My grandparents were married for many years and though things were not always perfect; they both agreed on the following for long lasting, blooming, relationship:
HAVE EMPAHTY; PLACE YOURSELF IN THE OTHER PERSONS SHOES. IN DOING SO; THIS A DEMONSTRATES LOVE IN ACTION. (understanding where the other peron is coming from without being critical and condeming is key.)
In recent years, I have noticed a decline in the value of having most degrees. In particular, this flat economic environment has caused most employers to want more, more, more for less regardless of the degree held with a minor few exceptions.
It is sad to hear the number of students who are currently perusing what society says is the formula for success; Only to learn the good old days formula isn't the same.
Consider selecting degree in something that you really enjoy doing, even if the employer wants more, more. In doing so, you will never see your education a waste of money.
In closing, I do not believe education is a sure formula for success anymore, it best to select a degree that you will enjoy working, in that field. I believe having a degree makes one well rounded and one should decide what success means to them. Surely that are many success stories of individuals who are blooming who only earned a high school graduates. I believe, having passion for a particular craft increases the likelhood of success.
I also believe, success is being conten with wherever you are in life, I do not believe success is merely measured in the dollar amount; or net worth of a person. There are number of other factors one must look at as well. You have to decide what success means to you.
What does success mean to you. For me ; it is being happy whether one is in a studio or mansion.
Does age really matter when it comes to love connections or dating?
Age really is a number; basically, I believe you are what you think you are. Simply put; If one is 20 and act as they are 40, they will begin to walk, talk, think, act as if they are in fact 40 though there are no visible signs of aging at 20yrs. More than likely people will begin to see them as older.
In the reverse, if one is 60 and that person reflects youth in staying active, taking care themselves, eating right, thinking “I am youthful" then that is how one will be seen.
In closing, I do not believe age matters when it comes to love connections; as long as you are comfortable with whom you are and not trying to be something you are not.
I am seeking a well established, warm, kind, attractive gentleman, who has integrity,is well balanced, thoughtful , who loves traveling, volunteer work, humble, strong, MATURE and old fashioned. HE VALUES INNER BEAUTY AND ISN’T AFRAID OF MARRIAGE. HE DOESN’T THINK OF DATING AS JUST FUN, HE IS SEEKING A LIFE PARTNER BECAUSE HE KNOWS A WIFE IS A GIFT. AGE RANGE (45-60) FOREIGN IS A PLUS
No one can really determine a person’s motives upon first sight; it takes to time to decipher these things, but here are a few red flags you may want to look for to revaluate who you want to enter into your world.
1. Beware of a person who ask what do you do for a living right away. Here is my take on it, if one has their own; whether it is a professional career or working at a diner you are not going to be concerned about what someone else does for a living upon meeting. One will be concerned with finding common ground and getting to know the person from the inside.
2. If a person begins to talk about cars, fancy brand name clothes, let’s go shopping, zip codes and the last rock star and model they dated, run for the hills! Finding true love has nothing to do with any of the above. When a person falls in love they want to give their love interest the best; so no need to give hints or encourage this type of dialogue.
3. Go with your gut feeling, if you feel someone is in it for the wrong reason, say adios amigos!
4. If a person is willing to sleep with you in exchange for material possessions, expect an itch afterwards; you can not lie in a bed of flees and expect not to get bitten. If one does this with you they have done it before, trust your gut. Never sleep with a person who hasn't been tested for std's or sleeps with a person in exchange for this or that, I don't care if their the finest person in the world, a supermodel, Trump, Movie star, the King of Persia, you get my point, you can't tell from looking if someone has an STD.
5. When someone is really interested in you, they will focus on how they can compliment your lifestyle, add to it, make you happy and if two people focus on making each other happy as oppose what is your net worth, you are on you way to finding someone who appreciate your hard work and success, who wants you for you! The fact that one is blessed financially will just be the icing on the cake when true love is developed and nourished.
Be yourself, that is the only way someone will learn about who you really are and you will know in time, if it is your money; or you, they are interested in.
Like a 90 day job probation period, in 90 days you wil begin to see a persons true color. People are unable to hide their true self for long.
In conclusion, to know if someone wants you for the you or the money, trust your gut feeling, take time, beware of questions regarding occupations and net worth, listen to the conversations and topic of interest, if they are asking about zipcodes or any of the above metioned; you know what to do I have enlighten you hopefully.
Also, be yourself, and know that real people work, it doesn't matter what type of work it is, what matters is that one has pride in doing something; because work builds character and self respect. Don't be ashamed, if you work at a diner, at least you have self respect enough to go to work. That is a good trait in itself! If someone doesn't value what you do; they do not want you for you. Real love accepts a person for who and what they are.
There are number of things one can do to maximize finding the right woman. Congratulations you have just taken the first step!
Step1: Join an award winning website for singles, like this one.
Step 2: Determine your goals: Are you seeking long term, marriage, or fun?
Step 3: We are all single for many reasons, consider stepping outside of the box; try something different. If you tend to be highly attracted to blondes consider a highly attractive red head. If you love tall thin model types, spark a conversation with average height thin woman.
Step 4: Leave the baggage behind, don't place individuals in categories or assume one woman will be the same way as an ex, or fall for sterotyping: all blondes aren't a certain way ect. Give an individual a chance without biases; until you either prove your hypothesis about them is true or false. You may be suprised to learn something new, you may even find true love unexpectedly.
Step 5: From biblical days, even if one isn't religious this is helpful to know, God placed a formula for successful in relationships, blessed is the man who finds a wife, he obtains favor from the Lord, a man that finds a wife finds a good thing, and women are to be a support mate for their man. (Man is the head of the house)
A High powered, over achieving woman is admirable and respectable but will she have to time to cheer you on, to support your visions, to nourish the family full time? The bible states the man is the head of the house hold he is the provider, our society at times has switched up the role of a woman and man and it has caused less success in flourishing relationships.
Step 6: Appreciate and be grateful for the people that come into your life, there is always are learning lessons that one may use that will build character; if a date doesn't work out. THINK POSITIVE!
Step 7: Stop expecting people to be perfect or flawless, non of us are; even Miss America has flaws.
Last, REFLECT LIGHT be a giver, do not look for things in return. Do good because it is noble, and because you select too. If someone has a goal to take advantage of you, what goes around comes around. An old Chinese proverb says; karma comes back to us all, so do good at all times, so good will come back to you. If you feel someone is a user; wish them well and press on. There is someone out there for all of us.
In closing, if ones goal is to find the woman of your dreams, do good, receive love, be thankful, think positive, try something new, speak positive words, demonstrate giving without expectations, smile for goodness sake; then one day, you will find the woman of your dreams, remember; it is the heart that determines who a person is not outward appearances.
PS, if one reaches out to a love interest and the person responds : "your not my type or doesn't respond at all," think: THEIR lost, always know that you were marvelously and gloriously made in the image of God, he didn't make junk and all hIS creations are beautiful,
Do not let anyone tell you you are not worthy! BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER, IT STARTS WITH YOUR EYES FIRST, WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOURSELF? THAT IS WHAT MATTERS, NOW PRESS ON, AND DON'T GIVE UP in your search of finding "THE WOMAN OF YOUR DREAMS."
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Finding love is a true treasure, and money is a blessing. Most of our society tend to look at skin color, wieght, height and hair color to determine the value of an individual; but I would like to encourage one to look at the heart.
I am true believer that true beauty comes from within, though good looks open doors in the end, even the most gorgeous man or woman will grow older. Also, what good is wealth when one's health is not optimum, take care of your body eat whole, organic foods, drink plenty of pure water and you will not only be blessed with long life.
Consider, making an individual test for stds, before getting involved physically, alot of men and women have lost their lives behind a beautiful man or woman simply because they didn't test. They let beauty direct their destiny. A good destiny starts with a good decision.
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Remember, never judge a person by outward apperances you may be missing out on the best gift in the world, true love with a person who has a heart of gold.