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Question for NON-Believers and Jewish 7 Views 12/23/12

HI My Agnostic and Atheist friends!!!!




SO MUCH dissension has been created lately directly reflecting on the opposing views of Christians VS. Atheist... Rather than fight, I prefer "Understanding" and "Acceptance" of others views. Therefore I wish to pose a question for my own personal enlightenment....




For the individuals who do NOT believe Jesus is our Savior, do you celebrate Christmas? As I was growing up, I was not "allowed" to celebrate ANY holidays, or my birthday; so when I left home, I started celebrating EVERYTHING I could! It was a huge deal when I purchased my first Christmas tree and although I only recently "accepted" Jesus, I STILL celebrated Christmas, (NOT even knowing what the meaning behind it was) So I bought my children presents, listened to the music etc. I did this although I was agnostic until I was in my 40's, because I wanted my children to "be normal" and "fit in"; the things I never felt when I was young and as a bonus, it was "fun!" WHO DOESN'T LIKE GETTING PRESENTS! ;)




So, do you, as a non-believer celebrate Christmas and put up a tree and buy gifts etc? Or do you tell your children you don't believe in Jesus as being God's son, or even in God, so you omit the holiday? I mean, Christmas IS about Jesus....




AND, does being Agnostic or Atheist affect any other holidays like Easter?




I know the Jewish community believes Jesus existed, and was a great man; just not the son of God. Does the Jewish faith believe Jesus died and was resurrected? If so, do they celebrate Easter as the resurrection of Jesus? One thing I have noted that I admire of the Jewish faith is "acceptance of others!" (Except for marriage! LOL) 




Anyway, I was not "allowed" the freedom to explore such things as a child. I wasn't even allowed friends in the outside world. I've never explored these issues and I am not one who will go all crazy if someone doesn't feel the way I do, so I thought I might ask what others believe. I do not feel we are all to believe in Jesus. I mean, it SAYS SO in that thing we call THE BIBLE, so why would I ever argue with someone about it? 




So if anyone wishes to enlighten me here, please do. NOTE: This is not a debate on God! I think we've all had enough of that! I merely am asking how holidays such as Christmas affects non-believers. 






(Look.... I must be related to DAKOTA!) LOL.... 





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BRING ~~VOYAGER~~ BACK!! 325 Views 09/30/12









                                    "OUR MAN V" ....       BACK...








                                                                                  PLEASE SIGN BELOW...








EVERYONE is entitled to their opinion.. EVERYONE is entitled to share their views on other peoples opinions as well... However, for one to take such measures as to have someone "REMOVED" is going far beyond the scope of what they are entitled to, IMHO. (In My Humble Opinion)  






No two people will EVER have the same thoughts or agree 100%...nor should they....






I myself apologized to a lady this week, as our discussion spiraled out of control. These things happen!! I was personally uncomfortable with how heated things became and felt, "This is not the image I wish to portray as a woman who tries to follow in Christ shadow." I often fail, (more often than not honestly.... but everyday I start anew...) She and I were fortunate we were allowed to air our views and in the end came to a mutual truce on our differences. This is how we each learn from one another and grow as individuals. As a newer Christian I am saddened to see not all Christians follow the words they spew on paper. The Bible I read says to "love your enemies." Nowhere have I read, "Get people thrown off a site because they hurt your feelings and you think they are rude to you." If "religion" or God is that strong of a pull for someone, there are other sites that are based on this premise. We blog about sex, toys, infidelity, and several other "adult" topics.  






If we were not allowed to express matters "freely", we would hold no need to be "UNIQUE" ...






We would be more "robotic" and we would never expand our mindsets.






Therefore, at the end of the day... whether right, wrong or indifferent... 






EVERYONE should have the FREEDOM to EXPRESS their OPINIONS.. 






Via short....  or long form..... 






If you feel the same and would like VOYAGER to be allowed back to the forums... Please sign below..






**NOTE: I do NOT agree with V on several topics, but neither of us has ever swayed from voicing our differences to one another.  So even should you not agree with him, or even like him.... THIS is about "right" and "wrong." And if someone can be removed for making comments another does not agree with.... WHO'S NEXT TO BE AXED? 






Thank you for your time~~















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BEN STEIN'S THOUGHTS..... (2005) 141 Views 11/08/12

With the election finally over and the Holidays approaching, I felt it might be a great time to share this commentary I recently read that gave me "food for thought." Although it was written in 2005, I feel it applies heavily to today's times. 


I myself have grown tired of hearing advice on how to greet others during Christmas time ... "Say Happy Holidays... Don't say Merry Christmas!" As a newer CHRISTian... (4 years now) I WANT to say MERRY CHRISTMAS and I've wanted to say it since I was a little girl who would hide in my room singing "Rocking Around the Christmas Tree" "hoping" my mother wouldn't come in and take the tape away from me. (non Christian) I wasn't allowed the FREEDOM to partake in Christmas, so now I want to relish it for the newer meaning I know of it... So I want to cherish it for MY newfound beliefs.. not some commercialized "Let's make it work for everyone" hype! 


Oddly, I have felt a certain connection with a couple of Jewish men. First with Rabbi Albert Lewis as portrayed in "Have a Little Faith" by Mitch Albom (another Jew) and in reading this, I enjoy Ben's open wisdom as well....  ACCEPTANCE, for me, IS KEY....... I accept others, despite what they may NOT believe in... Therefore I would like a little respect and common courtesy for what I feel is important. I feel Ben says this best.... 

The following was written by Ben Stein and recited by him on CBS Sunday  Morning  Commentary.

My confession: 

I am a Jew, and every single one of my ancestors was Jewish.  And it does not bother me even a little bit when people call those beautiful lit up, bejeweled trees, Christmas trees...  I don't feel threatened..  I don't feel discriminated against.. That's what they are, Christmas trees. 

It doesn't bother me a bit when people say, 'Merry Christmas' to me.  I don't think they are slighting me or getting ready to put me in a ghetto.  In fact, I kind of like it.  It shows that we are all brothers and sisters celebrating this happy time of year. It doesn't bother me at all that there is a manger scene on display at a key intersection near my beach house in Malibu .  If people want a creche, it's just as fine with me as is the Menorah a few hundred yards away. 

I don't like getting pushed around for being a Jew, and I don't think Christians like getting pushed around for being Christians.  I think people who believe in God are sick and tired of getting pushed around, period.  I have no idea where the concept came from, that America is an explicitly atheist country.  I can't find it in the Constitution and I don't like it being shoved down my throat. 

Or maybe I can put it another way: where did the idea come from that we should worship celebrities and we aren't allowed to worship God as we understand Him?  I guess that's a sign that I'm getting old, too.  But there are a lot of us who are wondering where these celebrities came from and where the America we knew went to. 

In light of the many jokes we send to one another for a laugh, this is a little different:  This is not intended to be a joke; it's not funny, it's intended to get you thinking.

In light of recent events... terrorists attack, school shootings, etc..  I think it started when Madeleine Murray O'Hare (she was murdered, her body found a few years ago) complained she didn't want prayer in our schools, and we said OK.  Then someone said you better not read the Bible in school.  The Bible says thou shalt not kill; thou shalt not steal, and love your neighbor as yourself.  And we said OK.

Then Dr. Benjamin Spock said we shouldn't spank our children when they misbehave, because their little personalities would be warped and we might damage their self-esteem (Dr. Spock's son committed suicide).  We said an expert should know what he's talking about..  And we said okay..

Now we're asking ourselves why our children have no conscience, why they don't know right from wrong, and why it doesn't bother them to kill strangers, their classmates, and themselves.

Probably, if we think about it long and hard enough, we can figure it out.  I think it has a great deal to do with 'WE REAP WHAT WE SOW.' 

Funny how simple it is for people to trash God and then wonder why the world's going to hell.  Funny how we believe what the newspapers say, but question what the Bible says.  Funny how you can send 'jokes' through e-mail and they spread like wildfire, but when you start sending messages regarding the Lord, people think twice about sharing.  Funny how lewd, crude, vulgar and obscene articles pass freely through cyberspace, but public discussion of God is suppressed in the school and workplace. 

Are you laughing yet? 

Funny how when you forward this message, you will not send it to many on your address list because you're not sure what they believe, or what they will think of you for sending it. 

Funny how we can be more worried about what other people think of us than what God thinks of us. 

Pass it on if you think it has merit. 
If not, then just discard it... no one will know you did.  But, if you discard this thought process, don't sit back and complain about what bad shape the world is in.  

My Best Regards,  Honestly and respectfully, 

Ben Stein






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SHAG/SCOOB vs. FUDD/BUGS! 165 Views 10/03/12







I have been informed by "Unknown" and "Unreliable" Sources, our very own "child-hood hero" ... SHAGGY is running for President! THAT'S RIGHT!! 












Of course his favorite side-kick SCOOBY-DOO will be his running mate!! 






As it turns out... NO ONE could agree, and even members of both political parties were not exactly "overjoyed" with their selections for the November race; so they have determined finding an "outsider" who will work (or NOT work) for mere "Scooby Snacks" would make a finer selection! This will save on costs to our Presidency as Shaggy needn't money and Scooby has refused to wear $500,000 dresses and can't stand cavier and champagne!!! IT'S A WIN-WIN AMERICA!! ;)






It is my understanding the first item on their agenda will be "Legalizing Wacky Weed" and embarking on a 50,000 acre "Scooby Snack- Organic" farm. Turns out all those years before pesticides and chemicals were considered "harmful"... Shaggy and Scooby were already a leg up on the importance of "natural herbs!" 












So everyone! Pencil it in election time! Shaggy and Scooby are making a comeback! Umm... "IF" they can remember when to show up! I understand that green stuff takes a toll on one's memory.... But hey, I don't know from experience.... I'M JUST GUESSING! 






But it sure explains all that smoke always coming out of the "Mystery Machine" and all the food cravings!! 












KEEP LAUGHTER in Your Lives...... It really IS the Best Medicine! :)

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Our SISTER-HOOD 130 Views 09/04/11

I had been engrossed in the movie “SEX and the CITY” and witnessed Samantha feed Carrie after her humiliating ordeal with “BIG” dumping her before their wedding ceremony. It was almost as if I was transformed into that very scene and could have been on either side of the spoon. My eyes filled with tears feeling Carries’ heart wrenching pain and Samantha’s undying love for her friend. At the precise moment after viewing this, I received an email from one of my GF on this site telling me what has been transpiring in her life. MANY BLESSINGS ARE HEADED HER WAY, but only AFTER enduring many years in an unfulfilled and abusive relationship! Tears filled my eyes once more as I read her words of new found happiness. I am delighted for her to be “moving up” in LOVE after her downward battle in pain! There is always HOPE around the corner, we just have to keep the FAITH during our struggles. This is where “TRUE BONDING” between our “sisters” comes so abundantly crystal clear of how much resolve in ourselves we pull from one anothers' strength.

It has become apparent many people read my words; especially the ladies I somehow “touch”, unknowingly! This week I was blessed with introduction to 3 women I had never met and who have never even posted on one of my blogs. Each wrote privately to express their views on how I have somehow touched their hearts by doing what I enjoy and what comes naturally for me; to place my thoughts on paper. I feel extremely blessed to be.. just “little ole me!” God gave me a heart that feels w/ such intensity it is difficult for me not to express my “emotions.” My expressions tend to come out with passion, zest and fervor; therefore I am further graced sometimes leaving others with some sort of footprint. I have been this way since I was a little girl. I have heard these confirmations my entire life.

So I felt I would share some thoughts on our “SISTER-HOOD”… the deeply felt connection when two strange women can see one another from across a crowded room and know what the other is thinking. The unspoken motherly bond we connect w/ when we see a frustrated mother w/ whiny children at the store, and we smile at them, pat their back and encouragingly say, “You are doing a fine job. You should have seen my little Mikey! Boy was he a pistol!” And the frazzled mother exchanges a smile as you see her eyes starting to tear. You never truly know if she was at her final breaking point, or if you just touched her heart that immensely. Perhaps it was a little of both. If you have never been blessed with this type bonding with a strange woman ladies, I pray one day you do. And should your life not be filled with girl friends that are there for you regardless of the circumstances, I pray one day you will.

THERE IS AN UNSPOKEN RULE BETWEEN WOMEN WHO TRULY BOND AND CONNECT. It’s called being an UNCONDITIONAL FRIEND. Regardless of whether you agree with one anothers' choices and decisions, an UNCONDITIONAL FRIEND NEVER leaves your side. The connection TRUE BFF’s share is simply UNBREAKABLE. There is no CONDEMNATION, JUDGMENT or the throwing of stones when one falters. And there is ALWAYS a soft place to land when the earth shatters and it feels as if the world is caving in on us.

I watch as Carrie rushes to Miranda’s new home after she left Steve for cheating on her. It is a New Year’s Eve which would otherwise have been spent alone by both parties. The two friends chose to be lonely, “together.” I recall countless hours stroking several girlfriends’ heads after a bad break up, and having several cradle me after somehow my world had collapsed around me. It’s an unwritten rule. We do not leave our own kind when wounded.

So for any of you ladies watching and wondering, I THANK YOU as well for being who you are. I see you cruise my page and read my blogs and I too, gather strength from you! Many times we gather strength from the simplest things in life. And some of those simplest things in life are merely simple people like me, with nothing other than our heart hanging on our sleeve for everyone’s view. True, some may poke, some may judge, others may condemn. But the women who hold “TRUE SPIRIT” inside themselves can always find at least one piece of beauty when a masterpiece shatters.

Just remember 3 things as we walk past one another:




When we walk with LOVE in our hearts, we will be amazed by the “BEAUTY” that surrounds us! THANK YOU to ALL the “beautiful women” who have written me and who just follow me to follow. I am blessed and encouraged to be surrounded by “your beauty!”

With all sincerity,

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SACK LUNCHES.. VET story to share..... 131 Views 04/17/12
I received this in an email a while back and wanted to share, as it touched my heart... Regardless ones belief in war, where they are located geographically, or what team "PAYS" for them.... The SOLDIERS who fight our battles should be RESPECTED and THANKED for their service to whatever degree their cost. This is a little reminder. ************ I put my carry-on in the luggage compartment and sat down in my assigned seat. It was going to be a long flight. 'I'm glad I have a good book to read. Perhaps I will get a short nap,' I thought. Just before take-off, a line of soldiers came down the aisle and filled all the vacant seats, totally surrounding me. I decided to start a conversation. 'Where are you headed?' I asked the soldier seated nearest to me. 'Petawawa. We'll be there for two weeks for special training, and then we're being deployed to Afghanistan." After flying for about an hour, an announcement was made that sack lunches were available for five dollars. It would be several hours before we reached the east, and I quickly decided a lunch would help pass the time... As I reached for my wallet, I overheard a soldier ask his buddy if he planned to buy lunch. 'No, that seems like a lot of money for just a sack lunch. Probably wouldn't be worth five bucks. I'll wait till we get to base.' His friend agreed. I looked around at the other soldiers. None were buying lunch. I walked to the back of the plane and handed the flight attendant a fifty dollar bill. 'Take a lunch to all those soldiers.' She grabbed my arms and squeezed tightly. Her eyes wet with tears, she thanked me. 'My son was a soldier in Iraq ; it's almost like you are doing it for him.' Picking up ten sacks, she headed up the aisle to where the soldiers were seated. She stopped at my seat and asked, 'Which do you like best - beef or chicken?' 'Chicken,' I replied, wondering why she asked. She turned and went to the front of plane, returning a minute later with a dinner plate from first class. 'This is your thanks.' After we finished eating, I went again to the back of the plane, heading for the rest room. A man stopped me. 'I saw what you did. I want to be part of it. Here, take this.' He handed me twenty-five dollars. Soon after I returned to my seat, I saw the Flight Captain coming down the aisle, looking at the aisle numbers as he walked, I hoped he was not looking for me, but noticed he was looking at the numbers only on my side of the plane. When he got to my row he stopped, smiled, held out his hand and said, 'I want to shake your hand.' Quickly unfastening my seat belt I stood and took the Captain's hand. With a booming voice he said, 'I was a soldier and I was a military pilot. Once, someone bought me a lunch. It was an act of kindness I never forgot.' I was embarrassed when applause was heard from all of the passengers. Later I walked to the front of the plane so I could stretch my legs. A man who was seated about six rows in front of me reached out his hand, wanting to shake mine. He left another twenty-five dollars in my palm. When we landed I gathered my belongings and started to deplane. Waiting just inside the airplane door was a man who stopped me, put something in my shirt pocket, turned, and walked away without saying a word. Another twenty-five dollars! Upon entering the terminal, I saw the soldiers gathering for their trip to the base. I walked over to them and handed them seventy-five dollars. 'It will take you some time to reach the base. It will be about time for a sandwich. God Bless You.' Ten young men left that flight feeling the LOVE and RESPECT of their fellow travelers. As I walked briskly to my car, I whispered a prayer for their safe return. These soldiers were giving their all for our country. I could only give them a couple of meals. It seemed so little.... A veteran is someone who, at one point in his life, wrote a blank check made payable to 'The United States of America ' for an amount of 'up to and including my life.' THAT IS HONOR....... AND THERE ARE WAY TOO MANY PEOPLE IN THIS COUNTRY WHO DO NOT UNDERSTAND THIS.' Author Unknown.... *********************** According to the National Coalition for Homeless Veterans... we have on any given night, up to 67,000 VETS who are HOMELESS.. It is stated over 50% are "mentally ill"... I hold issue with the government being in charge of our health care, if no other reason than this.. If a man can't feed his own family, he has no business feeding someone else's. WE AREN'T FEEDING AND HOUSING THE ONES WHO WROTE A BLANK CHECK .. WITH THE POSSIBILITY OF ENDING THEIR LIVES.. The side of the war anyone is on.. should not matter. The soldiers opinion is negate when they sign that piece of paper. At the end of the day... what matters is we provide for those who sacrifice MOST... GOD BLESS OUR SOLDIERS... PAST, PRESENT AND FUTURE!!
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CHEATING .. PART 2 Pls read 1 FIRST! 1420 Views 07/09/11

Does this mean the cheater does not “love” his / her spouse? I don’t think in most cases that means this at all. I cheated after 11 years, not something I am proud of, but hey, I’ll stand in the line of fire and get singed if it happens to make me a better woman today than yesterday. I loved my husband and our children. Was I SELFISH? Absolutely! It was also selfish on HIS part when I reached out to my husband for years telling him he did not devote any attention to me anymore, we never did anything alone and on the few occasions we did, not only did I have to plan it, but he was always talking about the children or work and the focus was never on his wife. In essence, I felt HE HAD LEFT ME before infidelity began. And for anyone wondering your answer is: “No, he never cheated, despised cheating and to this day resents my betrayal. He also has never owned up to HIS PORTION of our failing marriage.”

There are many dynamics involved in being a “couple.” Anyone on this site is either single searching, or married and not quite as happy in life as they would like to be. So in the end, is WHY a person cheats on YOU, or why YOU cheated relevant? I say ABSOLUTLEY! A relationship takes TWO willing participants and in “most” cases, BOTH PARTIES have CHECKED OUT long before the cheating begins or the storm ends! I have found the ones who remain resentful after the storm blows over never truly “get” they played a role in this tragic betrayal!

I have to be honest. I take a step back when I find out a man’s wife cheated on him. WHY? Because as a woman who has been through this, I look for “signs” he is emotionally w/drawn or unavailable.  It has been my personal experience and through what I have witnessed, I am already guessing he wasn’t “emotionally available” for his wife, so he will not fill my emotional needs either!  I know myself all too well to recognize I crave “emotional security and attention!” My first clue I missed with my ex? Well the fact he told me EVERY woman he had ever had a serious relationship with had cheated on him PRIOR to his entering my life. That was a neon sign I missed! I was only 20 though, so I didn’t view life as I do now in my 40’s! But if you have a constant barrage of men or women cheating on you as my ex did… you may wish to examine your OWN behavior in relationships. Something you do or don’t do pushes the other to cheat. Some will argue, “Well why is EVERYONE I choose a cheat? I just choose cheaters!” I recommend you look to how YOU TREAT THEM first. We are only in charge of our “OWN ACTIONS”, not everyone else’s!

Please do not misunderstand me. I am in no way advocating “cheaters” behavior, or making excuses for those of us who have chosen an “improper” path. I just wish to express it is not always as cut and dry as some may feel. I also wish to convey, if you have ever cheated or been cheated on, in the future it might also be more beneficial to look toward what your “needs” are, whether the person you meet shows signs they are capable of fulfilling them, and whether or not this is someone you can see as “the last person you ever have an intimate relationship with.”

Because at the end of the day, it DOES matter! If we don’t LEARN what caused us to cheat, or what we missed that caused our partner to cheat, the cycle will be repeated again and again, as the “cheater” or the “cheated!”  How do I know this to be true? Well, now my ex has “one more woman” who dumped on him because essentially HE has never learned from his past. He chooses women who need his emotional understanding, and he lacks in this arena! I craved a husband who told me I was beautiful, would bring me flowers or would just text to say hello or “I love you.” I received NONE of this from DAY 1! Instead I received a man who would come in throw his clothes all over, make messes everywhere and sit in front of the tv while I tried to get his attention in cute little nighties after the kids went to bed.  His emphasis was always on his work, what the children were doing, how tired he was and honestly he was so focused on everything BUT ME, he was too exhausted to have anything left to give his wife! If you do not put your spouse FIRST, your children will suffer in the end. What have I learned by being the “cheat?” I learned I must find a man who gives me the emotional support I crave, will not dismiss me when I speak, and who is a more romantic, expressive type man who will show his love for me with “action.” Was my husband a “bad” person? Absolutely not! Am I a “bad” person? Absolutely not! WE didn’t give one another what we needed in the relationship and I “faltered” in the cheating arena FIRST! A relationship takes TWO devoted people committed to doing whatever it takes to withstand the test of time. He wanted me home for YEARS after I left. I refused, knowing he was incapable of giving me what I needed to be happy. I could not change who he was any more than he could change what my emotional and physical needs were!

So, in the end it is my belief, IT ALL MATTERS…..
And people should remember….

CHEATING, (however wrong it may be)

When everyone starts taking responsibility for THEIR PORTION in their failed relationships, perhaps they wouldn’t remain so angry about how poorly their spouse treated them.
Thank you~

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A DROP does NOT = a TABLESPOON!! 157 Views 11/13/11



Things can get a bit "complicated" when one decides to use regular dish soap in the dishwasher...

NOTE: A DROP is NOT equivalent to a TABLESPOON!! A DROP is only a SMALL amount..

(and I have been told only use 2 DROPS when utilizing normal dish liquid for dishwasher soap!)

PLEAZZZEEE... Do NOT try this at home!! It might not be pretty!

I'm still "rinsing"!!! HeeHeeHee~~

Just sayin.... ;)

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To ALL our VETERANS.. THANK YOU~ 151 Views 11/11/11

I was raised to believe the military was filled with "bad murderous men" dammed to a death with no hope of resurrection by a woman whose religious faith hadn't allowed any kind of government involvement at all. I was taught to vote was a sin and anyone involved in political affairs lived a life "unworthy" of God. My mother’s religion was FREE to teach this premise; despite the fact the religion she chose never understood this.

Regardless their beliefs, I am FREE to walk outside my home and pick up the newspaper outside my door; which is FREE to publish whatever they wish. I am FREE to complain about waiting 10 minutes in a grocery line where I can buy as much bread and milk as I want and not have to wait a week to get it. I am FREE to buy whatever my heart desires and do not have to answer for every action in my life. No one dictates what I wear or whom I answer to. When I purchase the vehicle of MY choice I am FREE to roam wherever, whenever and however I want. I am FREE to select the career of my choice to maintain this monetary status and FREE to obtain an education wherever I choose.

I am FREE to buy and bear arms and FREE from slavery in my own country. I am FREE to vote and FREE to serve any God I want at any time regardless, day or night. I am FREE to roam my streets if I wish. My fear of being shot is from misguided hoodlums, not by my own government for trying to climb a wall. I am FREE to draw, write or speak whatever I wish whenever I deem necessary. Everyone here is FREE to read or not to read.

In the United States of America, though this appalls me, I am even FREE to burn our own countries flag on my front lawn, or possibly even the front lawn of The White House if I can climb the fence. I would be arrested for "trespassing," not burning of our flag.  I am even FREE to die wherever I wish. In fact I am SO FREE in this country of ours, the only thing detouring some of my goals would be money, which is basically the only thing that seems to not be FREE around here, unless I own a bank and need a FREE "bailout."  Handouts come FREE to many with some headaches, but I can obtain welfare, food stamps, health care and various "public assistance" if I show a true need for it or learn to "work" our system.

So in a "World filled with heavy prices," I welcome we ALL show a little respect and remembrance of who gave us that FREEDOM in the first place.  I know I will.

To ALL our vets who have paid with the dearest price of their life so that my FREEDOM remains, I THANK THEM and their families for their sacrifice. To ALL the vets currently and previously who have paid be it by their time, family, or wherever they have suffered, I THANK YOU as well.

Many people take these "everyday" privileges for granted because it has always been here in our lifetime. Many people do not realize how powerful FREEDOM is and what a luxury has been granted in our honor.  There were lifetimes ago when such FREEDOM did not exist. Please remember this as you set out in your robe to head to the foot of your driveway to grab the paper and read whatever some "seasoned" author or some nutcase chose to write that you may have the privilege of reading. In many countries Bibles are smuggled in; the citizens caught with them go to prison. They in affect lose further FREEDOM for trying to gain a little LIBERTY in their life.

A Price was paid, and whatever side of the fence you sit is NOT WHAT MATTERS in the end. It certainly does not matter on VETERANS Day. Our RESPECT, HONOR and LOYALTY to ones who have paid the highest price of all is the only recognition they get at the end of their lives. They have pledged their being to serve us so that this FREEDOM we often take for granted remains and ask no questions when duty calls.

Minimal, for one day, kiss this highly indebt soil you walk on. And then, walk up and say THANK YOU to a VET. You not only preserve the sanctity of our nations premise, but you show compassion for those who have sacrificed most.


HAPPY VETERANS DAY to ALL who have served!!

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There may be times... 172 Views 11/07/11

At many points in life, each of us has valuable lessons to learn. I know for myself, I am undoubtedly a front runner in this crazy rat-race called LIFE! I see that hopefully one of our newest bloggers has learned a valuable lesson regarding human decency and empathy; but more so I hope she took with her a self-awareness regarding how important others perceptions of her is. A blog which many found extremely offensive has now been taken down, as was requested, by the author. I want to THANK HER OPENLY, for paying attention to what people in this room were stating. I am unclear as to what her intentions are, as her comments have been hidden as well as the blog. I only hope she has thought things over and recognizes how offensive her words were in an already cruel and vile world.


I do not know this individual, or what SHE has endured in HER PAST that had caused her to be so insensitive. I know many of us felt, even behind the scenes, she needed to seek emotional help. I also feel after reviewing her profile, the possibility remains she may have just “thought” she was being humorous and didn’t quite know what to convey coming into a new station with new people and trying to “fit in.” I hope she has learned to “OBSERVE” a little more the environment surrounding her before speaking. Being the “new girl” is never easy, as all eyes are upon you! Time will tell if this was a valuable learning tool to help her succeed further in life in an upstanding and classy manner.


One thing I will state is; there was some merit to what I feel she was trying to convey… all be it should not have been portrayed in a mockingly manner in this forum. Many victims of sexual assault, esp victims perpetrated upon in younger years, DO have brain malfunctions leaving them with sick,  twisted, mind-bending relations to the beauty of what a sexual relationship is to be like between 2 individuals. I knew a girl in school who was raped at knife point with her boyfriend being held back watching who later dated her rapist. It can be an extremely UGLY world out there! I know, as I have my own “sexual issues” I deal with on a daily basis. I only pray LIV’s little friend escapes those demons. Somehow I think not though and this saddens me.


What I also know with all certainty is that every one of us has been placed on this Earth for a REASON. Each of us has a personal history which brings us to where we are at and NONE of us is exempt at making mistakes and having to correct them mid-stream. I sincerely hope this is the intent of this individual who has caused some level of pain for many. And further, I sincerely hope she recognizes if we portray ourselves in an unworthy manner, we will only receive positive attention from unworthy people. That kind of attention will NEVER bring forth a man worthy of her love. 


Thank You,



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THANK YOU to our VETERANS!! 36 Views 11/11/11

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JOBS, ROONEY, FRAZIER... 69 Views 11/07/11

They say they die in THREE's...

Are we done?

All memorable in their own way...

May you all R.I.P. for all you GAVE BACK to the world...

despite your flaws..

We all have them...


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???FULL MOON TONIGHT??? 50 Views 11/05/11

Just sayin....


MY OH MY!! Strange things be a circlin'......


I can't figure out if I am watching the Twilght Zone... or a Hitchcock thriller!!


And I thought Halloween was over!!



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MICHAEL MYERS ALERT!! 140 Views 10/31/11

OH NO!! da “Wanna Be Princess” thinks she just spotted MICHAEL MYERS walking with ELVIS @ the towne center here in an Atlanta apt. complex!! I’m gonna hop on my broom and go check it out!! Perhaps they will even find Hendrix while they are trollin… 

BE SAFE EVERYONE… It’s just me and Jamie Lee tonight.. But I ain’t answering the door!  And listen.. if it seems at any point tonight like the goblins are out to getcha.. Just keep your clothes on! You gotta know the ones that start peeling off their clothes are always the first to get slashed! I'M IN MY THERMALS!! ;)


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MICHAEL MYERS ALERT!! 44 Views 10/31/11

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Somebody please HELP! I want to view it!

Do they hide it? Or am I missing it?

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Passing of a LEGEND 102 Views 10/05/11
Its times like these that make me wonder… WHAT TRULY MAKES A MAN? I’ve never met Mr. Jobs, didn’t know much about him except he HAD to be a genius geek, and I never could afford a Mac or an Apple… But I KNOW in my heart…. A LEGEND doesn’t make the man.. THE MAN MAKES THE LEGEND… and that is EXACTLY what STEVE JOBS did.. He left a legacy behind no one can deny…. Ironically, Steve received life through two University of Wisconsin graduates, yet he was given up for adoption. His father was a political science professor and his mother a speech therapist. The couple married shortly after placing him in adoption and had another child they kept. He obviously came from a pool of “good genes.” None the less, I am fairly certain he had his own “abandonment issues” to deal with. However, as with most in life, we muddle through the trials and pursue our own happiness and goals. He was 27 when he finally found his biological parents. Steve was considered extremely smart and in fact in very early years, was offered enrollment in high school. His adoptive parents declined. Steve tinkered in the garage with his adoptive father working on electronics as a young boy and 6 months into college, he quit, as he seemed to become distracted easily and could not focus on anything other than what he found enticing. He popped in and out of creative interest college courses and at the age of 20,he and his friend, Steve Wozniak started “APPLE COMPUTERS” in Jobs’ garage. As far as his personal life goes, not much is known. It was stated he had a daughter he denied paternal rights of until the age of 7. I feel despite the sadness of this.... it goes to show that we are ALL human in the end, regardless of how remarkable our achievements may appear. At the age of 7, he finally established a relationship with his daughter and as a teenager; she came to live with him. I hope he got to make up for lost time. Steve was found in 2003 to suffer pancreatic cancer, and chose not to remove it immediately. In 2004 he did opt for surgery, but died October 5, 2011.. leaving a legacy of a wife, 3 new children and his previous daughter behind. His "true legacy" however, was made to the world, starting in his garage! But none the less, I wanted to take a moment and make note of a man who innovated the entire world by a gift he received in life... as he passes in his death… I guess LIFE took a really BIG BITE out of "The APPLE!" Such an inspiration for me to follow as a high school and then college dropout myself with abandonment issues and children I have not always found easy to connect with… People like Steve Jobs inspire me to be “all I can be”…. A better human being and to utilize the gifts granted to me…. Calvin Coolidge once stated: "No person was ever honored for what he received. Honor has been the reward for what he gave." I think that fits here... RIP STEVEN PAUL JOBS… “Good JOB!” Um.. no pun intended!
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LOCKS and SECRETS 208 Views 09/29/11
I have shared many trials as well as triumphs w/ any of you who were interested, so I felt sharing this “little piece / peace of my heart” would add a wonderful addition. I received a phone call about 2 weeks ago from the Pawn Shop where all my precious jewelry collected as far back as 23 years ago was to have been placed on the shelf to sell. It was the manager asking if I could send any money to secure my items. I said, “I am sorry I didn’t contact you, but honestly, I knew I would cry while telling you I could no longer afford for you to hold them. I thought you placed these items on the shelf days ago, so I let it go. They are the only things I have in life to leave my daughters and they meant a lot to me sentimentally. I didn’t want to put you through hearing a woman cry, nor did I wish to endure further pain of losing many things that have become a precious part of me. There is a lot of sentiment you hold in your store. Pieces of my life.” The cracking in my voice was assuredly not missed! He explained… “Normally mam, all your items would have been on the shelf already. I seriously don’t know why they weren’t so I decided to look at your file. In reviewing your records, I see you have placed a significant amount of money down to keep them and have been diligent with your payments, so I wanted to give you another chance before I placed them for sell.” I thanked the manager for his kindness, and told him I would get back to him the following morning after reviewing my finances. The manager again, never received my phone call. Not because I was trying to mislead him, but because I knew my heart would shatter all over; so once again, I let it go. There are times in life where pain is just too bearable to continue swallowing so I chose to spit it out! In my travels and during my struggles, I have marveled in moments I felt close to God and been saddened by moments I have found myself drifting alone not truly feeling the “connection.” Over the years I developed a serious “habit” of playing with my cross necklace that I NEVER took off. It seemed to bring me peace in troubled times. Anyone knowing the story behind that inexpensive 14K yellow gold necklace knows I purchased it when I held NO FAITH there was a GOD, but I was struggling so hard during that period of my life, (11 years ago) that I kept going back to the store to view this simple little necklace symbolizing something I did not even believe in! For the life of me, I could not understand WHY! (I now know it was just GOD jackin with me in His “still small … NAGGING voice.”! LOL) On 3 different days I went to look at this necklace. It was only $35, but it had a “tarnish” spot on it and the counter girl and I couldn’t figure out why it wouldn’t come off. She explained, “It has to be within the gold itself, so it will always remain. However since it is already at an incredible discount, we can’t give you any better of a deal.” My heart tugged until I purchased that necklace! (and bear in mind.. I denounced there was a God!) I wore my necklace for years before I noted one of the four diamond chips needed replacing. It was then I realized the “tarnished spot” was completely gone! To this day, I hold “MY TRUTH” to be self-evident that “HE” had something to do with it. In fact I now feel “ALL THINGS UNEXPAINABLE… “HE” gets His hands dirty in!” This necklace was of incredible significance in my life because somehow it seemed even in times I felt alone; deep down I KNEW in my heart this wasn’t true. “I held the hand of HOPE, even when I didn’t claim HOPE existed! Despite what I feel my mother’s misguided religious beliefs were, she DID instill in me there WAS and IS a GOD and HE walked WITH US through the pain. Even while offshore I would find myself reaching for my necklace to move the cross back and forth. Reaching up and feeling my bare neck these past months was a CONSTANT reminder of all I had lost while trying to forge my way forward working in the gulf. It was also a constant reminder of the mistakes of the past which induced my having to hock all my jewelry in the first place! A couple of weeks ago while staying at a rundown motel in Calhoun, Ga. where I slept with my hammer in my bed; I was buying necessities and found myself looking in the jewelry section at the local Wal-Mart. Many might not understand; but for me, my necklace WAS a necessity. Wearing that cross was much like how I feel about my hair. It summons strength within. I searched and looked, but didn’t find anything I liked that was anywhere near what I could afford, so I walked away disheartened. The other day I was in Marietta Wal-Mart. I had been there before and of course found myself once again, strolling the jewelry section, in search of my heart, in the form of a necklace. I saw some pretty things as I perused the jewelry section searching for “THE PIECE TO BRING ME PEACE”; but I knew I would never find it and not be able to afford it anyway. It was at that moment I passed the mirror. It was with tear filled eyes I looked to my reflection and said to myself, “One day, it will all be better for you. You have been through worse and God will help you move this mountain. HAVE FAITH baby doll.” I looked away, wiped the tears from my cheeks and I wondered, “Does anybody see me? They must think I am crazy crying in the jewelry section! Get the hell out of here! You can’t afford anything anyway! You just live to survive.” So I left Wal-Mart and I buried the thought of EVER being able to find “that piece of my heart.” The “Peace/Piece” that makes me feel a little more secure. Today someone enter my life and came bearing a gift. He said it wasn’t anything fancy as he handed me a little box that said “Tiffany & Co.” As I opened it up I saw a little silver necklace with a “lock” charm. I didn’t know what to say, I barely knew the man, and in reality he will never know how much it meant to me; but here I sit in my hotel room with tear filled eyes as I play with my new necklace. It isn’t gold, it doesn’t have diamonds and there isn’t a tarnish spot on it! But in a Princesses’ world, locks are made to “keep secrets in” …. and God and I have shared many a secret. So in essence this man has no clue, but today he helped give back a “PEACE” of my heart. I have renewed HOPE and know in the core of my being, even should our paths never cross again, God does have LOVE out there waiting for me. But until then, I have my “lock” where I keep my secrets and share a constant reminder, “I do not walk alone, and never really have!” I think life is truly what we make it most times. Some of us have rougher roads/more to endure than others perhaps, so we need to use a little more ingenuity to see the light. But I realize now we believe what we want to believe; “My security needn’t be in lost jewelry, lost homes or lost times where I have failed. My security must come from within myself.” So now I hold a little more FAITH, a little more HOPE, and perhaps even a little more LOVE to add to my life. Besides, now that I wear my “CROSS” tatted on my arm, and stamped in my heart, what’s the difference in wearing a little “lock” to keep the secrets in. There are some things in our lives that perhaps it is best only God knows about. It doesn’t make us bad, it doesn’t make us fallen and it doesn’t make us any less saved. I think it simply makes us “human.” July 6, 2011
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Do we PAY IT FORWARD enough? 122 Views 07/29/11

In one of my favorite movies the main character reveals the concept of using generosity to assist strangers in their lives. He calls this concept, “Pay it Forward” and he believes everyone should practice this concept with 3 strangers to make a dramatic change in the world. He believes the generosity must be a “really big” act the individual cannot do for themselves. The teacher makes recognition to the class on how “Paying it forward” requires a tremendous amount of faith in the goodness of people. Trevor’s first generous act was bringing a homeless, hungry stranger home, unbeknown to his mom, to feed and shower. He then allows this stranger to live in his garage and gives him his savings. The stranger, a needle junkie on the street, takes the money, gets new clothes and then finds a job. When the mother finds the man in her garage tinkering with her truck it is then the stranger reveals the nature of how he began his friendship in her son’s life.

I have been blessed with this type concept many times, sometimes by friends, other times by strangers. Regardless, when I think of those times, it always brings a smile to my face. I thought it might be nice to “share” any of our stories here that have impacted our lives in a positive manner. I believe when we throw enough “positive” around, some of it is bound to stick. I realize most “Christians” do not like the word karma, but I feel for the most part, whatever energy we put out there will come back to us, eventually. (boomerang effect.)

My daughters and I have always made it a routine to have “beauty day” together.  I would bring them to the beauty shop to be pampered when I had hair or nail appointments. My hair dresser would dye my hair and curl my daughters and paint our nails. There were times I would have to ask my girlfriend to “hold my check” until I had the money in the bank to cover it. It was too difficult to rebook appointments and she knew I was good for the money. Several years ago I called her inquiring about a check I had told her she could put through that had not cleared. The following is what she told me. “Oh that check? I thought I told you? One of my clients overheard you asking me to hold your check and she said she wanted to pay for you and the girl’s appointment. She also insisted on remaining anonymous, but she has been a client of mine for years, a very nice lady.” Tears came to my eyes. It was like being paid twice for me, as I was now not only debt free, but I also was $160 richer! I had the money eventually to pay for that appointment, but the stranger’s act of kindness always brings a smile to my face when recollecting and a warm feeling shadows deep inside. This woman was “paying it forward.” Oddly, Tracie became my hair dresser out of her and her mother’s “generosity” many years before. I was a waitress at the Country Club her mother was a member of. I waited on her mother and step-father often and her mother introduced us shortly after 9-11 . We hit it off immediately and the next thing I knew they were telling me how they wanted to do something nice for me. They decided to “make me beautiful” free of charge!  This was November 2001. A beautiful and loving friendship began that day while I served tea and coffee and someone decided I was worthy of having it “Paid forward.”

I have done things in my time to “Pay it Forward” so to speak. My acts may not be of the magnitude the little boy was meaning in the movie, but I believe any time we incite behaviors which induce positive reactions; we are releasing a more positive energy throughout the atmosphere. Studies have proven “positive things happen to positive people.” In the simplest ways we can affect someone’s life daily, even strangers. I have not been financially blessed where I can hand out money to people in financial need, but I have found different ways to “bless others”.  I’ve learned to take a moment to smile or laugh with someone or spend a few extra minutes and allow someone to go first in line or I allow someone to “squeeze in” during rush hour traffic. I compliment people, especially women, as I know many of us need reassurance. I've done lots of community charity events and worked in animal shelters, etc. Mostly, my time and effort is involved. I am the type person who will walk over to console a stranger when I see them crying. It’s the way I have always been, and quite possibly one of my favorite personality traits about me. Obviously, there are plenty of bad ones, but I try to focus on my positive side, as one day I hope it drowns out the negative!

I believe our lives are equivalent to beautiful paintings. If we try to view a painting from too close a proximity, we can’t see the picture for all it’s worth, therefore it loses its visual value. As we start to take steps back we can see the frame, the colors and shapes- and nothing is blurry anymore. Sometimes we are just too close to our own painting!  

As the little boy says at the end of the movie, “People can’t always see what they need.” I find this to be very true. Sometimes all we need is simple like someone who is willing to listen. People with open ears become like our angels. They have the warmest hearts giving us the softest place to land!

Thanks for listening! LOL….

And don’t forget to PAY IT FORWARD!! ;)

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SOMBER HEARTS as 9-11 approaches... 65 Views 09/09/11
With somber hearts our nation approaches the 10th anniversary of the gruesome events heinously befallen us on September 11. Incredible acts of violence filled with such venom of hatred leaving our nation in mourning while at the same time we were forced to face the realization we were not as safe a country as we had once believed. It is in sobering reality we watch videos and recollect all the horrifying moments of that dreadful day. I’ve yet to ask one person that has ever forgotten where they were and what they were doing at the time they found our nation to be under attack. I will certainly never forget my panic of horror as I saw the second plane hit the towers. I recall it seeming like I was watching a bad dream, a nightmare of reality where I could not process what my eyes were seeing as I remained glued to the television in disbelief. There were many lives shattered that day, and I doubt there is one person who has walked away unaffected in some manner by this defiant act of terror. There are many people left with deep rooted scars, either from losing a loved one, or being one of the few who narrowly escaped the clutches of death’s door. But as a nation, we have learned to move forward and rebuild, and as individuals we have all learned to shelter our emotions and cope in our own ways. Admittedly, I find the saddest part in all of this is how everyone “UNITED” during the initial crisis; both politically and personally; but as time has faded the horrific memories; our “acceptance” of one another has dwindled along with it. We have the opportunity to take this evil act and to “learn” and build upon it, or we can allow the bitterness to remain in our hearts seeping bile throughout us drowning us in our own venom. Anger can be a useful tool, but when it creates such a disdain for others and a lack of tolerance, it becomes a noose we place around our own neck. I am not “for” a mosque by “Ground Zero” out of RESPECT for what our nation endured by a specific group of individuals. As a “Christian” I believe in Jesus as our Savior; but as the same “Christian”, I believe if God grants us FREEDOM TO CHOOSE, so should we, respect others right to choose how and who they worship. It is with this same “respect” I am not “for” the 60 Muslims who lost their lives during the attack on 9-11. Somehow I do not believe these individuals who had loved ones waiting at home were any more “willing participants” in this grotesque act of violence any more than anyone else who lost their lives. I do not believe just because a person differs in their belief this makes them evil. I DO however understand why we profile or target specific looks when trying to keep our nation safe. If suddenly 5 foot nothing blondes weighing 100 pounds with green eyes and spit fire attitudes started blowing up buildings, I’d damn sure expect to be stopped at any and all entrances! I feel anyone being “offended” by this profiling need to take a look in the mirror and have a harsh reality check. We have had our retaliation in motion, Bin laden was finally captured and killed, and we have pressed forward in the wake of our nation’s heartache. This is not a “political statement” blog, as it is merely just an expression of one person’s heart who will NEVER forget. Though I have never been to New York, the Pentagon or found myself in a Pennsylvania field, and I fortunately, lost no one dear to me that mind boggling day; but I still felt the heartache wrapped around a nation and wept with the people who lost something precious, along with a country that lost the greatest gifts I feel we can have…. The gifts God grants us though we are unworthy. The gifts of FREEDOM AND SECURITY.
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