, then that person's probably not the one for you. On the other hand, if the people you trust also see what you see in this person and encourage the relationship, then that's a good sign that you two may belong together.
Of course, sometimes your friends and family may choose someone for you whom you haven't chosen. They may push for a relationship that you have no interest in pursuing. In these cases, it's not always wise to follow their advice.
But if you're falling in love with someone whom the people in your life want you to be with, then there's a good chance that this may be the real deal.
7) You Know How to Make Them Happy
When there's a deep connection between two people, they each know what the other wants and needs. So ask yourself this question about the person in your life: Do you know what it takes to make him or her happy? Think about minor, moment-by-moment issues, like where that person likes to eat and what kind of back rub he or she enjoys.
Additionally, think about larger matters as well: Do you know how to help her relieve stress? Can you get her to talk about her dreams and visions for the future? When she's struggling at work or with a family issue, can you help her come through the storm and find the sun again? And, just as important, does your partner know how to do this for you as well? If so, that's another reason to believe that you've found "The One".
8) You Have the Same Life Priorities
Opposites may attract, but they rarely make for a good long-term relationship. Compatibility really is key when it comes to creating a deep and lasting connection between two people.
For example, if you want to begin preparing for the future and building toward certain life and career goals, but your partner mainly wants to make enough money so that he or she can party this weekend, then you two are probably working with fairly different priorities.
And the opposite it is true, too: If your priorities match up well, then you two have a much better chance of long-term happiness and fulfillment together.
9) You Respect the Person Deeply
Mutual respect is crucial for a healthy relationship. Without that respect, there's simply no way to create and build a secure foundation so that you can enjoy all of the benefits of a deep and strong relationship.
But when you respect your partner and he or she respects you, the relationship has a strong chance at thriving, and all the aspects of your connection blossom. The communication improves. The commitment deepens. The trust multiplies. The satisfaction level goes through the roof.
And that all begins with a mutual respect that emerges because you like each other and because you appreciate the way you live your individual lives.
So as you try to figure out whether you've found "The One", take a look at this list. If you can check off each of the above items, then you owe it to yourself to allow the relationship to become all that it can possibly be.
I have always felt that a good relationship should just be all of these points mentioned, but when I look back on what I had, it most definitely was not. I believe all relationships require a great deal of work, keeping informed and interested in each other's lives on a daily basis, continued growth, but mostly just wanting to be in each other's life is essential. I also believe that it's how you resolve conflict respectfully that determines a successful, healthy, happy, loving relationship.
What's your take on these points?
Just had an IM with a g/f about this and it reminded me, so thought I'd post it.
Quite a while ago I was discussing with a very dear friend of mine who is a psychologist and life coach about what one looks for in a life partner.
He told me to tell him of 5 qualities that I looked for in a potential mate. I quickly listed off 5, and then he asked me how many of those 5 did I possess? I realized not many and he replied "well there's your answer!"
He said like attracts like, why would you expect someone to have those qualities or traits and you yourself not have them. Why would someone with those traits be attracted to you who doesn't have those same traits. It was a question I pondered on and have thought about quite often since then.
Take a few moments and list 5 or 10 or however many qualities/traits you want in a partner, be totally honest about this and not let whether you possess them or not affect your list in a mate.
Go back and put a check mark beside all those qualities/traits that you yourself possess.
Being totally honest in your assessment is essential for this exercise to work.
For all those traits you don't possess, you've now got a very clear picture of where you need to do some self work to improve and create who you want to be. The Law of Attraction is always in play whether you believe in it or not. We can be whoever we choose to be from this day forward. Start being who you would most like to have show up for a partner and watch for what shows up in your life!
Hope you'll share your thoughts on this!
Here's another article from a site I found and I thought it had some pretty valid points, so thought I would share.
Is the intense attraction you feel for your partner love or is it lust? When you're blinded by the euphoria of the beginning stages of a relationship it can be hard to distinguish desire from true love. How to tell if what you've got is the real deal or just sex appeal.
In the beginning of a relationship, everything's intense: the passion, your feelings, your increasing level of intimacy with your new partner, etc. So how do you know if what you've got is the real deal or just a case of sex appeal?
The following are some important questions to ask yourself in hopes of assessing whether your budding romance has a potential future or is more likely to crash and burn as the passion fades.
How Much do you Know About the other Person's Life?
Unsure if what you've got is love or lust? A great indicator is to assess how much you really know about the other person's life. Sure, you may know what he does for a living and where she lives. You may even have each other's digits programmed into your cell phones. But have you met the other person's friends, spent entire weekends together, or been included in each other's daily lives?
The best way to know if it's love or lust is take an honest look at how interconnected the two of you are. And this doesn't mean just the level at which you are opening up, but the level at which your partner is letting you into his or her life, too. By being honest with yourself about where the two of you are relating, you'll get a better idea of whether or not you've got the real deal or just sex appeal.
Is Passion the Only Thing you have in Common?
Sometimes it's hard to know the difference between having the hots for someone and having what it takes to make a relationship work. A key deciding factor is to ask yourself what it is that the two of you have in common. Superficial commonalities such as movies, food, partying, and passionate make-out sessions are most likely not enough to make a long-term relationship work. And that's okay.
But do yourself and the other person a favor by looking at your relationship realistically. If it's just lust, be honest about the fact that your attraction is limited to the physical. Don't talk yourself or your partner into thinking there's a future for you as a couple if there isn't. This is a conversation you'll want to have in the early stages of your intimacy. By being honest about the scope of your feelings for each other, you'll avoid getting hurt as well as hurting the other person.
Do you Share Common life Goals, Dreams and Ambitions?
Before things get too hot and heavy between you and your potential partner, you should discuss long-term goals, dreams, and ambitions. After all, you may not want to invest your time, energy, and intimacy with someone who doesn't share a similar vision of your future. Things you may want to discuss before things get too hot and heavy include:
- Does the other person share your long-term relationship goals?
- Does he or she share your ideas about having children?
- Do you both have common lifestyle priorities (career, home, etc.)?
- Do you have similar ethics and morals?
While broaching this conversation can feel somewhat uncomfortable, it's an important discussion to have early on in a budding relationship. Why? Because it forces you both to communicate in an honest and open manner, in hopes of cutting down on wasted time and hurt feelings. Plus, if you're already engaged in physical passion, you'll want to make sure your emotional energy is equally compatible.
Is the Feeling Mutual?
Here's the real reason that having these difficult conversations is crucial to your relationship success: While you may feel that things are sailing along smoothly, your partner may have other ideas. Rather than finding yourself headed toward happily ever after only to discover you've arrived there all alone, it's essential to know where the other person stands as soon as possible. This doesn't mean having a conversation about commitment on the first date, or offering an ultimatum about exclusivity after the first kiss.
But as you find yourself getting intimately involved with someone you need to know where you stand. The only way to find out is to be brave enough to express your feelings and ask your potential partner how he or she is feeling. If the feelings are not mutual, i.e., if one of you is only interested in a casual physical relationship while the other one wants a future together, it's better to know that before you get in too deep.
Becoming intimately involved with someone new is exciting and exhilarating, and potentially excruciating if you're not on the same page. It's important to assess the situation early on, identify where you're both coming from, and determine whether or not you're compatible for long-term relationship success. In doing so, you'll cut down on wasted dating time, hurt feelings, and unnecessary confusion.
If you find yourself in a lust-only affair, it's up to you to act accordingly depending on your wants and needs. If you discover that your passionate pursuit has future relationship potential, congratulations! You may be well on your way to happily ever after. Either way, it's important to know where you stand as soon as possible so that you can proceed with caution, care, or commitment.
Got this from another dating site and thought it was funny and appropriate.
As novices of online dating, some people don't realize that their profile picture doesn't represent them well. If your personal profile isn't yielding the amount of clicks you'd like, the problem may be your portrait.
Before you get insulted by the title of this piece, we'd like to first compliment you on the choices you've made. You've taken the initiative to set up a profile, upload a photo, and put yourself out there, and that is no small feat. It takes gumption to be able to show the world who you are, and for that we give you kudos.
After all, this new world of online profiles isn't exactly easy to navigate. Many people struggle with the amount of information they should put on their profile. Others wonder whether they should post a picture, and if so, which one? Should you post the photo that makes you look like an absolute 10, or the one that makes you look 10 pounds thinner?
We aren't going to pull any punches here: how you look in your photo does matter. But not in the way you think. More often than not, your looks aren't the deciding factor in whether or not you're going to make a friend or score a date. What matters is what you are doing in your picture; in other words, how you present yourself to the world.
You may think it's crazy, but it's true: you don't have to be the best-looking person on the site to meet people; you just have to represent yourself well. Check out the list below for examples of photos that you shouldn't post under any circumstances.
Photo #1: You're at a Bar Drinking with Your Friends
In an effort to come off as fun and well-liked, many people post pictures of themselves drinking at a bar with their friends. Big mistake. Pictures that show you drinking at a bar don't make you look entertaining, fun, or special; they make you look like a barfly.
The snapshot may have been taken on the one night you go out all year, but the people on the other side of cyberspace don't know that. What they see is that you like to go out drinking with your friends. That's your priority. Something you do often. If that's the persona you'd like to reflect, fine. But know that drinking has lost its luster for most people over a certain age.
Photo #2: You've Cut Out Your Ex
We've all been tempted to do it, but cutting your ex out of a picture and then posting it online is a bad idea for a number of reasons. For starters, every time you check out your profile and see that picture, you're going to think of your ex. After all, he or she used to be standing right next to you! Second, in the age of digital photography, there's no reason why you can't easily take another picture where you look just as good. Or better!
If you absolutely must crop your ex out of a photo, do it right and cut him or her completely out of the picture. Don't leave a big square in the middle where a face used to be.
Photo #3: You're Standing Next to a Celebrity
Unless you're good friends with Jennifer Aniston, there's no reason why you should be standing next to her in your profile photo. Actually, even if you're best friends with Jennifer Aniston, you probably shouldn't be standing next to her in your profile photo.
This phenomenon is a little less common than the others, but it does happen. If you do happen to have a picture of yourself with a celebrity, don't post it. It won't make you look more important or more alluring. You'll just look like a person standing next to a celebrity.
Photo #4: You're Dressed as a Superhero
We get that some people really like to dress up in costumes even when it isn't Halloween. There are many social events and social circles where this is accepted and encouraged, and more power to people who find their niche in the world. However, while your friends may understand your penchant for dressing like the original Superman at Comic-Con, most people perusing your profile won't.
We aren't suggesting that you make an effort to - excuse the pun - disguise who you are. In fact, any person who's worth your time will delight in your quirkiness. But when you're putting yourself out there, it's best to save the fun photos for later on down the road.
Photo #5: You're Posing with Something Expensive
To give the profile photograph some perspective, you've decided it would be a good idea to pose next to your brand-new luxury car. Surely no one will be able to resist someone who's leaning against a BMW, right? Wrong.
When you pose next to one of your toys or stand in a way that shows off your Hermes bag, you come off as superficial. When it comes down to it, no one wants to be with someone who cares more about things than people.
There is a caveat, however: if your hobbies include tinkering with or collecting expensive toys, it's okay to include them in your profile picture. Just make sure you are trying to represent you, not your net worth.
We've all seen them and some of us may even have them on our own profiles eeeek! Do I hear little fingers hitting "edit my profile"? lol!
As I see a few references creeping onto the blogs of Cassie, just thought I'd point out the reason she and her sidekick Jabber2000 were trolls, both courtesy of dear ol' JLogan. I think it's disgusting that some demented individual goes to such great lengths to pull one over on so many bloggers, but that's exactly what's happened, and this is why they were all removed.
Think about it folks, no one to my knowledge had ever spoken to Cassie, never had her picture up, posted only parts of her body, loved controversial push the limits blogs, her stories were always high drama, not to be believed, sucked everyone in for support, kept her on page 1 of the blogs for ages and almost everyone welcomed her with open arms and support.
Cassie herself threw a few tips out there as to never having to pay for her membership, etc. Another sign of someone taunting.
Give your heads a shake and be a little more discerning as to who you give your friendship so willingly to.
I love a good thunderstorm and tonight in Toronto, we're having a doozy! Heavy rain, lots of loud thunder and bright light up the skies lightening!
I love the sound the rain makes hitting the house, and to me there is nothing better than falling asleep listening to the downpour of a good heavy rain.
It's great for the garden and the lawns too! Washes my lawn furniture beautifully too.
Much has been written on this subject, have had even more discussions and opinions on it, all I know is they're wonderful!
I've been told countless times "they're not real" or "it's not the same as in person". I disagree.
I have a male friend who I have never met but have spoken many times on the phone to, emailed numerous times, and my late husband, my son and my sister-in-law have actually met in person.
He's been an absolute angel in helping me with some very difficult, mechanical/technical issues I was having when trying to sell my 50 ft. power boat. He's a marine mechanic who works on the whirlpool jet boats that run on the Niagara River that just happened to have the exact same engines as were in my boat. After my husband passed away, I had the task of selling the boat, and it's a large boat for Lake Ontario, so not a huge market. Found a potential buyer, had to have a mechanical inspection and sea trial before the sale could close. The boat had sat for almost 2 yrs. without having the oil changed. Turned out on inspection, they found antifreeze in one of the engines which alarmed the buyer. Not being all that mechanical, I tracked down this marine mechanic who had worked once on my boat. He was gracious enough to do compression tests, change the oil, etc. The buyer was offering he would foot the bill, but it would be deducted from the purchase price. I felt as though that would be opening up my wallet to several thousands of dollars, so decided to handle it myself. Long story short, the sale finally did take place Sept. '04, my marine mechanic came through for me big time and I was very grateful for finally being rid of the boat.
My son and sis-in-law went for the day to go on the jet boats and met in person, the mechanic, Ben. He was very nice to them and in fact, arranged to give them free photos of themselves looking like drowned rats after the ride, you get absolutely soaked!
Ben developed cancer in '05, was told he only had 3 mos. to live but had a stem transplant and survived. Apparently he was a very large man, around 350 lbs., but he lost more than half his body weight with the cancer. He emails occasionally giving me updates, saying hello, wishing me Happy Birthday, or Mother's Day or whatever occasion and we keep in touch.
I heard from him last week, unfortunately the cancer has returned, he's started chemo again but has a great, positive attitude and I know he'll beat it again. I replied how sorry I was to hear about this, and have decided that I just MUST make the effort to get down and finally meet him this summer, take him for a beer and lunch and finally put a face to this person I've come to know and share so much with. Now it's my turn to give back.
So for all those non-believers, online friends are as real as you and I!